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On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks..

You've got your whole life ahead of you. I don't think you should do this. Yes, you could get pregnant. A condom isn't 100% reliable, and you never know what could happen. Sex is something you should save for the person you truly love, later in life. Your first time will always be in your memory, whether you like to admit it or not. Don't just give up your virginty because your sick of being a virgin. Sex is a major decision. You say you've gone out with him for 7 months before. Well what broke you up? And who's to say it won't come up again? Imagine your life in 10 years. Do you see him in it? Right now he may seem like Mr. Prince Charming, but your going to date many guys before you find the right guy. If you are questioning whether or not you should, then you aren't ready. If you wre ready there would be no doubt in your mind or your heart that this is what you want to do. Following that way will help you avoid regrets. Maybe not now you won't regret it, or maybe not 6 months away, but you WILL. I'm not trying to yell at you or be your mother, I'm just trying to save you from making a big decision so soon. =)

♥ lAuRa

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hey girl its me roxygirl or kirstie. i feel so bad for you, do you still have the stomach flu? well if you do i hope you feel better. so what have you been up to? i have been doing nothing besides being on the computer lol!! hahahehe!! so im glad you put me on you favorite collumist. i put you on mine too. so do you like my collumn it pink and happy bunny DOES ROCK!! HEHE!! well write me back a soon as you can. tata!! lol!!
~kirstie~

Hey! Yeah, I'm still kinda sick. :-/ I've been playing the Sims lately lol. I like your column it's cool. =) Yep happy bunny is awesome lol. ttyl!

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Okay I am 40 weeks pregnant. I was due xmas day. I still have not given birth! What could be taking so long? I am becoming so miserable, uncomfortable and irritated, not to mention impatient. Please if someone has any suggestions please help!

It hasn't been awhile since Christmas. The due date isn't necessarily when you're going to have your baby. Just keep seeing the doctor until you give birth to see if everything is normal. =)

♥ lAuRa

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i was going out with this guy for like a month and a half, one day he breaks up with me before school starts. second block my best freind/his best freind tells me she likes him and ask me if it would be ok if they went out. i sad yes and she said she wouldn't ask him out, an hour later i find out they are going out. I'm trying to be friends with them but it's difficult because he like wont really talk to me unless i talk to him (he is really outgoing and it's not like him) and now megan is getting mad at me cause people are aparently being mean to her. i sad i was sorry for that to both of them but neither of them are really talk to me anymore, i just don't know how to handle cause i havn't been handling it very well. And megan does know what i'm going through cause the same thing happend to her the only difference is that she and everyone else saw it coming to her but not me i also talked to her about it, she said she was sorry and she knew what i was going through but she hasn' done anything to really make me feel better but say she was sorry. then keith did the same thing in an e-mail, neither of them will talk aobut it to my face

Megan shouldn't be doing this to you. Now is a time to question her friendship. A true friend wouldn't lie to you and say she wouldn't go out with your ex, then do anyway. Also they would take action instead of just saying sorry. You should confront Megan and Keith about this one last time. If they don't have a good reaction, ignore them. Hopefully they will get the picture you aren't happy with what's going on. It's Megan's choice if she wants to be a good friend to you or choose Keith over you.

♥ lAuRa

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what's the best shaving razor to use for legs?

Intuition. I have one that comes with a radio, and the shaving gel comes out as you shave. Venus is also good quality. =)

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ok-----I have a stepsister named Danielle. She's 16. She has a boyfriend named DeShaun.---He's 14. (I'm 13.)I don't think they deserve each other because they are always on the phone fighting about something. Secretly, Danielle sucked her ex-boyfriend's dick behind DeShaun's back. He dosn't know. No one knows----but me. They are so dysfunctional and they distrust each other so much. To the point that it irratates anyone around them. It's confusing----some nights they could be on the phone making nasty sounds and the next they are screaming at each other. Danielle has had soooooooooo many boyfriends since she was like 11-----but shes had DeShaun for one and a half years. Now..... Danielle is sort of a slutty gold digger, (if you ask me), and DeShaun just happens to be rich. Well, alot richer than me and Danielle (i dont know your perspective of "rich")Even though I think Danielle is a slutty hoe-bag, (she took my 15 year old summer "boyfriend" Laron(i hung out with him every day in the summer----and she knew we liked each other!!!!) away from me for like a week and got his phone number, (that bitch!!!!)but i feel bad for DeShaun because Danielle constantly cheats on him------and DeShaun's not very smart so he has no idea. What should I do???

