Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
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I am 20. When I was almost 15, I was a bridesmaid in my only sister's wedding. I didn't really want to be, as my sister and I don't get along, but she wanted me in her wedding because it's "traditional" to have your sister as a bridesmaid. As a bridesmaid, I was outfitted with a butt-ugly uncomfortable dress to wear. After the ceremony was over, I promptly gave it to Goodwill.
Periodically since then, my sister has asked for the dress back, claiming she wants to borrow it herself or loan it to a friend. I have never had the nerve to tell her what I did with the dress and have always claimed I "lost" it. The question came up again recently and my sister kind of exploded and demanded to know how the dress could have been "lost" for nearly six years. She actually went to my room and began digging through my dresser drawers and closet (without my permission), trying to find the dress. I told my mother about it all later and confessed what had really happend to the dress and she was horrified that I had given it away.
This is really a two-prong question:
1. Was it wrong for me to give away the dress? I was under the impression that it was mine to do as I liked with -- no one indicated that it was only on loan -- and I had no use for it. I always give away possessions I don't want anymore, it was not a reflection on my sister or her wedding.
2. Should I, after all this time, finally tell my sister what I did with the dress? I believe she suspects the truth by now anyway. (link)
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Your sister sounds like a snot and only asking for this 6 yr old dress to bother you in the first place. Yes, the dress was yours to keep or do whatever you wanted with.
Tell her that it was your dress to do whatever you wanted with, you had it in the closet for a year or so and then donated it to goodwill as it did not suit you for any other occasions.
If she keeps harping about it, say the exact same thing. Let her crab some more and repeat the exact same thing. There's something else up here for her to be such a B over a 6 yr old bridesmaid dress!
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Okay, this might be a question people get asked alot but, I was goin out with the perfect boy. I really loved him alot and he told me he did too. We were together 6 months and then one week he didnt talk to me much. He had my best friend dump me for him then he went to her and asked her out. She called herself my best friend but she said yes. Isnt there some "girl code" thing that says "dont go out with your best friends ex boyfriend"?? I love them both and its hard to be mad at her but what she did hurt me. I tryed talking to her about it but she just yelled at me. What do i do? (link)
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If your so-called best friend really knows how much you liked him and that you were so hurt by the break up then she should never, ever gone out with him! If it was a guy that you were like... eh, whatever over, then he's fair game. That rule has applied to all my best girl friends through my whole life!
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*****I RATE HIGH*****
Hello,
I am a 13 year old girl. I have a Best Friend of 8 years. I love her to death, but she gets mad at me for no reason sometimes. She'll get mad at me, and make me upset in the beginning of the day, and then will talk to other girls about me during the day, then the next morning will act like she didnt do anything to me. Although I am soo hurt inside, and I feel like crumbling up and dieing. She does this constantly. I always try to tell her how I feel about all this but she always yells at me and gets more angry at me. She doesn't know how to except my feelings. She always talks about herself too. Every word from her mouth is about HER HER HER! Everytime I bring something about me, and my life, she immediately changes the subject.
How can I fix this problem, without loosing one of my BEST FRIENDS?
from:
sam
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It's not a fixable problem. She's not one of your best friends - because a true best friend would never, ever, ever do that to you.
I know, because I had a friend exactly like that and I put up with it from age 12 to 29!! She always had to be in front, had dated every guy I ever dated in HS and would tell people stupid embarrassing stories about me, to make me look dumb and her look "cool."
Ultimately she is jealous of you and true friends aren't like that either! I know you think our ages are so different, but girls go through lots of the same issues. I finally said I didn't want to talk to her anymore... and closed that chapter. The thing that brought it to a complete finish? She was totally upset that SHE wasn't the center of attention at MY husbands funeral.
Lose this "friend" now or deal with it for another 10 years... the end result will be the same.
