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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

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--Jack

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Okay, so my friend mentioned a "forced relationship", what is that? i searched it on urbandictionary & google.. i couldn't really find anything!

A forced relationship is one that is one of the following:

1. Someone guilted another person into the relationship.

2. Someone basically said "Date me or there will be consequences" to someone.

3. An outside person, like a parent, "arranged" the relationship and now the two are dating.

Etc.

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay well I am 16 and I'm still a virgin. But I do masturbate. Anyways, about three months ago I had my period. And then it skipped a month. But I heard that every two years it skips a month, and that was my two year. So I had it again last month. And I'm suppose to get this month. And I usually get them on the last week of the month. But I didn't get it this time. I have been stressing out, but not a lot. I've stressed more & I still got it before. But just recently we had some new roomates move in. And they use our bathroom. And they're pretty young, they're like in their early 20s. Anyways, they were a couple & they would go in the bathroom together & I guess they'd shower together. There is a possibility that they had sex in shower. Well, I use the same restroom & I recently had my ankle sprain so it hurt to stand. So without thinking, I sat down in the shower. Could there have been sperm when I sat down? Please help. Thanks in advance.

If you went in the shower soon after they did that, there may be a slight possibility, but unless he just went wild and got it everywhere, the chances are slim.

The more you worry about your period, the longer it will take to come. Periods have this odd sense of humor, I suppose.

I would ask that your room mates be more respectful of your bathroom. Tell them they can do as they please as long as they take the time to clean anything up. =].

--Jack
(16/m)

recommend a good laptop to bring to college and specs?

I agree with a Macbook.

The Apple store, at least where I live, is having a deal for college students with buying a macbook. You get one for a pretty good price, and with an online-rebate, you get basically a free iPod Touch and a free printer.

If you have an Apple Store in a mall near you, see if you can find out more about the deal ;]

My sister did it and she loves her Mac =].

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f
Okay, i went to a school meeting today and i was sitting by my friend elaine and she was sitting by this girl i don't know. Well elaine asked me if i was still "talking" to the guy i was talking to. I was like "no, he said we should just be friends because he has a lot going on right now and he has to get a job." I didn't say it in the nicest way either. I mean i didn't say it mean but i wasn't exactly cheery. Well after the meeting i was talking to my firend elaine again and she was like, "that girl that was sitting next to me was he sister." I din't know that that was his sister and i still really like the guy and i don't want her to tell him, i was saying that and being snotty about us just being friends and not anything else. Now, i am really worried about it because i like him a lot. We only talked for a week and then he told me that and i was kinda sad. Please help!

You can't really prevent his sister from telling him if she wants to. Yeah, it would be really immature of her to, but then again, she might just be looking out for her brother.

Maybe just, for a precaution, contact the guy and let him know that you said something that wasn't meant to be rude, but may have come off as rude, and that his sister heard it, and maybe apologize.

Really that's the only option I see as of right now.

--Jack
(16/m)

How common is pregnancy through fingering when a penis has cum on it and has bee/may have been touched?

If there is sperm on the finger that enters your vagina, then yes, you have a chance of becoming pregnant. Anytime sperm comes near your vagina, pregnancy is a possibility. There are even women who have become pregnant while on birth control and when using a condom, so that just goes to show you that it's possible.

Anytime you're doing things like this, please practice safe sex and use a condom and birth control.

***EDIT***

I would say it's rather common because people these days are careless when it comes to safe sex practices. People have the mentality that "it won't happen to me", and therefore they think they are immune to pregnancy and all of its consequences. They are sadly mistaken.

--Jack
(16/m)

So, yesterday I was in the worst pain of my life. I was rushed to the ER in an ambulance. And they told me I had a cyst on my ovary and it had popped. Does this mean I won't be able to have babies?

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/QA/answers-Can_a_cyst_on_my_overies_prevent_getting_pregnant_/

According to that, sometimes that can really affect your chances of becoming pregnant, and other times it didn't really at all.

I think most women from there claimed that if the cyst was drained and removed, everything went back to normal.

