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ok, so i have this really personal problem, i am a 16 year old girl, but i was born with male genatiles. I dont know what to do becuase i have a steady boyfriend, we have been seeing eachother for about 3 months. We have gone to third base( but i gave him pleasure not the other way around)and he told me taht he wants to do the smae for me. Im afraid that if he sees my 'down there area' that he will be grossed out. But i really really love him. Help me, how can i tell him?!
-worried
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people can be so rude. I know people have said this before buttalk to your parents explain to them dont be embarassed they dont know what position you are in. Then try to go to websites on this stuff like how much surgery will cst i dont know if you want surgery but i dont think you should tell your boy friend make sure he doesnt go down there because i dont think he will be happy. Idont know tho he migh feel uncofotable iam sorry my advice isnt that good i just hope i help a little im me if you ever want to talk
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Megan
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lol uhhh, if you show him that he will be freaked out and then tell everyone and even thought you think he loves you if you guys get in a fight he will use that againt you, since you are 16 and that gets out you will be runied...becuase at that age the dumvest things cause like probelms and stuff like that so um keep that thing to yourself... and be carefull... lmao
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if he doesn't accept you for who you are he is not worth it. the only way you will know if he does is if you tell him about it. He is gunna have to find out one way or another. You can't keep putting it off.
~morgan
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wow that sux...i mean that ur bf dosnt know you have male body parts... well i would tell him then if he dusnt except you for who you are than hes an a$$hole!!!
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Greek Ouzo
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thats pretty sick... that would gross me out 2
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All I can say is, if he doesn't accept you for who you are, he's not worth it. The only way you'll know if he does, is tell him about it. He's gunna have to find out one way or another. You can't keep putting it off. Good luck hun.
♥ Krissy
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Erm, I really can't help you here, but directed at the other people answering:
YOU SICK FUCKS! HAVE SOME COMPASSION!
My apologies to any who offered advice that actually made sense. For future reference, if you have nothing beneficial to say, don't say anything. And yes, that makes me a hypocrite by posting this.
Redlion
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I am sooo sorry! That like totally sucks!! You are a girl right? Just tell him what you told me!! Tell him that you don't want to gross him out but-blah blah blah!!
Love, Jamie
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Wow! okay i dont want to be rude but wow! talk to your parents about getting it remove-yes they can do this!- its going to cost but yet your going to have to get it done soon while your young! Hopefully they will agree and take you to the dooctor about it! For your bf your just have to be honest with him. But yet watch out if he goes to your school then you might not want to talk to him b/c then he might spread rumors around and that just wont turn out good!
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Some of the answers/advice that was given to were rude. Talk to your parents about it and see if you can do something. If your boyfriend cares about you then he would not mind not touching down there and he would wait. I mean you only have been with him for 3 months. That is not that long of a time to be touching each other below the waist. If you wait more and he stays with you, I think that in the heat of the moment, you could stop him and you could tell him or hint him some way about it by saying "I am different then most other girls." and maybe he will get the message. I hope that everything works out for you. If you need anymore of my snazzy help, please IM me or send me one in the inbox! :)
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-Inga
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First, everyone is saying that they have never heard of anything like this before, but it is not completely uncommon. There are other people in the same situation (I bet you already know that). Well, you don't want him to find out on his own, so you are going to have to tell him. This will probably cause a lot of problems because one he could get upset (which is kind of expected because this is a different situation) and because he could tell other people which might cause some problems. Truthfully, you should talk to you parents about the situation (maybe not tell them about the 3rd base thing if they are strict, but about the whole thing with you not liking being a girl with guys parts). Maybe you can do something to fix it. Talk to your parents about possibly telling people about your situation and the consequences. If you can't tell him, than you'll either have to dump him or just tell him not to touch you. I can't see it any other way. I'm really sorry if I didn't help and tell me how things turn out. I hope things work out for you.
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wow... is that even possible? well, anyway, u should confront him. if he gets grossed out and dumps u for it, then atleast u'll know that he's a complete shallow jerk. if he truly loves you, he wont care.
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Girl..I`ve never heard nOthin like this befOre..if he really cares abOut yOu asz much as yOu do fOr him...then he shOuld understand...but dOn`t get me wrOng because nO One wOuld take that well at all....umm-can`t u get ir surgically remOved? i knOw yOu have thOuqht abOut it but yOu shOuld really gO intO that. yOu shOuldn`t have tO live with this humiliatiOn
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Umm.. i dont know if thats possible.. but umm you might want to break up with him because if you dont then he will find out and everyone will be told
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