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I've always been one of those sneaky gurlz, (16~f) doin everything on da down low. My mom dont kno about none of my boyfriends, nor does anyone else except my sister, and she just recently found out.
Me and dis n*gga have known each otha for a while, we had kindergarten together. So we always been coo i guess, never really talked tho. Now it's like...we're always together. He calls me every night n everything. Everyone keeps saying we're too friendly...
Someone wanna define too friendly for me? (link)
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Too friendly meaning there's no way that you two are just friends and not doing anything. They think there's something going on that you aren't talking about.
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IF a friend says bad things behind your back and you and her are the bestest friends in the world should you still be friends with them? I want to but i don't know if that is right or not?? (link)
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Well, first you need to talk to them about why they said bad things about you. Sometimes people say things they don't mean. If she does it again or there isn't a valid reason, it probably wouldn't be the best thing to be her friend again. If it was just a little misunderstanding, then there is no harm in forgiving her.
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Hey guys =D here's my question.. there's this girl @ my school, we're pretty good friends. A couple of days ago, she told me she liked me in a more then friends type of way. Problem is i'm a girl & i don't swing that way. I want to tell her that i'm not attracted to her in that way, but i don't know how to do that without hurting her feelings... any ideas would be great! thanks! (link)
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Just tell her that you aren't a lesbian, but that you are flattered that she is interested in you. That is the truth and it shouldn't hurt anyone's feelings.
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ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight? (link)
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Well yeah, but then eventually you will die. So I guess it is either losing weight in an unhealthy way and then dying or losing weight the right way and living to enjoy it.
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okay well what am i suppost to do when everyone keeps pressuring me and telling me its stupid for trying to stay in long- distance relationships. and im just so lost and lonely inside because my friends cant even see that im dying inside and it hurts really bad. and while everyone else is happy with there boyfriends and get to go to all the dances and b happy i just get to watch all by myself. i always wear a fake smile that no one can see through and i cant stnad it. what do i do?
and also do you think itll all work out in teh end? like this long-distance relationship thing?
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Sorry, it took me so long. I thought their might be more to the situation. You need to tell your friends to stop telling you what is right for you because you know what is good for yourself, but that you appreciate that they care. Also, tell them how you feel lonely, they probably don't even realize what is going on inside your head. You can't expect them to help you if you don't tell them what is wrong. If you really like the guy, then stick with the long distance relationship, but you will have to come to terms that because you are in a long distance relationship, you will not have a boyfriend to go to dances with. If you really care about someone being there with you to go to dances with, then you need to break up with your boyfriend and find someone new. Try and look at the good things in your life so that the fake smile can become real. The long distance relationship could last awhile if you really wanted it to, but it's not going to last forever. It just depends on how long you are willing to make it last at the moment.
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I know this isnt really a question but I just thought you should know that I think you are really cool. I love the advice you give. You are so real and strait about it. I have ask a lot of questions and I don't think you ever got to answer any of mine but I havn't gotten any advice like yours that I can remember. I love the way you give advice. Your not mean, or stupid about it. and your advice isn't the same thing that everyone else says. SO cool! lol sry, had to have an appreciative (can't spell) moment for you cuz you give awsome advice. Talk to ya later. (link)
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Thanks. I just like to let people know how I feel so maybe they can get another point of view. If you ever have a question just ask me. I'd be more than happy to answer.
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I have 2 questions...
1) How can I decide what college I want to go to? I know I have to apply to a few, but, you know how everyone has there heart set on one, how can I pick one for me?
2) And, is there any kind of quiz online I can take to give me some good results on a career I could go into? I'm dumbfound when it comes to what I want to be and go to college for. (link)
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My sister is going through the same thing. She's been thinking of what areas she wants to be in and if she wants to go to a big or small college. Just think of all aspects of college that will interest you and that should help narrow it down. Also, look at some college campuses and maybe you can see what kind of environmeny you are interested in. I know there are quizzes with what careers would be good, but I can't remember any. I think one of them is www.careercruising.com, but I'm not sure. Sorry if I didn't help. Also, talk to your guidance counselor about everything.
