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Q: 16/female..but will turn 17 in july...okay so i met this guy on the bus who asked for my # i was ignoring his calls and then eventually started conversating with him. we've know each other for about 2 months now almost three and i really like him..his 19 an says that hes not like other guys..but yea i noe that's what they all say..he gets mad over little things but i can handle that. He has been pressuring me to give IT up to him but im not ready..i given him a hand job and hes fingered me..it was GREAT.. but i dont want it to go any further. last night he stuck his thing in me n tried to break my hymn but i told him to get off cuz it hurted..sooo am i still a virgin????
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There was penetration with his penis, so no, most likely, you're not a virgin.
Some people might argue that, but even if he didn't pop your cherry, that doesn't mean there wasn't any entering.
In other words, you're no longer a virgin.
Jess
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Q: two years after nose job. would a person be able to snort things if neccessary without causing any damage?
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As to have any effect to the nose job, no.
In general, yup, there's gonna be damage if you snort enough crap.
Jess
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Q: Okay, my best friend has been having this "friends with benefits" for about 2 yrs. She has never gone all the way with this guy, but they do other things. They even do things when he has a g/f..yikes. They both have agreed that it's just a casual thing they do and that it's nothing serious. Now, for your opinion, do you think this is just a fun thing or is it wrong? I care about my friends & i'd like your opinion because you seem like a great columnist :] Thank You!
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Thanks !
Friends with benefits is one thing...when you're single. But when he has a girlfriend...you're right. Yikes ! It's not right, on both of their behalves. But if the actual girlfriend knows about it, well then, whatever. But I'm guessing she doesn't. I don't care how long they've been "friends", because it's not right. You just don't do that.
Jess
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Q: I hate asking for advice but I feel I need to, Ok so I started daiting this year and I have had my fare share of b/f's. All of my b/f's want me to have sex and im not ready I had things happen to me when I as little and its just well I still havent gotton over it. I keep getting dumped because I wont go passed making out.
What should I do?
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Honey, that's their problem. You do what's right for you. I'm so glad you haven't given up your virginity, because it really is very special, and we both know you can't get it back.
There might be a lot of pressure on you, but you know what you feel.
Because to tell you the truth, it's a lose-lose situation: You give it up to them, most likely they're gonna leave you. You don't give it up to them, they're most likely gonna leave you.
You don't need to do anything but keep sticking up for yourself. YOU GO, GIRL !
Jess
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Q: How do I win back my true love?
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Hmm. That's a tough one.
Especially because there aren't details about the situation.
If you did something to make you guys break up or whatever, you might have to earn his/her trust back. But sometimes that doesn't even work. It depends.
If he/she broke up with you, and you were totally attached, don't beat yourself up (I'm not necessarily saying you are), but you can't make somebody love you. And most likely, if they're the one who broke it off, it wasn't going well for them. It wasn't you.
If the situation was that it was a long relationship broken off, well, I'd need to know more to give you better and more specific advice.
Good Luck
Jess
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Q: Ok so my boyfriend and i are really ready to have sex, but don't want to do it unless we're protected or whatever. Is there and age limit on how young you can be to buy condoms?
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Q: Would you rather love a loser or lose a lover? Why?
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Love a loser,
because being in love is the most
amazing feeling in the whole world.
Jess
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Q: My boyfriend and I have made out and he's gone farther with me than I have with him. He's felt my chest, fingered me, and nearly performed oral on me. I haven't even reached second with him. I'm ready for it but i'm inexperianced so I don't really know how to go about it. Everyone says it comes naturally but this isnt really, since I don't even have a general idea how to go about it. Please let me know or if you'd like, guide me to some helpful websites. Thanks!
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Well, to be honest, it really only takes experience.
Like, I know I'm being blunt about this,
but some people are really good, although they don't even know what they're doing.
And some people are just really bad, in general.
I agree that it comes naturally,
though I know how you feel because when I was just starting to try that with my boyfriend, I was like,
asdfghjkl.
I say you should let him know that you're nervous and that this is kind of like your first time doing this. I'm sure he'll be okay with it.
Good Luck, hun,
Jess
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Q: Any songs that are hopeful? Like Better Days, by the Goo Goo Dolls, or Everything Will Be Alright by Joshua Radin.
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Stand- Rascal Flatts
Through The Rain-Mariah Carey (my personal fave)
Lessons Learned-Carrie Underwood
Sorry they're not really under the genre of rock.
And of course, listening to upbeat songs and happy songs may help.
(:
Jess♥
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Q: i wear contact lenses (soft ones) and i change them every two weeks.
they usually stay blue-ish (theyr not tinted theyr just kinda light clear blue) for way longer then that (ive kept them in for a month once). and they never really give me problems.
its only been a week since i put this pair in, and already they are completely clear andirritating my eyes after an hour of wearing them.
whats wrong?
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Well, that happens to me too sometimes.
If you're keeping them in for too long, (ex: you put them in at 8am, take them out at 11pm) that could be a lot of the problem.
Your eyes are probably just generally irritated, which in turn, you need take a break from wearing them. Wear glasses, etc.
