kay so theres this girl, i thought she was my bff.........but then i think she kinda changed over the summer. and then she tells me stuff, and i believed her, and then she says shes lieing. but now i dont know if its true or not and im scared about her now
From the little to info to work with what I can best see is that your friend is confused, and in that she is confusing the people she loves, you.
I know from personal experience people drift apart and change through just a few months. I lost my best friend, we still don't speak! I still miss her. And even though I don't agree or understand some of the things she does or has done I know that I wish I just could've been there for her, maybey if I had done somethings differently, things would be different. But that is in the fast and now I need to focuse on the future.
You have that chance! This is your present and you can change the current out come of this situation that will be similar to mine! Tell her you love her for what is on the inside no matter how corny it sounds! That you don't understand exactly what is changed but that you still want to be there for her and want her to be there for you! Things don't have to be like old times because we all change. But if you can salvage this friendship it is worth it! Tell her you don't like lies, and you wish that your could start a clean slate, no lies, no uncept promises!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. Before we started dating, we were really good friends, but about 4 months after we started dating I got really bored with him. He is also REALLY obsessed with me and I still want to be his friend which is why I haven't broken up with him. However, in a month we are going to New Jersey together because his parents invited me. They paid for the extra hotel room and everything for me already. I want to break up with him but I don't know if I should do it before I go on vacation with him, or after. Thanks for any help you can give me ♥
Perfect scenerio:
You dating this wonderfull guy who is going to jersey and just so happens to be bringing his you with him and you get a free vacation!
Sounds a bit fishy, not meaning to sound like I am saying your using him, because your not... Yet. If you take that vaction as his girl friend and then you dump him then your were using him.
So dump him confess that he his your best friend, but that is it. Tell him that you had to do it now, you couldn't go to jersey with him, and his parents knowing that your true feelings weren't out! Tell him your sorry and that his friend ship means more then a vaction and that your sorry and understand that he may not want to be friends right now, but that hopefully he can get past this and forgive you for not have being honest sooner!
I know this sound awfull because you really probley wanted that trip but it is the best and if he is your true best friend he will still let your go! That is what friends do. You guys can still be close just not romantically!!!
-C.D
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15/f
okay. so i like this guy a lot. and i think he likes me, but im not sure. i went to this party the other night and he was there. and i got his attention because he texted me 20 minutes after the party ended. so we have been texting each other off and on for the past few weeks, and sometimes he will just stop answering me. which is weird since he texts me first. and whenever i mention hanging out he says either alright or cool? what does that mean. im getting mixed signals. HELP PLEASE :)
Obviously he is flirting... badley. Maybey your his first MAJOR crush!?!?! He might not answer your frequently due to the fact he doesn't know what to say. He isn't this perfect man who will do everything right!
And whenever he says cool or alright he is trying to not to sound like a geek and so YEAH. But be cool and sly. So that IS his way of saying yes he would absolutly like to hang out with you! So now instead of asking to hang out set an exact time and date that way he has to give you an exact answer!
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okay. So my friend doesn't really seem like my friend too much anymore. Ever since middle school started my friend has just kind of dumped me. I wasn't in her class at the begining of the year, then i was through the rest of the year. She made a new friend at the begining of 7th grade, and introduced me to her when i got moved to her class. Now they always do everything together and always leave me out. I really do not know what to do. I miss hanging out with her like we did in 6th grade. Just help me please ! I don't know if i should say something to them or just keep getting left out of things until they notice. Then there's times that I do try to say something to them, but they get mad at me and leave me out of more things. Help !
Here is something that anyone out of middle school can tell you that your friendship status changes! Your growning up and growing apart. If I look back at 5th grade and pictured who I would be friends with in the next 3 years I am pretty sure none of my friends would have came to mind.
