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does the piercing hurt while you get it? because i thought you are supposed to get anesthesia or something and it hurts afterward after it wears off? do they use a needle? how long does it take?
There is no anesthesia involved in any type of piercing. I got mine pierced 6 years ago and i didnt think it was bad. I actually laughed after they did it. Alot of people compare it to getting your cartilidge pierced.
They do use a needle. Basically what they do is first sanitize your stomach and belly button area. Then mark where the needle will go through. After that they clamp it with a small clamp to hold the skin and finally they put the needle through. Its a very quick process and any pain that you do feel will only be for about 3 seconds. Mine didnt hurt afterwards very much, only when I was trying to sleep because I like to sleep on my stomach and it pulled on it.
Hope I helped!
Alright thank you ahead of time for listening to me!
Well i just wanted to know how old you think you have to be to get married. Cause me and my boyfriend are 15, but we dont plan on getting married anytime soon. But i just wanted some opinions out there on how old you think a couple should be. Cause im just saying, if we could now, we most definatly would! haha. ;)
Thnks again!
Legally in most states you have to be 18 and if your under 18 you need parental consent. Personally, I think that this law is accurate because while you can absolutely be in love at a younger age than 18, I dont know if I believe that people under the age of 18 fully understand what is involved in a marriage. It takes alot of maturity and communication, as well as love. I am 21 years old myself and I dont think I even have the skills required for a happy and successful marriage yet. But of course, it depends on the people and the situation.
Hope I helped! =)
my friend is doing weed and she has a drug test she needs to pass and she wants to know how you get weed out of your system and how long it should take?
All your friend needs to do is drink water. It really only takes a few hours but if she wants to be in the safe side she can drink water for 24 hrs before the drug test and as long as her pee is clear, she'll be fine. I have done this many times and I have friends that have also done it and it works every time. Dont waste your money on those things that "clean out your system". Alot of times they can make you sick and they are expensive.
I have thought this through over and over again. As far as my husband is concerned, I have a significant change in the way he treats me, however, it is still not up to the standard that I want or expect. When you know what it is that you want it is hard to accept less. But I also know that all relationships have problems. I know the type of person my husband is, he actually is a good person, but because I know he is capable of so much more I try to push him, but he doesn't see it this way. Lets just say I know what I have, but if I were to leave and start a new relationship, I don't know what I will get. I do love my husband and if he would only change some of the things that he does and be more loving and affectionate, then I think thing will be better for both of us. However, because of the fact that he is not willing to take the sperm test, it really makes me angry and he knows exactly how I feel about wanting kids. Sometimes when I ask him what he wants for his birthday or other event, he would say "all I want is for you to have my baby", but yet I can't understand why he would not cooperate. It's like he is bias, he only sees things from his point of view and that is that the infertility issue lies with me because he already has kids. This is the main reason why I am not willing to give up the extra marital affair. Believe me, everthing you have made mention of, I have already told myself. As it relates to the other guy, although he says that he loves being with me and all that and like I told you I don't know if he is only wanting me probally because of the lack of sex in his own marriage or he actually does have feeling for me, I cannot say for certain. But I do know that when we are together it does seem as thought that is where he wants to be. If not he is a good pretender. I sometimes tell myself that I need to end the affair because he is only using me for sex and that he does not really love me because he loves his wife. But in a way I am using him too for my own reasons, which is to get pregnant. And he knows how I feel also about wanting kids. He asked me one day also if I were to get pregnant and the baby is his, would I tell my husband. And to be honest with you, the answer is no. The only way I would tell him is in the event that I decided to leave the marriage. This situation is a very difficult one as there are so many people involved that can be affected and that I think is what scares me the most. And my husbands son will be 10 in June.
Sorry it took me a little to get back to you. It is completely okay for you to rather just stick with your husband. Its your decision and only you know what is best for you. Continue to try to improve your relationship. Yes, it sucks that you have to try instead of your husband just being able to see what you want and do it but sometimes men are to stubborn to see those kind of things. Start with one thing at a time. If you want your husband to be more affectionate, do little things that will put that into him mind. Cuddle up to him when you guys are laying in bed, hold his hand when you are walking together (even if its just through a parking lot), link your arm through him when you are sitting and watching tv. And make little comments like "I would like it if we were like this more often" or "I love feeling close to you like this". Often times with men, if you put the idea of what you want out there in the form of a compliment, they will be more likely to remember that and continue doing it because it makes them feel manly. When you guys are cuddling, try saying something like "I feel so protected when you hold me like this". That will stick out in his mind because to men, they are the protectors of women. Just keep trying to make the best out of your relationship with him and that way, if it didnt work out in the end, you know you tried your absolute best and can walk away guilt free.
