believe me i plan on never talking to ne of my ex's again but what do i do about my current gf?..i told her i dont want my ex i dont want nothing to do with her but she dont believe me she wont even talk to me she told me to let her be and think things over..i tried but its real hard i love her so much i dont wanna loose her..what should i do?
Well, there's not much you can do except make this clear to her. Call her/visit her/talk to her one more time. Let her know that you love her and that she needs to trust you. Then, if she still doesn't listen, tell her that you can't believe that she is making such a huge deal out of something that a) you didn't know would bother her and b) you promise never to do again. Tell her you are disappointed that she doesn't think that you're relationship is strong enough to overcome one meaningless e-mail.
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Ok, so I have been dating this guy for a while now and I really do love him. Like I have thought I was in love before, but realized I have never loved anyone the way I love my boyfriend now. And I know that he loves me. I don't need him to say he loves me, although he does, but I can just feel his love. Well, about a month ago he bought me a promise ring. It is really pretty and I almost never take it off. It's white gold with our birthstones (real stones) and our names engraved in it. The night that he gave it to me he told me how much he loves me, and that someday he would love to marry me. He was saying that he might propose to me in a year or two. I think about this everyday now. He really is my everything. I guess that my problem is I find myself thinking of the future too much, if he proposes. And when I think of this, I become really quiet and he knows what is running through my head. It makes him sad a little just because I am so quiet when I think. Is there any way to not think so much about the whole possible engagement?
What's wrong with thinking about the future? You should care about it. More than that, you should talk about it - especially if your boyfriend is sad that you are becoming quiet. Let him know what's on your mind, and talk about it with him.
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me and my boy have been together for a year.
he'll be turning 18 in a month and a couple months after ill be turning seventeen.
I am going to be a junior next year, he'll be a freshman in college...
dont get me wrong, i love him to death, but hes more than likely moving to florida..
lets just say this year has been the hardest year of my life with all the deaths of my friends and im very much a girl who has stressed with anxiety and depression, which has gotten better.
this summer, idk what to do. Me being only 17 soon and a junior in high school trying to work out a very long distance relationship, (i live in NY) .. i love him, he loves me so much.. he recently messed up and kissed another girl being drunk, long story with that but i took him back, and he has been soo good not going out to party at all or anything.. i just worry of everything that could happen while hes in florida, not even having the full trust back..
i dont wanna hear an answer oh he cheated on you
hes leaving yoru young just break things off
cause i just cantt, its not that easy although i know i should
irealllllllllllllly could use some advice from anyone who knows someone who was in the situatoin, or gone through this themselves
itd be a lot of help.. thanks : )
Take the chance. I mean, if he breaks your trust again, then you know he's a loser. If he doesn't, you'll be very glad you tried to work things out.
Good luck.
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I need some tips to help me lose weight safely.
Jamie is absolutely right. Oh yeah, and don't forget to think positive! There's no point to losing weight if you are doing it to look like a model as opposed to for health reasons.
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hello, 15/female.
alright... so theres this guy, lets name him chino. well me and chino havent really hung out before. but i know all his friends, and ofcourse i've seen pics of him, and he is VERY cute. (: lol, well...me and him used to text 24/7, and all that good stuff, but then just like 2 weeks ago he left to new jersy. at first it was jus for the summer, but he told me he might stay forever... which i dought cause his mom lives here and all that.
well, the point of all this is that i cannot stop thinking about him! it sounds pethetic but i reaallly am feeeling him.
so now since he went to jersy, and i he dont got a phone we talk throu myspace.
he always tells me im sexy and beautiful, so i know hes at least a lil interested. but i wanna know for sure.
so me and him had this convo right.. and it was like him mentioning something to me, and i told him i had a dream about him and he asked for me to explain it, and so i did. and he wrote back saying that it was a very cute dream and that if i saw him as a boyfriend type and i told him yes and asked him if he saw me in that way...
at first he didnt replay but then he did and he was like, " ofcourse, if i was still down there i woulda deff. wifed you, but theres none i can do now. " ...
idk....!!! do you think hes into me?
I don't think it matters. If he's staying in NJ, there's no point to starting a relationship. I'm not saying long distance can't work, I'm just saying it's pointless. If you havn't gotten to know him yet, why not get to know someone a little closer to home?
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i been with my gf for 10 months and 8 months ago i spoke to my ex through email but it didnt mean anything..she asked me how i was doing so i answered back saying im doing great and im happy with my current gf..and then i asked how she was and she said the same..me and my ex were just dating for 4 months it wasnt official or anything so when we she broke it off cuz she wasnt happy we spoke rarely afterwards,she just wanted to be friends..so i tried getting back together with her after we broke up i met her for lunch a couple times tried to get back with her i tried kissing her it didnt work i was just a real jerk..so my final email with her was me apologising to her how i was a jerk..well my current gf found out and now she dont trust me because she has had previous problems like this..she thinks i still talk to her behind her back but i told her so many times i dont want nothing to do with her..so now she wont even talk to me or nothing she said she wants her space to figure things out..but i think we should discuss things and work it out...i just need advice..my question is what should i do, what advice can you give me?
