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What to do about my ex girlfriend?
This is kinda long so I have no idea if anyone will read it. Well I guess I'll start when me and my ex went out. I liked her all through 9th grade but I had just started going out with this girl when my ex dumped her bf and told people she liked me. I won't get into my first relationship, but skip over to the last month of summer. I had broken up with the girl I was seeing at the end of 9th grade. I was still depressed over it. Then one day I was sitting on the computer and started to talk to Jeneen(my future ex). I remembered how much I liked her and asked if she wanted to come over sometime. And to my surprise she said yes. She came over and it was a little awkward until she was standing in my living room completely glued to the tv. I stood up, grabbed her hips, and pulled her towards me and kissed her. Haha she didn't even turn around until the least second. Then from the rest of the day on, just non stop kissing. I stopped to look her in the eye and asked, "So it's safe to say you like me?" She said, "I don't know. Do you like me?" I said, "Yeah of course." She said, "I like you too." Then I asked her out and we were going out. I won't get into detail about things that happend when we were going, but things were perfect.(to me they are at least) We both loved each other in no time and spent so much time together. She gave her virginity to me. But then she was acting strange the least week we were together. She was kind of distant, and she kept talking about this girl we both knew and saying how she told her she liked me and felt so sad. I was like and you're gonna dump me to make her feel better!? Then it happend. I was over my friends when she did it online. I was mad and kept saying whatever and her friend IMed me and said I was being a jerk. So much happend after we broke up, but I'll make it as short as possible. I was acting crazy when we broke up. I wrote her a note asking her back out, and she wrote one back saying sorry and we should wait. I didn't want to wait though. I asked her to hang out and she said yes, but ditched me twice. Then one day she was finally on my bus so I of course sat with her and asked if we were hanging out today. She said she felt sick. I acted mad and guilted her to come over. It was awkward until I got up in my living room and hugged her as hard as I could. We went back into my bedroom and it was like we never broke up so I asked her back out. She surprisingly said no. I was shocked and I broke down and cried in front of her. She hugged me and kept kissing me. Then she went home. She ditched me 6 more times after that day. It was also the last day we ever kissed. After around a 1 1/2 months of being broken up I then got involved with her bestfriend behind her back. During the 1 1/2 months I was a wreck. I called her all the time to like negotiate going back out. She told me she still loved me which then turned to I Still like you which turned to I dont know if I still like you. So I got involved with her friend who was so nice to me. I didn't do it for revenge. I just needed someone to replace jeneen. Jeneen found out and a huge thing was made out of it. She completely changed her tune. "You never loved me! You're the biggest ****" and blah blah blah. So things fell through with her friend after a few weeks. I immediatly realized I still liked my ex. We were friends at this point so I called her with intention on telling her. She was out with friends when I called her. I told her and she was like, "Oh well if you want you can call me when I'm home." I got to say I didn't mind that answer. So 2 hours later I signed online and she IMs me saying how she made out with this senior kid. I called her and was like you can't be serious. Turns out she had been drinking. The next morning when I checked my away message I had 10 IMs from her telling me how sorry she was. We talked and I asked if she still liked me and she said, "I don't know." So I asked her to hang out way too much and called her too much. Her friend(the one I was with) yelled at me. "Why do you act like she likes you!? SHE DOESN'T" I already knew she didn't, but I was trying to make her like me. We hung out once after a wicked long time of asking. She brought another friend when I made it clear I wanted to chill alone. I even tried to kiss her that night, but she just sat there. This happend around the end of january. Needless to say the night didn't go as planned. So back to present. It's been six months. I went to parties at jeneen's with my bestfriend paul who was starting to like her friend (the one I was with). So I went, but everytime I watched her gradually get closer to this ugly kid who stayed back named kevin. It killed me because they were soon cuddling and making out, but like an idiot I went every weekend. She is not going out with this kevin kid officially. I sent her a long note telling her how much I still loved her, I couldnt stand the thought of her with someone else, I just want her to be happy so be happy with whatever she does, to be with kevin if it makes her happy, and I have to distance myself from her. She told me she got it and it was very nice and thank you. I said theres nothing to thank I just wanted to say it. She said, "Well it was really nice and I liked it so thank you." I said welcome and then she asked how I was doing. I lied and said alright and she said she was glad. I havn't talked to her since. Been about a week. I still love her so much. Everyone tells me that the kevin kid a geek and that it will NEVER last, but I have trouble believing them. I see them in the halls all the time and they don't seem to be a good couple, but I also saw how they were out of school... She's also in my gym class. Today was our first day and I steered clear of her. I have no clue as what to do. I love her and she now knows. I feel a little better with each passing day, but then theres days I feel terrible. What should I do? Maybe just suggestion or ideas? I still love her so much and having little interest in anyone else around me. Please help in any way possible with any kind of advice.
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Girls are psycho and she's playing you big time. She's loving the attention and probably bragging to all her friends that you are in love with her and driving her crazy. It's so good for her ego. She's been giving you just enough to keep you hanging on. What you should do is find another girl you like and totally ignore J. Believe me, if she ever truly cared she will come around really quick. When girls are done with a guy, they are completely done, but they don't want them to go out with anyone else, that's why she's playing this game. If you look around, you will find someone that will treat you a lot better. Someone who truly cares about you would never keep leading you on like this.
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I'd bet you'd get more responses if you broke up your huge question into paragraphs to make it easier to read. Right now that looks like too much of a chore.
I'd say though, that YG knows what she's talking about, so you should definitely listen to her.
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My God, how many times do you have to be kicked?
She doesn't feel the same as you do. She doesn't want to be bothered, but it is probably somewhat of an ego boost to have you panting after her.
Give up already! Find yourself a girl who wants you and won't give you the run around. There are plenty out there who won't treat you as bad as this one is doing.
Of course soon as you get a girlfriend she is going to start back in with the old, you didn't really love me routine. It is BS. She wants to keep you around because she can use you when nobody she considers better is around. Don't buy into that crap.
Honestly, you can do better. Try your best to get your mind off of this one and find someone who cares. She is out there...you are just spending all your time trying for the wrong girl and missing her.
Sorry I couldn't give you an answer like "she will wake up soon and see the error of her ways", but that wouldn't have been fair to you. :)
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It will be very hard to do. No doubt about it.
When you find the right girl though, it will be worth it.
I hope you find her soon. Good luck! :)
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