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depressed...?
i seriously think i'm starting to get depression. the last few months have been insane. my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me (his love faded?), my friends never invite me out anymore and when they do they're using me for a ride or something, i never get invited anywhere anymore, when i try to make plans with people they ALWAYS bail on me or never even call/text me back....and the thing that sucks the most is that i didn't even do anything, to anyone. i'm a genuinely nice person and it sucks to know that noone likes and respects you. i'm up every night crying and i just don't know what to do anymore...i'm not going to kill myself but i don't see the point in living if it just makes you cry every single day.
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first of all, I am an old mother with lots of kids so I have heard it all- you are so NORMAL it's almost funny. but it's not. You are lonely and tired of it all. My advice for you...empower yourself. I really think that when you are depressed and lonely and sad that people can tell even if you hide it and they don't want to be around that. Take up karate or some kind of lessons that make you strong. you will meet new people, get stronger and show more confididence. make yourself someone YOU would want to hang out with. Remember that even if you are alone,your in good company.Get strong,hold your head up and take charge of how people treat you. You need an advantage on everyone else- Get a cool job or something where they have to know you. Most of all like yourself. maybe your depressed with yourself that you wasted so much of your time with people that didn't deserve you. Show everyone that THEY screwed up by ignoring you. Time to get to work on you. You cannot change them.
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Hey.
I can relate very much. Especially with the thing about the boyfriend. Sometimes it really gets to me that he fell out of love with me. And for a while I did take it as a personal attack on me and I started taking out the anger I felt on myself. I know that right now at a time like this what you really need is a friend to be there to cheer you up and to just listen to how you are feeling. But what you also need is to realize that this is just going to last a short while. Eventually you meet new people, you become more positive, and life just shifts around in general. I'm sure there was a time when you felt happier and believe me that this time will come again.
Thinking back to those nights when I wanted nothing more than to end my life, I remember feeling that there was just no way around this. But the next few days after I could have died, life didn't seem so bad anymore. All it took was one good day for me to realize that there genuinely is so much to live for. I mean, one relationship ends, the one that you felt could have been the one, and it leaves you thinking that the world is cruel. But remember how you felt when that relationship started? Remember that innocent joy? You will feel that feeling again. You definitely without a doubt will feel it.
Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Life is really bumpy and sometimes there isn't anything to do but cry. But you have to allow yourself to hope for a better tomorrow. When I have lacked friends, I have gotten closer to my family and found hobbies. When my boyfriend broke up with me I decided that I would dress up beautifully every day for the rest of my life. Ever since then I have made an effort to look my best and actually feel beautiful. My self esteem hit a real low recently and I thought that it was really then end. But it wasn't.
I don't know how old you are but I have a feeling you are pretty young. I know right now it seems more logical to feel like crying, but simply smiling helps make you feel better. You should watch some funny movies, hang out with your parents, reconnect with people you haven't talked to in a while, meet new people, join a club, and just make an effort to change this life that you feel so sad in. We can't control everything in life, but we can control our actions and how we deal with our pain. I really hope that you find happier days soon. Take care, and happy new year.
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Wow. Sounds like you've got a load on you. My advice; Let it out girl. Don't keep your emotions inside or things will just get worse. Talk to your friends and ask them whats up. And that boyfriend, move on honey! If his 'love was fading' he wasn't the one. One of my favorite quotes is something I found online and it reads: "Nobody is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry." If he was your #1, your perfect guy, your solemate, the jerk wouldn't have acted like he did. I don't really know your situation perfcectly but thats my advice from the point of view you gave me to work with. I hope that helps you out and things get better.
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