My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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i live in tampa and i was wondering what is the supply list for 9th grade. i will be taking spanish 1, english 1 honors, algebra 2, and i forgot which science class. people that have been in the 9th grade can you please tell me the real things we need. not just the basic paper pencils binders stuff. thank you in advance!!! (link)
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NOTE: Oops, I guess I didn't read the question close enough. Sorry about that.
Pencils
Paper (Wide or college ruled)
Black/Blue pens
Highlighter
Dictionary/Thesaurus (Maybe a Spanish one too)
Calculator (Graphing calculator preferred)
Binders and/or Notebooks
Dividers and page protectors (Organization purposes)
Graph paper
Protractor/Compass/Ruler
Eh, that's the basics that I can think of. I'm sure there's more, but I can't think of anything else right now.
...pretty much the same things you needed in 8th grade, and all the ones before that. Maybe an addition here and there.
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Can wearing deodorant really give you cancer? I just found out about this. (link)
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On the news it said antiperspirant deodorant has shown patterns in breast cancer. Which, in other words, means they've seen connections between people who use antiperspirant deodorant and people who have breast cancer.
The thing you have to realize, though, is that using a non-antiperspirant deodorant probably wouldn't make a difference. If you're not doing anything that has had connections to some type of cancer, you'd have to stop drinking caffeine (especially diet drinks), stop using your cell phone, and pretty much...cease to exist, because EVERYTHING is connected to cancer in some way.
I've found it's best not to worry about these things. Whatever is gonna happen...is gonna happen.
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Hey advice givers. I'm in need of a little bit 'a help. I'm so confused about this whole dating concept, and I'm only 13/f. If a guy asks you out, as in, "Will you go out with me?" does that mean you're boyfriend and girlfriend? And is being girlfriend and boyfriend the same as dating? I'd just like to know because I'd be very embarassed to tell someone I was dating a guy, that I wasn't really dating. And is going on ONE date with a guy, officially dating? Or is it girlfriend and boyfriend automatically? Like going skating, or dinner, or going to the movies or something. If you were like going on a date on night with a guy, then a different guy the next, does that still make you single? Or is that kinda cheating... ? I'm very confused, sorry if this doesn't make very much sense. I really need an answer please, I don't know where else to ask! My friends don't know (most likely), and right now my mom isn't available. I can't ask my dad - we just don't talk about dating the same way. Please help!
Much Love,
Lauren (link)
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Fun stuff. Okay, well, everyone is going to have their own opinion on this, but this is my philosophy:
If you go on one date with a guy, you aren't boyfriend/girlfriend, and you aren't "dating".
If you go on more than one date with a guy and are planning another, you can consider yourself "dating".
If you've kissed this guy on a regular basis, hung out with this guy on a regular basis, have went out with him for a while, and/or agree to this label, you are "boyfriend/girlfriend".
If you go on a date with one guy one night, and another guy the next night. You are NOT cheating. Unless you are officially "dating" and "exclusive", there is no cheating.
You are single until you are in an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend situation. I also think that "taken" or "dating" would be a better status than "in a relationship" because that comes when things get long-term and serious.
Also, SOME people consider themselves single until they are engaged or married. MOST, however, deny being single if they are...attached.
I hope this helps or showed you a different perspective on things. :)
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I'm totally clueless on what Hair Straightener to buy. My hair is wavy and it's in between thick and thin hair. My hair is healthy. I want a hair straightener that is at a good price too. My mother probably wouldnt buy me one if it was too expensive. Between $20-$40 is good. Please help me find a good hair straightener that isnt so expensive for my hair type. I dont plan on using it EVERY SINGLE DAY but more than once a week.
Thanks. (link)
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If you want a GOOD straightener that will last for a year or more, go to Sally's, give them your price range, and they'll find one for you. Mine was $50 but on sale for $40 and it's awesome AND came with a warranty.
I've used Revlon and Con Air and they usually don't work that well for me. But everything I've bought at Sally's Beauty is just awesome.
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hey im a guy, 13, and i was wondering if 5 inches is a good size when its erected. also it takes quite a while to be its biggest size. (link)
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At 13, yes, that's fine. It will continue to grow until you're somewhere from 17-19.
The average ADULT penis is 5 1/4 inches. So you should definitely be bigger than that once it reaches its full length.
