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Hello,
I am a 13 year old girl. I have a Best Friend of 8 years. I love her to death, but she gets mad at me for no reason sometimes. She'll get mad at me, and make me upset in the beginning of the day, and then will talk to other girls about me during the day, then the next morning will act like she didnt do anything to me. Although I am soo hurt inside, and I feel like crumbling up and dieing. She does this constantly. I always try to tell her how I feel about all this but she always yells at me and gets more angry at me. She doesn't know how to except my feelings. She always talks about herself too. Every word from her mouth is about HER HER HER! Everytime I bring something about me, and my life, she immediately changes the subject.
How can I fix this problem, without loosing one of my BEST FRIENDS?
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This really isn't a fixable problem. You said that shes 8 years? well thats just how 8 year olds are. my sister just turned 9 and my brother just turned 8. 8 year olds need everything to be about them. She doesnt mean to hurt your feelings she doesnt know she is. You have your friends and 5 years is an age difference.. she might think that if your hangin out with all your older friends she doesnt have as much attention from you as from when you were both yonger so she does anything she can to get your attention. She'll grow out of it sooner or later its just a phase most 8 year olds go through.. you most likely did the same thing =]
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It's not a fixable problem. She's not one of your best friends - because a true best friend would never, ever, ever do that to you.
I know, because I had a friend exactly like that and I put up with it from age 12 to 29!! She always had to be in front, had dated every guy I ever dated in HS and would tell people stupid embarrassing stories about me, to make me look dumb and her look "cool."
Ultimately she is jealous of you and true friends aren't like that either! I know you think our ages are so different, but girls go through lots of the same issues. I finally said I didn't want to talk to her anymore... and closed that chapter. The thing that brought it to a complete finish? She was totally upset that SHE wasn't the center of attention at MY husbands funeral.
Lose this "friend" now or deal with it for another 10 years... the end result will be the same.
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You can't just sit there and not say anything. That won't make anything change. If you just try to ignore the problem, your anger will just bottle up inside of you, and one day you might end up saying things you'll regret.
You said that you tried bringing it up, but she obviously hasn't gotten the point. Because of that, you're probably going to have to talk to her again.
When you talk to her, make sure that you two are alone and that she isn't in a bad mood. Also, make sure that you aren't mean about it. Throwing accusations at her ("You're so mean!") will only make her defensive, and won't solve much.
Say something like, "Hey, _______ (name), I don't appreciate the fact that you get mad at me and talk about me behind my back. If you're angry at me, talk to me about it so we can work the problem out. It hurts my feelings when you do that."
Whatever you do, DO NOT YELL. Even if she says something mean to you, yelling won't solve anything. Just like making accusations, it will make her defensive. Keep your voice firm, but don't sound mean and don't yell.
I know you've already tried talking to her, but there isn't much you can do. If she just acts mean again, I would reconsider your friendship. Just because you've been friends for eight years, doesn't mean that she has the right to treat you the way that she does.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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Well you could invite her over for the night, an sit her down. An be like (friends name) listen, I want us to be best friends an I understand I'm not perfect but you shouldn't get mad at me all the time. I need to be by my side to help me as i can help you. Make sure you make clear points on that you have a life to and even though hers is great you'd like to talk about yours an just have a good time with her.
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