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At school dances, I never dance. I know..you'll say "then why do you go?". I just go and hang out with my friends. It's actually pretty fun. But they dance sometimes, and I don't. I guess I'm just not much of a dancer. I think I'm self-conscious or just embarrassed because I think I can't dance...I'm not sure. I'm probably afraid of what people will think of me, like if I dance bad/can't dance right or something. I'm just nervous. I've never slow danced with anyone either. So my first time will be a little scary. Anyway, back to my question. What do you think I can do to get over this? I need help, because I want to be dancing and having more fun than I usually do at the next dance. (link)
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Don't be so self- concious. The whole poin tto dancing is just to let go of everything and be in the moment. I promise you half of the people dancing can't dance, but they do because it's fun and they enjoy. Just get with a group of your friends and have fun with it. Don't think about anyone else or what anyone else thinks about you. What if people think you are a bad dancer? That's all they think about you. That doesn't mean they won't ever like you and will never talk to you or anything. I bet you've thought other people are bad dancers, but they still have fun with it and they don't care. If you know that you are a bad dancer, then it is ok. Atleast you accept the fact, and then you can just have fun with the rest of the dance. By the way slow dancing isn't a big deal. You just move back and forth. Basically, my advice is HAVE FUN WITH DANCING! If people see you having fun, they won't think wow she's a bad dancer. They'll think wow she's having so much fun I want to go hang out with her.
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When I started Junior High, I noticed this guy and he seemed pretty cool. At first I kind of thought he was weird because of the way he looked (long hair,converse high-tops..etc) but then I got to know him and sort of developed a crush on him. By the end of 7th grade I became OBSESSED and one night with a box cutter, I just carved his name into my arm. He never noticed. It seemed like he had a crush on me too for a while, he would call me things like "cutie" and "sweetie" . The beginning of the year he seemed like he liked me still, and I hadn't told him about my scar. I needed to get it off my chest, so I told my friend who has him 6th period to tell him and she did. After school he looked scared and luckily he didn't see me. The next few days he would look at me and the stare at the ground. He supposedly said he "hated me" because I carved his name into my arm. It doesn't make sense, how could he change his feelings that quickly? Now he thinks I'm this weirdo. What should I do? I still have major feelings for him, even though I don't show it. Because I feel like I can't. Please help me. (link)
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It probably scared him that someone had such strong feelings (or thought they had such strong feelings) for him and would carve his name in their arm. I think you might want to give him some space for a little while so you don't scare him anymore. Maybe when it seems that he is not so scared, you can talk to him and explain youself to him. I'm sorry if this is mean and you don't want to hear it, but I don't think you should have carved his name in your arm in the first place. You were in 7th grade and that young you are never sure of your feelings completely. Besides you should never harm yourself because of a guy even if it is to impress him. Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth.
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I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me (link)
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I think you need to let your girlfriend know how you feel and that you made out with your ex. She'll probably then break up with you and then you can go out with your ex. If she's kind and doesn't break up with you, then you have to really think about if it is fair to put your girlfriend through a relationship where you are not completely devoted to her.
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Okay this is a question for guys and girls. im a 15 year old girl and i like this kid and he said that he likes me to but he doesn't want a girlfriend. im confused though cause we have like 45 min conversations on the phone and talk alot. what does that all mean? (link)
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He's probably not ready for a commitment. It's nothing personal. I guess he just doesn't want to have to deal with all the labels and the things that come along with a girlfriend. Don't pressure him. He'll come along when he's ready. Also, he might be afraid that if you guys got together and then you two broke up, then he would lose a great friend. Just wait it out. It'll all turn out the way it's supposed to.
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ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this?? (link)
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No. One cheating is the worst thing you could do to a person. You lose the person's trust and you can never regain it. Two who knows how this guy is. He could be some crazy kidnapper and kill you when you go see him. Meeting guys from online is the worst idea ever. That is basically asking to be killed or raped.
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well, a few days ago this guy gave me a note and asked for my number, i of course gave it to him, and he called that night.. now this guy i alwayyyys have thought was really hot, and just awsome and everything but he never noticed me, then we started talkin on the phone a lot and he told me he was into me and that from the beginnng of the school year he has been really attracted to me and i felt really flattered, we talk on the phone 24/7 and last night we were on the phone until 2:30 in the morning! .. well he wrote me a poem and we always say i love you to eachother.. he says he really likes me a lot and i like him a lot to, the problem is im just worried that im getting to into this and that hes kinda just with me because he thinks im hot or something, even though he says how sweet and funny and awsome i am.. sryyy its so long but please help! thank you so much (link)
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Have a little faith in this guy. If you're really worried, then ask him and check, but trust this guy. He doesn't seem to be that superficial. Trust him until he gives you reasons not to. I think he's sincere, but once again if you are that worried, then ask him.
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well last year (6th grade) i was asked out by one of my best guy friends and i said yes, but then the next day i told him that is was just to weird and i wanted to go back to being a bff, so that whole rest of the year i have not talk to him and the whole time of this year i have not been talking to him, i mean sometimes we talk on AIM, but its just so weird, and im not sure that i really want to be his friend again, one of my other guy friends told me that he still liked me... so i was really confused. so in all of my class that are with him, i get soooo shy, and i have not raised my hand once in that class and im not as social, i am always just soo hyper and entergetic and crazy around everyone else! i dont want to talk to him, but is there any advice on how to just be more in to the game, because i am getting really bad grades in that class because im to shy to raise my hand to ask about something that i dont get!so i need serious help and advice! (link)
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Don't worry about it. He'll get over you soon enough (I don't want that to sound mean, but it's true). Don't suffer because you are afraid of what he thinks. Be your normal self and it will be ok. If he has any signs of wanting to go out with you again, then you just have to tell him that you aren't interested. Be yourself and do your best and everything will turn out ok. Don't suddenly change your personality because of him.
