Hi, this is Kate. I'm 17. My life motto is 'Live Laugh Love', I really think those are great words to live by and I'm planning to have it made into a tattoo. I'm not religious but I love learning about different religions. I write stories based on things that have happened to me because sometimes I have days where I just think 'wow that sounds like something out of a book'. I've finished 3 stories and I'm about to start my first horror story..very exciting. I believe in fairy tale love...the kissing in the rain, staring at the stars on the rooftop kind of love..Why? Because I'm in that kind of love and its been the greatest time of my life. And it didn't come easy.
I'd love to help you with whatever issues come your way. I've been in relationships where the guy was too old for me, the guy was my best friend, the guy just wanted to get some. I've been the other woman but I'm not proud of it. I've been the girl who waits years to be with the guy she wanted.
I come from the type of home where everyone seems okay and then when everyone leaves its chaos. My parents should have been divorced years ago and I can't stand to be around either of them so for now I'm going day by day, only coming home to sleep and counting down the days until I go to college in August.
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how bad does it hurt when a girl loses her virginity? is it REALLY painful?
and i also heard that sometimes the girl bleeds, but then some of my friends told me that they didn't...so when do you bleed?
and does it ever hurt the second time? (link)
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I was painfree for the first 5 seconds and then it was a kind of burning pain but it wasn't bad enough to stop. I also never bled. And the second time didn't hurt at all. Also, if I haven't had sex for a week or more (while the period is going on) and then I finally do it, it hurt again, but not that bad and it didn't last long.
But everyone is different. A close friend of mine said it hurt a lot (although not bad enough to stop) and she bled.
I deffinately believe the key is to be completely relaxed because even now about a month after I lost my virginity if I'm worked up about something and not relaxed it'll hurt a little.
Oh and you asked 'when do you bleed'..i'm assuming you're asking why some bleed and some don't. If you use tampons or do sports you've most likely broken your hymen so you probably won't bleed.
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Okay so i've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. But we've been really good friends before that too...
We were talking and hanging out about 4 or 5 months before we actually became boyfriend and girlfriend. We're both extremely happy with the relationship we have, we hang out about once or twice a week and even in the morning before school starts. We're crazy for eachother and we both know that....
I think i'm in love with him. But i don't know what his reaction will be if i tell him. I don't know if he'll be creeped out, or say he loves me back.
Basically my question is, should i go for it or not? (link)
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I'm in the EXACT same situation. Two months, absolutely crazy about each other. He's always the one who brings up the subject of our future together and how he's planning to move out of state with me when I go to college and living together and all of this but we haven't said I love you yet. The first time I ever told a guy I loved him we had been dating for about a month and I said it and he got freaked out because he wasn't prepared for it and didn't say it back until a week or so later, but that was only a month of dating and I didn't have the same connection with that guy that I do with my current boyfriend.
I know guys often aren't the first one to say it because they're just as afraid as we are. So here's my plan for you, find a song that you both like that says 'i love you' in it somewhere. Start singing along to it and when it gets to that part casually look at him and sing the words..but then keep singing so you're not pressuring him for a reaction.
I did this with my boyfriend with the song Yellow by Coldplay. We were in the car and it came to the part where it says 'and I love you so' and I was singing it and made sure I looked at him when it came to that part because I wanted to watch his facial expression...and he smiled and kissed me...which is always a good sign. So I'm thinking I'll tell him I love him within the next week or so. You have to give up on the idea that he'll say it first...they don't..they just don't. I say do the song thing first, if that goes well then wait another week or two then say it.
If it doesn't go well..well then obviously wait.
Let me know how it goes!
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18-female.
soo today i noticed these marks on like the side of my hip/thigh and i asked my mom what they were and she said stretch marks!! i couldnt believe it!! i dont understand, i'm only 115 pounds 5'5 tall and i've always been that skinny. how could i have stretch marks? i'm freaking out! (link)
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This happened to me a couple day ago too! I'm 5'7 115Lbs and 17. And i looked down and had two stretch marks forming on my hip and i was like "what the hell is this?!" but i've heard coco butter gets rid of them and they have creams and stuff for it. I'm about to go get some.