--Jack
(16/m)

I know this migth sound a little wierd but i have a friend (girl) and she said that she is ready to lose her virginity.... so she ask if guys liked girl that dont shave their pubic hair because she didnt want 2 be embarrased by the boy i didnt know how to answer her and i couldnt give her an answer..... can you guys give me one???????? PLZ HElp....
(15,f)

Most girls shave their pubic hair anyway, but like jealousy said, it depends a lot on the guy.

Personally, since I am not sexually active, I don't really have an opinion, but I guess at least a little trimmed is better? I'm not really sure.

But generally guys do like it trimmed a little if not completely shaven. Let her know that if she wants to know what the guy wants, ask him.

--Jack
(16/m)

Any interesting (first hand) stories about Ouija boards? Do they seem to actually work, or have any results? Are there certain rules you should follow?

We've got one in my house, but it must be at least thirty years old. I don't know if that counts for anything, but yeah.

Thanks for any help!
-Jess.

Nahh they don't really work, at least in my opinion. It's you that's moving the piece, it's YOU that's deciding the answers to your questions. It's just a bunch of hocus pocus.

But if you want information about it because you want to try it out, here's some searches you can do:

And I don't think age would matter.

--Jack
(16/m)

I live in Cleveland,Ohio&&Me&&ma twin/bestfriend need jobs,but were only 13..So dew anyone know any Jobs that we can dew..Tew make money..??

This may help you out a bit:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543176

From there:

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.

You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].

--Jack
(16/m)

when someone says that 'they are running on empty' & they aren't talking about the gas in their car, then what are they referring to?
what does that saying mean exactly?

Simply put, they are low on energy and are very tired and exhausted. They haven't gotten much sleep or they have just been doing too much lately.

--Jack
(16/m)

My best friend, let call her "Jade," has been getting sexually harrassed by her stepfather (without her mom knowing). After she told me this, I told her to call the cops and she said "it's not as bad as it seems." When I tried to call the cops, she told me to relax and not call the cops because "it's not as bad as it seems." Then she said if I ever told the cops, her mom, or anyone else, she would never speek to me ever again (I also can't tell her mom because she dosn't speek any English and wouldn't know what I'm saying). What do I do?

Simple. Call the cops. I'm sorry if she won't talk to you ever again, but that is completely immature. If she has been sexually harassed by her stepfather, he shouldn't be anywhere near her ever again, and she shouldn't be living in an environment where sexual harassment occurs and is only thought of as "not as bad as it seems". That is a bunch of bull crap.

Call the police because although she may not want you to, she NEEDS you to.

--Jack
(16/m)

I really like this boy at school but I only ever talk to him on myspace.
Ive talked to him a little bit in person but only a few times a couple of months ago.
Im not a confident person at all, what can I do?

I know he likes me or he is at least trying to get to know me, he is always the one who starts the conversation. He usually only asks me questions about school and we talk aboutour teachers and stuff. We've never really talked about anything else. I find it a bit awkward coz he is in my class but we dnt really talk, only online. I am not confident and i dont know what to do.

Can anyone help?

Hey!

Here's some tips on how to start a conversation:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545090

I would paste them here, but it's rather long. So you can read to your liking ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

Hey! Does anyone know if the Disney Channel movie "Tru Confessions", featuring Shia LeBouf as Eddie (Trudy's mentally chanelled brother), that was relased in 2002, is available on DVD?

Thanks

Doesn't look like it is:

http://disneydvd.disney.go.com/tvtodvd.html

Sorry. =/.

--Jack
(16/m)

what is yall favorite to do in bed? As in postions? Do you like when a girl takes control && shows you how she wants it && stuff?? Im just curious..Because I usually do with my boyfriend && I get him all turned on like asap..&& I ride him but it doesnt even last 5 minutes!! an yall control when yall are about to? Why does this happen? I want to finish too, but I never can but I dont tell him anything. Whats the problem I GOING CRAZY..

Just because every guy may like something like that doesn't mean that your boyfriend does.