As far as the sperm test thing goes, I understand where your anger would come from. Keep Trying! Do not give in! If having a child is important to you and you give in and stop trying, you will regret it. Your life will not feel complete. Tell your husband about it 50 times a day if you have to. Annoy him about it so badly that he gives in. Do whatever you have to. And if you do end up getting pregnant by someone else, just prepare yourself for it. Understand that it is alot to keep on your shoulders. As long as you know you'll be able to carry that with you, all the more power to you. But no matter what you have to do, dont give up on having a baby.
my parents are really pushing me to get a job. im 16 and i dont have my permit, or my license yet. and kroger is nearby, so i could basically walk to work if i got a job there.
the only problem is im very well-aware that they test your urine for drugs. and i smoked weed twice within the last week and a half, so i know i'd fail.
im not wondering how to pass one, im just wondering what happens when you FAIL one. like, do they get the cops involved? do they call your parents? or do they just say i cant have the job and send me out or fire me, ban me from the store, or what?
All that happens is they wont hire you. And they might keep it on record so that if you ever tried applying there again, they can know that you previously failed a drug test. You parents will not know and the cops will not get involved.
If you do want to clean out your system and take the drug test, all you have to do is drink water all day the day before your taking the drug test. Make sure your pee is clear. And then when you take the drug test, you will come up clean. Dont waste money on a product that cleans your system when you can just do it with water.
Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
If your mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to deal with a baby. And if you are not mature enough to deal with a baby, but are having sex anyway,at least take the proper precautions so that you dont get pregnant.
Do not get an abortion. If your not responsible enough to keep the baby, at least be responsible enough to carry it to term and adopt it to a loving family who IS responsible enough to care for the baby.
i dont even know why they laugh at me because am not the ugliest girl in the planet . i consider myself pretty. the only thing is that am short
like about 5'0
The reason why they are laughing at you is not important. Any one in the world can find something to make fun of another person for. You can be absolutely perfect and someone will still find something to make fun of you for. What is important is how you deal with it. Ignore them. Dont let it get to you. They are not important and never will be and they are not worth your sadness, worry, anger, stress, or whatever emotion they cause. Bullies will come and bullies will go. But dealing with them in the proper way is that is going to make you a stronger and better person. Good luck and feel free to ask me anything else you need help with.
I think you understand exactly where I am coming from with the situation with my husband. The reason I am still with him is because I made a vow "for better or for worse", I remember how our relationship once was, it was great and I keep telling myself that things wil return to the way they once were. Another reason I don't want to leave him is because he has a son that I have accepted as my own since he was three months old. I moved out of the house on several occasions before and it really affected him. He shut down in school and even stopped eating. My third reason is that I don't want to go through the process of starting all over again. I talked to my husband about the way he treats me and he is trying to make some process but I think my heart belongs to this other guy even though I know it can be unhealthy. I keep telling myself that this extramarital relationship can have nothing but negative effects. If we are found out we will be destroying two families and I don't really want to see this happen. But when I am with my husband I keep comparing my husband to this other guy and by far this other guy comes out on top in all aspects except that I don't get to see him when I want. I have so much invested in my marriage and my finances are even tied up at this times. I were to leave my husband I would have no where to go and would have to start all over from scratch. That's why I decided to stay. We have been trying to have kids for the past nine years and we were unsucessful, my husband has refused to even go and get a sperm test done. I want kids more than anything and since my husband doesn't want to cooperate I am hoping that I get pregnant by my lover. My husband does want to have kids but I think he is afraid of what the test will show since he is a marijuana smoker. I think he is VERY selfish to my feelings as he already has kids and I accepted his son as my own. I have been trying to get him to take the sperm test for nine years now and he has refused, so I don't think that I am wrong for wanting to get pregnant even if it is by someone else. I think if my husband really loves me he would do whatever it takes to make me happy. My lover asked me why I didn't have any kids and I told him of the situation, he likes to have sex with me without condoms so I think he really wants to get me pregnant and if it happens i will not mind. What's your take on this situation?
