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Major Help with the boys Please?....
im really scared for my love life..
right now im 15 and in about 2 months i will be about 16! i havent had a boyfriend before..ive only madeout with one person and thats all! i feel..so out of place. My problem is i dont fall for people easily..so i like rarely ever have crushes..i mean im not lesbian or anything thats for sure lol but i dont know whats wrong with me. im wayy to shy for my own good. I mean i like meeting new people but im so scared what people are going to think of me. And my friend that transfered to my school always wants me to hangout with her and people from her old school but i always make up an excuse because im scared and my self -esteem is so low. I thought i was starting to like this kid..i mean i dont know but now him and this girl are going out..and i have a feeling they will be together for awhile..so that sucks. No guys seem interested in me soo its hard. I dont know what to do with myself anymore! Im soo shy..im not outgoing like at all..im too worried about what people will think of me! and i just feel like i need somebody in my life for once..but i dont see that happening anytime soon :[
can someone please give advice on what i could do or just anything?
i will rate high.
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don't even begin to feel bad that you haven't had a bf before. i didn't have my first bf till like 2 days after i turned 16 and even with him i still didn't feel comfortable. we ended up breaking up a little afterwards, but after him, i started to build more confidence with guys and since him i've dated a few guys and with every new guy, i got more and more confident about bein myself around them and now it's not really a problem. Don't be in such a hurry to get a guy cuz the right one is out there. and you don't have to be outgoing to get a guy, my best friend is reallllly shy and she has a wonderful bf and things are great between them! just don't be in such a rush...someone will come along
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Some may call you prude, but they don't know what they're talking about. You're just mature. You're looking for a good relationship, not just someone to be with. I have this "problem" too. I found myself in a very similar situation to you all the way up until I was 18. The thing is, high school relationships very rarely last. You're with those same people for so many years and you know too much about them to ever want to date them. You're perfectly fine. Since I waited for a good relationship, I never suffered any of the heartache or stupidity I saw all around me. My first boyfriend is good enough to be my last. I ended up getting engaged to him just over a month ago when I was 19. I am so happy with my life and even though sometimes wish I had dated in high school, just for the experience, I am glad I didn't. Being outside and looking in, even though you feel like an outcast, can be very beneficial. You know a lot more about relationships than a lot of people your that have had 5 or 6. They don't know what they're doing and you do. I wouldn't worry if I were you. For now, just keep your eyes open for opportunities. Don't go looking for anything, but if something comes along and the risk is worth taking (you will know if it is) go for it. Once you get out of high school and start college and/or working, there will be a lot of these opportunities. If you jump at the very first one because you feel desperate, you'll be setting yourself up for the fall that you've avoided all throughout high school. Be smart about it. A guy will come, be confident of that and for now, just try to enjoy your life the way it is. Go out and have a good time with your friends. All too soon everything will be changing and they will be just a part of your past. Friends are what matter in high school. Relationships don't mean a thing until you get into your middle twenties and are thinking about getting married. Good luck!
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I am sure everything will come into place, we all have had our moments like that. But you need to find little things that you like to do with your friends. An you will make more friends. Just always be true to yourself, don't change who you are to have someone like you. I know you will find someone when you are ready.
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