Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Age: 17
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I really love how my hair feels after a nice haircut and styling. It's really soft and doesn't tangle in the wind. Know what I'm talking about? Well I was wondering how I can achieve this look at home. (link)
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Well if you have split ends you can always give yourself a quick trim. Or if you feel like you might cut it crooked you can ask a friend to do it for you. Just make sure your friend isn't a complete butterfingers :).
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hey,i had a boyfriend and we lasted 2 yrs and 2 months.then he left to the dominican republic and he cheeted on me with a girl.when he came back i asked him who she was and he told me that she was his cusin.his brother told me that thats his girl thats not his cusin. i confronted him about it and he decided to break up with me thru the web. i feel very sad and iam so confused can you please ghelp me in what to do here since i just lost the love of my life :'( (link)
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I'm sorry I've taken so long to reply. I haven't logged on here in a long time. I'm really sorry for the loss. I had a boyfriend for a long time as well and I know how much it hurts :/. But let me reassure you that it feels better with time. I have now completely recovered and I thought I was going to die when we first broke up. You have to take it one day at a time and realize that there are other people that love you in this world. Please go out with your friends and family. I am sure that they will help you and put a smile back on your face. Honestly the best you can do for yourself is not contact your ex anymore and move on with your life. It really does get better and day by day you feel happier. Trust me you will be okay again, and even better than okay. You will feel happy and amazing. And you deserve a person who will not cheat on you, who will love you completely and respect you enough to be honest with you. Take care. I hope you have already started to feel better. Again, sorry for taking so long to reply.
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heyy i just read that love letter.its soo beautiful.can you give me alittle more information on it.Why was it on the internet?what do you mean its a Nigerian scam??Did her really write it to someone he loved?just all the information you know please.im really interested!
thank you (link)
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Oh gosh I really can't remember where I originally found it. No I think what happened is that someone copied and pasted it into some kind of thing to lure in women. But the letter itself wasn't a scam. If I were you I would type in the first line or two in a google search. I would do it but I don't even remember how it started. Hope I helped.
Oh I didn't forget I just lost my advicenators password! :O
Sorry I took so long to respond... :X
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My boyfriend and I have been dating 3 years, and I am now being home schooled, He goesd to the same church and all but how can I se him more, I really love him and cant stop tihnking about him, any ideas please help (link)
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Hey.
Are you allowed to see him more? I'm guessing home schooling means you have loads of free time so maybe you should try to go see a movie or some other type of date. Ask your parents if he can come over for dinner or just to hang out sometime. Just be honest about everything to your parents :). Hopefully they are understanding. And you know what, I think school relationships can get monotonous sometimes so it's good that your time together will be spent in a more exciting environment (but I'm only speaking from experience).
Good luck, if you need any more help with this I'll be happy to help
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okay,
so I have long-ish brownish hair.
I never have enough time in the morning to do anything to my hair.
I usually go to school with my hair looking like crap.
Sometimes i'll show in the daytime :
then let me hair air-dry and then straighten it at night.
(my hair takes an hour to straighten because its naturally very curly and thick)
So, some ideas of what I can do thats EASY and doesn't take too long.
& please don't send me to a website, because I could just do that. I want somebodys personal opionion.
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Well I don't have curly hair, but it is really thick and poofy haha. What I do is take a shower in the evening and then let it air dry. Then, I sleep with my hair down and I guess that my head and the pillow kind of flatten it. So when I wake up the next morning, my hair isn't poofy anymore. :)
Also, you probably already know this, but if you have a wide tooth comb you should use it when your hair is wet and then not brush it after that. That way you don't mess up your bouncy curls :D
Good luck
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Hey, I need someones help.
Have any of you ever heard that thing that used to be all over the internet, it was a letter written by a guy for a girl. In it he told her how much he loves her, and how he when he's 30, he still wants to make out with her like a little school boy.
He also says something like "I want you see your bad morning hair, I think it'd be so cute."
And how he wants to grow old with her and watch their child take his/her first walk into their arms... and he talks about making love wherever and whenever, and stumbling back to the bedroom naked.
I could go on forever trying to explain it... but the end of it says something like "these are just some thoughts that have been running through my mind"... "I really am crazy about you, everything about you."
and he ends it with "From Him"
please help! I've been searching for it foreverr
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Hey.
