Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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heya, i have a best friend called Laura. Shes great fun to be around and we are into the same stuff and its great coz we treat each other like equals. I do stuff with her that i dont do with my other friends like go straight up to lads and talk to them or go to nightclubs for under 18s and recently she treated me to a trip to alton towers.
Ive always been slightly jealouos of her because she is really pretty and she lives in a big house (in a different village) with a gorgeous dog and her family is quite rich and they spoil her a bit thought she doesnt act spoilt but now its all getting too much..
1.Recently shes been acting snobby and too good for my other friends and ive realised that shes quite 2faced too.
2.Whenever i go to her house i always come back wishing i was her or completely stressing out because of what she has that i dont.
3.She can afford to be what i want to be if you know what i mean its like shes living my life but better
4.She takes credit for my ideas and style
5. I introduced her to my friends at the skatepark and shes taken them all away from me
6.She is so pretty but its the products she can afford to buy that makes her pretty
7. I pointed out a bag i really wanted and she liked it too and was going to buy it because she had the money on her but i made it clear that it was mine when i got the money . i was really pleased because i had something against her but shes gone back and her mum gave her the money for the same bag in a different colour which made me want to kill her becuase my anger had built up so much over the year and it was like that was the final straw
8. Shes decorating her room the same style as mine but hers will be better because she can afford more and she'll take the credit for it
9.She has a ahem 'perfect' boyfriend that she keeps rubbing in my face anbut she dont realise shes doing it.
10. Shes moving down my street soon.........this REALLY PISSES ME OFF BECAUSE ITS A MASSIVE HOUSE AND I LIVE IN A CUTE LIL BUNGALOW BUT HERS WILL BE REALLY POSH INSIDE AND SHES HAVING THE WHOLE TOP FLOOR TO HERSELF AND SHES GONNA TAKE OVER MY NEIGHBOURHOOD. and she says shes gonna have loadsa partys but i wanted to be the one hu throws the partys in my town but itll be her now and ill have to live with it and be the 'other one' if you know what i mean. i could go on..
11.aaarrgghh i wanna die..or her to die...either way wud suit me... (link)
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I'm sorry but if she's being snobby and acting like she's better than all of you and rubbing things in your face ; that's not treating eachother equally. I would either talk to her about it, or just stop being her friend.
You just need to sit down with her and let her know how she's acting around people and how she's coming off as. She might not be meaning to. Just be like,"Laura, you're my best friend, you know that, and we have so much fun together, but lately, you've sort of been snobbyish and my friends feel like you think you're better than them or something. I'm not trying to say this to be harsh or anything, I just want to let you know how you're sort of coming off to everyone." [ or something like that ]
If she doesn't try and resolve this and make herself better, then I would personally just suggest stop being her friend. Who needs a friend who thinks they're better than people and snobby and rubs their 'perfect' boyfriend in their best friends faces? And a best friend doesn't steal the credit for stuff and copy ideas and buy the thigns their best friend wanted in the first place and claimed. And if you're getting that jealous about how she lives and everything, it would just be best to stay away from her too because you won't get as jealous and everything. You just need to realize it you have it good too. Getting stuff in stores, throwing parties, etc. It seems like a good life. I mean, yes, even though hers sounds a little better from the way you tell of it, there's people who got it worse, you know?
So you can still have your parties and everything, but you just don't need to be known as the best. I doubt you'll be know as 'the other one'. You'll be know as [whateveryournameishaha]. I mean if people do start making a big deal out of it or something, just explain to them you would've made it better, you had a certain budget and you couldn't go over it. Just as long as your friends and everyone have alot of fun and remember your party sounds pretty dang good to me.
So basically, my advice: Get a new, good, loyal best friend who won't make it seem like she's the best, and you'll have fun together without her copying you and everything. And just have a bunch of friends and enjoy yourself!
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my friend keeps say she goes "ddfd" or someting like that. does anyone know what it stands for? (link)
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"ddfd" could mean so many different things. it just depends on how the person views that. it's probably some acronym your friend made up. just ask her what it means next time you guys talk! i hope i helped.