PS Just in case, make sure the contact solution hasn't expired.
Jess
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Q: does anyone else think that britney spears would be a little more normal if we left her alone?
i think it would drive me somewhat insane too, if i weren't able to leave my house without a reporter being 5 feet behind me and writing a story about every step i take...
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I think we were/are some of it, but Britney has her own personal issues that we probably don't even know about.
It'd drive me incredibly crazy, too, I agree with you. But some of the stunts that she pulls are all within herself.
I mean, for all we know, she deals with a lot more than we could imagine. (Most, if all, celebrities do.)
Jess
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Q: heyy, i want to get a new screenname but i dont know what to put.
my names stephanie and it'd be awesomeee if you'd help me.
please and thank you. :)
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stephhxbabii
I don't know all that much about you, so I'm having a hard time helping you out, haha. If you still want suggestions, just let me know.
(:
Jess
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Q: Im 17 year old girl 5'10"ish and i just hate my height. i cant stand being this height anymore. is there any surgery to get shorter? also i was wondering who do i go to to talk about my height? is it my doctor GP, i dunno if they deal with that kind of thing. I cant just accept it i hate my height so much. i feel so depressed about it.
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Well, instead of focusing on all of the bad about your height, think about the good !
You'd be a great candidate for being a model.
I'm not sure if there is surgery to get your height decreased, but I would talk to your doctor about it. Even if he/she can't do anything, they can refer you to someone that you could talk to about it.
But to be honest, don't be depressed about it. I know it's hard not to be, but you're living, you're breathing, and everyone comes in all different shapes and sizes. Just think, you're not the same-I consider that a really good thing.
But I suggest you go in, talk to your doctor, and see what he/she has to say about it.
Good luck, &just remember that you are your own person. If others have to look down on you because of that, they're not even worth a glance.
Jess
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Q: when you massage someone's penis through their pants? enough to make them cum. so, basically like... grabbing their penis, through their pants. haha. is there a name for that?
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I'd have to agree with the girl below me.
It's kind of like a dry handjob, I guess.
kitty
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Q:
i need a website with good/cute myspace contact buttons
but i need ones that say message, block, add, & have the comment ones.
most sites i've found don't have comment ones too.
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codemylayout.com has super cute ones.
(:
kitty
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Q: I heard a song and it was awsome but I don tknow what its called. and I didn't catch much..
I got the lines
"her body is my coffin" and it was funny it was like you passionatley suck or something but it had a good beat is was on . 96 I loved it!
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Artist: Ludo
Title: Love Me Dead
kitty
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Q: ok well i was just figured for the first time and it hurt soo bad he did it about 3 times and they only lasted about 20 seconds because it hurt.
is that normal? ive never like masturbated or anything but i was thinking maybe i should so it doesnt hurt next weekend if he does it again.
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It's very normal.
It was the same for me.
Especially if you're still a virgin, it might hurt, bleed, or even be sore.
Jess♥
P.S additional answer:
for me, it was like,a couple times fingering, and three times during actual sex.
but then again, it's different for every girl.
hope i helped hun
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Q: I can't think of a good screen name for aim. I want something i can live with for a while. something maybe meaningful?
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LivexxLifex
thoughtfulxgirl
^^entire in "girl" your nickname, initials, or name, etc,.
I don't know much about you, so it's hard.
But think of hobbies, poems, quotes, key words, and stuff like that to help.
Sorry my ideas were short and kinda crappy.
Jess
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Q: so i really want to start eating better. im naturally thin, but the way/things i eat ill be dead by the time im 30... first of all im NOT a morning person at ALL. but i want to start eating breakfast, so i want something nutritious but SIMPLE that can be made in seriously like 5 minutes and tastes good. any ideas? even if its just like cereal, whats a kind thatll help me lose a few pounds and be more lean and healthy? also is grilled chicken good for you? any tips on eating better? i hate lettuce alot but im going to try to force myself to start eating salads =/ any tips overall?
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The person below me eats probably what i do every morning: a toasted piece of whole wheat bread with peanut butter.
Also, yes, grilled chicken is very healthy.
Start drinking more water, and more of your daily servings, like fruits, vegetables, and less junk food. (It's hard, i know.)
ALSO, start working out. Not full blast, but maybe like every other day, at least 4 times a week, 30-60 minutes a day. Just walking on the treadmill, or going for a jog helps a lot. And when you start, (unless you're used to the amount of energy it takes) work yourself up, and it'll become easier.
(:
Jess
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Q: does anyone no where i can get the ring tone the girl has on her phone in the movie disterbia? i really want it... is there any sites i can get it from? thanx in advance xx
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If it's the song I'm thinking of, it's
Me So Horny-2 Live Crew
Limewire, iTunes, mostly all websites should have it to download.
Jess
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bio
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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:
I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.
add me on myspace!
www.myspace.com/itskittybitchx
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Info
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Gender: Female AIM: Member Since: August 1, 2005 Answers: 750 Last Update: January 1, 2009 Visitors: 45567
Main Categories:
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