My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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Hey how do you to get people to stop calling you rich...like my dad is the president of a hotels all over the world and my mom is a lawyer...like sometimes when my mom and dad are bizzy i go to school in our limo and people wont shut up about it it aggervates me...and we hav a 2 story house on the beach in cali...and they both drive range rovers...it gets on my nerves sooo bad how do u get it to stop...? (link)
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Like some others said, people are just jealous. Or maybe to some people you seem rich. Some people may have a lot less money than you. I would tell them your parents planned out their life well. And keep telling them "I AM NOT RICH!!!!!!"
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Hey!
I have a case of boredum!
lol
anyways-
what are some good sites to go to when you are bored?!
Like some that have those quizes like:
ex:
1-whats your fav color
2-whats your fav drink
or
1- where did we meet
and/ or those when you pick your fav color and its says something like "blue means that....."
you know?
any one have some of those that they could send to me? or any sites?
Thanks In Advance!!
*-KeLsA-* (link)
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Like www.quizilla.com ..? If it is, heres a few more.
http://quizfarm.com/
http://www.youthink.com/quiz.asp
http://star-girl.org/pages/quizzes/menu.php
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Im 15 and still havent.."madeout" w/ a guy..is that bad? (link)
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No, it's perfectly fine. Don't feel rushed, when you find that one guy you think you were made for, it'll happen.
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(16/f) I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him. Its just that he doesnt trust me at all. Just because of things people tell him. People dont like the fact that we're going out because we're in an inter-racial relationship. So they make things up to try to get us to break up. I know that they're lying but he doesnt. He just doesnt trust me and I'm constantly telling him not to believe them and " No I didnt flirt with so-and-so today." Im so sick of trying to get him to believe me. He also makes me feel guilty for things I did before we started going out. Im tired of it and I try telling him this but he just doesnt stop. It's getting to the point where we're fighting most of the time instead of getting along. I love him so much and I dont want to have to break up but I want to be happy instead of being sad all the time now. I just dont know if its at the point where I should end it or not. Please help me out I dont know what to do... thanks in advance. (link)
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I agree with Sherry. You should give it a little more time. Sit down with him, and tell him exactly how you feel. Honest relationships are the best ones.
If your relationship doesn't get any better pretty soon, I would consider breaking up with him. You shouldn't go out with him if you're not happy, and you feel your relationship isn't very good, you don't want to be fake. And you want to be happy, happiness is something we all need.
I hope everything works out, I really do!
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Well over the weekend I'm stuck with a huge project over the weekend and...its a group project and two of the guys in the group goof off all the time and are failing the class and the other guy is a cute,nice,funny guy I flirt and joke around with sometimes. He's into the project but he's not into getting everything together. I've got this amazingly funny and fun idea for the project, and the only way I'm gonna get it done is if I do it all by myself. So my question is, do people hate it if you do all the work? Does doing all the work piss people off? Will the guy not like me anymore if I do it by myself?
Thanks so much for helping! :-) (link)
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It depends on the person. I, personally, am one who would mind. I like doing things my way, I'm very picky, I need everything perfect. Maybe you could try calling him, or IMing him to mention your idea to him. You could ask him if he's ok with you doing it by yourself.
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okay well my best friend is always telling the people i like that i like them!! and she's always mean and like, yeah you have no friends, haha im just kidding! and then she says that the kid i like, matt, would never like me. and its really annoying.
And my other best friend is ALWAYS up on the guy i like. and if i stop liking them, she loses all interest. its REALLY annoying. (link)
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They really don't seem like very good friends. I mean, maybe they're fun to hang around with, but it doesn't seem like they're trustworthy or supportive. Maybe you could confront them and tell them how you feel. Honesty is the best policy.. Or you could just not tell them anything. If you don't trust them, don't feel the need to tell them anything. They seem like they don't think of your feelings..
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I have this "friend"that talks behind my back!!! she even said she hated me, to my other friend!!!I don't know what i did?!! When i try to talk to her all she does is say "i don't need advise I'm not rude so shutup!!!" I think she is also a show off to impress me and my best friend!! How can i solve this?!!! (link)
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Honestly, I don't think she's a very good friend.. from what you're saying anyways. If she was your true friend she wouldn't talk behind your back, nevermind say she hated you! I would try finding some new friends. Or maybe try working things out between you two if you feel she is truly a good friend.