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This is kinda long so I have no idea if anyone will read it. Well I guess I'll start when me and my ex went out. I liked her all through 9th grade but I had just started going out with this girl when my ex dumped her bf and told people she liked me. I won't get into my first relationship, but skip over to the last month of summer. I had broken up with the girl I was seeing at the end of 9th grade. I was still depressed over it. Then one day I was sitting on the computer and started to talk to Jeneen(my future ex). I remembered how much I liked her and asked if she wanted to come over sometime. And to my surprise she said yes. She came over and it was a little awkward until she was standing in my living room completely glued to the tv. I stood up, grabbed her hips, and pulled her towards me and kissed her. Haha she didn't even turn around until the least second. Then from the rest of the day on, just non stop kissing. I stopped to look her in the eye and asked, "So it's safe to say you like me?" She said, "I don't know. Do you like me?" I said, "Yeah of course." She said, "I like you too." Then I asked her out and we were going out. I won't get into detail about things that happend when we were going, but things were perfect.(to me they are at least) We both loved each other in no time and spent so much time together. She gave her virginity to me. But then she was acting strange the least week we were together. She was kind of distant, and she kept talking about this girl we both knew and saying how she told her she liked me and felt so sad. I was like and you're gonna dump me to make her feel better!? Then it happend. I was over my friends when she did it online. I was mad and kept saying whatever and her friend IMed me and said I was being a jerk. So much happend after we broke up, but I'll make it as short as possible. I was acting crazy when we broke up. I wrote her a note asking her back out, and she wrote one back saying sorry and we should wait. I didn't want to wait though. I asked her to hang out and she said yes, but ditched me twice. Then one day she was finally on my bus so I of course sat with her and asked if we were hanging out today. She said she felt sick. I acted mad and guilted her to come over. It was awkward until I got up in my living room and hugged her as hard as I could. We went back into my bedroom and it was like we never broke up so I asked her back out. She surprisingly said no. I was shocked and I broke down and cried in front of her. She hugged me and kept kissing me. Then she went home. She ditched me 6 more times after that day. It was also the last day we ever kissed. After around a 1 1/2 months of being broken up I then got involved with her bestfriend behind her back. During the 1 1/2 months I was a wreck. I called her all the time to like negotiate going back out. She told me she still loved me which then turned to I Still like you which turned to I dont know if I still like you. So I got involved with her friend who was so nice to me. I didn't do it for revenge. I just needed someone to replace jeneen. Jeneen found out and a huge thing was made out of it. She completely changed her tune. "You never loved me! You're the biggest ****" and blah blah blah. So things fell through with her friend after a few weeks. I immediatly realized I still liked my ex. We were friends at this point so I called her with intention on telling her. She was out with friends when I called her. I told her and she was like, "Oh well if you want you can call me when I'm home." I got to say I didn't mind that answer. So 2 hours later I signed online and she IMs me saying how she made out with this senior kid. I called her and was like you can't be serious. Turns out she had been drinking. The next morning when I checked my away message I had 10 IMs from her telling me how sorry she was. We talked and I asked if she still liked me and she said, "I don't know." So I asked her to hang out way too much and called her too much. Her friend(the one I was with) yelled at me. "Why do you act like she likes you!? SHE DOESN'T" I already knew she didn't, but I was trying to make her like me. We hung out once after a wicked long time of asking. She brought another friend when I made it clear I wanted to chill alone. I even tried to kiss her that night, but she just sat there. This happend around the end of january. Needless to say the night didn't go as planned. So back to present. It's been six months. I went to parties at jeneen's with my bestfriend paul who was starting to like her friend (the one I was with). So I went, but everytime I watched her gradually get closer to this ugly kid who stayed back named kevin. It killed me because they were soon cuddling and making out, but like an idiot I went every weekend. She is not going out with this kevin kid officially. I sent her a long note telling her how much I still loved her, I couldnt stand the thought of her with someone else, I just want her to be happy so be happy with whatever she does, to be with kevin if it makes her happy, and I have to distance myself from her. She told me she got it and it was very nice and thank you. I said theres nothing to thank I just wanted to say it. She said, "Well it was really nice and I liked it so thank you." I said welcome and then she asked how I was doing. I lied and said alright and she said she was glad. I havn't talked to her since. Been about a week. I still love her so much. Everyone tells me that the kevin kid a geek and that it will NEVER last, but I have trouble believing them. I see them in the halls all the time and they don't seem to be a good couple, but I also saw how they were out of school... She's also in my gym class. Today was our first day and I steered clear of her. I have no clue as what to do. I love her and she now knows. I feel a little better with each passing day, but then theres days I feel terrible. What should I do? Maybe just suggestion or ideas? I still love her so much and having little interest in anyone else around me. Please help in any way possible with any kind of advice. (link)
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Girls are psycho and she's playing you big time. She's loving the attention and probably bragging to all her friends that you are in love with her and driving her crazy. It's so good for her ego. She's been giving you just enough to keep you hanging on. What you should do is find another girl you like and totally ignore J. Believe me, if she ever truly cared she will come around really quick. When girls are done with a guy, they are completely done, but they don't want them to go out with anyone else, that's why she's playing this game. If you look around, you will find someone that will treat you a lot better. Someone who truly cares about you would never keep leading you on like this.