I completely understand where you are coming from. Leaving a husband and a life behind is probably one of the most difficult things to do. But what you have to think about is your happiness. Aer you truly happy? It doesnt sound like you are. You dont want to live your life wondering what if.
I think that you really need to sit down and weigh out your options. Make a list of pros and cons of staying with your husband vs. leaving him. Of course its hard to start from scratch and get your life back together, but it is possible. Many women have done it. Think about women who have controlling husbands who abuse them. They are put in such a horrible position of either leave or continue to be abused and controlled. Sure, some women just cant bring themselves to leave, for whatever reason. But there are women that do leave and yes, they struggle and yes, life may get worse before it gets better, but in the end, they make it. They are survivors. Now your situation isnt exactly that critical but your happiness should be one of the most important things to you. And no one can make you happy, but you.
You mentioned some reasons as to why you are still with your husband. Yes, you did make a vow to him. "For Better or For Worse." Try putting the shoe on the other foot. If your husband wasnt happy with you, would you rather him stay with you and be miserable and have an affair to try to make himself happy, or would you rather him leave? I could be wrong, but I would think that you would rather him leave, rather than just stay because he make a vow.
You mentioned that you keep remembering how amazing your relationship was in the beginning, and basically just hoping that it be like that again someday. But do you really want to wait for a "someday" that may never come. If things were going to go back to the way they were, they would have by now. And I say that because of the fact that you have talked to your husband about the issues you have with your relationship, and things still havent changed. Yes, he may be trying, but from my experience, what happens in those situations is that the trying eventually stops. Now there is a chance that your relationship may be different, but the probability of it is unlikely.
Another reason that you gave is because of his son. It is very commendable of you to have taken him in the way you have and for him to be something that you consider in your thought process of what to do. I'm sure it would be very difficult to leave a child behind that you almost consider your own, but the fact of the matter is that he is not your child. He is not your responsibility. And if you left, yes he might be upset for a while, but he would get over it. I dont know what age the child is but especially if he is younger, he will be fine. There are to many families in the world that have step parents that the children grow attached to. And there are many cases that the step parent leaves. I have a step mother who has been in my life since I was 6 years old and I grew very close to her. She left my dad when I was in 7th grade. Was it hard for me? Absolutely. Did I miss her? Terribly. Did I cry? Yes, often. But after about 6 months, I accepted it. So if you did end up leaving, you can rest assured that he will be fine.
Another reason you had was that you dont want to start over again, which is completely understandable. Like I said, leaving a life behind and starting over is one of the hardest things one might have to do in their life. But it can be done. It is possible. You can survive. And you are right, your situation can be unhealthy and it can have negative affects. But if the end result is your happiness, then that seems worth it to me.
As far as the situation with having children, that is a very big deal. That is something can causes many relationships to fail. It is very important for a husband and wife to have the same views on children for a marriage to be longlasting and happy. It they dont agree on that subject it often causes hostility between husband and wife and ends in divorce, which is why its very important to discuss the subject of children before getting married. Now, if you've been trying to get your husband to get his sperm checked for 9 years and he still refuses, chances are it will never happen. And yes, getting pregnant by someone else is an option, but what will you tell your husband? Will you tell him its his? Is that a secret that you will be able to keep with you for the rest of your life? And what about the child? Will you be able to allow them to go their entire life thinking that your husband is their father, when in fact he is not? Or would you tell your husband that he is not the father? And if you did that, what affects would that cause? There are so many different things to think about before you go ahead and do that. It might seem from the surface like a quick fix to your problem. You get pregnant, let your husband believe the child is his, and live happily ever after. But in reality, its not that simple. All I'm saying is that that is something you really need to think about.
I want you to understand that Im am not trying to convince you to leave your husband. Thats not my goal. My goal is for you to be the happiest person you can be. And if you believe in your heart, that you would be happier staying in your marriage, than going thru the stress of leaving, then that is what I would want you to do. But of course, this is a very big decision that has alot of variables and cannot be made over night. It is going to take a lot of thinking and soul searching to come up with the best solution to the problem. But just remember that everything is possible and your happiness needs to be the most important thing to you. If its not important to you, it will never be important to anyone. I am here to help you along the way with whatever you need.
I really wanna live in Manhattan when i'm older, but i've been told that it's really hard to get a job there and that i'd really struggle with paying rent on an apartment near Times sqare.
Is it really that hard to earn a living in Manhattan?
