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Unfair!!
Dear Mrs. Web,
My sister is 17, a senior in highschool getting ready to go off to college and I am a 15 years old. I love my sister with all my heart, but she seems to manipulate our mom to always get her way. When ever I do something to bother her in the slightest way she'll go call our mom and I will be the one yelled at. Or, If she does something mean oe unfair to meI will tell my mom and once again I will get yelled at! For something such as overreacting, being immature, or some other obsene reason! For example today, I came home from school sick and was sleeping on the couch in our basement. When my sister came home, she came downstairs and started blasting music. I told her I was sick and that she woke me up and she was completely rude to me. so I went outside on the screen porch until my mom came home. When she came home I told her what happened and this is how she handeled it: she went downstairs and asked my sister politley if she was almost done with her music. My sister said no, so my mom came back upstairs and told me that I should wait on the porch until my sister was done with her music then I could go back downstairs. Then, my sister came upstairs and said she was finished now. I just started crying and ran downstairs! They both just left me alone and I'm sure talked about how overly dramatic I was being. I love my family I really do but this is just too much! I do not know how to handle my out of control sister OR how to help my mom to see my side of the story and start being more fair. Help please!
Sincerely,
Pushed Over the Edge!
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Dear Pushed Over the Edge,
This happens sometimes with me too. Like, with my grandparents. If I don't call them for awhile, I get yelled at. But my brother who never calls, or visits, never gets yelled at because it's "not expected of him". Psh.
I would suggest having a serious talk with your sister about why she always feels she needs to have you get yelled at, etc. Tell her you just hate getting yelled at and always being thought to be overreacting or being called immature. If your sister continues to act this way, I say she's the immature one, and just whenenver she starts becoming this way, just leave the situation. Just walk away from it so you don't get yelled at and can't be blamed for being immatre and overreacting cause you haven't even done anything and hopefully your sister'll realize that you don't want anything to do with her if she's going to continue to be this way. Just tell her you love her, but she can't always have you get yelled at whenever stuff happens, and you didn't even do anything to her. Your sister needs to learn to consider your feelings and that she always can't get things her way.
And have a talk with your mother too. Just let her know that you love her and everything, but ask her if she could please just stop yelling at you whenever your sister comes and says something, because really, you don't do anything. Just ask her if she can try being a little more fair because you hate being thought of as overreacting and immature. I mean, she's your mother. She should understand and be more fair between both of her daughters.
But just also think. If your sister is going away to college next year, whenever she's gone, you won't be getting yelled at or be called overreacting or immature anymore. :] I hope I helped. <3
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