about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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im 16/f and there is a guy that is 2 years younger than me. i know age difference sucks but who cares. well you see we always use to flirt nonstop when we saw each other but we never kissed or anything! i dont think he sees me as that way?! i just dont know but now he has a girlfriend and i still see him alot but he always starts flirting with me. i love it and do it back and he always grabs me and holds me from behind and is like you cant get out! or just like pushes me..anything he can do to flirt with me. one time i wore white shorts and they were see-through and i guesss he told his friend that he didnt mind or whatever lol and that he was looking at my ass and also when i wore a skirt i guess my butt was accidently showing and he was looking at it and was like why cant more girls be like her (me)? trust me im not a slut though i have never had a boyfriend and only madeout with one guy so far! but now im thinking does he like me? or does he just like flirting with me. because what about his girlfriend i know he likes her! we always have such great talks though! and he is so adorable and sweet its unbelievaeble. he looks so much older also. but the whole girlfriend thing throws me off..everytime i see him he just gets me though. i'll probably see him tomorrow or sometime soon this week so do you think i should like just keep doin what im doin..if he flirts then flirt back? im not gonna try and steal him away or anything but i just love flirting with him and im kinda crushin on him =p and im not gonna stop talking or seeing him either..just not gonna happen

well thanks for taking your time!

Flirting is a natrual thing and people do it without even noticing. I do think that he has a thing for you even though he has a girl friend or maybe it's just that he is a major flirt. A lot of guys are like that. They love all kinds of attention. You shoulnd't just stop flirting. I personaly think it would be hard for the two of you since you're so into each other. I don't know what else to tell you though. Once you guys are having a conversation, bring up the subject of you and him and just talk. He is attracted to you & there is a possibility that he likes you but it's hard to tell because he's giving you mixed signals. Just talk and flirt and have a good time.

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God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?

You're not weird for changing yourself or your looks, but in middle school, a lot of kids go through changes to see who they really are. I've changed my look, my friends but not on purpose and I'm sure you didn't really mean to do that. I'm not going to call you a jerk but it was rude what you did. Before all the popularity, those "geeky" friends were there for you when you didn't have popular friends. You might of lost touch with your old friends and maybe you were never like them, but you should apologize how you treated them. Just because they aren't popular doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends still. Just don't feel guilty. You are who you are and you're going to go through a lot of changes but just pay attention on not hurting others around you.

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well is it a mental illlness going into it? and not stopping? or going into then stoppping once you have reached the weight you want to be which is normal size?

Eather way, it's a mental illness and it's hard to just stop binging. People still think that they're "fat" or whatever and they keep doing it.

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me and my bf have been going out for seven months and we are so in love but we have this usual schedule kissing and making out ya know, and we just usually go by it and i wanna know what can i do to make the schedule more fun???

Schedule? You have a schedule on kissing and stuff.. weird. I don't even get your question. All you guys do is kiss and you want to make your "schedule" more fun. Get back to me on this question and use words and phrases that make sence please.

Gahhh-Like what kind of fun stuff? Sexual?

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okay, so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f and i really like her but i don't know where i should take her on our first date (if she'll go out with me) if you live in st. louis area, (or anyware) got any advice?

I live in St.Louis too and there aren't a lot of places from teenagers to go out on dates. Going out to dinner is too formal and fancy. You guys are only 14 so do something fun and then just talk to her. Go to a hangout place with a couple of your closest friends. Movies? Yeah, they get boring and stuff, but you will get a chance to talk and flirt and cuddle together. =] Go to a friends house or invite her over. I'm sure no matter what you guys do, you'll have fun!

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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

You're not even old enough to be on this site and you're doing that stuff? Seriously. I wonder what you're going to be doing by the time you're 20 years old. I'm not going to call you a slut or anything because what you do is your decision and you did it because you wanted to. If you REALLY like this guy then why do you feel guilty? You're doing the wrong things to get attention or whatever it is that you're trying to do. I honestly don't see why you did all that stuff anyways? I think I answered your question. No I don't think you're a slut, but I'm going to be honest with you and tell you that if that's your way of getting attention from a guy or whatever, you're making a mistake.

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(I'm sorry if this isn't in the right category. I didn't really know what to put it in)

Ive had my period for a little more than a year now, and I got it on sunday, and have had it for about 4 days, and yesterday it stopped. But the thing is, I got it again this morning. Do you think maybe it just wasnt finished yesterday or something? I don't think it will be more than 2 days from now that it will stop, but I'm still kind of scared that something might be wrong. thanks a ton :]

Nothing is wrong and it's completly normal and common. Your period will be irregular a lot and somtimes you might even get it twice a month. Your flow is actually slower once you're laying down or sleeping. Anyways, nothing is wrong though.

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How long do hangovers last and is there anything I can do to feel better?