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i dated this one guy for about a month in a half. and we didn't really get to see each other that much...and it was pretty much my fault because i was either busy doing something my mom was making me do, or hanging out with friends. he told me that it would be better if we were just friends. but he won't even talk to me...and he told my friend that i pretty much ruined my chances with him, but that it could change. this guy means a lot to me and i like him sooo much. but what if i do have a chance with him again? should i wait, or move on? (link)
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I may be wrong, but this guy sounds starved for attention. If you're too busy, he can't expect to be with you at all times. However, maybe taking a little time away from friends to be with him once and a while wouldn't have been too hard to do. Relationships take effort by both people. Sometimes it's hard to find time together, but you have to be together once and a while in order to have a relationship.
This choice is up to you, so if you really like him, wait for him. The only thing is that you WILL have to make an effort to spend time with him. It can't just go back to how it was and be all good. He'll still be upset that he never sees you.
Good luck.
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I've liked this guy for a long time (I'll call him John) and my best guy friend I will call Bob. Bob and I used to be really close, we would tell each other everything. He liked me for a long time, a few years, and then told everyone he got over me. I never had feelings for him.
I told Bob that I really liked John. John and Bob were good friends. But Bob claimed that John was just a "funny guy" so he doesnt really like him, he just liked to laugh at him.
Anyway recently John asked me out =] and I said yes, I've been so happy I can't contain it. And a week or so ago Bob said he was done being friends with our group of friends. He ignored all of us but now he's only ignoring me. I'm not really making an attempt to talk to him because he was getting on my nerves a lot before.
Now if he hangs out with us he always gets drunk first then just sits off to the side listening to his ipod.
My good girl friend Liz talked to him and told me that the reason he has been drinking is because he hates seeing John and I together.
I think it's totally selfish and over dramatic. If he was such a good friend why cant he at least try to be happy for me? I've never been this happy before. Why is it all about Bob being so upset? It's not like if I wasnt with John I would be with Bob. I doubt I will ever like Bob.
John is absolutely worth it. Bob said he was done being friends with all of us a week or so before John asked me out. Since when he said that I have been mad at Bob. I really think John did nothing wrong. Bob said he was over me but then he gets all upset that I'm with John. It's not fair that I should have to feel guilty for something I'm really happy about.
What am I supposed to do? I feel bad but at the same time I don't mind not having Bob around and I'm really enjoying being with John. I don't think Bob is being fair. What do I do?? (link)
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You're right, Bob is being unfair, selfish, and immature. If he was over you, he wouldn't be ignoring you. I understand that maybe he still likes you and is jealous out of his mind, but if he really cared for you, he wouldn't ignore you. That's just ridiculous.
If you don't mind not having Bob around, then don't worry about it. Have fun with John and your friends and just let Bob decide what he wants to do. It's up to him if he wants your friendship.
If you'd like to continue your friendship with Bob, you're going to have to talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him ignoring you and ask him what the deal is. If he tells you, you can go from there. If he doesn't tell you and continues to not be your friend, then he's not worth it.
Bob just doesn't seem like a very loyal friend. If John is worth it, then just feast your attention on him. :)
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I started going tanning about 4 week's ago.
For the first 3 day's i went for 6 minutes.
And after that i kept going up on the minutes.
During the 3-4 weeks i went tanning , i only used a stand up bed , and i went 12 minutes everyday. So my question is ; am i at risk for skin cancer ? (link)
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If you expose your skin to UV rays, when they are from the sun or artificial, you are at risk for skin cancer. It is never guaranteed that you'll get it, but the more you're exposed, the more the risk is.
Just watch your skin for any rashes or spots or anything out of the ordinary. If you find something, go to the dermatologist.
I'd say that indoor tanning is bad, which it is, but I did it for two months to get color before summer got here. I'm done with it now, but I know how bad for your skin it is.
Basically, if your skin has any color, sun damage has already began. It's best not to tan for a long period of time, because you'll end up looking 50 when you're 30. It's really bad for your skin and aging.
But I understand why people do indoor tanning...you don't have to lay out in the heat for two hours. It's quick, efficient, and you see results almost automatically.
Just be careful and don't overdo it.
OH! And the first person said indoor tanning can be better for you than the real thing, that is NEVER true. Artificial UV light bulbs are worse for you than the natural sun...always!