What I suggest you do is talk to HIM and ask HIM what he wants. We can't tell you what he wants because we can't read his mind ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f

i have a really hard "BUMP" on my top left corner of my right breast
im not sure what it is it feels like a bone

i dont have it on my left breast and iim scared

what if SOMEDAY I FIND THAT I HAVE BREAST CANCER
i wanna do something about itnow so later on i wont wake up knowing "oh my god, i have breast cancer"

description: it feels liek a bone but its in a circleround (sphere i guess) shape...

and when i roll my fingers around it itfeels like its popping out

None of us will be able to give you a correct diagnosis, because most of us aren't doctors, and plus we can't see it.

What I suggest doing is going to your mom RIGHT NOW and telling her about it. Sure, it could be nothing, but it could also be breast cancer. Have her take you to your doctor and have them check it out.

Like you said, you should do something about it now before it gets any worse.

--Jack
(16/m)

whenever i tie my hair up MY EAR POP OUT
LIKE AN ELF'S
and i hate it so much

what can i do to get rid of it.. well like hide it and stop it from being SOOO OBVIOUS

There's always ear-reduction surgery. But that has a 99% fatality rate.

Okay so I'm totally kidding. Really all you can do is keep your hair down or, like someone else said, get side-bangs or something.

And I'm sure you're ears aren't THAT bad. Now my brother has big ears, and so does my sister's boyfriend.

--Jack
(16/m)

my really good friedns had to go to summer school and she started hanging otu with the wrong ppl now she does pot out of a can a drinks lots of achocol nad i dont know what to do

Maybe you can try talking to her and reasoning with her. Let her know the dangers of what she is doing. If she rejects everything you say, well then there's really not much more you can do. You could be a tattle-tale and tell her parents, but that isn't exactly the best thing to do.

--Jack
(16/m)

ok so i think i like this guy but the only reason i really dont know for sure is that everytime i ask him to hang out he says his parents wont let him and flip out on him and he never does anything wrong.. so one day this week his parents are letting him sleep over one of his friends house so thats the night he told me to make plans with him so we can hang out i guess without his parents knowing.. and one day i invited him to help me babysit and he said he totally wanted to come but his parents said absolutly not because they dont know me or my parents but it is going to be totally akward if me and my parents meet his parents before i actually get to know the kid really good i mean its just a weird situation and i really want to hang out with him and get to know him better .. do you have any advice?

Do NOT go behind his parents' backs, because then you might never get to hang out with him.

If you want to hang out with him, I don't see why it is so awkward that your parents meet. Sure, you don't know each other that well, but if that's the only way you're going to get to know each other, well then I would take it. At least she's not asking you to take an intense test to see if you're worthy of speaking to her son.

--Jack
(16/m)

recently i've been breaking out alot. its so annoying, i usually have small breakouts but now its just pimple after pimple and its driving me crazy! i have proactive and it used to work but doesnt really anymore...does anyone have a cure? like an amazing product that cleared up their skin 100%? thank youu

Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

--Jack
(16/m)

16/f
i love my bf and everything but we were on the verge of breaking up today.it started off with him asking me if i thought about him. then he said thathe didnt think that i wasnt an important part of my life. he is! i asked him if he wanted to break up and he said no. he got mad cause i didnt answer my phone at 5 and he was looking forward all day to this. then he said that he was thinking and saying that he didnt like me. after thinking he was like im stupid i love you. he said he was having a really bad day.then i got really hurt by that. we were both crying on the phone. then he said he loved me i wanted to be with me.2 min later i called him back saying i wanted to be with him he said the same. i dont know what do i do ? i love him but do i just take his word for it?

I agree, too much drama, but that isn't going to help you, is it? xD.

There is always going to be doubt within teenage relationships.

What you should do is sit down your boyfriend, and tell him EXACTLY how you feel about him, and have him tell you how he feels about you. Tell him that it's okay to be honest with each other, and you should be since you're dating.

If after that you decide that you don't know if you can believe him, I would say that maybe it would be time to move on.

--Jack
(16/m)

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