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I don't think my friend understands that you can be best friends, do things with other people (seperately) but still be best friends. Any advice? (link)
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You just need to have a talk with her. Just be like,"____, look, you're my best friend and you know that. You know I love hanging out with you and that I'd never try and replace you or anything, but I need to sometimes do things with other people. It's not that I don't want to hang out with you or anything, but sometimes I just miss my other friends so I hang out with them, and then whenever I really miss you I hang out with you. But see? Just because I hang out with other people, doesn't mean you're not my best friend. And whenever I hang out with my other friends, that also gives you time to hang out with your other ones too! So we'll both get to see some of our friends we haven't seen in awhile." Or something like that. Just let her know how much you care about her and you wouldn't trade her friendship for anybody else's, but you just sometimes need time to be by yourself or hanging out with your other friends.
I hope I helped.
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my friend and i liked the same guy but he didnt like me back. He confused me sometimes because i wasnt sure if he liked me or not, untill last night he asked my friend out. Now she is all happy, and i am left hurt. IT absolutely kills me inside how he picked her over me b/c of the age difference (she is 2 years younger) she is 15, and how i am his age. SHe even knew that i liked him, and we made a lil truse that we wouldnt be obssesed with him, now she's with him. (link)
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I think she should have at least thought about what you would be feeling and how you'd probably be hurt and all before she went and just decided to go out with him. She should've at least tried talking it out with you about it and asking if you felt comfortable with it. She doesn't seem like a very good friend at the moment. But it's your decision wether you want to continue the friendship with her or not. As I say,"dicks before chicks?" or "chicks before dicks"? :P Just talk about it with her and see if she at least apologizes for hurting your feelings and not talking about it with you, and then think of if you want to continue being friends. But as for the guy, forget him. If he's going to let two girls get mad over him, he sounds like a jerk. Don't worry. That guy might not be your guy, but you'll find your own someday, who'll be better than him. I hope I helped.
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I am so confused. I liked this guy (let's callhim Joey) since 6th grade. After he turned me down for a school dance in 7th grade, I just accepted him as my guy friend and believed that I was lucky to have him as a friend who'll always be there instead of a boyfriend that won't last. But now that he's in 3 of my classes and at the school orientation I talked to him, I think I'm starting to like him again!
I mean he's really sweet and fun to be with. And he slightly likes me (so I think) because he kept on trying to strike up conversations and stared at me during the classroom visits. (We're going into hihg school now). Ahhh I'm just confused about him. (link)
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Well, seventh grade WAS along time ago, so it could be that his feelings could be changing. Just start talking to him more and become his friend. And just make him laugh, flirt a little maybe, and just hang out. Then if you feel things are getting good between you two, take a shot. You took one before. And if he doesn't feel the same, just move on. I know it might be a little difficult since you like this guy, but just start trying to talk to other guys to and seeing if you have anything in common with them. You can't spend forever waiting for a guy to 'possibly' change his feelings for you. And even so, you guys can always remain really good friends. Better to have him as a friend then nothing at all, right? But if he does, that's great! I hope I helped.
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hi, has anyone on here ever gone from total unsatisfaction to loving their lives and not wanting to trade their memories for anything in the world?? what was it that made that change? new awesome friends? a bf/gf? some kind of amazing experience?
what changed your outlook on life? (link)
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My outlook on life changed whenever I found out the death of a girl, strangely, I didn't even know. They made a bulliten about it on myspace and her friends made these beautiful videos and said amazing things about her. Now, even though I didn't know her, I cried. Alot of times. I know people die everyday, but I never really had the chance to hear what happened, see what they looked like, able to visit their myspace, see their friends comments and hear of what their future plans were with friends like prom and graduation and her going to college, everything she was now not able to do, and whenever I thought of it, it just seemed like some dumb thing I had to attend. It just made me realize I have it really good and that while I'm here, I should treat people better, and just.. not take it for granted. We only have one of these things, so we gotta live it well. So I've just been trying lately to improve relationships with people, be happier [ I don't want to be known as a miserable person ], and just try and live life as best as I can.
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Is facial hair on a 15/m attractive or is it showing that your a some kind of beast (link)
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well, facial hair can look attractive on a guy if trimmed and taken care of, but it depends on how the guy looks. cause it looks too weird on some 15 year olds. ask a few of your girl friends what they think. but personally, i think guys should guys should grow facial hair whenever they are a little older maybe like, 17 or 18 or so. i hope i helped.
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i like this girl but she one of my best friends and she only want to be my friend and nothing else what shall i do (link)
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Just keep your friendship and try and find another girl. I know it's though since you like her, but if she only wants to be friends, there's really nothing you can do to change it. And you couldn't possibly ignore her since she's like you said, your best friend. I hope I helped.