Don't talk to your ex ever again. It's simple. If she means nothing to you, then you should respect your girlfriend's wishes.
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Exercise:
-walking/biking 6 times a week, 50 min. moderately
- maybe swimming laps at least 1-2 times a week
-100 to 200 crunches daily
-100 trunk twists daily
-20 squats with weights
Food:
breakfast- cereal (special k/cheerios) fat free milk, or egg whites with whole wheat bread
-NO white bread
-lots of fruit
-lots of water
If I do this until the end of summer, before school (aug. 31), can i lose a good amount of weight. I think I weigh about 145 or aruond there, and i would really love to be 130. could i be at least 135 or around there by aug. 31?
If you actually stick to it, I'm sure you could.
Good luck.
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17/f
So I've given two guys hand jobs, but I've never made the guy come through it before. The first time I didn't care because I ended up giving the guy head that time anyway so that was how I finished it off, but this new guy's my boyfriend of 5 months and I really like him. What would've been a reason for him not to come? It was his first...would that have affected it? Or could he not have been hard enough? I'm just confused and I don't want to suck at this.
Focus on keeping your wrist straight. If it's kind of flopping to the side, it won't work very well. It would probably also be a good idea to ask your boyfriend what you are doing wrong. I'm sure he knows.
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okay the guy i like has a gf but i think he likes me
you see i told him that i really liked him and he said well i know i have a girlfriend but i think i should let you know how i feel about you and he said that he thinks im absolutely gorgeous but he wishes we could have got to know each other better and talk more.......and we kept talking until it was almost 2 in the moring
and we havent stopped...
but im confused if he likes me than why would he still be with his girl?
or does he even like me at all?
help!!!
He "likes" you, but that's nothing special. Honestly, the only place where people are passionately falling over one person and giggling over who they "like" is elementary school. He isn't dazzled by you, but stuck with his current girlfriend like you are hoping. He thinks you are gorgeous and wants to know you. That's all, and last I checked, wishing to know someone did not beat out an actual relationship.
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My boyfriend of 9 months i think has changed. I dont know if it's b/c we had sex 2 months ago or b/c of football but heu sed to treat me soooo good. we used to be the best couples out there. then things started getting rough. He got caguht for chewing and he swore on our relatioship and PROMISED me he wouldnt ever do it again and he did. So he got grounded for 2 weeks and the next day i flirted with someone he hates b/c hes the most popluar guy in the school and i was mad at my boyfriend. but the next day people told him i cheated on him which i didnt i made a point not to b/c i love my boyfriend but it took him a while but he trusted me. Now im asking him what makes me trust him now that he isnt going to lie to me when he chews again and everytime i say that he turns it back on me and how i flirted. I DIDNT CHEAT ON HIM THOUGH. And he hung up without saying i love you he just screamed and hung up and i cant talk to him until tomorrow now. he never goes to bed mad at me which is why i think hes changing. what should i do from here. anything i say to him he yells and turns it back on me. this is a serious problem b/c im the one left crying all the time please help me.
Someone who chews won't change that for you. Things like drugs, alcahol and smoking take priority over relationships. The physical and mental effects these things have on a person are extremely strong. Your boyfriend is a chewer. Do you want him to think you accept him hurting himself(by chewing)? Or would you rather move on to find someone else with values more similar to your own? Since you love your boyfriend, this will be a hard choice to make. But sometimes, to show someone you love them, you HAVE to leave them. I guess it just depends on what you want for yourself and what you want for him.
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okay wel my love life has never been the best. i always fall for the wrong guys. so now u have two guys that i care aboyt but i can obvioously can only have 1. okay so guy #1(we will just call him that) is amazing, he knows what to say to me and i know he really cares. but he lives like two hours away.. and me and him are very realistic and know that it wouldnt work. but i still want to be with him. then there is boy #2 who knows also what to say and how to touch and all of that but the problem is he hasnt always treated girls the best and my younger sister likes him. now i want both of these guys but i dont know which one to go too.... it seems that i really cant be with either of them :( and i want them both!!!!!! so if anybody can help i would really apprecitae it..... thanks
This is a situation where you just have to wait and see what happens. If you want to take some chances, go ahead. If not, that's fine; neither one of these guys are ideal for you anyway.
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Ok, well before you read this and go "Another pathetic girl who has a bad love life" listen. I like this boy, say Jim. Well my friend has liked Jim for like 2 years and has asked him out so many times and Jim always says no. She doesnt know that i like Jim.
Also my friend Jen is Jims Best Friend, but she always is like laying on him and like almost giving him a blowjob. I mean, come on, your my best friend, dont be giving the boy i like a blowjob.
Me and jim are such good friends. He like tells me everything. I have liked him one time before, but hes said no, but it was a year ago.
I dont want to tell him i like him and him say he doesnt like me and well be all messed up and lose what we had and have Jen and the girl who likes him mad. What should i do, tell him, or try to get over him??? HELP!