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So many people in my grade have a b/f or g/f but they don't take it seriuosly. In the hall all they do is say "hey" to each other, they talk to each other on-line about "who knows what?" and in their binders they write "I love----". They don't talk on the fone or anything like that.I feel so left out, but if i ask a girl out it would be weird for me to be going out w/ a girl and telling everyone, but the girl wouldn't look me in the eye or anything like that. it's so stupid. What could i do so i don't feel left out? (link)
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It sounds like you want a girlfriend because everyone else has one. Don't feel forced into having a girlfriend. Wait until you truly feel you love someone. I know what you're talking about though, it's the same where I live. I don't have a boyfriend, but the way I look at it is I don't like anyone. I don't have any feelings for anyone, so it's pointless wasting time on something that isn't real. Hope that answered your question =\.
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i am in dance and i have to wear 2 piece costumes. My stomach is kind of flabby and I have love handles. Does anyone know how to get rid of these? Also how to tone my inner thighs. If you have a diet and exersise program 4 me it would be appreciated. Thanks for the help in advanced.
p.s i hate running on treadmills and its to cold to run outide (link)
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Try cutting back on junk food and eating healthier food. As far as exercises try doing crunches/sit-ups, 6-inches, leg lifts. Maybe you could even buy an exercising video and work out to it.
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ok well whenever i go to the bathroom, i look at my underwear and theres this like clear slimy gooey discharge and i havent gotten my period yet ... what is this ? im 13/f HELP! (link)
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Just about every girl gets it. It's usually a sign you'll be getting your period soon. Soon doesn't necessarily mean a week. Soon can be 1-2 years, maybe 3? It's totally normal, don't worry about it!
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One of my friends (A) said something mean about another of them, and everyone has now turned against A. They all hate her but I still like her. She doesn't sit with us or anything any more and I really miss her and still talk to her, but the others all hate me and have a go whenever I do sit with her or talk to her. I stick up for her as much as I can without offending anyone else, but I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle - they treat me like I actually AM friend A and yell stuff at me they've been yelling at her. I'm trying so desperately to not take sides and to stay friends with them all...but everyone is being so stubborn and hate A for such a little thing! They all refuse to apologise and no-one can even consider A's side of things. What can I do? Do I give up the fight and go with one or the other side or do I keep on struggling in quicksand? (link)
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If it were me, I would chose one or the other. I mean, it's not fair that you're stuck in the middle. You seem pretty stressed out over this. Maybe you could give it a little longer. Try talking to the people against person A and explain why she did what she did. It seems as if you might knwo how friend A feels, since you said the others were treating you like you were her. I would try to be there for friend A. If the others were your true friends, they would let you be friends with whoever you wanted. Just because THEY don't like her doesn't mean you can't be friendly with them all. I don't really know what to say, because I don't know exactly what person A did. If you want to talk to me you can IM me, my s/n is on my advice page.
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i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it (link)
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I'm like that, in a way. I keep thinking my stomach is fat, and now I'm all screwed up. It sucks. You know how unrealistic models are?! I mean they're so skinny, if you asked me it's kinda gross =\. And some things are computerized, it's not even a real body! My mom keeps telling me to stop comparing myself to others. Everyone is different, everyone has different body figures. NOBODY is perfect.
Try picking out the positive things about your body. Just try to feel comfortable with yourself. Accepting your body as it is is hard, but once you do it's one of the greatest feelings.
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My mom is the biggest blabbermouth of all time. She can't keep her secrets to herself. She can't keep MY secrets to herself. She tells everyone the details about my life. She humiliates me infront of everyone. She makes up lies to exaggerate the truth. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stop telling her things? I can't stand the way my life is out there and availible to anyone that wants to hear about it. (link)
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Like some others said, the best things would be either to A) confront her B) stop telling her things. Try talking to a close friend you trust, a guidance counselor, writing in a journal, just something other than talking to your mom, but still not bottling everything up. You should talk to someone, sometimes keeping things bottled up can lead to bigger problems. If you want, you could talk to me and I'll try to help you out.
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Okay, so I eat good, I have gym class every day so I exercise5 times a week for and hour and a half, yet i'm still pretty fat. I mean I'm not obese. I'm about 150, but I'm 5'8. Al my friends are really skinny though so in comparison to them i'm huge. I don't want to hurt myself with an eating disorder or anything and I don't have time to exercise anymore, but what can I do? (link)
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You're not fat! You definately don't want to hurt yourself with an eating disorder, trust me, been there done that =\. You're tall, and that weight is normal. My mom keeps telling me I can't compare myself to other people. I know it's hard, but try not to do it. Just try eating healthier, you might lose a few pounds by doing that. Just don't go crazy. Try eating more fruits and vegetables. Instead of picking up a bag of chips, have an apple. Or you could try making your meal servings a LITTLE smaller, not too much cause you don't want to starve yourself. Especially because you don't need to lose weight. Maybe try doing sit-ups or crunches.
