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My name is Devin Lindsey or Vinny as my sister calls me! I am 17 years old and go to Bethel Park High school. I loooove swimming along with dancing, singing, and playing softball. I also run varsity track with is alright i supose too.


My favorite colors are orange, pink, and blue. I love to be crazy and have a good time

I've had a job working for 15+ monthes so I can answer alot about that

and I know alot about relationships in general so I can be helpful with that sometimes

especially with parent child relationships


I am a very observant person and tend to know more and care about more than most my age


and I really believe in volunteering to help animals especially at shelters. Usually its not their fault that they have to live their and its usually horrible cercimstances that bring them there and I feel terrible that they can't speak for themselves and people are too caught up in spending like $500 on this cute little pure breed puppy from a breeder just into getting rich instead of giving one of these dogs another chance at life (there are usually a handful of dogs under a year old so the i want a puppy excuse doesn't work with me)

My baby is named Lainey Mae... we got her from a shelter about 2 hours away from us when she was 7 weeks old. she is now 2 years old and the center of our family. unfortunately someone was cruel enough to go down and drug up and shoot (but luckly not kill) most of the dogs plus rob the owner (just like someone did at the shelter where I volunteer) and its now shut down

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I know this might sound nasty but it burns down below when i go to the bathroom. and this morning on the way to school it still kinda burned and it felt weird, not normal. i dont know if i have something wrong with me and if its because of sexual activity? does anyone know what this might be? please dont tell me to go to the doctor because i dont want to do it right now. just tell me what you might think it could be! im so scared. please dont leave ride comments im just worried about my health! anything will help!


i rate good! for good answers

&&heaRts; scArEd anD WorrieD!

hey the same thing happened to me today. im thinking its some sort of infection b/c im not sexual active. i would wait a few days and make sure you clean down their real good and see what happens. if it doesnt go away try telling your mom. its prob just a minor infection and nothing to worry about

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hey. my sister is bugging me SO much about christmas! first of all, let me say that we are going on vacation from december 22-28, so we wont be home. so because of that, my sister keeps saying "theres only 7 more days til we leave. want to open your presents?" and i keep saying "NO" because i hate not opening presents on christmas. it isnt as special =(. well anyways how do i get it through to her that i will not give/receive any gifts until december 25?

edit:: lol so is my sister. in that case i would say shut the hell up and leave me alone





well it would depend on how old she is. if shes really little i would tell her that maybe santa wont come if she doesn't stop asking. if shes older tell her that you will take her gift back if she doesnt stop asking or something along those lines. ive never really had that prob so i dont have many ideas

Devin

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I'm 15/f and really shy. I can't phone people, answer the door, buy things from shops, talk to people I don't know well.. and basically stuff like that. Everyone else can do normal things like that easily but I can't.. my hands start shaking and my stomach goes all tight, I blush and I just wanna run away when that happens. I think I'm scared of people judging me or something. I know people won't really care if I make mistakes but I worry about things so much anyway that I can't talk to people.
I can't even apply for college because you have to have an interview! I probably won't ever get married or get a job and I'll be a huge failure just because I'm shy! I don't know if I can get counselling because how would they be able to help me when I can't even speak to them? It's ruining my life. People just say 'snap out of it' or 'get some confidence'.. well it's not that easy, you can't buy confidence. My dad calls me a coward because I hate walking past people in the street.. which I suppose I am, but he thinks I'm pretending to be shy or something.
How can I get over it without seeing a counsellor? Are there medicines that work? Thanks xx

well therapists are trained to help people like you. and you cant get any meds unless they find your prob and you talk to them. trust me i used to be really shy but i just try facing my fears and look at me today i am as outgoing as can be. you cant get better until you get help either from yourself or someone else!

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right so my freind peirced her ear with a third hole by herself using a needle yesterday. it looks fine today. i want a belly button peircin, but my mom will never let me. should i ask my freind to do it for me? what are some safety measures i should take?

no way! 1 it will hurt alot and 2 it will will scar more and 3 that is way unsafe! if your mom wont take you she would prob kill you if a little friend did it to you! my god that is the worst idea ever

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I've been having a lot of trouble this year concentrating, and my grades are definetly reflecting it. Everytime i sit down to do my homework, something distracts me so i go and do that first, or i call that person, or go talk to people online. I always feel like everything is more important then my schoool work but i know its not. I end up going to bed so late doing all these things i get distracted by. Does anyone have any suggestions that could help me concentrate on my schoolwork and not all these other little things?

i have that same prob i have 3 suggestions!