Tell DeShaun what's going on. He doesn't deserve to be treated like that behind his back. Suggest to DeShaun and Danielle a break up. The fighting, the distrust, the cheating, it's just not right. Let them know you think it's right. You can't make them break up but you can surely recommend it as the best thing. =)

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On new year's eve, I have to go to my grandparents for 3 days. I really don't want to go because they live a long way away from us and all my friends. The only way I will be able to keep in touch with my friends is through text message because they don't let me use their phone and I can't afford to call on mine. They don't even have a computer so their's no msn either. I know it's only three days but I am going to be so bored, what can I do to stay in touch with my friends apart from texting? There isn't any point writing letters because it's only three days.

When I went on a trip for a few days my mom gave me a calling card. You can use one of those. Also when my computer is down I go to the library. Ask your grandparents if there is one near their house so you can use the computer. Another option is to bring a lot of quarters and use a pay phone to call your friends. That's pretty much all the choices you have left. I hope they work. =)

♥ lAuRa

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f/13
what are some good ways to get a guy to like you? i need some real good ways. what do guys like about the girls they like. How can i get guys to like me? i rate really high! PLEASE HELP!

The best way to get a guy to like you is to be yourself. He should like you for you, and you shouldn't have to change just because he's not into you. You can flirt with guys and ask them for their numbers, but never change for them if they don't like you. Be yourself and if he likes you, that's great. =)

♥ lAuRa

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I just dont know I am 13/f and all my friends had had there first kiss. bUt I havent how old where yall out there and I think I mess up when I kiss the guy when its my first I mean I kiss my friends on the ckeck and all the guys to but thats just as friends I just dont know plz help

I'm 13 and I haven't had my first kiss yet either. Seriously, don't worry about it. When it's meant to happen, it will. First kisses are something you want to have with a special guy because the kiss will stay in your memory for a long time. Maybe you're friends have kissed before, so what. It's better to wait for the perfect guy then kiss someone you'll forget. I mean, some things in life are worth the wait, and first kisses definetley apply. =)

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I know someone who is really big on theater just as I am, but I don't think she likes me very much. I have tried talking to her, but she doesn't listen. What should I do?

If she won't pay attention to you, she's probably not interested in you. You can't make her like you, so you'll have to move on until you find another girl who likes you. There's plenty of girls out there for you, don't worry. =)

♥ lAuRa

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i'm trying to make icons for my band and its just not working. Does anyone know of a way to help i want to make one of those flashy ones if thats possible where the band name flashes and then the picture flashes if that makes since. please help because any and all advice is useful especially if you know of nice little program that can help me out.

Get Jasc Animation Shop at www.jasc.com. You can get it for free under Downloads. =)

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what are signs that you are pregnant?

~morning sickness
~mood swings
~sore boobs
~random cravings for food
~nausea
~missed period

If you want to be sure, take a pregnancy test. If it tests positive go see a doctor to confirm it. The doctor can help you from there. =)

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I have chlostrophobia and my parents don't really know. Is this something i should ask my doctor about or is it just something normal?
Plz help. I keep having moments where i can't breath.

You should tell your parents. They can contact your doctor for you. I think you should see a doctor because they can give you special medication to help it so you can breathe better. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Im 14/f. Theres this guy I have been talking to online for about 6 months, I know him from school and first started talking to him when he liked my friend to set them up. Well we've been talking for a while, and he doesnt like my friend (never did) and he recently said he wanted to talk more at school and asked me why i never said hi to him in the halls. And yeah... I've fallen for him. Hes really smart (gradewise), and although he is a lot shorter then me hes got a great personality. But theres one catch, he smokes weed. Not just once in a while. A LOT of weed. 1. Do you think hes interested in me (please be honest) and 2. Is it ok to go out with a potsmoker (does it taste bad kissing.. etc.?)
I rate 5's for really quick good answers.
PLEASE MAKE IT REALLY REALLY QUICK AND I WILL BE VERY VERY THANKFUL!