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My boyfriend and I are perfect for each other. We didn't kiss for a loooong time and waited. I spent the night at his house last weekend with no intentions of even kissing but we kissed and kissed and kissed and were SO close to having sex. He really wanted to but I kept saying no (even though my body was telling me yes ! lmao!) because I want to wait & for it to be special. Later, he told me we really should wait, too. But bottom line is: we can't. I just know we can't wait. What can we do to in order to not have sex? Even by one little itty bitty touch, we're ready to get it onnnnnnnnn. hahahaha. (link)
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I was in your situation last month. I was a virgin, boyfriend wasn't but we both agreed that we would wait until we got settled into the relationship and really built a connection before we had sex. I thought it would be about 4 months...boy was I wrong. I lasted a month. And no it wasn't his idea, it was mine. And I have to say the first time we did there was a minute where I thought 'I'm doing this after a month? This goes against everything I've ever told myself.' But it made me realize how comfortable I am with him and how strong our relationship is even after only 2 months (now). And I'm sure I sound crazy saying that we're so close after only two months but I dated my best friend(guy) for longer than that and had known him for over 5 years and when it came down to us having sex I just couldn't do it. Something was holding me back and it just wasn't right. With my current guy there was no little voice in my head telling me to stop, I wasn't even nervous..and I have anxiety problems!
Okay I realize that didn't help you keep your hands off of each other. So a list of non-sexual activities so you can try to keep your pants on.
Movies-comedies, horror..anything but the romance. I don't recommend watching the Notebook and then expect yourself to not want to have sex.
Take a hike-I did this yesterday. It was cold and I kept getting stabbed with twigs..it was such a turn off sexually but I still enjoyed it because I was with him.
Go out to eat-can't be touchy feely in a resteraunt.
Go shopping!-Underwear shopping doesn't really help your situation so I'd stay clear of Victoria's Secret.
I know it's hard to wait. Its really really hard and it takes a lot of will power but you can do it. As far as the special thing goes..if you've got a good guy (like mine) he'll make every time you do it special. We've had sex 8 times and every time was as special as the first. Minus the pain. (which isn't that bad if you're relaxed)
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do twins date the same kind of girl/guy? (link)
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I know a set of twins and although they dress completely different (one is preppy and the other has more of a scene style) they do date similar guys.
I know a set of triplets (2 girls and a boy) and the girls, again, have completely different styles but they also date different types of guys too.
Then I also know a set of twins (guys) and they dress the same but date different types of girls.
So I think it depends on the twins.
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i need some suggestions. My best friend and I (25\f)are planning on taking a vacation in the next couple months. We will have a limited amount of cash and can travel either by car or plane. We live in the north west. I would prefer somewhere warm where we can swim in the ocean, but not limited to that. Does anyone know the cheapest way to visit hawaii (plane tickets, hotels, etc) flying out of San Francisco, or the cheapest rates on a cruiseline? we will probably be gone about a week, give or take. I also would be willing to hear all other suggestions or ideas! thanks (link)
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Alright well I've been to Hawaii nine times. We never go through a travel agent, my dad uses Expedia and has found that they have the cheapest prices. If you stay on the beach it's obviously going to be more money but if you're staying in the Waikiki Beach area of Honolulu (Oahu) then almost all of the hotels are within a block or two of the beach. I don't know exact figures as far as pricing goes but I'm sure your plane ticket will be less than ours (coming from NY). June through early August is when the prices are the highest. Along with the spring break area. September and October are the best times to go and the weather is still in the mid 80's everyday. (If you feel like waiting that long). Waikiki is really fun. They always are having some sort of festival. I went in August and they were having this huge week-long surf festival with games and booths on the beach. I won some t-shirts from Roxy and a couple razors. lol it was pretty sweet. Also! NEVER rent a car in Honolulu. The traffic is rediculous and the bus is just so much cheaper.
If the Hawaii doesn't work out for you then you can always try some east coast beaches. Virginia Beach, Myrtle Beach, Miami, Cape Cod (New England is beautiful).
Well this is everything I know and I hope it helped a little. Deffinately try Expedia..they're pretty amazing.