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im 14/ m okay it all started at the beginning of the summer, there was this girl i had a crush on(a big time crush) so i decided to tell her and well i got rejected bt thats not the problem, after a little while i got over her but now im back in school ive started to get feelings for her again and i think that if i tell her sheel think im a stalker, what do i do>? help! (link)
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Telling a girl that you like her twice is nowhere near being a stalker. A stalker is whenever you like, follow her around, watch her all the time, etc. Yeah, that's kind of stalkerish, so heh, yeah, don't do that. But there's nothing wrong with trying and becoming her friend! Just be real friendly and nice to her and ask her how her summer was and what she did and if she went on vacation, etc. Or just stare talking to her about the classes, tests, homework, etc. And just let the conversation flow. It'll show you're interested in what she has to say and that you want to know more about HER. Later throughout the school year, if you two become better friends, you can even try telling her you like her again. But telling her again, you might recieve the same reply as before. So, for now, just stick to being friends and maybe later in the year see if there's anything else in store for you two. I hope I helped.
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Dear Mrs. Web,
My sister is 17, a senior in highschool getting ready to go off to college and I am a 15 years old. I love my sister with all my heart, but she seems to manipulate our mom to always get her way. When ever I do something to bother her in the slightest way she'll go call our mom and I will be the one yelled at. Or, If she does something mean oe unfair to meI will tell my mom and once again I will get yelled at! For something such as overreacting, being immature, or some other obsene reason! For example today, I came home from school sick and was sleeping on the couch in our basement. When my sister came home, she came downstairs and started blasting music. I told her I was sick and that she woke me up and she was completely rude to me. so I went outside on the screen porch until my mom came home. When she came home I told her what happened and this is how she handeled it: she went downstairs and asked my sister politley if she was almost done with her music. My sister said no, so my mom came back upstairs and told me that I should wait on the porch until my sister was done with her music then I could go back downstairs. Then, my sister came upstairs and said she was finished now. I just started crying and ran downstairs! They both just left me alone and I'm sure talked about how overly dramatic I was being. I love my family I really do but this is just too much! I do not know how to handle my out of control sister OR how to help my mom to see my side of the story and start being more fair. Help please!
Sincerely,
Pushed Over the Edge! (link)
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Dear Pushed Over the Edge,
This happens sometimes with me too. Like, with my grandparents. If I don't call them for awhile, I get yelled at. But my brother who never calls, or visits, never gets yelled at because it's "not expected of him". Psh.
I would suggest having a serious talk with your sister about why she always feels she needs to have you get yelled at, etc. Tell her you just hate getting yelled at and always being thought to be overreacting or being called immature. If your sister continues to act this way, I say she's the immature one, and just whenenver she starts becoming this way, just leave the situation. Just walk away from it so you don't get yelled at and can't be blamed for being immatre and overreacting cause you haven't even done anything and hopefully your sister'll realize that you don't want anything to do with her if she's going to continue to be this way. Just tell her you love her, but she can't always have you get yelled at whenever stuff happens, and you didn't even do anything to her. Your sister needs to learn to consider your feelings and that she always can't get things her way.
And have a talk with your mother too. Just let her know that you love her and everything, but ask her if she could please just stop yelling at you whenever your sister comes and says something, because really, you don't do anything. Just ask her if she can try being a little more fair because you hate being thought of as overreacting and immature. I mean, she's your mother. She should understand and be more fair between both of her daughters.
But just also think. If your sister is going away to college next year, whenever she's gone, you won't be getting yelled at or be called overreacting or immature anymore. :] I hope I helped.
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what does it mean when a guy says to you when you gonna pound? or a girl says your just trying to pound him. if you could let me know i would appreciate it. thanks. (link)
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Usually whenever people use that term like,"i'm gonna pound it, hit it, tap it, smack it, etc." it's usually a sexual reference. I hope I helped.
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I have an advicenators column and I'm really good, however I encourage my friends to visit my advice column if they need any sort of advice. It seems that none of my friends really care to tell me about their problems. I really like helping people. But none of my friends even bother to take a visit to my advice column. My question is- How can I make my friend's seem more interested in my advice column and get them to trust me with their problems. Help??? thanks! (link)
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Well, you can't really make your friends visit your advice column if they don't want to. They might not feel comfortable with their problems spread on the internet for others to read, or they just might not be comfortable with it. They might not even have any problems going on in their life at the moment. Just don't mention the advice site, and if you really want to help them with advice and stuff, just let them know you're there for them and see if they come to you. Who knows? If they used a code name or something, they might have even already visited it, you just don't know cause they didn't want you knowing what problem they were. I hope I helped.