Hangovers suck and they usually last about a day or 2. Don't take any medicine right away because it's not good if it mixes with alchocol in your system. Take a shower and lay in bed. Sleep. Once you wake up you might have a headache so then take Advil and just relax. Hope you feel better soon!

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i dont really like thongs, but where could i buy underwear that is kind of like a thong, but doesnt go up your but crack. basically like are a bit thicker. any website/stores (NOT victoria's secret, i already know that one)

A lot of stores sell them. Charlotte Russe sells a lot of different type of underwear. Thongs are comftrable and you shouldn't feel it go up your butt but I don't know how come you do. So, the next time you're at the mall just go to any store and look for them because I'm sure they have what you're looking for.

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hey everybody! my question is how old do you have to be to get a small vibrator from spencers at the mall?
Thanks

There isn't an age limit at Spencers. If they say something to you because of it, they're pathetic but I know that they don't sell them to little kids so you should be fine.

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i havent had my period in a about a month is a half or so? so and im 13 and im a virgin. i was wondering if thats just normal.. like i could we getting it really late or maybe its a skip month? could someone help me!

You shoulnd't worry. It's normal and sometimes you're going to be late and irregular. Stress can also cause late periods so just relax. You'll be fine.

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which movie will make me cry more the movie Click or the moview The lake house?
thanxx

A lot of my friends who saw Click said it was good at the beggining but got really lame towards the end. It's a comdedy so it won't really make you cry. The Lake House is a love movie and my friends said it was good so I think you should see that one.

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okay.. so im 16/f... and i weigh like 160.. ick i know... so here is the questions part.. so next august is when i have to take my senior pictures.. and i want to lose weight before then. i want to lose about 50-55 pounds.. so my question is how long will it take to lose like 50 pounds.. and what are the best ways of doing it. thanks in advance.

I know that people probally get tired of hearing this, but eating "healthy" is actually the key. When I say healthy, I don't mean that you shouldn't have cookies, or pizza but know your porportions and how much take in. You have to make right decisions about food. With that, I can't help you much with so you should try to figure out your eating plan and look more into it. I can't tell you what and what not to eat. Anyways, lower the amount of calories you have each day. If you have over 2,000, try 1,500. Write down what you eat so you can keep on track. It really does help. So, the next important thing for a succesful weight loss is exercise. Most of us hate that word and we're not happy to hear it, but it can be fun! Try to get about an hour of exercise a day. Walk around your neighborhood. Swim, run, jog. You can also buy dvds. Pilates, yoga.. anything that keeps you moving is great and it helps. Vacuming the house will burn off some calories too so cleaning is good and I'm sure it would make your parents happy lol. If you stick to a healthy, well balanced meals and exercise you should be loosing about 1/2-3 pounds a week. That's actually really good! You might not lose a pound EVERY week but don't let it get to you. It happenes to everyone and just don't give up. Think about how badly you want this and stick to it. When you're on your period, you may gain a pound or 2 but that is normal. It will go down and it's mostly water weight. Oh & also, don't drink much soda. Diet soda is better because it's 0 calories. You might not like it, but once you get used to it, it doesn't taste much different. Also, if you don't like vegtables, you can buy V8 juice. It counts as a full serving of veggies.. same with fruit. You can make smoothies without sugar. =] Good luck with everything and just be patient!!

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How many calories do I need to maintain [sp?] in my regular diet if I'm 13, 5"7, and 127 lbs?

Thanks.

Health books and nutrition books say about 2,000 calories a day for girls. If you're active with sports and other activities, have a bit more. As long as you get 3 full meals in, eat veggies and fruits, your straches & everything you'll be fine.

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Okay…..^_^ this might take a while. Well, at camp, on the second day of the time we were there, Abby and I were sitting on a loveseat during this camp activity thing. Everyone was told that they had to sit in the middle, (which is where we were sitting) So, Mikey gets up from the back and looks around for a place to sit. He looks straight at me and sits down INBETWEEN me and abby. We are sitting there, and my heart was kinda pounding. Anyway, he starts to poke my leg…. and so of course I had to poke him back. So we went on like that for awhile. And then he laid his hand on my leg for like 5 seconds and smirked at me…. almost like a challenge…>.> so I had to do it back of course. So then, we went on like that forEVER and it was almost like the nervous game but I stopped. And then I elbowed him in the side, and it was funny!

Okay! NEXT DAY! WOOOOO…Okay, I was in crafts with abby and kirstie and Marissa. And Mikey was in Ping-Pong, which is in the same room. Then I finished my craft, and he had lost at ping-pong. I walked past him to go talk too abby and he stops me. He’s all….”sit on my lap” and I was all…O_O no! and then he was all…. Please? And I said, No, cause I’m not a slut. So he asked me to sit on the arm of the chair. So I did for like a minute. But then my butt started to ache so I got up and moved into the chair next to him. Then he started to show off, and he rocked back and forth in the chair he was sitting in, and flipped it backwards on purpose. He was sitting like that for a while, but then he was uncomfortable, cause he couldn’t get up. So he asked me to help him. So I tried…. for like 2 seconds, but got bored so I gave up. Then he was whining and whining and stuff. Then he stopped and looked at me and was all, “hold my hand…” And I was all “._.;;;;;” But I did, ^_^ and then he said that I had really soft hands which made me laugh. Then abby and kirstie helped him get the chair up, but he wouldn’t let go of my hand.