1. Yep, it sounds like he is interested in you. He wants to talk to you more in person so that's definetley a good sign.

2. It won't taste bad to kiss him if he hasn't recently done the weed when you see him. It's fine to go out with a pot smoker as long as it doesn't bother you. If it starts to affect the relationship then you should let him know. If he truly liked you he would attempt to quit, or at least stop around you. =)

♥ lAuRa

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i was dating this kid, and then we broke up. he has a new gf, and i still like him. people say he still has feelings for me, but if he does, he wont admit it. it seems like he does because hes flirty, but since he has a gf i dont know what to think. how can i get him to say what he really feels?

You could try taking him aside one time and asking how he feels about you. You can't make him give you a straight up answer, but hopefully he'll do it on his own. If he truly liked you he would dump his current girlfriend for you. He's probably in the position where he's denying his feelings, but they are there. Ask him what he wants to do. No matter what, you've got to respect his decision. I hope he realizes he wants to be with you. =)

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Im 13 and me and this dude had sex w/ out protection adn well of course i got pregnat....and yes i am a blonde and i didnt really think it would matter and i dont no if i sohuld tell my parents cvause they are really christian....
what shall i do

You're going to have to tell them sooner or later. You're going to have to take care of this baby, give it up for adoption, or the last resort would be an abortion. Your parents are going to be upset, but it's better to get it over with now. Since you're already pregnant you and your parents will have to think about what you're going to do about this baby. Just remember your parents still love you no matter what. It's going to be hard to get the courage to tell them, but you can do it. =)

♥ lAuRa

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F/13 me and my sister was talking today and I told her I started my period to day. She told me she never started. (she is 16) Is that normal?

Yes, that's perfectly fine. Every girl starts at her own time. The only reason she should have to see a doctor is if she hasn't started by age 18. =)

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well me and my friend went to wall mart and stole...and got caught but she blamed it on me and made my poarents pay for the shit she did and i dontr wnat ot tell my mom nor dad cause it will get her in trouble and i dont want to and she says that she will always be there for me....is she telling the truth or is she useing me
and
p.s
shes spoiled and boses me around liek im her slave...
help me please!!!

She shouldn't be treating you like that. Don't let her! She should be punished for what she did because she deserves it. Tell your parents. Your friend needs to get a taste of her own medicine. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned for her. A true friend doesn't blame things on you and boss you around. If she doesn't soon come to her senses, you might want to find other friends to hang out with.

♥ lAuRa

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i had asked u a question earlier about how i should ask my bf if he still wanted 2 do certain "things". well i juz talked 2 him about it and sumthing was kinda weird about the whole thing. i always feel comfortable cuming 2 him with questions like this. and he didnt seem very comfortabel this time. i dunno wuts up. and now im embarrested to ask him about it. please help!!! and fast!

If he doesn't feel comfortable being asked about it, then don't right now. He's not up to the whole idea of you discussing it. Give it time. If you are going to do these things with him, you'll both do it when you are ready. Right now it seems he isn't ready, because if he can't talk about it he probably won't feel comfortable doing it either. So right now leave it at that until he's up to it. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Hey Laura! What are some good tips for getting yourself organized?

Hey! To get yourself organized, minimize the clutter. Arrange things by category in storage bins and such. Like say you have a bunch of jewlery, but it in a compartment labeled "Jewlery." That way you can find what you need a lot easier. Put your clothes that belong together in your drawers so it's easier to find what you're looking for. If you have spare books lying around, why not get a bookcase. It doesn't have to be big. If you are organzied and know where things are, it's easier to keep things looking the way you made them for awhile. =)

♥ lAuRa

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