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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

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Hey everyone(: I was just wondering if these were some or most of the signs of being in love(:

♥ Always thinking about the person everyday all day?

♥ Always wanting to see him

♥ seeing him puttin a smile on your face and just feeling like you have something to look forward too

♥ One time when I was feeling sick like I was going to throw up I looked at pictures of him and thought about him then I felt better!

♥ always wanting to hear or see things that remind me of him

ok so out of that would you say someones in love? thanks!(:

love feels different for everyone, but yes, these are signs of being in love.
youre always looking for him in everyone you meet.. you just look for him everywhere [not literally, just personality wise or even the way he makes you feel]
so yes, again, this is some signs among the very many signs there are, of being in love.
hope i helped ! xxo.

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Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m

me and my boyfriend were fooling around last night, im a virgin and im about as innocent as they get...meaning before last night i hadnt even had a guy finger me or anything. The furtherest id ever been before my boyfriend was kissing.

The thing is last night, he put one of his fingers inside me, it was VERY painful. Im very tight down there and we are both aware its going to take a couple of tries and getting used to for the pain to go away. However, what i want to know is why i felt like i had to go to the toilet the entire time he was touching me down there. Is that normal?

im 18 too, and im just as innocent as you. haha. so i know how you feel.
but it seems like youre just nervous and tense about the whole situation, which is totally normal. its going to hurt because youre obviously apprehensive about it and you arent used to having somone else's fingers in your vagina. since you and your boyfriend know this, its going to take some time, but dont be afraid to tell him when somethings not comfrotable for you :] its better that he knows, so he can help you relax.
you also probably feel like you need to pee because hes hitting your g-spot. [which the other advicenators explained to you]
everything that is happening to you is normal. dont worry :] just have fun. relax. dont do anything you dont want to and communicate with your boyfriend. youll be fine !
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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if you get a girl on your lap and you get a boner and it goes up her butt considered sex

no.
that would be like saying that grinding on the dance floor would be having sex..
its not sex, dont worry.
unless you guys both had clothes off, and your boner went really far into her butt... then yeah, it would be considered having anal sex, but it sounds like your fine.
xxo.

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my gf wants to suck my penis &want to drink sperms will she get pregnant

no, giving you a blowjob will not get your girlfriend pregnant. nor will swallowing your sperm get her gregnant.
but just be safe, and if things go father, wear a condom.
hope i helped, xxo.

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hi guys i need some help i bought a black couch with silver and black cushions on it but i cant seem 2 think of wat colour paint would go with my couch my sitting room is medium sized with good light comin in any ideas would really be taken on board. thank you.

that sounds cute !
a red would look really good, and it would compliment the couch/pillows nicely.
you could also do a plain white wall.
gray walls.. something like this:
http://www.thelennoxx.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/gray-black-white-and-yellow-chic-modern-living-room-with-zebra-print-armchairs-yellow-sofa-crocodile-skin-ottoman-coffee-table.jpg

any splash of color would look good.. even if you painted one wall a different color like green or something, right behind the couch and the other walls white.. it would look good. anything goes :] except for blue and brown.
good luck ! have fun, and i hope i helped. xxo.

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Me and my boyfriend of 6 years have not had our first kiss. The we have dun is hug and hold hands. I really do love him and want to kiss. What should I do.

whoa.. 6 years ? good for you :]
have you talked to him about it ? maybe if you tell him that you wanna kiss him, he'll feel the same way and itll happen :] but if you dont want to ask him about it, you could just go for it. stare into his eyes when youre both alone, lean in, pucker up, and kiss him.
BUT. you could also start off by kissing his cheek, to see how he reacts and then go from there.
good luck ! have fun, dont be scared.. just go with the flow. i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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Ok...So last friday there was this pool party at my friend esmereldas house...&& i noticed my boyfriend Julio, && my best friend go into the bathroom together...I heard screaming && moaning...so i slammed the door open...Then i seen them havin sex...&& i started cryin' But then my bf said "Hey bbi yu wanna join" I said "Fuck yu"...&& Ran off...My bestie told me she waz sryy...But i still hate her..&& Julio.!!>:(( Wht do i do.?!! Please please help me.! :'(