I ran a Google search and apparently that note originated from a Nigerian romance scam! That's really bizarre I think, but the actual letter is really sweet and I know it's the one you're talking about.
http://www.pownetwork.org/phonies/phonies495.htm
enjoy
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So am 20 and my man is 18 he moved cause he as to take care of his mom in a different state and his coming back in march to get me. He told me that it will be two weeks till i hear from him and its been over a week but i still haven't heard from him i know i need to stop trippin but just what everyone is saying its hard, and i don't know what to say cause he likes his drugs and he was scared incase he got back on them and i just dont know what to do really would i just be like whatever he goes ahold of me he gets ahold of me or she i keep having faith in him that he will get ahold of me when he can cause he don't have a phone he can call me from (link)
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Hey.
Well he said he'd call and since it still hasn't been two weeks, you should wait for him to call. You shouldn't doubt him before he gives you a reason to. So wait a little longer, I know it's hard, but you don't really have a choice.
Take care
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What are signs that a teenage guy who is a scorpio/Sagittarius cusp likes a you? (link)
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Haha. I'm a Sagittarius, my ex boyfriend is a Sagittarius. I don't know about Scorpio.
They are playful, they flirt (a lot), and they try to befriend you.
But then again, this sounds like something anyone can do when they like you.
You're better off with the basics ;)
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
Wikihow is good for just about anything!
Good luck
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iv latley ben obsessed with indie type music and i want some more good bands. my favorite two are kimya dawson and air traffic, and i love bob marley even though hes not indie but if theirs any thats like bob marley yet indie? can anyone tell me alot of their favorite indie bands? (link)
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Hey.
So, can I just tell you my favorite? I'll do that. :)
Beirut
Tender Forever
Arcade Fire
Apples in Stereo
Bat For Lashes
Tilly and the Wall
Belle and Sebastian
The Bird and the Bee
Bejork
Bright Eyes
Conor Oberest
The Decemberists
Au Revoir Simone
The Dresden Dolls
Duke Spirit
Eisley
Iron and Wine
Neutral Milk Hotel
She and Him
St. Vincent
Tegan and Sara
Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Hmm, Fever Ray slightly reminds me of Bob Marley, but not very much. Just some songs.
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I have a friend who is really close to me. But she thinks that only one girl is her GREATEST friend or...very AWESOME. And my friend really misses her really badly. When my friend went to a tournament, she hugged that girl but not me. She talks to her and says good things about her. But I don't see what's good about that girl. Now, I feel like I'm loosing my close friend. :( I really wish my close friend would like me more than her. Well, I know it's her choice on whom she choose to like. But that girl moved from where me and my close friend lives! So why does she have to brag about how GREAT she is. It's really annoying. And again, I would like her to like me. (link)
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Hey.
I used to have a really close friend at one point. I had known her a very long time and we sort of grew up together to the point where we knew everything about eachother. To me, no one will ever replace her.
But that's why you shouldn't compare your friendship to theirs! You two are different people and it doesn't mean that she likes you any less. I have close friends that I absolutely love right now! Just because she talks about that person to you a lot doesn't mean she likes her better. Maybe when your friend hangs out with another friend she talks about you all the time. She loves you. If she didn't, she wouldn't be your friend.
I know it sounds annoying how she talks about her all the time, but she really does miss her, so she may need your help to make her feel better. Be as supportive as possible and try not to take it personally. I'm sure your friend likes you.
Take care
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I am a goth (mostly). I brood. I look like I'll rip out a teacher's throught if they look at me again. I just need a beastly goth makeup thing. I wanna go for 'The Crow' look. That's a beast. I'm terrible at putting on makeup. And I need help on how to apply it. p.s. I'M A »GUY« :D thx (link)
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Hey.
http://www.allposters.com/IMAGES/PEPH/BL1B3.jpg
Like this right? I looked it up on google images since I know nothing about goth haha.
But I do know enough about make up :).
I think that you should buy two things: a black pencil eyeliner and the blackest eye shadow you can find. Take the pencil and sketch first trace around your eyes. It isn't very hard to do. You can use your left fingers to kind of pull your lower eyelid downward while using your right hand to draw the line with the pencil. You do this on both eyes top and bottom. So at this point you should have your eyes outlined. Then, fill in the rest of your upper eyelids with black eyeshashadow. You should look something like this:
http://i36.tinypic.com/29gbbtj.jpg
So now, you have to use your art skills to fill in the rest of the design. You can use your pencil to trace the outline of the design and then fill it in with eyeshadow.
I hope this made sense to you. If the eyeliner is not going on smoothly you can heat it up slightly with your fingers by pressing a finger against the pencil tip. And if you have someone help you, it might make it easier also.