THEN, , we had swimming. I went down to the pool, but I didn’t know he was going to be there, and I didn’t want to swim cause I had my cloths on, and I had my period. BUT, he kept threating to push me in and I didn’t wanna get wet so I sat next to the lifeguard. The lifeguard was all, “If you touch her and push her in then I’ll get pushed in to and I WOULD NOT be happy…*glare*” (cause she was holding my hand so he couldn’t get me.) ^_^ Heehee, anyway, so he just stood over me and dripped water on me, and splashed me, AND HE WAS SHIRTLESS! …*Drool* but then I got bored so I wen’t and put my legs into the water in the shallow end with kirstie, and It was nice and we were sitting there and I was all ahhhhh. But of course, he had to come over. So he walks over in all his wet shirtless glory and is holding a Frisbee. He dips the Frisbee under that water and all the sudden splashes me. I sat there very quietly, and he said…”You can hit me if you want…” and I was all…”I’m not going to hit you…. *and then I jumped in the water fully clothed* I’M GOING TO KILL YOOOU!” Lets just say he ran away like a little girl, lol.

Then since my group was with his for the next activity which was ultimate Frisbee, he pretended to be sick and sat on the sidelines and watched kirstie and me. We were doing handstands and stuff and it was fun. After that, we were walking back past the rec hall, and he ran up out of no-where and just grabbed my hand. It was like…*Mikey appears out of no-where* *snatch’s hand* I got very scared, but I let him hold it! ^_^;;;, then some random kid was all, “Hey Mikey! Is that your new girlfriend!” and I looked at Mikey and went “EWWWWWWWWWWW” and walked away. ^_^ Heehee, oopsie? Then after that, there was just random flirting and him throwing stuff at me and being adorable, and stuff

Then when we got back home and stuff, kirstie randomly asked him why he kept hitting on me at camp, and he said its cause he likes me!


Okay,my quistion is, do you think he likes me, and i'm wondering if i should date him, cause he is in rehab right now....and after camp he made out with some other girl. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!?!?!

He likes you. No guy would do as many stupid random things for a girl if they didn't like her or unless they're a big show off. Anywhom, I don't know what to tell you if you should date him or not. It's your decision and before you think about going out, do you even like him? It seems like you enjoyed when he bugged you and flirted with you and maybe you have a little crush on him as well? That kiss between him and that other girl, .. well there is a reason for it but who knows. Maybe he thought you didn't like him and thought he should move on. I mean you didn't really act like you liked him at camp but that's only from what you're telling us. So, you should talk to him. If you have his number or screen name, say hey and maybe you guys can hang out. See if you have feelings for him and just see how things end up. If you both like each other, give the relationship a chance.

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wer can i find a vibrator for cheap in my area. i live in New Bedford MA.... ive masterbated before but i really want a vibrator, or a man, but a vibrator is all you can give me then i'll take it lol
thnx
asap

I know for sure that Spencers sells them. I don't think they're expensive but you could also get a man but you should get a vibrator instead because it can't get you pregnant. Enjoy it. =]

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I wear black eyeliner right now. But i was watching The Tyra Show and she said that White eyeliner makes your eyes stand out more. If Thats True Does it look good.

If you can answer by tomorrow or saturday. Thats wonderful but Anytime IS good also.

Thank you.

I read something about white eyeliner and it doesn't really make your eyes "stand out". You are supposed to put some on the inside of it. I'm sorry but I don't know what it's called,but the inside corner of your eye. I'm trying to expain this the best way I know how. Anyways, you are supposed to add some on there and it makes you look more.. awake. Brighter eyes and like I said, awake. It makes your eyes pop so they also look bigger. You can get it at drug stores and Maybeline is a good one.

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okay well i have naturally really curly hair, and when its curly its about to my shoulder, anyways, over the summer i think its so much easier to just scrunch it so i use gel, mouse, and aussie sprunch spray, but after about a half an hour it dries, and its just curls. =/ do u know anything that keeps it "wet looking" if u know what i mean.

Most girls have this problem with scrunchy hair. It usually becomes dry after and I honestly don't know how to fix that problem. Here's a website on some tips though.



http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip18011.htm

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me and my bf have been going out for 9 months, im 14. and we have dry sex, is that slutty? honestly.

If it's between you and your boyfriend, then no it's not slutty. You guys have been together for a long time and it's normal with a lot of couples.

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sorry if this came up twice but
whats it called when a guy sucks & licks your boobs?

I didn't even know that there was a name for that. I don't know so I'm sorry.

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