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Okay so my boyfriend broke up with me not even a week ago, and we had all these plans for the summer and stuff like go camping, waterfall, etc. but he said we can still do all those things but as friends... I want some quotes that kinda tell him that hes going to miss what he had.. etc. so does anybody have any quotes that i could put in my profile that has to deal with all these "memories" were supposively going to make i guess im not sure how to word it but just like "oh your going to miss me sooner or later" or some quotes about doing things together in the summer as "just friends" please i'll rate 5's!! (link)
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Don't give him the quotes! You've broken up and he says you can still do all the things as friends? What happens next month when he gets a new gf? Is he still going to take you as friends? I bet you had a great time when you were with him, but men are jerks and he's just saying you'll still go to keep you happy. Ask him if you can bring your new bf!
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okay i just went to the doctors to get a perscription birth control and she told me take it the sunday that your period starts, i feel the breast tenderness and i feel like im going to have one, but i dont kno if its the sign of pregnancy, what do u think? (link)
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With "Sunday start" pills you are supposed to start the Sunday AFTER your period has started. Say it starts on Weds... start a new pack on Sunday. Eventually, when your body gets used to the cycle... you'll always start them on a Sunday and end the 3 weeks on a Saturday... then you'll get your period just a few days after you stop... go through the period week and start a new pack on Sunday.
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I fell lost. Dont know how to start a new life alone. I do not have any skills not good at really anything. My heart is broken. What can I do too make it stop and find a direction? (link)
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You sound so sad.... but you want to be happy again. Force yourself to get up everyday and do the things you absolutely have to, then add in a few things that you want to do. You will be happy again, but it will take time.
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HERE ARE THE FACTS:
I lived with my companion for over 20 years. The home we shared for most of that time was purchased for $200,000. The market value is approximately $600,000. The balance on the mortgage is about $155,000. During our time together, he paid the mortgage and utilities. He also took care of the yard. I paid for all the food, cooked the meals, cleaned the house, took care of all our animals as well as paid for their food. We had 2 dogs and now have 4 cats. This is what we had agreed upon and it was how we shared the expenses.
Recently, he passed away suddenly from a heart attack. Without my knowledge, he had a living trust prepared in which he gave everything to his 25-year-old daughter. However, his daughter told me that when her father was preparing the trust, at his request, she had promised him that she would “take care of me.” These were her own words. She said that she would get me set-up in my own place and make sure I was secure with my new surroundings. She promised me “on her father’s grave”, that she would carry out her promise to her father. Whether or not a monetary figure was discussed, I do not know.
Two of our closest friends recently disclosed to me that prior to his death, my companion had told them he was going to change the trust to include me. Unfortunately, this was never done.
My companion was worth over a million dollars in savings, assets, and property.
My companion’s brother told me that his daughter was planning to give me $20,000.
My question—is this amount fair?
If not, what would be a fair amount?
I am a 55 year old female.