dump him.
and forget her.
if she was so sorry and really your best friend, she wouldnt have been having sex with him in the first place. and if he loved you, he wouldnt have even THOUGHT about doing that, especially with your "best friend."
people make mistakes, yeah, but this was intentional. and he is an asshole.
move on.
im so sorry this happened to you :[ :/ feel better. youll find someone else soooo much better, i promise. and for your friend ? dont even talk to her, neither of them deserve you. youre too good for them.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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a few days ago i got fingered for the first time by my friend with benefits, and it hurt!.
but after that, i went to the washroom and this red-ish/brown discharge came out. did my hymen break or is it an infection?

He might have cut you with his fingernails if he didnt trim them, and even if he did, it could still be sharp enough to leave a cut.
but, he could have also broken your hymen.. depending on what exactly happened when he fingered you.
i highly doubt its an ifection. does it hurt? does it hurt to go to the bathroom? do you have any other symptoms?
if not, im pretty sure youre fine, but if youre really worried about it, take a trip to your doctor or gyno to ease your mind :]
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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how do a raise the bar with my girlfriend, how do we get to the next level.

you could start by talking to her to see if SHE also wants to "raise the bar" and "go to the next level" with you.
she has to be comfortable as well as you with whatever you have in mind.
communication is key.
after you talk to her, youll know. dont be afraid to speak up :] girls WANT you to. trust me.
good luck, have fun, be safe and i hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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I've had the same hair style for years now, and I'm looking for a way to spice it up.

Here's a (kinda bad) picture of me.

I have long auburn hair that is naturally slightly wavy and straigthens/holds curl pretty well. I have long layers and long side bangs.

Any ideas?

I've considered blonde highlights for summer, do you think this would look good on me?

I'm not sure if I want to go short, but I really love this hairstyle. Do you think I could pull it off?


I appreciate any advice or tips! Thanks!

i love your hair how it is, but i think that blonde would suit you really well.
i wouldnt go bleach blonde, but i would definitely try some sort of honey blonde.
the picture you have of jennifer aniston is so cute and i could totally see you pulling it off. i like the shortness of the hair, it would compliment the sjape of your face nicely.
a color like this would look really good:
http://img2.timeinc.net/instyle/images/2007/galleries/102907_witherspoon_400x400.jpg

or even..
http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/cm/goodhousekeeping/images/Reese-Witherspoon-Layers-fb-34249808.jpg

a hairstyle like this could also look really good on you:
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ASgnobAgJDA/TaAqq8Sk-GI/AAAAAAAAAMQ/dhVUrhszcQI/s1600/Kelly%2BClarkson%2BMedium%2BHairstyles.jpg

good luck ! youll look great ! hope i helped and have fun, xxo.

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a year or to ago i was sleep at my gf house ex gf now and while i was sleeping she thought it would be funny to use a stun gun on my ball jeez it hurt so so bad. weird thing is my penis works fine and i cum but the girl ive been with for 15 months now i have never once used a condom or pulled out cause she like my cum and ive done her on the day of her period and during after and every other time and ive never got her pego i went to doc she said i have a 1-2 % chance but dose that ????? mean im broken for good/ sterlie for rest of my life ??????

you should ALWAYS be wearing a condom, no matter what. it helps to protect against STD's [sexually transmitted diseases] and it prevents pregnancy, but its not 100% accurate because it can break or even slip off, although, its better than nothing.
and no, today there is so much technology and doctors to help you get your girlfriend pregnant. theres always a chance.
no. youre not broken for good.
no. youre not sterile for life.
i think youre just getting lucky. but seriously, use protection. unless BOTH of you want to get pregnant and are both READY for the responsibility of having a child, then you can try. but until then, no glove = no love.
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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here is the situation me and my girlfriend having oral, i had pre ejaculation outside vagina but i have just touched my penis to outside of her vagina , we both are virgin,can she be pregnant with that

yes.
its VERY possible.
you need to get yourself to a store and invest in a plan B and get a prgnancy test.
pre-ejaculation CAN get a girl pregnant. unless you arent having sex or being sexually active, then there is always a chance your girlfriend can get pregnant.
no glove, no love. thats it.
good luck, xxo.