Living anywhere in NYC is generally more expensive than most other places in the U.S. But the pay rate there is also higher. For example, you might pay about $1500 for an apartment in Manhattan. But you are also making $14 or $15/hr rather than $8/hr where you live now. See what I'm saying? Its still a more expensive, but it kinda evens out.
And I definately agree with one of the other people that answered that you should definately try to have at least 1 roomate to split costs with. Its definately tough to live alone in NYC, especially when your just starting out.
Good luck and feel free to ask me anything else. My family lives in NYC.
I am married woman having an affair with a married man. The guy happens to be a client at a company where I work. We always flirted with each other when he came to the office. I knew he was married from inception and vice versa. One day he came to the office and gave me his phone number and asked me to call him, when I did, he told me straight up what it was that he wanted. I thought he was rather bold, but admired the fact that he was so honest. The affair has been going on for one year now. Here is how my story goes. I have been married for approximately nine years, I was nothing but the perfect wife to my husband. I never even dreamed of cheating on him. I cooked, clean, and did everything to make him happy, but he was the type of husband who does not know how to give a woman what she wants. My husband was never affectionate, we only had sex when he wanted it, he doesn't like kissing and he doesn't like to be touched. I on the other hand am the total opposite. He never complimented me on anything, he only knew of negative criticism. We argued on a daily basis because everything I did or said was never good enough. So we would argue. What made me start the affair was when I decided enough was enough. I was tired of being the good wife, living to make everyone else but myself happy, and I think curiosity played a small factor as well. I decided to take the married guys proposition and I must agree that that was the best love making I ever experienced in my life. Our body chemistry was great. We complimented each other. He would constantly compliment me and he was just plain nice. He would take me out to lunch, something my husband has never done in 9 years of being married to him. He would always be there to listen to me when I was down or needed a shoulder to cry on and he just always made me feel special. He told me from the beginning that he had no intentions of leaving his wife and children and that they came first, I had no problem with this. I feel that if he was to leave his wife that our relationship would not be the same as it is now, I think I like it the way it is. Because I knew he was married I would always build up this wall in my mind only allowing myself to go so far with him because I didn't want to allow myself to fall in love with him, but I did. I sometimes felt guilty that I was cheating on my husband and decided to end the affair, I talked it over with my lover and although he didn't want me to quit the affair he decided to give me my space. But I would become miserable when I couldn't hear from him for a few days. I have fallen for him, but I have no intention of leaving my husband. I love them both, but I love my lover more. My lover and I eventually became distant for about a month and now had lunch together yesterday and he is telling me that he needs me, and that he belongs to me. His wife is now pregnant and I sometimes I wonder if he needs me only because he is not getting any from his wife. He told me that he has never cheated on his wife before, but there was just something about me from the day he met me that he knew he just had to persue. I like being with this guy, but I don't want to be used for my body. I asked him if he loves me and he said yes. He never talks about his wife when we are together. We always have great sex, but I know our relationship cannot go anywhere and I don't want to be a cheater forever, but my husband will not step up to the plate. I've already suggested counselling, he won't go. I go to bed in sexy lingerie, he falls asleep. I touch him, he pushes me away, what am I to do... Any suggestions...
I think that you sound like a very intelligent woman who deserves much much more than what she is getting.
First off, why are you with your husband? You've basically said yourself that he does nothing for you. He doesnt compliment you, take you out, appreciate you, he isnt even affectionate with you. So why?? I cant see any logical explanation. In my opinion, you need to leave him ASAP.
As far as your lover goes, I can see why he makes you happy. He is giving you everything that your husband doesnt. But yet, you can never truly be happy with him because of the fact that he is married with children. And because of those facts, I say cut all ties. You can find another man who loves you and makes you happy and is not married.
It sounds like me that you kind of already know everything that I am saying to you. Maybe you just need to hear someone else say it. But I think that you know deep down inside what you need to do. Start a new life. Your own life. Where you can be who you want to be and you are free to find a man that loves and can spend his life with you.
I wish you the absolute best of luck and dont hesitate to message me if you need to talk.
Erica
hey, there are this 2 gurls ,one of them is balck and huge and the other one is skinny and long hair. when they see me give a kiss to my boyfriend they always sem to say something. and in class sometimes they look at my friends and me and they start mumbling and then they start laughing. i dont know whats soo funny. i dont want to go up to them beacuse then the whole class will know . thats how loud they are. if you were in this situation what would you do ?