1 eat while you work it makes you concentrate more even if its just gum (its a proven fact)

2 plan to do your hw is smaller sessions. or make you work to a certain about (ex like do 10 probs then go online for 10 min then come back and do 10 more probs)

3) have someone force you to work and not let you get up. after a while you will be able to control yourself more

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i wanna do something for the childrens hospital for christmas.. i know its too late now but im thinking about next year. has anyone ever done anything like this? if u have, how did u get started and get donations? any help would be appreciated.. thanks

i would recomend just going door to door asking for donations or maybe get some sorta fun raiser for a local ice cream place or something to help you out. i would talk to the hospital early to see what they want you to do because sometimes unless you dont do it their way they wont accept it. do you live in pittsburgh? because if you do i would be more than happy to help you

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My son got married to a young woman who is the oldest of 8 children. His wife Penny is a wonderful young woman but her mother has these 8 children ages 3, 15, 16, 17, 19, 21, 23, 26 have several different father's and their mother always depended on the oldest daughter to handle everything. Now that this daughter is gone the whole family is falling apart. The mother goes gambling every night and the 3 year old is left alone. Last night my son and his wife Penny went over and the 3 year old little boy was in is under pants alone in the basement with a party going on on the top floor with the teenagers. He was cold and hungry. My son does not know what to do as they are expecting their own child in two weeks and really did not want to take on this child. I can not sleep thinking about this child and if I say the word I am sure the mother will say great - you can take care of this child for the next 18 years. I am 57 and have recently quit work to take care of my 86 year old mother. My husband and I are quite comfortable financially but taking on a child is quite a committment. I have an entire play room with a bed and many toys for my grandchildren. This child does not even have his own bed but sleeps with his mother in a basement room that does not even have a closet or a set of drawers. The house is an unbelievable disaster and would probably win the award for the messiest house contest. I have not been able to sleep all night or for the last couple of days thinking about this child. I am thinking of phoning the mother and telling her that we can take the little boy for a while if she wants that but I think that it might be a very long while. My husband thinks that it would be okay to take him but that the mother might fall apart more if she does not have this one to look after. What do you suggest?

i would suggest getting ahold of someone like social services before taking on a task like that. even though the mother of the child isnt around im sure she doesnt want her sister in law barging in saying she can raise her child better than she can. maybe have your daughter in law bring something up or wait until the child is left home alone then call the cops or something. you dont want to make the wrong impression and do something that your son may not be happy with later

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My mom and dad separated and last year had a fight about me going to New York. Since that i have spoken to him but havent gone to visit him but he comes to see me at school. The problem is he is upset that i dont come to his house and i feel sad that i made him feel that way but i dont want to go because all he is going to do is pressure me with school work and i dont want that because i want to hangout with friends. I really dont want him feeling that way and i want to visit him so waht should i do.

go and see him. just because he wants the best for you and maybe you dont want it doesnt mean that you shouldnt go see him. or maybe tell him that you planned a day for just you two to go bowling or to the movies or something where he cant bring up your school work

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I'm a stay-at-home mom who likes to go to the park with my daughter and baby. I met a man last year who is a great-grandfather who takes his two great-granddaughters to the park every day (well almost). I thought he was really nice and friendly and my daughter likes playing with the girls. I've known him since last year, and we always make pleasant conversation and he offers my daughter and I treats. There is nothing going on between us, I am married and he is just a casual friend. The other day he snapped at me for no reason and I still can't figure it out. What's worse, he did it right in front of one of the kids. My daughter was talking to her friend about another friend from school who called her a "cry-baby" because my daughter said she was going to tell on her about something. I said " Why would she call you that? That means you cry a lot." Sam, (my friend) said "No it doesn't, it means you tattle on people." I said "I never heard it used that way." Anyways, this is a silly conversation, right? He suddenly got really angry and said "I've been around a lot longer than you and have heard what kids say in the schoolyard. You talk a lot, but you don't know shit!" Now, was that necessary, just because we had a difference of opinion about something stupid? I looked at him, totally shocked, and said. "I never said I knew everything." He said "You think you do." I just looked at him again, like I couldn't believe his attitude, and I said "This is a silly thing to get so uptight about." I don't know if he heard me. He just got up and started to play with the kids. He wouldn't talk to me after that, and I didn't talk to him. I know I should've said. "We are both adults. There is no reason for you to be so rude. We both have a right to our opinions, and this is a trivial thing. You are setting a bad example in front of the kids." I know I should've said something like this, but I was so shocked, I couldn't think of anything. I think that maybe he was mad at me about something else, and was just using this stupid disagreement as an excuse to vent. Or just having a bad day. What do you think? I don't want tension between us because my daughter and the girls are really good friends. Any advice?

i dont think you should worry about it. i mean everyone was has their bad days. if he continues doing stuff like that i think maybe you should be worried but i suppose watching to young kids everyday could take its tool on someone older