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I've known this girl for almost a year and she's such an important part of my life, she's my best friend, my lover, the girl I've always wanted. We became close very quickly over the summer and started to take it a step further once school started. Things were kinda rocky because she had a boyfriend who was a total ass but it took her awhile to break up with. She did eventually break up with him and so we officially started talking about a relationship. At that time I was 17 almost 18 and she was 15 almost 16. The only main concern was her parents accepting our relationship because I'm black and she's white so her parents told us to take it easy for awhile. Well things were really good until all of a sudden one day she tells me she likes being single more and doesn't feel like she's ready for a relationship. Usually I'm understanding but I've had this happen to me numerous times and this time was it so I got pissed and we got into a fight. Things sort of cooled down and we made up. About a week later she tells me to come to a bball game to hang with her so I go. I get there, we hug, talk, etc and then this guy comes and sits in front of her and lays back into her lap. At this point I'm hurting but trying to hide, everyone including her could see it. She asks if I'm mad and I just say I'm upset, we hug and talk for a bit and then I leave. She texts me and tells me she still likes me and I can't really remember the rest. So again things cool down, everything is normal and then she tells me she's going to a party with drinking at smoking. Once again I'm pissed because I'm straight edge and she herself said all that stuff was stupid. The day after that we get into a fight a huge fight and pretty much say we're done with each other. 2 days later she texts me saying she needs me more than anything she's ever needed before. The same goes for me because. I can't live without this girl. We have a moment, make up, but things didn't really get better. The more she partied, the less I saw her, the more we fought. She had pretty much changed from who she was and I told her that numerous times. I then find out she's talking to some other guy and he's pretty much the opposite of me, pothead, got in a wreck recently, etc... Then two weeks later the guy breaks it off with her and she's crushed. I tell I'm sorry but also tell her that she pretty much did the same to me and I've been hurting everyday since then. She tells me she loves and can't live without me. Let me add this, before she started acting out whatever she said to me like making promises, saying she can't live without me, she backed all that stuff up but as she started changing she stopped proving herself to me. So after that thing are ok, not great or better just ok. Whenever she'd tell me about a guy she'd say they're just friends I guess so I won't freak or maybe because she still has feelings. She still has flashes of her old self(who she really is), she recently said she's never smoking again because she had an epiphany but says she likes drinking too much to stop. She is the only person that has figured me out and I know she cares about me dearly but her current lifestyle has clouded all that. I told everything what she used to be and she said she wants to be that person again so bad and so do I. I know she still has feelings for me, she's coming to my graduation, she shows she still has the things I've given her. We don't talk as much as we used to which was all day everyday. I honestly, sincerely, cannot see myself with anyone else, even though I'm going to college I still want her around and she hates I'm going to college I just know, no matter how much she says she only wants to be friends, I just know she still has feelings for me and I won't give up until she finally realizes it. So what is your take on this? Is this a phase that she will grow out of and come running back to me?