They are trying to get to you and trying to intimidate you. They want to know that you notice what they are doing and that its bothering you. What you need to do is act like theyre not even there. Walk past them like you have all the confidence in the world and they are nothing to you. If you go up to them and say something that will just let them know that they accomplished what they wanted and that will give them room to start an argument. And then you will be on the same level as them. You have to be above them. Another thing that will absolutely get on theyre last nerve is if you kill them with kindness. Be the sweetest person in the world to them when they talk to you. And the more attitude they get, the sweeter you get. I hope this helps and ask me anything else you need help with. Good luck
I'm 19 and my older brother killed himself back a year ago and since then everything has been going down hill in my life. Ive lost my car, haven't been able to find any type of work and recently had to leave the college I was attending due to financial problems. Besides the fact that my mom has been a violent alcoholic my entire life and my father doesn't exist,Ive always managed to be a person who sees things from a positive point of view, but over the past few months I've been feeling alone and like my life isn't worth living anymore and like things will never get better I just don't see the point in living at all. Each day is more stressful and painful and im not sure if I can take another day. I don't want to kill myself because I know it isn't right but I'd rather not feel this pain any longer. What can I do?
I know exactly how you feel. My life has been going up and down for years now and there is so many points that I feel like I just want to give up.
But the fact of the matter is that life is what you make it. You might feel like you dont have control of what is going on in your life but really, you do. Its your life and you will get thrown curveballs throughout your entire existence. But it is what you make of it.
I know what its like to feel alone. Most people probably do. Use that as comfort. If you feel alone because you dont have a support system in your family, try to see that you are not truly alone because there are millions of other people in the world that know exactly how you feel.
I know that when you feel like your at rock bottom, it seems like life will never get better. Like you'll always be stuck in the rut that you are in. But things will get better. IF YOU MAKE THEM. Things arent going to just magically get better. It would be a perfect world if it happened that way, but unfortunately, it doesnt. You have to make your life better. You have to find solutions to your problems. And trust me, if you do that, and you accomplish the task of improving your life, it will make you feel incredible because you know you got yourself through one of the hardest points of your life. And that alone will give you faith that nothing can ever bring you down.
Make it a goal. Set a goal that you will improve your life within the next 6 months. And make it happen. Sometimes setting a goal makes it easier because your working to make something happen within a timeline. It doesnt give you time to sit around and be depressed.
A strategy that I use to help myself when Im feeling alone and like Im at my breaking point is to think that everything happens for a reason. I dont know if you believe in God or not but I do it helps me to have faith that everything that is going on in my life is happening to make me stronger, to teach me a lesson. God would never dish you out something that you couldnt handle. It might seem at the time like you cant handle it, but He knows that you can and he is doing it for a reason.
Please Please Please dont kill yourself. It you do that, you will never be able to experience the good that life can bring. You will never be able to be given the gift of a child. You will never be able to commit your life to someone and walk down the aisle with them. You will never be able to own a house that you can call your own. There are sooo many things out there that are great and amazing and wonderful that you havent been able to experience yet. And if you take your life, you will never experience them.
I am here anytime you need someone to talk to. I would be more than happy to help in anyway I can. Please dont hesitate to contact me. I wish you the absolute best and I will keep you in my prayers.
Ok, so I saw Obsessed last night, and there was a song or artist or whatever that I liked but now I can't remember the name. It was when the Lisa lady gave Derek the cd of his favorite singer and he found it under papers, put it in his cd player and then they started messeging on the chat thing. Does anyone remember who the artist/song was??? Thanks!
I did not see the movie yet but here is a list of all the songs in that movie. I just cant tell you exactly which one you are looking for. But maybe the title will ring a bell or you can find it thru process of elimination.
-American Boy by Estelle
-Any Other Day by Wyclef Jean featuring Norah Jones
-Bamboo Wall by Patch
-Black & Gold by Sam Sparro as Sam Falson
-Destiny by Zero 7
-Golden by Jill Scott
-Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas by Ruben Studdard and Tamyra Gray
-I’m Gonna Getcha by Crudo
-Jingle Bells by James S. Pierpont
-Jolly Holly (Deck The Halls) by Mike Strickland
-Meet The Brilliant by Draque Bozung
-Original music for Obsessed by James Dooley
-Oye Al Desierto by With The Quickness
-Play That Funky Music by Wild Cherry
-Smash Into You by Beyonce Knowles (scene: end of the movie)
-Soul Food by Martina Topley by Bird
-The Christmas Song by Marcus Miller
-Wild Thing by Tone Loc
Hope I helped =)
ok, so people get STD's when they have sex with someone who is STD positive. But, like, where does thaat person get the STD? You can say that if they were sexually active with someone in the past, that they could have contracted the disease from them. But what I'm saying is, everyone who has an STD couldn't have gotten it from having sex; there has to be a beginning to this. I was thinking that possibly a person can be a carrier of an STD, and not be affected by it. Hence my question, can one get an STD from having sex with a virgin?