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Alrigty, so i am stoked to have sex and have ideas of what i want to do already but i feel a little bit wierd because i dont think other girls think like that. most of my friends are guys so within them its normal, no big deal, but will a guy that i am dating think that that is strange?
thanks!
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i dont think so. i have those feelings to sometimes. its just a hormone thing really. guys prob have the same idea in their minds 24/7. just make sure you wait for the right person because guys will tell you they love you but if you want sex to they will prob take advantage of you

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I'm not religious at all. I don't believe in committing 'sins' or waiting until marriage for sex. I've just noticed so many questions about religion and people get so worried they're breaking the law. I go by the quote, "Live and let live" and I don't judge anyone. Masturbate, have sex before marriage, (if you're in love!) curse, support gay marriage even! Shouldn't we stop thinking about making mistakes and just do what makes us happy?

but religion is based on making others happy over yourself. yes i am religious and do what makes me happy first but alot of people believe that sins makes you go right to hell. i think because religion is put below what the media says people don't even know what their morals are and what is to far. i mean i believe in gay marriage and sex before marriage sometimes but you dont what little 10 year olds to think its okay to because its not. did i make any sense?

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So.. why do you think teens place more emphasis on their appearance?

because thats what the media wants. in todays world tv, music, everything makes you feel horrible if you are not the pretties thinnest person out their. thats why people go to all lengths to be pretty. thats one of the reasons teen suicide is so high

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im sure you've all seen this question a million times but its getting around christmas time and i have no idea what to buy my best friend. The girl has everything no lie. And i dont want to get her a gift certificate or money. and im willing to spend somewhere between 20-30 dollars on her. any suggestions? shes a girly girl pretty muuch

make her a scrap book or something cute like that to represent your friendship. like this year im making snowglobes w/my friends pics in them with me. or maybe take her to a spa for a day with you or something

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I'm thinking of going on birth control, and I'm just wondering what works best. I've heard you can gain up to 15 pounds, and I really can't afford that (I'm an actress and a dancer). Also, I don't have a ton of money and I can't have my mom find out. Any cheap pills that don't have a million side effects?

well unless your over 18 your mom has to get them for you. the ones with the least side effects are the ones they dont work as well. whatever you do DONT do one of those pills that give you only 4 periods a year because the long term side effects are unknown and they can make you infertile in the future

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You know how everyone makes CDs of their favorite songs? How do you do that?

well they get songs from sites like limewire and download them and burn them to cds!

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what kind of work out i can do every moring and night. keep my abs the same. not gaine after christmas

cruches twists yoga is really really good if you can get a yoga tape. any kind of stretching gymnastics

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i had a question. in alot of eminems songs it says that hailie is looking at her younger sister. who is her younger sister? because i know her adopted cousin is 2 years older than her and i thought thats who he was talking about but now i know its not

based on several websites hailie was born in 95 and laney in 93


and i know how he became the father of her thats not the question

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I don't think I have an eating disorder but some people say I am on my way onto being annorexic. I mean I am 93lbs and 15 years old. I am always watching my weight making sure I am not over 95lbs. I know it may sound crazy but I don't know.. if I get at 95 or above not usually to 98 though I quit eating till I am back to 93lbs. I don't know why I do this but it is just how I am. I do not eat Breakfast or Lunch but always Supper. So please help me and give me some reasonable advice other than "you need to eat breakfast and lunch cuz its not healty" cuz that is all people seem to say, I mean my boyfriend is worried but to me this is the only way to control MY life.

i think you do need help. i know some really really skinny people in my grade that are 15 and none of them are close to 93 pounds. you should eat breakfast and lunch and only start worrying if you get over like 110. i mean look at me i just turned 16 last week and im 115 and everyone tells me how skinny i am and im sure you have to be taller than me. talk to a school counseler or something and see how they feel about it

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Hey I'm 16 years old and a guy. I eat lunch at about 12.40, to get out of school at 2.40. I work out after school, mostly cardio workouts that go anywhere from 30-90 minutes. At lunch, there isn't always a variety to choose from, since it's the last one, and I usually get PB&J, but not by choice. I add a banana and some apple juice to keep things healthy, but that doesn't work for me. I either feel sick or too hungry when I work out after school. Any other foods or sandwhiches I should try? I'm not sure what to get to fill me up, not over fill me, but give me the energy I need for after school. Thanks - will rate.

i would try some pasta even cold pasta is good and it will give you energy after school. i also recomend sandwhiches with lunch meat on them. or maybe try like chicken sandwhich or something?

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well .. i'm doing my x-mas shopping and i want to get a friend of mine a really really REALLY good gift .. something kind of like a scrapbook .. but i don't have very many good ideas .. anyone have any suggestions?
thankss

try going to your local library and get a scrap booking book. or if you go to bestbuy they have a comp. scrapbooking kit that is really cute

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