in all honesty, i think you WANT it to be a phase she will grow out of and then come running back to you. kind of like a storybook ending or even a happily ever after, but life isnt always like that.
from what youve told me, and i rad every word you wrote... this isnt a phase, its a pattern. people change. its life. and shes a lot younger than you. it might not seem like a big age difference, but it is. youve been getting more mature, youre going to be going to college and living in the real world, but shes not. she is still, in a sense, innocent and wild.. you might be the best person in the world for her, but thats not what she wants right now. what she wants is a bad boy.. someone who is rebellious, just like she is.
BUT. she comes back to you, asking you to hang out and telling you that she wants to go back to the way it was before because you are her rock. you are her safe haven. she knows that youre going to be there for her no matter what, and she always seems to go back to you when she messes up or another one of her bad boys breaks her heart. and no matter how much you want her to change, she wont.. for right now. im not saying she never will, but for the next couple years, she might stay like this.
i know youre hung up on her, and she means alot to you.. but youre holding onto the OLD her, and she doesnt want to be the old her anymore. shes having fun now. she believes that she is having the time of her life being wreckless, but always having you to fall back on. and while she may still have feelings for you, they are not strong enough for her to change her ways.. and if they were really that strong to begin with, she wouldnt have just up and left you or even hooked up with other guys.
when she is with other guys, telling you that she still loves you, what do you think shes telling the guys ? she probably doesnt mention you at all, and if she does mention you, she is telling them that you mean nothing to her. [i know, it sucks and thats hard to hear, but guys wouldnt be with her if it wasnt true]
you need to stop hoping shell go back, because this pattern has been going on for a while and its not fair to you. i wish i could tell you what you want to hear, but i cant. she left you because she likes being single. thats where the real her and her age difference shows. if she didnt care enough about you then to stay with you, she doesnt care at all now.. even though she might say it to you.
she just wants you around to pick up her pieces when she feels low. she wants you there to tell her shes beautiful and awesome and how any guy would be lucky to have her. she wants you to chase her and follow her and lust after her because it makes her feel better when her world comes crashing down on her, or another boy breaks her heart. youre there for HER needs, not yours.
think about it: what has she done for you ? throghout this entire question, all i see is this entire thing being about her, and what you do for her, but not the other way around.
youve got to remember that youre going to college. you want her now because youre not giving any other girl a chance. shes not the only fish in the sea. you deserve better. you need to give up. if you give up and youre not there for her anymore, theres a chance she'll realize what she had when youre gone and actually change. but even that seems far-fetached from what youve told me because shes having the time of her life, without you.
i dont want to be harsh, but i want you to realize that this isnt healthy for you; its not fair, its not right, its not okay and you most definitely do NOT deserve this treatment.
yes, youll never forget her, but you will move on, you just have to let someone else move in.
dont see what you want to see, dont hope for the best.. see what is really there, who she really is right now, and let the past be the past. maybe in the future you can be together, but right now.. its most likely not going to happen. im really sorry :[
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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I am 14 years old. I know for a fact i am not pregnant because i have never had sex before. I have missed my period the last 3 months. The longest ive ever missed it was 2 months. I have been stressed out latley and i do get nervouse when it does not come around. Could it be that i will never get it again and somethings wrong with me? i would rather not go to the doctor, i am very shy and do not like to talk about these things. Also the last time i got my period was the first time i used a tampon. Someone please help.

dont stress ! hahaa. youre only 14.. your periods WILL be irregular.
and since youre not sexualy active, then yeah, youre fine.
stress and nervousness and all of those emotions, plsu your hormones can quicken or delay your period, sometimes for days, weeks, or even months at a time.
it will come, dont worry.
using a tampon has nothing to do with you not getting your period, so dont worry about that either. its just irregular. no worries.
but if you dont get it in the next few months, go see a doctor and tell your mom so you can get checked out. but right now, try not to think about it :] youre fine.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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do girls down there smell weird..............? mine does! and i want my boyfriend to finger me, but im afraid. and what about the hair down there too?? i trim it and try to shave it all off, but theres always some prickly hairs and stuff. help me!

by saying "down there" im assuming you mean youre vagina.
assuming this, then yes, all girls smell down there. ALL GIRLS. i dont care what you read or what you hear, there is always some sort of smell, however, everyone's "sent" is different/unique.
it could smell like:
- body odor
- fish
- sour milk
- musky-ish
and your hair.. well. unless you get a wax, its going to be prickly, and your boyfriend is just going to have to deal with it. sometimes when you shave you might miss a spot or something, but its not the end of the world. most boys like it clean shaven or trimmed, so as long as you dont have a bush down there, youre fine.
by the way, if youre afraid to do something, dont do it ! you need to be comfortable before you do anything !
good luck ! hope i helped ! xxo.