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Ok so im pretty average weight and i have a flat stomach its just not tight, and im really self consious about it and i was wondering what are the best ways to get a flat stomach pretty fast? Any ideas would be great! thanks =] (link)
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I also have a flat stomach but every now and then I want the toned look so what I do is lay on my back and then do a twisted crunch. Its like the usual crunch but you touch your right elbow to your left knee and vice versa. It works the center ab muscles and the sides. I'll do about 20 of them a day for a week or two and that seems to work for me.
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How do you know what a guy's motives are? Like how do you differentiate between just a crush, a guy that is head over heels for a girl, or a guy that is just trying to get into their pants? I rate high for well-thought out answers. =]
Madison.
Age 18 (link)
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Its all about the little things and it's taken me years to figure this out. The little things they say or do.
Example: Girl asks guy "What do you like about me?" (I've done this with about 4 different guys)
Crush says-"You're a cool person and you're cute too"
Head over heels guy says-"I love when I look into your eyes and I feel that I can really connect with you"
Bang&Bail guy says-"You're beautiful and have an amazing body"
A crush isn't going to be really bold, he's just looking for the simple, sweet things to say. The guy who's head over heels is willing to expose himself (emotionally) and let you see and hear what he's really feeling.
The boy toy will pretty much always complement you on something physical which is how girls get trapped because once a guy says we're beautiful we automatically get a little sweet spot for them....because who doesn't like complements?
You can tell by the physical actions to. The player guy will probably always have his hands on your waist or hips, the crush might hold your hand or put his hand on the small of your back and the head over heels guy (from my experience) wants full body contact. My guy stands extra close to me so that my side all the way from my shoulder to my ankle is touching his side and if we're laying down he wants me as close as possible.
Hope that helped.
-Modelkate11-
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it only has 4 cylinders doesnt have a v tec engine but can you make it sound like its got a little rumble even if its an automatic (link)
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My dad put an intake air filtration system in his (06' Civic LX, automatic) and it gives it a little rumble. It adds horsepower too. They're really quiet cars so it can only do so much but that helped his.
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I'm fourteen, my girlfriend fifteen. We've been together for 1 year.
I love her lots and lots and I want to be with her. She wants to get engaged now, however I'd like to wait longer. I want to get engaged to her, but just not yet, maybe in a year or two's time. School will come first, i'm doing my GCSEs at the moment and I intend to go on an do 4 A levels.
Am I right to be thinking this? (link)
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14 and 15? She doesn't know what she wants. Women never know what they want. I think 19 is young to be engaged. At least graduate first. I know a couple who are engaged and they're 18 and 19. They actually live together though so they sort of know what it's like to actually be married. You're too young. Please, please wait!
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in your opinion, does it look hookerish to wear shorts with heels?
18/f (link)
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I think if you wear those wedges with the yarn or whatever is on the side of them, completely forgot what it's called but i'm sure (or hope) that you know what i'm talking about. Basically as long as they're not red with rhinestones or fur on them then it shouldn't look hookerish.
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hello
i need really help i am confussed!
my problem:
when ever i tried to speak like name or talk to any one suddenly i stuck with some words starting with letters A,E,M,N,I,O,U,...
i dont know why???
tis problem is hapen to me since 2-3 years
please help me out!!??? (link)
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I got this idea from The Notebook, when Noah studdered when he was little so his dad made him read poetry outloud. Maybe you can try that, doesn't have to be poetry. Just something to read outloud.
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What doyou collect or cherish the most? (link)
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The thing I cherish the most isn't a thing, it's my best friend. She's the sister I never had and my other half and she's pulled me through situations and days where I didn't want to wake up. We're always supportive of each other and somehow after 6 years of knowing each other we've never had a fight.