Im not gonna ramble about other stuff Im just gonna answer the question. Yes, you can get an STD from a virgin. Its not as likely, but it is possible. Some STDs can be transmitted to a baby during birth if the mother has an STD or certain STDs can be transmitted through saliva or blood. Not all STDs are only transmitted through sexual contact.
Is there any places where you can send your child to have "the talk"? She is homeschooled so she cant go to a class at school or somthing.
Im sure there is something out there that does what you are looking for but it is so much more meaningfull to have the parents do it. It seems more real and more important to the child to hear it from their parent rather than some stranger. This is something that should be taken seriously and it may not be if you just send your child off to someone else to do it.
I dont know if you are asking this question because you are looking for someone else to have "the talk" with your child, but if you are you should really just man up and do it yourself. It is better for the child and if you are responsible and mature enough to have a child then you should be responsible and mature enough to talk to your child about sex.
18- female. so i've been friends for this guy joe for about four years now. we were like best friends until his girlfriend came between us for three years. i see him like once a month now when i use to be with him all the time. i was talking to him last night and i poured my heart out to him. this is what i said:
today i was really mad and so i went out with matt. well he wanted to know what was wrong and i realized that i couldnt let myself tell him and it made me reazlie that you really the only guy that i could tell everything to before but now i pretty much feel like i can't tell you anything. its like were not even friends anymore and that scared the sh*t out of me because i cant trust any other guy. and now that i dont talk to you anymore, especially when i needed you the most, everything is messed up now and i seriously really do neeed you like how we use to be before. your the only one i can tell anything to or do anything with without it being awkward at all.
and this is what he said back:
well dont worry linds, i got you.
and i was like are you sure about that? and he was like of course.
i was just wondering, when he told me "i got you" what do you think he meant by that? im guessing there could be many meanings but i dont really understand? like he will always be there or what?
Him using the phrase "I got you" has soo much meaning behind it.
It means he understands and he is there for you. It means that he misses your friendship the way you do. It means the two of you are on the same page. It means he has your back.
Overall, its a good thing. Hang on to this guy. Its not easy to find guy friends like that. I had one once and I let him get away 4 yrs ago and I miss him terribly to this day. Dont let that happen to you.
Sorry if this is the wrong category wasnt sure what one to put it in.but anyways!for ym art project ive done like cheerleaders on an A1 canvas and well my teacher wants to make it 3D (>.
Stop what you are doing right now!!!!!
What they are making on that website is not what you want to be making. The things that they are making are like little balls of strings that people used to wear on their shoe in the 50s. They are not cheerleading pom poms.
Here is a few sites that I found that might help you make what your trying to make.
http://cheerleading.lovetoknow.com/How_to_Make_Cheerleading_Pom_Pons
or
http://www.ehow.com/how_2055959_make-cheerleading-pom-poms.html?ref=fuel&utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=ssp&utm_campaign=yssp_art
Hope I helped!
Me & my fiance are planning on getting married in October. I really like his parents, but his family & my family are like complete opposites. His parents are super-strict Christians, while mine curse a lot.
We were planning on maybe doing a Halloween themed wedding, but as soon as we told his parents that they freaked out. So, I was trying to I guess bargain with them so I said the wedding will be more fall themed & the reception is going to be Halloween themed.
Like most girls, I've dreamed about my wedding since I was young, & I've never wanted a classic wedding. Me & my fiance are metal-heads, sort of. We love metal music, tattoos, & piercings, so everyone who knows me knows my wedding is not going to be the classic wedding. I was telling his mom about the dress I picked out which is white with red designs on it, & she started saying that wearing anything but white isn't scared or something.
Then we brought up the music, because we will be playing metal music & I won't be walking down the aisle to the classic "here comes the bride".
Again, she said that it's not sacred & we should want "God's blessings". I believe in God, sure, but I just think they take things a little too far. She didn't even like the idea of possibly using black & orange flowers (because black is the symbol of death).