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i asked the question early how make my girl friend believe she is gorgouse now she dosent believe anything i say she says i miss lead her and lied to her about being pretty now she wont even say she loves me back and just says sure you do. what can this mean and i dont know what to do anymore no matter how good i treat her or the ruby and dimand necklace and bracelet i buy her or all the sweet things i do for her she acts like there nothing to her one day this all happened and now it wiped out the 15 months of happyness we shared togather. is it just her saying she is mad or could it be she dosent want me no more. i need help and advice she means so so much to me. i dont wanna lose her at all.

have you ever thought that maybe she doesnt want to be with you anymore ?
... i know that sucks to think about :/ but youre trying so hard with her, and shes not appreciating anything you do. it sounds to me like she is very materialistic and wants attention.. she obviously loves that you are showering her with gifts and such to make her believe that she is beautiful, but honestly, i feel like she is just using you.
and i know youre not going to listen to me because she means a lot to you and you dont want to lose her, but if you did this for another girl, she would be swept off her feet. you sound like such a great guy and a charming one :] but you dont need to waste that on her.
youve done all you can. and now you have to tell her how YOU feel.. tell her what you told me.. you dont think she wants to be with you anymore.
communication is key, but you have to be open and honest with her, and when you talk to her, you need to say that you wont get upset if she doesnt want to be with you anymore [even though, if she says she doesnt want to be with you, of course youll be upset]
trust me.. when a girl stops trying and always makes you feel like you do now, its time to let her go.
good luck ! hope i helped. xxo.

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I want to get a robo dwarf hamster but i dont know wat to name it. i need boy girl and both names.Please and thank you. =o :)

i had a boy and a girl dwarf hampster ! their names were squeaky and nibbles.

some names for a girl:
- binky
- bitty
- daisy
- peach
- peaches
- princess
- belle
- anabelle
- buttercup
- fluffy
- ginger
- sprite
- lulu

some names for a boy:
- chippy
- dusty
- hammy
- muddy
- jimbo
- midnight
- mozart
- paws
- puffy
- waffle
- marble
- whiskers
- duke
- winston

some names for a combination [boy and girl]:
- salt and pepper
- cookie and cream
- sprinkle and sparkle
- cinnamon and sugar
- pb and jay
- peanut butter and jelly
- peanut and butter
- coke and pepsi
- chocolate and chip
- romeo and juliet
- teddy and roosevelt

hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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Im a guy, me and my gf were making out yesterday and everything was good. She is really hot, and has a tight body, and she always tells me that i make her feel good. But she only says in an emotional kind of way. How can i make her feel good physically? I usually stroke my fingers on the inside of her legs, but she doesnt get too aroused. What are some things to try that she will love?

well. heres some thing you can try:
- kissing her neck.
- rubbing her back.
- playing with her hair.
- making out with her.
- feel her up [her boobs].
- go farther..
honestly, what you have to do is communicate with her. ask her what she wants to do, what she likes, and if shes okay with what youre doing. it will all go from there.
but communication is key. if shes not comfortable with something, dont do it.
good luck ! hope i helped. xxo.

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So I was making out with my boyfriend on my bed, we were all clos and everything. A felt his bonerthrough his pants on my stomach. He started to kinda slowly pelvic thrust but was trying to make it not so noticeable .. I think. As he started doing this, we were still making out, and he was breathing heavily and kinda let out a moanish like little squeal (it was quiet and went with his breathing) why was he doing this?

Oh. And he was also grabbing my boob at the time.

he was getting turned on.
and by humping you, it gave him the sensation of having sex.
and it obviously felt really good for him, which is why he was moaning.
if he didnt like what was going on, he wouldnt have faked all of that haha.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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I have been trying to get my girl friend to admitt she is pretty she is gorgouse and alot of guys hit on her. And tell her she is pretty but still she calls her self ugly and unattractive i tell her how pretty she is everyday. And she is saying i misslead her into believing she is pretty idont know what to do ??????

a lot of girls are insecure about themselves.. just look at what people think is beauty these days. flip through any magazine, and youll see why girls dont feel as pretty as we should because of someone elses idea of gorgeous.
even guys get insecure !
you just need to try to boost her confidence. when she tells you that shes ugly and anattractive, tell her ALL of the reasons why she is beautiful to YOU. remind her of all the qualties that are so attractive to you.. maybe its her eyes, or her smile, or her hair.. or all of the above. but be specific ! and dont forget to tell her that shes crazy for thinking this and that she needs to look in a mirror or see herself through your eyes, because shes beautiful to you.
its going ot take some time... if shes really insecure about herself, a lof sweet talk is gonna come in handy :] time is key.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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