Good luck!
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So I had a dream that took place in my room involving my bff "our" ex and me... so i Was laying on my bed texting him and she was laying on the floor, i stared giggling and telling her what he was texting me without looking at her but when i looked down she had no shirt (or bra) on squeezing her own boobs...while i was texting him he was saying weird shit like your too young for me when he's dated people younger than me which was weird of him to say.... so please help me:)
14/female
HELP ME!!! (link)
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Hmm.
I'm thinking about this one. It seems kind of complicated...but I'm just going to try to say what it sounds like to me.
So on the phone your ex was in a way rejecting you. The comment about him saying that you are "too young" might reflect that you feel like your aren't "good enough" in a certain area of your life. Maybe something is holding you back. Maybe you've felt hurt by a comment or by a past rejection. I don't know if you still have feelings for this ex, but that could also be it.
As for the thing with your friend, maybe this could mean that you are in someway jealous of her? Maybe it isn't her in particular that you are jealous of. What came to my mind was the breasts could be an indicator of being "older" since you mentioned the comment about being "too young". Of course it could just be a metaphor for something that you lack or you desire. It doesn't necessarily mean anything sexual or related to age.
Or it could be age related. Sometimes I still feel like my parents treat me like a small child when I feel that I am mature. (I am 17 and my parents still do this, so I can understand if you feel like you are being treated this way)
These are just some thoughts. They might not be accurate at all. What my psychology teacher told my class was that we are the best person to analyze our own dreams. Only we know our innermost thoughts and emotions, which are usually what are dreams reflect. So if you just try looking at how you feel right now then it might help make these symbols more clear to you. Also, if you keep a dream diary of every night's dream, it could help you put different symbols together.
Well I hope you figure this out. I hate not knowing what my dreams mean. Especially when they are so weird! Ahh, well take care
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First of all I am 20 years old trying to findout if I am pregnant? I took a home pregnancy test to findout if I am pregnant it came out negative. I have been having different symptoms lately, really really moody , I also for the past 2 monthes have had shorter, lighter periods also lately I have been having alot of brown discharge. I'm trying to findout if I could be pregnant, I was told numerous people expierence the false negatives etc from many different friends whom have children of their own now. If possible any advice would help me out alot! Thanks! (link)
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Hey,
Well you might want to take a second one. It could come up positive. Your best bet would be to go to the doctor and check. In the meantime, you might want to stay away from alcohol and other such things :/.
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Is it true that if you want to loose weight you can take laxatives when your done eating? Or how does that work? Dont tell me anything about my health or not doing it. OKay? Thanks!(: (link)
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Well, it is true. If it's done frequently it can be considered a form of anorexia. You will lose weight, but your body will also feel weak. I only know all of this because I have done it before. I don't exactly encourage it, so please just be careful okay? If you lose too much weight too quickly your parents might forcefully hospitalize you. :/
Take care
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the story about how if there are only one set of footprints in the sand, its not that youre alone but its god carrying you is stuck in my heart, because ive been through a lot in life and i definitely was carried through some of it.
anyways, im an okay artist, so i wanna design it myself. i just need some help on figurin out how to draw what i want. i need to find a good way to make it look like my skin is the color of the sand, and the footprints in the sand arent just black but look like they are actually in the sand. plus, i dont want it an eagle eye view but kinda a view from up high but to the side.
plus, what kind of font would look go with this ?
i want to get the lyrics:
"She said, 'Help me, Lord, Help me' and she looked up to the sky, and she heard a voice reply, "When you cry, I cry. I cry along with you. When you smile, I smile. I smile along with you."
is that to many words you think?
also if anyone could find pictures that could help me draw this thatd be awesome.
THANKS !
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Hey.
I really like your tattoo idea. I got a really good mental image of what it would look like. I think there may be too many words though. Maybe you could just put the part
"When you cry, I cry. I cry along with you. When you smile, I smile. I smile along with you."
I think this is the most important part anyways.
Or you could put
Help me, Lord, Help me.
Lord: "When you cry, I cry. I cry along with you. When you smile, I smile. I smile along with you."
Or you can put the whole quote. I just thought simple is better, you know? Well good luck with the image! Here is one I found.
http://www.kinder-garden.net/images/j0433086.jpg
:)
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i seriously think i'm starting to get depression. the last few months have been insane. my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me (his love faded?), my friends never invite me out anymore and when they do they're using me for a ride or something, i never get invited anywhere anymore, when i try to make plans with people they ALWAYS bail on me or never even call/text me back....and the thing that sucks the most is that i didn't even do anything, to anyone. i'm a genuinely nice person and it sucks to know that noone likes and respects you. i'm up every night crying and i just don't know what to do anymore...i'm not going to kill myself but i don't see the point in living if it just makes you cry every single day. (link)
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Hey.