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I didn't want to split this up into many questions because it would take up too much space over there ---------------------->
Plus they're all basically in the same category :)
Ok, so this summer, as most summers for me are, is a time for change :) I want a new hair cut and a new style. I used to be and kinda still am into the whole graphic tee's, skinny jeans, and converse look but I'm starting to edge out of it a little. I used to be really uncomfortable about my body, but now I've learned to not really care what other people think, as I can still be fashionable without being stick skinny :) so, basically I just want a cool place, preferably online, to get some cute, school-ish summer-y clothes that aren't fancy, but they aren't just t-shirts and stuff. Like Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, and Forever 21 :) I don't like dresses too much, but I'm open to many suggestions for some cool, "in" summer styles :D
As for the hair, I used to/still do have scene-ish hair. I don't tease it though, it just has a LOT of layers and goes over one of my eyes. It's currently a light brownish blonde color and goes just below my boobs. I know short hair is in for the summer, so what color/style do you think I should get it done? :)here's a pic of me, just incase you need one:
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=dSa8GAWHVNzcMpfOxPL%2F1A%3D%3D
Oh yeah, and I'd prefer to leave my bangs where they are haha I have a really bad bump nose that you can see at any angle other then the one in the picture, and my bangs kindof help hide that :) so yeah, hair suggestions would be fabulous!
And my third question; what is some good tanning lotion/sun block? I tend to get very sunburned (especially on my cheeks and nose) and I'd rather that be a tan :)
Thank you all so so so SOOO much! I'll rate all answers :D (link)
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Clothes- Go to Garage. I love that store but I'm not sure if you can buy anything off the site, you can just look at stuff (its weird I know) but if you can find a store, they have really cute stuff for decent prices. I'm a skinny jeans and converse girl but my summer wardrobe is totally different and thats where I got most of my stuff.
Your hair is really cute by the way as it is. BUT! If you want something different which is what you asked for then I'd say cut it to an inch or two below your chin. Your bangs will flow into the rest of it and I just think it'll look really cute. And there's a product called SunIn that lightens your hair and brings out natural highlights using sunlight or a blow dryer. It'll change your hair color without having to dye it and it'll still look natural.
3rd question-Sorry but I can't help you because I have the same problem and I'm still looking for a solution. I'm somewhere between paper white and off white. Very Irish skin color. Haha, so I burn really badly.
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I am in a situation where I care about my boyfriend a lot and I love him a lot but I know that I am not in love with him. I have reason to believe that he is in love with me. The thing is that I really don't want to hurt him because I know that we will not last forever but I think he thinks that we might make it through high school and stay together for a long time. But at the same time I don't want to break up with him because I DO like him. I just don't know what I should do sometimes. (link)
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I was in this situation a few years ago except that I had been in love with him at some point but I fell out of love because the relationship got dull and I just wasn't feeling it anymore. Anyway I wanted to get out of the relationship because I felt like I was lying to him, having him think that I was in love with him when I wasn't. I knew I'd feel terrible if I broke up with him because I knew he really really loved me, and we had prom the next weekend that we had both spent a lot of money on so I figured I'd stick it out through prom and then re-think everything and maybe by then my feelings would be different and by the time prom came along everytime we kissed it lacked the chemistry we once had and he could feel it too. That next week the relationship just sort of deterierated and I broke up with him the next weekend and yes, he was devistated and I felt terrible and even considered taking him back but I knew if I had that it would make things worse. So we went our separate ways and in the end we both knew it was for the best. we're friends now and both in relationships that are much better for us.
You're going to make your own choice but this is my story and this is how it turned out. Stick it out for a little bit longer (few days, weeks, month, whatever) and just see if you're feelings change. Maybe you're just at a dull stage. You can't force yourself into a relationship that isn't right.
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18 female.
so i have some trust issues. never had a boyfriend. but i seriously love my best friend nick. we've had SO much chemistry between each other but the thing is he recently broke things off with his girlfriend of two and a half years. he treats me different than he treats other girls. we've only kissed once and it was just a quick little peck. we're really attracted to each other but i'm still skeptical of his "ex" girlfriend because he says their still good friends and still talk since they did go out for so long and they were each others first loves. i just don't know when he tries to get with me, is he doing it because he likes me or because he just wants to be friends with benefits? is there a way to tell? we're both busy people so it's not like i get to see him very much but when i do he always asks whats new with me, he wants to know ANYTHING thats going on with me, and gets upset and says "you never tell me anything anymore!" i just don't know. i'm not a good communicator either, so asking him if he just wants to use me or really likes me would be awkward. we've been good friends for about four years now, maybe even longer. (link)
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I feel like i wrote this question!!!!