I really like his parents & I've been breaking my neck trying to be respectful when I'm around them (they have a super strict dress code), but this is my wedding & I want it my way, but I just don't know what I can do to not upset them.
Any advice?
I totally agree with "hitler the goat". It is YOUR wedding. It will be one of the most important and memorable days of YOUR life. It is something that YOU have dreamed of since you were a little girl. As long as both you and your fiance are happy with it, thats what matters. If you go along with what they want and dont do what you want, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Yes, maybe it will be a little akward at first, telling them what your decisions are and them seeing what you will be doing at first, but once its all said and done and your partying and your reception, you will be the happiest woman alive and so glad you put your foot down. Dont let them mess up your big day.
My boyfriend seemed perfect to me his nice sweet such a gentlement he makes me happy and i'm actually in love.we've been together for 8 and a half months now and everything has been great he says he loves me. The problem is his ex his ex want nothing to do with him which is a plus but he told me recently that he still has feelings for her it hurts so much .I asked him does he really love me he said yes. I asked him does he want her back he said yes.Now At this point I dont know what to do.
He dated her for 2 years and its been about a year and a half since its been over she was his first girfriend .The question is WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO NOW.
I disagree with the answer below. There's a couple different things going on here.
First off, its completely possible and actually kinda common to have feelings for 2 people at once. And its not necessary that the feelings for one person are stronger than the feelings for the other. So just because he told you he still has feelings for his ex and might want her back does not mean that he doesnt have very strong feelings for you, possibly even just as strong.
I dont know if you have ever been in a long term relationship. I was in a relationship with an ex boyfriend for over 3 years. I was the one that broke up with him and we broke up almost 4 years ago. I still love him to this day and I always will. Would I want him back? I honestly dont know the answer to that question and I have been in my current relationship for over 2 years now. It is very very diffucult to completely get over a relationship. Especially if it was a good relationship. And if his ex was his first girlfriend and love, I can tell you he will always have love in his heart for her.
Dont blame him for his feelings. He cant help how he feels. And he is being honest with you about it which is something that 95% of people would not do. The person below me said you shoudl end it so you dont have to worry about him hooking up with his ex, but he was honest with you about his feelings for her, so what would make you think he wouldnt be honest if something happened..
I understand how you are feeling though. My current girlfriend told me at one point that she still had feelings for her ex and she wanted to talk to her about it. It crushed me. It felt like someone dropped a 1000 lb weight on me. I felt like I was punched in the stomach by a sumo wrestler. So believe me, I understand your pain. What you do about it depends on your tolerance and what your willing to deal with. Think of worse case scenario. I would think that the worse case scenario would be that he leaves you for his ex. If you wouldnt be able to handle that or dont want to wait around to see if that happens, then you should leave him. On the other hand, if your willing to wait and see what happens and beleive you can deal with that type of heartbreak, than stick around.
Im sorry that Im not giving you a cut and dry answer like "leave him" or "dont leave him", but I just dont believe its as simple as that. There are many different things to factor into that type of decisions. My best advice to you is #1 try to understand where he's coming from and try to make him understand where you are coming from. #2 Figure out what the best case and worst case scenarios are. Is it more important to you to avoid the worst case scenario or take a chance trying to achieve the best case scenario? And you are the only one who can answer that question.
I wish you the absolute best and feel free to email me anytime.
OK So i recently got back with my girl nd A few nghts ago she asked me if i wanted to make out of course i said yes and while we were she was like trying to go down with her hand and feel me up right and um i liked it it felt amazing and like then u know it got further in and i was a virgin so like first she took me over to the bed i asked her if she was sure and she said yea so like we undressed each other and we were both fuly naked so then um she laid on top of me and put my dickup right and um like two seconds in i noticed i was inside her i dont know why but i didnt like the feeling so i pulled out and shes mad at me any reason why???
I am a girl and I understand %100 why she is mad. It might not be right but shes mad because girls dont deal well with rejection. Especially when it comes to sexual things. She feels like you dont like her enough or arent attracted to her and being mad is better than feeling hurt. It just hurt her feelings, ya know??
What you need to do is talk to her about it. If you just ignore it and wait until it gets better then she will still in the back of her head, feel like your not attracted to her and she doesnt turn you on. Make sure she knows how you feel about her and tell her what your reason was for pulling out. If she understands it then she wont be mad or hurt anymore.