I can relate very much. Especially with the thing about the boyfriend. Sometimes it really gets to me that he fell out of love with me. And for a while I did take it as a personal attack on me and I started taking out the anger I felt on myself. I know that right now at a time like this what you really need is a friend to be there to cheer you up and to just listen to how you are feeling. But what you also need is to realize that this is just going to last a short while. Eventually you meet new people, you become more positive, and life just shifts around in general. I'm sure there was a time when you felt happier and believe me that this time will come again.
Thinking back to those nights when I wanted nothing more than to end my life, I remember feeling that there was just no way around this. But the next few days after I could have died, life didn't seem so bad anymore. All it took was one good day for me to realize that there genuinely is so much to live for. I mean, one relationship ends, the one that you felt could have been the one, and it leaves you thinking that the world is cruel. But remember how you felt when that relationship started? Remember that innocent joy? You will feel that feeling again. You definitely without a doubt will feel it.
Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Life is really bumpy and sometimes there isn't anything to do but cry. But you have to allow yourself to hope for a better tomorrow. When I have lacked friends, I have gotten closer to my family and found hobbies. When my boyfriend broke up with me I decided that I would dress up beautifully every day for the rest of my life. Ever since then I have made an effort to look my best and actually feel beautiful. My self esteem hit a real low recently and I thought that it was really then end. But it wasn't.
I don't know how old you are but I have a feeling you are pretty young. I know right now it seems more logical to feel like crying, but simply smiling helps make you feel better. You should watch some funny movies, hang out with your parents, reconnect with people you haven't talked to in a while, meet new people, join a club, and just make an effort to change this life that you feel so sad in. We can't control everything in life, but we can control our actions and how we deal with our pain. I really hope that you find happier days soon. Take care, and happy new year.
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So me and my high school sweetheart broke up my freshman year in college but have always remained friends its been about seven years since we were last together he came in town to visit his brother for christmas and I saw him and we kissed and now all these old feelings have came rushing back to me we spent our time together laughing and remembering old times he keep looking in my eyes and kissing my forehead and were holding each other but didn't have sex do u think he still loves me because I really miss him (link)
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Hey.
Well I can't say for sure that he loves you, but it does sound like he still has feelings for you :). You should talk it over with him and see where the two of you stand.
Also, think back to the reason the two of you broke up. Is that reason still going to be an issue?
I really wish you good luck with this and I hope that something really sweet can come out of it :). Happy new year!
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I just had a baby, and over my pregnancy my thighs got huge! Now that I've had the baby, I've lost very little thigh weight. What are some ways that I can slim down my thighs? And how long/many do you have to do, etc?
Thank you! (link)
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RUN RUN RUN RUN
Preferably run uphill. It is a great work out for the legs and will build some nice, toned, muscular legs ;)
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i know this may sound dumb but what does spooning mean (link)
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I like how you titled your question "I have a question". It made me laugh :).
Spooning is when you hug someone from behind. I guess you could say it is a form of cuddling. I found a cute link of bears that are spooning.
http://www.comedyskills.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/6a00d83451fac469e200e54f6e20758833-500wi.jpg
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how long do you think i'll live if i stop eating and drinking period, and what would i feel like? (link)
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Do you want to die? I don't think starving is the best way to go. Have you ever been really hungry? It is a stinging pain in your stomach. It hurts more and more as you get hungrier and you begin to lose energy. Eventually you begin to feel faint. Eventually you will faint. You can only last so long without liquids. Your body will dehydrate and without food you will lose weight rapidly and become emaciated. I would give it a couple of weeks at most. And, obviously people will notice.
You know, life is really horrible sometimes. I don't mean to say that to make you feel worse or anything. I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice about suicide because sometimes I feel the same way. But if you die now, then you will never know what great things could have come for you. The reason I don't think I would ever commit suicide is because I will have forever to be dead. But I'll never have another chance to be alive. We all die either way. But I think as long as we are able to be alive, we should do it. Whatever you are going through must be really painful for you to be feeling this way. But I think that whatever it is, if you don't think it can go away, then maybe you need to get away from it. Just think about it. I think there is a happy future for both of us someday. I hope you don't give up yet.
Take care.
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