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any tips on how to housebreak a 10m month old pit bull terrier mix without using a crate?!!! i need help please....
-Kersten (link)
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Well, whenever my dog used to pee on the carpet, we would hit her on the top of the head with a rolled up newspaper and take her to the door to be let out. We would also make it known that it wasn't acceptable by saying bad girl and things of that nature. Maybe that's not good for the dog, but it always worked for us.
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ok, so i have this really personal problem, i am a 16 year old girl, but i was born with male genatiles. I dont know what to do becuase i have a steady boyfriend, we have been seeing eachother for about 3 months. We have gone to third base( but i gave him pleasure not the other way around)and he told me taht he wants to do the smae for me. Im afraid that if he sees my 'down there area' that he will be grossed out. But i really really love him. Help me, how can i tell him?!
-worried (link)
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First, everyone is saying that they have never heard of anything like this before, but it is not completely uncommon. There are other people in the same situation (I bet you already know that). Well, you don't want him to find out on his own, so you are going to have to tell him. This will probably cause a lot of problems because one he could get upset (which is kind of expected because this is a different situation) and because he could tell other people which might cause some problems. Truthfully, you should talk to you parents about the situation (maybe not tell them about the 3rd base thing if they are strict, but about the whole thing with you not liking being a girl with guys parts). Maybe you can do something to fix it. Talk to your parents about possibly telling people about your situation and the consequences. If you can't tell him, than you'll either have to dump him or just tell him not to touch you. I can't see it any other way. I'm really sorry if I didn't help and tell me how things turn out. I hope things work out for you.
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he didnt care at all about me when i told him the truth about why i overeacted. he just mad at me because i dumped him for not callin him. he doesnt care at all about what happened to me he didnt say anything. do u rekon hes worth it? im begining to think he never cared at all. (link)
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He's definately not worth it. If he's not worried about you and your problems and he doesn't care at all, then he doesn't need to be wasting your time. Truthfully, you shouldn't be worrying about him, he should be worrying about you. You shouldn't have to wonder if he cares or not. It should be obvious. Move on to someone better, you don't need to be thinking about him at all right now.
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my boyfriend of 6 months didnt call me for 2 days, and in that time it was the anniversary of my bestfriends death, i found out my grandma was dyin, my parents fought n my mum left, n i ran away.. i really wanted to speak to him in those 2 days and when i finally called him he said he had simply been too busy to call so i overeacted n dumped him, i regretted it and told him the reason why i overeacted and he didnt care.. should i get back wit him because i overeacted.. or shouldnt i because he wasnt there when i needed him (link)
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You had reason to overreact, not because he did anything wrong, but because you were going through a tough time. My question is did he not care that you overreacted because he understood or he didn't care why you overreacted. If he understood, then get back together with him because he didn't know (except the best friend thing in which he probably should have called ,but sometimes people just forget). If he didn't care at all, then let him be. He is not worth your time or energy.
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My boyfriend used to be so romantic to me and for the last few months its like he lost it all. I even gave him more space which is what he wanted but he likes to hang out with his bestfriend and i respect taht but his bestfriends girlfriend is always over and its like everyday and i dont like him goin there because he liked her before we went out and she liked him then too but she also liked him when wer first started goin out..i trust him and i want him to be with his friends but i dont trust her she likes to be with her boyfriend but also with my boyfriends its always like them three and i ask him to do sutff the four of us be he thinks i'll ruin the fun because im so miserable because when ur boyfriend can say the meanest things to u but then turn around and say the sweetest? whats up with him i need help fast?
the bad thing is tommrow is our 11 month ann. and today he said he doesnt think we'll be together for a long time and i dont know what to think i lve him more than anythign and i dont know whered i'd be without him! (link)
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I think you need to dump him. He seems like he's being a real jerk and not treating you right. You deserve better. If he is not willing to hang out with you, then you need to find a boyfriend who is. Although you love him, you'll find someone else who is actually worth your time. It seems like he's just wringing you along and you need to stop taking it. The sweet things he says can't make up for the mean things he says. Dump him and rely on your friends for support and fun. I know this probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but it is the best thing to do.
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Im going to Las Vegas in April..has anyone been there and seen some good magic shows or something entertaining for 13/14 yr olds? (link)
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Go to M&M world and New York, New York.
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