That is because you have more classes now! You have more responsibility and these are the years you really learn who people are! SO... YOU have to choose if you wanna either put up with the crap or not. IF i was you not only would i get your friend alone, but I would tell her how you feel and ALSO make new friends. You should feel wanted and if they arn't doing it then find someone who will
-c.d
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ok im 15/f and i live in florida and i just wanted to know: is it weird that after a few relationships i don't want to really date anymore? and i have this one friend that i really like and i might want to date him but i like being single and i don't know if i should date him or not, and i don't know if he still likes me or not considering he's asked me out twice already. and my mom doesn't really like the guy but she didn't really meet him, and my friends say i should but then i don't know because he can lie occasionally
Okay, so you like being single for a little while thats great! Enjoy it, and stay in that period of your life for a while I say a few weeks or longer depending on what ever you feel like! Don't listen to your friends they arn't you clearly!
Here is what I think you should do:
1st- stay single for a while
2nd-while single JUST stay friends with your guy friend, and make sure you tell him your just want to be friends for now anyways so he isn't confused
3rd-then invite him over along with your other friends for a casual movie night or something where your mom can get get to know you guy friend as your friend first.
***4th*** Once your mom is comfortable around him and you decided he is a nice guy that you want to date. DATE hime :D.
By giving time your will get your thoughts clear and your mom will learn to love him. OR worst case scenerio if he is a bad guy then you will learn that with time.
win win either way though. GOOD LUCK
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Ok there is this friend were ONE minute...they are so nice...and next they are mean and snotty...i also hear from other people that they are talking bad about me and making fun of me...idk what to do...should i just never talk to them again?..HELP
Hi, I know what boat your in.
Infact at my high school theres many different "clicks" and one of them uses nice people like you.
They will act all nice and everything when they need something but the minute you say something that isn't in their vocab. they make sure you feel different. For example. The people at my school used this one girl and they told her to hang out with them they had to be skinny, so she basically starved her self!
***So I say dump them, even if their negetivaty isn't to that extreme! Chances are they probabley are talking trash about you! So stand up tell they are rude jerks and find someone people who might apreciate your presence in their lifes!!!
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17/f.
some random boy who looks my age or maybe older, just moved in like 6 houses away from me.. & well the past few days, he will walk by, stare at me the entire time, & then as hes past me, he will keep turning around to look at me more. hes pretty cute, & i want to get to know him. but i don't know how or what to say, next time i see him should i just be like, hey? .. i don't know, what should i say. :)
Your 17, your a young lady! And saying something like "so are you new in the neighborhood" to a guy that stares at you day after day will sound to boring, like you have researched what to say to him. For Pete sakes he is cute, just catch him off guard one day when he is looking and you and ask him " Why do you stare over here every after noon" Or morning or day or whatever you want. He will think you are gutsy if that is even an adjective!
Then after you have made that he move he will have to answer and you flirt your way through the rest. ;.
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my best friends hate me and say all i do is see my boyfriend and never spend time with them. i do spend alot of time with my boyfriend (obviously we love eachother) who ive been going out with for almost 8 months. but thought i was still finding time with them. they started making up things about mine and my bf's relationship, wich is not true. i dont understand why friends whould do this, and everytime i try to talk to them they wont listen and start abusing me and making it seem like its all my fault. what can i do?
-Sara 16
Hi, I don't mean to trash other advice, but in my opinion your friends don't dislike your boyfriend, they are just protective and jelous in some sense! For example imagine if you 3 were all single and one of the other two friends suddenly starts dating this guy that you and the other friend dont know or hang out with! You and your friend would of course want the best for the other persons relationship but, in another sense your protective and scared of loosing them, or them getting hurt!
In conclusions your friends probabley miss you, and are afraid that your relationship is going to far! They just need some special time away from the relationship just to hang. So Here is is my advise
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Sara stop taking this crap your friends are giving you about you and your special guy! Stand up for your friendship. Tell them that this is crap and that they know it! Tell them to try and view it from your shoes like you have done and tell them and that your sorry! Because you probabley could have canceled one date a week just to hang with them.
When your friends and you reconsile plan a few days to shop and go to the theatre, or whatever you guys do and do and do it! Then when they are comforatable you may be able to combine your bf life with your your friendship life.
Meaning if they get to know better they may learn to like. Now I am not saying take them on every date, but just the oposite sorta! Take your boyfriend to SOME of your shopping trips or movie days with your friends! That way all is happy!
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