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Putting my son up for adoption?
15/f
I have a 5 month year old son with my boyfriend. I considered adoption from the start, but it was too hard to say goodbye so I pulled out at the last minute. (Which made my boyfriend happy, surprisingly.) My mom (my dad isn't a part of my life) gave in and said she'd raise him for me if I helped. Now that school's in, it's becoming harder. We have to pay the babysitter, pick him up, etc. Plus, I made the cheerleading squad. Neither of us have time for him and my boyfriend's family can't take him. Mom wants me to reconsider adoption, but I can't give up my baby now! But I also don't want to give up being a cheerleading and all the other fun stuff in high school. Mom's afraid my grades will slip. So am I. But my bf and I have grown so attached to ourson. We plan on getting married and raising him together once we're out of high school. But what can I do until then? It's too stessful! HELP!!! Please!
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If your having trouble choosing between cheerleading and your son...it sounds like you should give your son up for adoption..i'm not saying that you dont love him...b/c i'm sure you do. but you should also consider your son...dont you think that maybe he will be better off with parents who can devote more time to him.
if you reaally love him, then you should do whats best for him...not whats best for you.
hope i help, and good luck!! let me know how everything turns out.
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It honestly sounds like you have too much on your plate. Your son is probably the most important thing to you, and second to that should be your school work. If you can't handle it...even if it's hard to let go, you may have to let go of cheerleading. But, I would just offer that as a last resort, because I find it admirable that you want to keep up with cheerleading, it's kind of a statement, though you have a child you haven't disgraced your life. Kudos on that. Does your bf have extracurricular activities, see if he can help out more.
Good luck,
Teacup
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UM i would say to not give your baby on adoption!
I mean this might sound pretty bitchy n stuff lol but you should really pick your baby over chearleeding and all the fun stuff in highschool because its not your babys fault(it didint ask to be created u know).You and your boyfriend need to figure something out so that your baby grows with love and care from the both of you.=]
for now i think you both should give up something to have a few extra time to be with your kid.Sorry but thats how life is=/hehe.
well farealz i hope everything turns out good!
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Well first off..a 5 month year old son ehh?
anywho..
dont get your hopes up on getting married to your boyfriend. I know many many situations were the guy backs out because it gets so stressful, because..well..they can.
I'm not saying this is going to happen to you, I'm just saying that plans change really easily..especially when your this young. So dont expect that you will have a husband to help with the baby at 15 yrs old.
Now about the adoption thing.
I cant tell you what to do.
No one can.
But its really unfair for your mom when she has to raise your child..even though you would be helping, she stopped having kids for a reason.
I also know of a person who had to raise their daughters baby for about 6 or 7 months until the mother of the baby finally got her head on straight. It was hard for the baby, because she thought her grandma was her mother, it was hard for the grandma and it was hard for the mother. So if you feel like you wont be able to handle this..I'm sorry but adoption is probably the best thing.
You have to make sacrfices. Especially when you have a baby. Sorry, but your high school life is going to be way different than anyone elses, because you are a mother. I would think and hope that your own child would come before cheerleading.
Its going to be extra hard to keep your grades up with having a baby around. You should know that, you've probably been told many times.. but it is possible to keep up your grades AND have a baby. Its hard..but if you work hard enough you can do it.
Just stay in school. You need an education so you can get a good career to help support yourself and your child. This child is going to be your responsibility for a good 18 years..you need to have a good job to support everything.
Well, good luck with everything.
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Well, if you don't want to do adoption, I know it'll be hard, but if you really want to keep your son you're going to have to work at it really hard. Welcome to the fabulous world of parenthood, haha. You'll just have to sit down with your boyfriend and figure out a sort of schedule you guys could possibly do. Well, with most parents who have to work all day and have no time to take care of the kid during the day, you should just try dropping him off at a day care and let them take care of him for awhile. And then whenever you finish with cheerleading, pick him up, and take him home. Then while you and your boyfriend do your homework or wahtever school work you have, your mother can watch him for a little bit. And then once you put him to sleep, you can go out if you want or hang out with friends, etc.
But I really admire the fact that you're staying in school. Most teenage mothers drop out of school to take care of the baby most of the day, which'll ruin them in future life. Whenever you need money, you'll need a good steady job, and it's hard to get one without a highschool/college education.
Good luck, and I hope I helped. <3
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