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Is it appropriate to like the guy who's your mom's boyfriend's daughter's fiancee's cousin? Becasue I really do like him but I'm not sure if that's too close in the family or anything...your thoughts on this would be appreciated! :D (link)
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Haha, it's fine. I had to read that about 5 times just to figure it out and place it all in my head. It's not family at all. Sometimes a set of brothers will date a set of sisters (not in the same family, of course) and that's totally fine. If you aren't related by blood or marriage, which you're not, then there's nothing wrong with it.
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okay im going to highschool and im soososoososo scared.my sister is gonna be a senior and that sucks. and besides i dont even know my way around the school.what do i do?
how can i make friends? (link)
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I know I was really scared when I was a Freshman. I was so freaked out that all those movies where they show everyone picking on the freshman and just miserable kids were actually what it was like.
My freshman year ended up being my favorite year. In middle school I was a bit of a loser who was friends with people no one liked, so I wasn't liked. In high school I was in classes with some people I didn't know or barely knew and we formed a really close group of friends. It was great.
You just have to go in with a good, positive attitude and be yourself. It'll be fine, and when you're my age and about to be a senior it'll seem like so long ago.
Just enjoy high school the best you can. Have fun with it!
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ok so i have 2 questions about tanning beds.
1- someone told me that the light in them helps to whiten your teeth some.. thats not true is it bc yeah it doesnt seem like it would be.. ?
& 2- what exactly are the 'facial' things used for? do they tan your face less or more or what? (link)
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1- No, even if the bulbs had some sort of whitening effect, it wouldn't be a big enough difference to tell. And, anyways, you'd have to keep a big wide smile on your face the entire time just so the light will get to the inside of your mouth. And even then only your front teeth would be exposed AND you'd get white lines from grin lines. haha. So, basically, no, this isn't true.
2- From what is sounds like, you could be referring to what the person below me said OR you could be referring to the facial bulbs in the bed. If you mean the bulbs, they're just better for optimizing your facial tan. It just makes it better. It's best to keep those on if given a choice.
ALSO- The person that first answered the question says she doesn't wear the goggles. I STRONGLY suggest that you DO wear the goggles. They can cause serious eye damage even if you don't open your eyes in the bed at all. Believe me, I've seen videos. It's pretty bad. If you want to avoid white lines from the strings, you can remove them and just lay the goggles over your eyes. To avoid whiteness around your eyes (I never had a problem with it), you can move around the goggles once and a while and it will help a bunch.
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would you go out with a guy whos hot, nice and cool but he has a F or D in his classes? (link)
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I'm not sure if this is an opinion question or if you want us to tell YOU if you should date a guy who's not exactly the brightest crayon in the Crayola box.
Either way, it depends on both of the people. You should never date a guy just because he's hot, that's for sure. Attraction is important, but it's not something to build a relationship based on.
If you like his personality and you enjoy being with him, I'd say go for it. If his grades bother you, then I wouldn't date him.
Maybe he's just not book-smart. If he acts like an idiot outside of school as well, that's a different story, but if it's just that he has difficulty in school or paying attention, then it shouldn't be that big of a deal to you.
This is something you have to decide for yourself, but I'm just giving you things to think about.
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Well,.. kissing sucks.
Really, why wasn't I warned? I have waited my whole life for that moment, I have been nervous and excited and spent so many classes ignoring the teacher and dreaming about it - and it sucks. Not because he was a bad kisser, just cause.. well its nothing special. It's SO OVERRATED! Like, really, am I the only one who feels this way? In movies it looks amazing - time stands still, sparks fly, it's impossible to breathe - but noooo. Not at all.
Why'd I waste so long waiting for that kiss? I turned down lots of great guys cause I wanted my first kiss to be REALLY SPECIAL. But itwasn't. I'm so dissapointed.
Does it get better? Or is it really not that great and people just make it sound great cause they're in love? (link)
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Well, my first kiss wasn't all fireworks and shooting stars. I was too busy worrying that I sucked at what we were doing. I was really happy that I'd finally had my first kiss, sure, but afterward I barely remembered anything about the actual kissing. I was too preoccupied with my thoughts.
I'm still dating the guy who I had my first kiss with and it DEFINITELY got fun. You just have to let yourself go and have fun with it. Most people don't have the perfect first kiss. It takes time and practice to perfect it.
I waited 17 years for my first kiss, and even though it wasn't a movie kiss, I'm glad it happened. Now you just go with the flow...there are very few people who end up not liking to kiss.
