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i feel like something is missing...
My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 months now. We're both 16 and we love eachother.
but he has this crazy ex. (don't they all.) and she wants him back so bad. but he loves me.
so one night he got drunk( or so he says) and kissed her. but then practically fainted and cried. ( i wasn't there...his friends, who i'm close with, told me) so that first day back he told me. he told me everything, and didn't lie about anything. which i respect and loved that he told me. but ever since then, i feel like he might do it again, but he's that kind of boy who...tells the truth. i know its hard to understand, but like. He's a good boy, and had a good family...it's just he made a mistake. I still love him, but it feels like there's something missing. Of course, i'm still afraid, but its a cycle. One minute i'm fine, and the other minute i'm freaking out. Please help.
thanks.
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Well, it was only a kiss.
If you know he won't do it again, give him another chance. From what you've said he really seems sorry and regrets doing it.
So long as you trust him, I don't see a problem.
He's human, and was also drunk.
He should also take this as a lesson that maybe he shouldn't drink anymore. At least not around psycho exes =P
-LM
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My best friend (an 18yr old guy) had this happen to him. But the girl kissed him and he claimed to not kiss her back but he was so traumatized about what happened and he was so scared that when he called me to explain the situation he was almost in tears. An 18yr old manly guy almost brought to tears! I think your boyfriend has probably punished himself enough. Like you said he made a mistake, no doubt about that, but I'm sure he knows that. You should do something to rebuild your relationship with each other. Recreate your first date or something. Don't let him get off easy but don't push him to the point where he gives up on the relationship. I hope you know what i'm trying to say here. You can't pretend it didn't happen but if the relationship can last through it then go for it. You have a reason to freak out and he better understand that.
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Hello.well as you know he is human and he made a mistake while under the influence and if he was really under the influence then he in a way had no control over his actions because when you are intoxicated your concsious mind is sort off blocked and thinking tends get get thrown of balance as you may well know so if you think about it in that way it makes it a little better. It seems like you really know your boyfrend and his past which is important because things that happen in the past usually come up in the future and effet the future, if he may have cheated in the past it may come up again in another situation. However if you honestly beleive that he care s about you and is there for you then you should have alittle less of a problem beleiveing that he wont do it again,just try to have alittle faith and know that you can only live in the present and you have know way of altering and or seeing what will happen in the future. Everything happens for a reason and if he was to cheat on you in the future then you will know that he obviously is not the right guy for you, every girl deserves a guy that will care for her,respect her and cherish her and if he is with a girl that he shouldnt need attention from any other girls. If you keep worrying about this it might effect your relationship and will make you become,jealous,or overprotective and may well ruin the relationship you have now. So all in all try to think positive you know the kind of guy he is and live in the present that will help you in a number of ways even with issues that do not involve your relationship. I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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