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Tomorrow, i have a Persuasive essay to turn in, which I will later have to read to my English class.
My topic is on book-banning, and i've typed up my essay, and it's all set.
My problem is, is that my last reason for why book-banning from schools and libraries isn't right, is because books are sometimes banned because of homosexual characters.
At first, i felt strongly about stating my opinion through an essay on my opinion on homosexuallity (I'm for gay marriage), but now, I'm having second doubts. Can someone please tell me how they think this will go over in my class, and is it appropriate? (This is Advanced 8th grade Eglish by the way) (link)
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I, personally, feel that it is appropiate. I mean, it is advanced 8th grade. I'm with you, and am for gay marriage. I feel pretty strong about it, and can usually put up a decent fight. Anyways, I think if you can back up why you are for it, go for it.
Goodluck, I hope everything works out!
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well its kinda a 2 part question.
Well my aunts getting married, and im in her wedding. me and my other aunt HATE the dresses ALOT. we dont want to wear them at all. what should we do?
And i want to look good in the dress if i have to wear it, and im thinking about tanning and going on a diet of just water and like salad and fruit... but the thing is i dont eat alot. the only meal i eat is lunch and im never hungry. i think its because i dont exercise enough.. even though i play alot of sports and im pretty active.. i dont know what the problem is. (link)
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Like some of the others said, you'll probably just have to deal with the dresses. It is your aunt's wedding. You wouldn't want to hurt her by telling her you hate them. You only have to wear it once. Try thinking of the positive things, like how lucky you are to be in the wedding.
Tanning isn't such a great thing to do. I mean, sure it'll get you darker. But in the long run it can really hurt you, because of the UV rays. I'm not sure if the bottled tanning stuff works too great, or is any better, but maybe it is? I'd look into the bottled tanning stuff..
I wouldn't recommend that diet. I'm sure you'll look fine in the dress =). If you wanted to you couold try exercising more, do crunches, work out etc. Maybe just try eating healthier, like eating fruits and vegetables.
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k, i recently had sex with my ex bf.. and it was for 2 mins and nothing happened. i haven't gotten my period yet - it was suppsoed to come on tuesday, but i haven't gotten it yet. although, i have been very stressed lately (breakup with my boyfriend, dad lost a job, friend almost commited suicide, etc) and i am also very underweight for being my height. could those be reasons for missing my period or could i be pg? please write back! (link)
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You never know. I would take a pregnancy test just incase. But being underweight can affect your period. If could just be late this month too. But you should definately take a pregnancy test..
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Ok heres the problem, i LOVE to sing, i can sing very well too. The problem is i can't preform in front of people! I am way to nervous. I can't even sing infront of my family. Its just to nerve -racking. My family says i should go out for singing lessons because sometimes they hear me but im to nervous to go out. When i get older i really wanna try out for american idol, ya it sounds stupid but i do. Its just im to nervous in front of people! Does anyone have any tips to get un-nervous, or any advice for me to go out?
- Shy Singer - (link)
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Maybe you could try singing in front of the mirror or something. Then eventually try to sing in front of your family. Your family is there to support you, they wouldn't do anything to make you feel bad. Then I would definately head for singing lessons after you can comfortably sing in front of your family! You go to singing lessons to help you. They'll help you overcome your shyness, and will help you with your vocals! You will improve overall. I want to hear you sing now! lol I'm sure you have a great voice! Just always keep your head up, and go for your dreams.
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im doing an art collage on candy but im running out of candy to draw, so what kind of candy should i draw??? (link)
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Idk what you've already done =\. I'll just name some candy..
Reese's, hershey's/kisses, mints, chocolate, peppermint patty, gum, nerds, sour patch kids, skittles, m&ms, snikers, milky ways, candy cane, jelly beans, carmello's, twizzlers....
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ok i just moved to this new skool in another country. it has about 250 total kids. and i've heard that like all the girls at my new skool like me. and i dont know if i like any of them, and i'm only goin to be here until the end of the skool year. and i dont know wat to do about this... should i like just ignore them or sumthin? (link)
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I wouldn't ignore them. Nobody likes being ignored. Just don't get too close to them. You can still be friends with them. Maybe you could tell them they seem nice and stuff, but you'll only be there for a few more months, so things wouldn't work out. Or if you don't feel like they're nice, just say you'll only be there a few more months.
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