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I'm working at under a doctor this summer for an internship..Dr. Ana Johnson (I changed her name). Anyway, when I email her, I refer to her as "Dr. Johnson," but she emails me back and ends the email with "Thanks, Ana." Also, I've only met her once (I finally start working with her Wednesday)...The first time I met her, she introduced herself as "Ana." Would it be disrespectful to call her Ana since she refers to herself as that..? Does this mean she wants me to call her by her first name..should I ask her what she prefers me to call her or would that be rude? (link)
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If you don't want to ask her, then I would keep it formal until she says "Please, call me Ana". If people want you to call them by their first name, they'll usually correct you when you call them Dr.
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Im Thirteen, and im a female.
Im going into 8th grade, and this
guy i like is going into 9th.
We like each other, but im having troubles
trying to get to where I..trust him
I guess you can say. He's had a past
girlfriend, who im very very good friends
with. And they well.. went out for about
two years and had sex. And Me and Him
just recently broke up from like just a one
month relationship, i broke up with him.
And I here him & my friend he had a past
relationship with had started talking,
and said they still love each other,
but im suppose to not know that, so i cant
confront him or her about it. And he says
I love you. And i say i love you too, or
the other way around. All over text.
We do not whatsoever seem to ever talk on
the phone.
So i guess what im asking is,
how do i control all these feelings of
knowing they have a past relationship,
and knowing they have recently talked about
it. Although he says he loves me.
And hes all i think about..
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Well one thing to consider is that you both are REALLY young. Some things you have to ask yourself is if you are actually in love with him or if you just like him A LOT. There is a difference, but a lot of people don't realize that until they actually do fall in love.
Well, you could always ask your boyfriend about how he feels about his ex. If he tells you he still has feelings for her, then you can go from there. But if he says he doesn't, I wouldn't worry about it. Most couples, if they actually did love each other, go on loving each other when they split up. Maybe they aren't IN love with each other, but they still love each other a lot. That is perfectly okay.
I wouldn't jump to conclusions or worry too much about it. It's probably nothing. Just go with the flow with your relationship with this guy. Hey, it isn't like you're going to marry him, right? You're not even in high school yet. I think a bigger problem is going to be when he's in HS and you're still in middle school. Seeing each other will become more difficult and you may drift apart because you're basically living in two different worlds.
But for now just have fun with him and don't worry about the ex. Good luck.
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is it normal to masterbate with a vibrator alot? (link)
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Yes.
Masturbation is normal and you should do it however you like to. It doesn't matter how often as long as it's not an obsession.
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Okay well heres the thing...
i dont eat anything for breakfast or lunch.
but then i eat half my dinner [at the most] because my family is watching me, and so i have a little bit of energy for the next day.
when i eat, i feel fat and bad [like sad, depressed, bad].
do you think im struggling from anorexia? (link)
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That's sure what it sounds like. Actually, that's the definition of anorexia: restriction of food for the fear of becoming overweight.
It would also help us if you put your height and weight, because then we could tell you if you are "medically" underweight according to your BMI.
If you believe you could be anorexic, you should talk to a parent, friend, or counselor. Many cases of anorexia can't be cured without admission to a hospital or at least some therapy, depending on the severity of the case.
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i have 1 random question
when there are 2 people on a date to a movie theater and they are sitting down in chairs, well how are you supposed to 'cuddle' like i know he puts his arm around you but what is the girl supposed to do if she's sitting down?
i'm confused?? (link)
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You can lay your head on his shoulder. That's the only thing I can think of to do where there's a cup holder blocking you from direct contact with him.
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lets say this guy I like is leaving a classroom. we are in the same class. Well it was time to go on the next hour and there was someone in front of me, he opened the door and waited until i got out.
does this mean he likes me??
I've had a crush on him for a long time and I think he might know... but what should i do? (link)
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There's no way anyone here can tell you just from one statement if this guy likes you. He could like you, sure, or he could have just been being a gentlemen or being nice to a classmate.
If you like him, go for it. Ask him out. What's the worst that can happen? He could say no and you'd move on to the next crush. No harm done. OR he could say yes and jackpot, you've got yourself a boyfriend.
Good luck.
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does anyone know what whine coolers and brandy are? (link)
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Wine cooler- A low-content, not-so-intense alcoholic drink, usually flavored as a fruit drink.
Brandy- A type of alcohol, usually 80 proof, that is distilled from wine or fermented fruit. It is commonly used in cocktails and as a cooking ingredient. Several high-end brands are available and have been recently popularized in lavish hip-hop culture, such as Cognac and Ouzo.
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