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I'm just entering high school (9th grade). I'm going to involve myself in Key Club, Ruritan, SODA, etc. I wanna look good to the teachers and counslors but I don't wanna seem like a suck up or a teachers pet. How shall I achieve this?
Also, there is this one guy who is 2 of my classes and I like him but he slightly likes me but not really friends. How do I become friends with him? I was friends wit him in the beginning but for one shallow reason, he decided to ditch. Should I even spend my time on him? (link)
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Mm, to not be a teacher's pet, just don't try to hard. I mean, try hard on your tests and work and everything, of course, but don't try to be show-offy during class, or always raising the hand and always the one that has to be right, etc. I mean, it's good and all, but it might make the other kids feel dumb if they didn't know the answer. But it shouldn't really matter, you're just trying to do well in school and nothing's wrong with that.
With this guy, just start trying to talk to him again. Bring things up about the class, maybe ask him to be your partner for one of the projects. And then just start talking to him about his other classes, which ones his least favorite, etc. It'll show you're interested in him and want to know more about him. And flirt a little bit with him too. But if he starts to ditch you again, I would just let it alone cause obviously he's not trying to put forth an effort in becoming your friend.
I hope I helped.
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i have a myspace
and i want to know how to put a picture
as the caption
ive done it before
but when i put the code from photobucket and tinypic all it does it show an X
does anyone know how to fix it or
a new site that will actaully let me do a picture as the caption?!
thanxx!
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Are you putting the img src code?
This is what it is.
I hope I helped.
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so I have a good boyfriend; we've been going out for a little over 6 months. well i used to have this other boyfriend; we were on and off for like 2 years. he was a jeerk and i don't even know why i liked him. we don't even talk anymore and i have no feelings left for him. but today i look at his gf's myspace and there was a picture of them together kissing. my stomach flipped and i kind of god sad. it was so weird; because i know i'm over him. why did this happen?? is it just because i used to be her? i don't want to be jealous like this ; do you have tips to not be anymoree? (link)
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Just don't go to his myspace anymore. And if you decided to, just don't look at his pictures. I mean, it's alright to be a little jealous. He used to be your boyfriend and you guys probably had some good times and it just got to you. No girl really likes to see their ex-boyfriend kissing some other girl even though they could be completely over them. You just have to remember the reasons you broke up and that he was a jerk and how you're glad you're not still with him. But like I said, I wouldn't even bother looking at his myspace anymore. I hope I helped.
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15/f
I have a 5 month year old son with my boyfriend. I considered adoption from the start, but it was too hard to say goodbye so I pulled out at the last minute. (Which made my boyfriend happy, surprisingly.) My mom (my dad isn't a part of my life) gave in and said she'd raise him for me if I helped. Now that school's in, it's becoming harder. We have to pay the babysitter, pick him up, etc. Plus, I made the cheerleading squad. Neither of us have time for him and my boyfriend's family can't take him. Mom wants me to reconsider adoption, but I can't give up my baby now! But I also don't want to give up being a cheerleading and all the other fun stuff in high school. Mom's afraid my grades will slip. So am I. But my bf and I have grown so attached to ourson. We plan on getting married and raising him together once we're out of high school. But what can I do until then? It's too stessful! HELP!!! Please! (link)
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Well, if you don't want to do adoption, I know it'll be hard, but if you really want to keep your son you're going to have to work at it really hard. Welcome to the fabulous world of parenthood, haha. You'll just have to sit down with your boyfriend and figure out a sort of schedule you guys could possibly do. Well, with most parents who have to work all day and have no time to take care of the kid during the day, you should just try dropping him off at a day care and let them take care of him for awhile. And then whenever you finish with cheerleading, pick him up, and take him home. Then while you and your boyfriend do your homework or wahtever school work you have, your mother can watch him for a little bit. And then once you put him to sleep, you can go out if you want or hang out with friends, etc.