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That doesn't sound "fair" at all! However, if that is what she offers, you should probably accept it gracefully. He should have made sure that you were taken care of and he didn't. You'd be facing a huge legal battle that you probably won't win. Unless you have 20 years worth of receipts, and something in writing that said he wanted you taken care of, you're still looking at a losing battle. I'm so sorry! Obviously you've been his companion for many, many years and at the very least they should sell the house and give you half of the proceeds and half of the furnishings.
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I need some ideas of love songs. like really romantic soppy stuff. Im making a video for my bf. ive got a few so far..
boys 2 men - i swear
celine dion - i want you to need me
but i need a few more ideas can any one help please? nothing rocky thanks :)
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It's Your Love... Tim McGraw
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What are the symptoms of Mono?
Please no websites.
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sorry, i havent' been on here in a long time. the only symptoms i know of is being really tired for weeks. I've never had it.
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Well I have this friend we have been really close for like 3 years now and we tried dating but it never worked out. Well this year he has a gf and it seems as though he really cares about her but then when he talks to me he tells me he loves me and he cares but he doesn't really show it. I miss our old friendship it was really fun before and I know I love him but it's hard when he has a gf and he talks about her but then talks to me like im the only one.I need help how i can get over him or just get him to understand that i dont want to hear anything about her. And I have tried talking . (link)
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He's a guy and after one thing.... he's got a gf, and flirts with you? Would you even want a bf that did that? I'd put money on it, that if you said ok, let's fool around and i'll never tell your gf, he'd do it in a second.
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ok so anyway, i was going out with this guy, and i thought he really cared about me, like everything was going good, and then we broke up cus it was a difficult time in my life and i didnt want a b/f, so we just cooled it and we started talking instantly after the break up and we gained a really close relationship, like a brother-sister one, and then everything in my life was going good and he loved me, and he proved it too, and it was so real,i could just tell that it was real, so anyway we started going out, and then he broke up with me because he said he liked us better as friends because we talked more. but then he started going out with this other girl, and i was reading some questions on here and i found one that he asked not to long before we went out, and it said that he really like this otehr girl and that she was the one for him and he thought he had liked me, and now i dont know what to do, because he could have been lying about ever loving me at all or he could of been telling the truth, but how can i make him see that i really love him, and that i want him back without sounding like some weirdo creep?...
13/f..i'll rate huge (link)
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he sounds kinda like a jerk. He was killing some time with you waiting on the other girl, and/or got her interested in him because he was semi-with you.
You should tell him once and only once, very clearly that you care about him and hope he's always in your life. then walk away like a lady. It's the hardest part, but you said you down't want to be the wierdo creep... anything beyond telling him once will freak him out.
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ok well i was dateing this guy and he ended up joining the army and he told me he loved me and would never ever forget about me well last christmas he came down to see me and he gave me his cell # so i called him a few days ago because i had not talked to him for like 2 weeks and he did not answer so i text him and he text me back and said who is this so i said it was me and he said oh u dose that mean he dose not like me any more because i think i love him and i know he loves or loved me because befor he left he gave me a ring and told me when we get back we would get marryed but now he wont even talk to me what should i do i mean ever since we have not talked i feel like i lost a part of me what should i do (link)
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I'm sorry hon, but he has moved on and doesn't know how to tell you that. I'm sure when he said he loved you, he truly meant it. He's older than you and he's moved into the grown-up working for a living realm. He's experiencing new places and people that are in his age range, in his location, and doing the same things he's doing. You should move on, and just stop calling him.... it's sad, but in the end he will respect you for not being a psycho and chasing him. You will meet someone you like just as much if not more. And if he comes back around, continue to be a "lady" - he may just come back for YOU.
added after your feedback... our age difference doesn't matter at all. Love and relationships are the same whether you are 17 or 39 or 75 and you'll see that. Just because you don't like the advice, doesn't mean it's not good advice. There IS a huge difference with a 17 yr old still living at home and an 18 yr old living in the real adult world!!!