14/f
The good news is, there's nothing to worry about. Either you'll end up with him, or you'll miss out on a jerk. Oh well =P
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14/f
Ok, so I like this guy (R). He's really funny, but he's not the brightest crayon. But that's not the point because I don't really care about that. My friend (C) is friends with one of his friends (M) so I asked her if she could try to ask M if he could find out if R liked me or something. What she got back was: M said that, when he asked R what he thought about you, R thinks I'm cool, but we don't talk that much (e.g. I'm guessing he doesn't really know me that well). Today, during class, we're doing mock trial (Political Science) and he kept looking at me. He also says hi to me in the hallways now.
Does this mean he's sort of interested in me? Because it's not like he's looking at me because he thinks I like him or something and he's weirded out by it, because he says hi to me in the hallways...
Sounds like he's interested! Start talking to him more; go for it!
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I am SICk of sucking up to people but i don't no how to say no.
I jsut hate ti when people have any negative feelings towards me, even like the slightest feeling of annoyed.
Everyone knows that I have some money so they always ask for money but I need the money to last me a week for lunch and i can't say no so I'll give them like 1 dollar
and then in two days, no money.
what should i do?
Start saying no. It will probably actually be FUN to start turning people down. It will give you a good feeling about yoursef; you'll feel more in control.
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all the guys in mygrade hate me. they think im a whore cause i dress slutty but i dont mean to. I have no idea what i am doing wrong! i am so sad. please just help all you can
Don't dress to impress, at all. I know you might think you feel comfortable in what you are wearing now, but I don't know why you would. Try dressing for comfort.Wear loose fitting clothes, t-shirts with funny sayings on them, jeans, etc. If you wear what feels good instead of what you think will look the best, you'll feel a lot better about yourself. And forget the guys, they are immature.
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one of my friends is ali and ive known her ever since kindergarten. well i also play on a soccer team with her.
another one of my friends, but not as close, is rachel.(i go to school w/ her, but not w/ ali)
well just recently, we needed one more person on out soccer team to play in the league. so i ask rachel if she wanted to play with us and she said yes
well ali and rachel didnt really know eachother very well, but i introduced them
they have known eachother for about a month and a half now. (im also good friends with rachel's sister, alexa)
when i called alexa one day, she told me that she was at the mall w/ ali and rachel
at first i was kind of "shocked" that they were hanging out with ali, but it didnt really matter
well then i looked at rachel's myspace and ali was her top friend and in her heroes section, it talks about how ali is her "wifey" and they have a pet whale or something like that (i know that myspace doesnt mean a lot, but still.)
i guess im getting kind of jealous because i feel like they dont even know eachother and they are ditching me to hang out with eachother
is it wrong to feel like this? it just sucks really bad because i feel like they "shouldnt that good of friends"
so what do i do? i just feel so left out
(and i asked rachel if she was friends with ali now, and she just shrugged and said "i guess so")
:(
This is a GOOD thing! Now you can all hang out together. The more the merrier. They aren't going to stop being friends with you, they are probably going to spend MORE time with you.
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there is this guy, i know he likes me and i like him too, but the thing is i'm not very good at communicating my feelings so i don't think he realizes i like him back... so are what are something things (or flirting) i could do/ say to him to let him know i am interested?
Just tell him. It's always best to be direct.
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so this kid that i like tells me he wants to be single, then i hear from someone that he likes someone and then i see him hanging out with this freshman girl (we're juniors) and this girl is pretty slutty but then he gives her a hug. this kid doesn't know i like him but i REALLY like him so i'll do almost anything for him to like me without getting too desperate. we have a lot of classes together and i talk to him a lot because i'm trying to get to know him and from what i know so far, he's perfect and extremely sweet. so does he want to be single or not? if you want to be single why would you bother liking someone?
It's obvious that you aren't that close to this guy if you think he's perfect and feel the need to ask random strangers if he would date you. Try becoming his friend before you start worring about dating him.
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"i said i talk to him a lot, not that i'm best friends with him or close to him. if you're going to be an advicenator then don't tell people to stop asking advice from strangers because if they didn't then there wouldn't be a website dedicated to it. i'm too nice to give you a one so deal with a 3."
You might want to get on that instead of wasting your time online. And for the record, I'm an advicenator to give people the honest truth, not to pat them on the back for hiding behind their computer screens.
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well i have this kinda girlfriend. and well we used to be together when i lived in the same town i moved to live closer to family and she got upset. whenever i go see her it is like we never broke up and she begs me to move back so we can be together. now i love her sooooo much but i dont think i want to go through all the drama. i go toschool and i like where i am the thing is i love being with her and i love everything about her. what do i do?
Don't move back. If it's true love, she'll wait. If not, you'll find someone else.
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so theres this guy that i like, but he has a girlfriend. well, we talk everynight and he tells me how he wants me and how he doesn't like the other girl. well , we have talked a lot about doing stuff with each other. so i just wanted to get an honest opinion on what people feel about this .. and he says he would date me if he wasn't taken so what are some ways i can step up my game a little ?? thankss.
He's an asshole. If he really liked you and not the other girl he would be with you. Period.
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