(although it doesnt apply to me anymore)
My best friend(known him for 5yrs) had dated the girl on and off for 3 years and he complained everyday. he told me he had wanted to be with me since the day we met but thought i was too good for him. Anyway he finally broke up with her and we sort of dated but he didnt want to make it official because it he didn't want to hurt his ex's feelings. I spent every moment of every day with him, sleeping at his house on weekends. And I waited..and waited and waited for him to officially ask me out. A month went by and he suddenly ended it because "it's weird because we're friends" ....that didn't seem to bother him when he tried to have sex with me.
He told me he loved me and I still think i was just a rebound. Because after we "broke up" he was back with his ex by the end of the week...when he made me wait forever so he didn't hurt her feelings and i was left to think "what about me?!?!".
My Point:
you really need to talk to him because i was hurt the worst by a guy who was my best friend. i know you said you're not a good communicator but you're going to have to get over that unless you want to get hurt. I'm not saying that you're best friend is going to do the same to you. I have to say that the month that i was with mine was the best month of my life and also the worst break up. It's ruined our relationship and we both know it. We'll both say that the other person is our best friend but it is not the same.
In the end you'll do what you want but I just wanted to pass my story along to you.
Tell him that if all he wants is friends with benefits than to at least be upfront with you about it so you won't get your heart broken. Or at least not as badly broken.
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sometimes in music videos, i see sims walking around like they're slouching. or really depressed, while their walking.
how do i make my sims do that? does anyone know? (link)
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lazy sims do that too.
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My sister just moved out. Her room was in the basement, and used to be a kitchen so there are cabinets and a sink and a stove. the owner refuses to take it down. I want to make this MY AREA! i plan to put in a futon, tv, maybe my computer and just have it be my "extra" room. The walls are white and the bottom half is light wood. I am not renovating, just redecorating/painting. I want some tips on what color I should paint the top half, the bottom is light stained wood. i want a relaxing but bright tone. It is in the basement with no window! What color do you suggest. Remember warm, inviting color that still brightens up the room? (link)
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you say that you want warm colors and light colors, which is hard to get. Maybe an orange-red or a shade of purple. Purple can actually be a warm or cool color depending on what else you put in the room, if you have soft fabrics in the room then it'll come out warm. wood always warms up a room anyway though. you could also use a shade of green.
ok so green, orange-red, or purple.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 months now. We're both 16 and we love eachother.
but he has this crazy ex. (don't they all.) and she wants him back so bad. but he loves me.
so one night he got drunk( or so he says) and kissed her. but then practically fainted and cried. ( i wasn't there...his friends, who i'm close with, told me) so that first day back he told me. he told me everything, and didn't lie about anything. which i respect and loved that he told me. but ever since then, i feel like he might do it again, but he's that kind of boy who...tells the truth. i know its hard to understand, but like. He's a good boy, and had a good family...it's just he made a mistake. I still love him, but it feels like there's something missing. Of course, i'm still afraid, but its a cycle. One minute i'm fine, and the other minute i'm freaking out. Please help.
thanks. (link)
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My best friend (an 18yr old guy) had this happen to him. But the girl kissed him and he claimed to not kiss her back but he was so traumatized about what happened and he was so scared that when he called me to explain the situation he was almost in tears. An 18yr old manly guy almost brought to tears! I think your boyfriend has probably punished himself enough. Like you said he made a mistake, no doubt about that, but I'm sure he knows that. You should do something to rebuild your relationship with each other. Recreate your first date or something. Don't let him get off easy but don't push him to the point where he gives up on the relationship. I hope you know what i'm trying to say here. You can't pretend it didn't happen but if the relationship can last through it then go for it. You have a reason to freak out and he better understand that.
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i have a TON of pet peeves. like i have a list that fills up over a sheet of paper. some are the weirdest things too like wet paper towels. if something oocurs that i cant do something about (like throw away the wet paper towel) i end up on the floor crying and shaking and being extreemly mad. why is this? are they just pet peeves? (link)
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honestly it might be OCD. i'm not sure, i'm not a doctor but it's something to consider. If you didn't cry about it i would think it was just a pet peeve but because you have such a strong reaction i'd think it was something more than that.
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