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I've been going out with this guy for about a month and a half, and everytime he's at my house he's messing with my younger sister. He's almsot a year oldger than me and she's over a year younger than me. She likes to aggrivate people espicially when I have someone over. And lately he's been acting the same towards her. He'll get up and chase her around the house until she runs outside then he'll sit back down until she comes in the room again and then he'll get a pillow and smack her with it. It's really starting to get on my nerves, what should I do to make this stop? (link)
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It's semi-nice that he even pays your little sister attention, but the games you describe sound more like he's flirting with her and that's not cool at all. You should tell him that and it makes you uncomfortable. If he's a jerk and is very defensive, then you know you just hit the nail on the head and it's time to dump him - quick! Who wants a guy that will hit on your sister???
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I just want some opinions on this:
Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?
I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.
What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea. (link)
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It's not totally wrong if a guy is just going maybe once a year for a bachelor party or event. If he's going all the time, then there's something wrong. If you pull the jealous act and out and out say NO, you are being wrong.... A good healthy relationship is completely honest and trusting.
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Im a guy, me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up(she broke up with me, said she needed some time off)...anyways its been over 2 months and all I do is think about her, i miss her so much, and even though we still hang out and talk on the phone, i feel alone. I wonder if maybe i should go and date other girls because i seriously can no longer take the emptiness in my heart, i love her so much and wanna be back with her, however, i dont know exactly what plans she has. I have asked her if she sees us getting back together and her answer is always the same " i cannot answer that, cause i dont know?"
What am i supossed to do here, in one hand i love her and miss her so much, and i can continue feeling empty while waiting for her to come back to me, but on the other hand, i dont know if we will ever get back together, so maybe im getting my hopes up too high, all i know is that the emptiness and despair i feel everyday cannot be good for my health, what should i do? (link)
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As hard as it is, you should move on and make friends/dates with new people. You WILL find someone you like just as much if not more, it just takes some time to let the hurt wear off. I'm a girl and usually when we're done with someone, we're done and there's no going back.
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At my school, we have a night event called 'Night of the Notables/Nobles', and we have to pick a 'notable achiever/person who made a positive influence in the world' to be for that day. We have to make a presentation in class as that person as well. Well, I'm a sophomore female, and I really don't know who to be! It can be a literary, scientific, historical, or musical, i.e, figure. But people such as Britney Spears and Hitler are out of the question, you know what I mean?
Do you guys have any suggestions as to who I should be? I don't want it to be a boring person either, because the most standoutish people make it to the actual night and get to present and stuff, so, yeah. And everybody's doing Oprah, so yeah, just no. (link)
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with current events this week... you should consider Coretta Scott King
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Do all the misspellings and netspeak bother anyone else here? (link)
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Yes, they do bother me! I don't know if it's truly netspeak or lack of education. It's difficult to even understand some of the questions!
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I got a muscle spasm in my leg. >__< Is there anything I can do to make it stop hurting? (link)
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eat bananas... you need potassium
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Well, i'm 14/f and my best friend is a girl and my age. We've experimrnted a couple of times this early year. She ended it in july this year (2005)cause she wanted things back the way they were when we didn't experiment and were close soul sisters (as we call ourselves to each other). I never got to say my total feelings about the whole thing. She says at times that she wishesi could be her girlfriend but in this world it isn't logical. I can't help, but want to kiss her and hold her passionatly. She's about to go on a cruise on Christmas eve this year and the i finally want to show her how i feel so the last day when i spend time with her i want to before a walk out the door i wanted to say this: I want you to so much be with me, but unfortunatly in your logical world that's not possible. Then i would hug her and kiss her softly on the lips and rush out the door. i just wanted to leave her with a thought in her head as she was on the cruise to let her know finally how i feel. Should i go for it?? PLLLLZZZ HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!
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you are too young to even think this is a serious relationship... let alone a same-sex relationship. don't do that to her, she said no she doesn't want that kind of 'friendship' and she means it. you are lucky she'll even continue a normal friendship with you. If you truly care about this girl, you will let her go and wish her nothing but happiness and leave it at that.
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