But I really admire the fact that you're staying in school. Most teenage mothers drop out of school to take care of the baby most of the day, which'll ruin them in future life. Whenever you need money, you'll need a good steady job, and it's hard to get one without a highschool/college education.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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My husband and I have never really been to close since we got married, mostly because I'm starting to find him boring and inconsiderate. While I was his girlfriend, I was a lover. Now that I'm his wife, I'm his slave. Anyway, he's has in the army and away from home for the past year. I got lonely so I started hanging out with some friends (both guys & girls mixed). I ended up starting a semi-romantic relationship with a man who had just lost his wife during her labor. So I helped him with his daughter and we just leaned on each other for support. Then my husband came home unexpected one day and caught us sharing one of the few kisses we've ever had together. So now my husband is fuming and wants a divorce, plus, he thinks the man's daughter is my child! He won't believe a word anyone says! Do I just divorce him and take it as a blessing in disguise, setting me free, or what? (link)
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i would just divorce him. if you're not happy with him and feel you're not happy, then leave the relationship. but you can't leave without at least proving him wrong. i would go and have a DNA test taken and show him evidence that the other guys' daughter is NOT your child. i would sort of take this as a bless in disguise. it's a chance for you to get out of the relationship you DON'T want to be in any longer, and possibly begin a newer and better one with the other man. and you asked if you're cheating. well, since you kissed another man [ i'm assuming on the lips here ] while you're still married, then yeah, it's still cheating. but if it was just a harmless, friendly kiss on the cheek, then no. i hope i helped.
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My male hamster died in march and my friends male hamster died in May. she recently got a female hamster and says that the girls are more energetic and sweet then males. I always thought boys were nicer than girls? I would like a girl better but I want to get the nicest gender. What should I choose? (link)
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well, i'd take your friend's advice and if her girl hamster is really sweet, then they probably are. whenever you go to the pet store to purchase one, you can even try asking the person behind the counter which one of the genders is more sweet and energetic. i tried googling up female hamsters to see if they're better than males and i didn't really see anything. but i did notice they mentioned they're energetic and everything, so your friend's probably right. i hope i helped.
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i can`t get over my ex-boyfriend jordan.
we started going out in may and i broke up with him in the middle of july.
now he`s going out with my best friend hannah.
[don`t worry, we`re friends.]
and now everytime i look in his profile on AIM, it says i love hannah so much she`s the one for me.
and it used to say that about ME. not her.
everytime i see them together at school and such, i just want to sit there and cry because that could`ve been me but i had to dump him.
but i dumped him for a pretty stupid reason.
i dumped him because he was really
clingy and like 3 days later i realized
that i missed his clingyness. and now
i can`t get him back because he`s with hannah
and there`s no way i can tell her how i feel.
i can`t tell any of my friends because
they`ll tell hannah.
jordan is just so amazing. he`s cute,
he`s smart, he`s a `rull big jock, and
he`s funny too. (EVERYTHING i like in a guy...)
i don`t know how i`ll ever get over him.
please help me.. (link)
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Gah, that's a really crappy situation, sorry. :l
But the most I can tell you is that you do, indeed, have to try your best and get over him. It takes awhile, but it slowly starts to happen. You just have to focus your attention elsewhere. Don't look at them, anything that reminds you of him, songs, letters he wrote, anything, just put it away in a box and keep it all under your bed and don't look at it. Try finding a new hobby or learning an instrument. And just hang out with your friends and maybe even try and meet a new guy. If you are start to think about it, quickly move your attention elsewhere. Think of a song you recently started liking that's catchy and will get stuck in your head. Or find an interest in a new TV show that's coming out. Maybe try and do some chores around the house which'll be a good thing to focus on and keep your mind off of everything else, but you can also try and do it for some cash too!
I mean, even if Hannah and him were to ever break up and you two went back out, imagine how Hannah would feel. She'd probably feel just like you do right now, and I don't think you'd want your best friend to feel that way. And even though you say you miss him, if his clingyness bothered you before, it might bother you again, and the whole process might just repeat itself.
But at least you realize you have to try and get over him. Most girls'd probably try and win him over and hurt their best friend in the process, which would only make things much worse. I hope I helped.
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i found out a while ago that my parents are going to africa in december and they want to take me aswell, now as im too young by law to stay home by myself they are making me come(i cannot stay at a reletives house due to other problems) ive told my parents and theyre not budgeing so heres my question.....how do i get out of going to africa? (link)
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well the thing i want to ask is: why WOULD you want to get out of africa? it's probably a once in a lifetime opportunity that you might regret later in life if you pass up. i hear it's really pretty there and you could even see some of the animals and everything. :] but to really answer your question, i don't think there's really any way of getting to stay home. i mean, if there's nobody else to stay with, and you're too young by law to stay home by yourself.. you kind of have to go. i'm sorry. the most you could do is talk to you parents and explain to them that you'd really prefer to stay home than go to africa, and try asking a friend if you can stay with them while you're parents are gone. i hope i helped.
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