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At the begining of the year my biology honors teacher had us fill out a form about us. It asked what we wanted to be careerwise. I put that I wanted to be a journalist. The other day he read off what everyone wanted to be. The other kids wanted to be surgeons, and marine biologists..all really important things. When he got to my name he said "Journalist!....Good luck with that. She'll never get a job"
I was so embarassed! Everyone else had really important careers picked out and mine was so stupid. I'm not sure if I want to be a journalist anymore but now I have no idea what I want to do. I have to look at colleges next year and I have no clue what I want to major in. Can anyone help me? (link)
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don't worry about what your biology teacher said. half of those answers were probably made up to suck up to the teacher anyway. if i listened to what other poeple said, i don't know what i would do. i am in college and i major in elementary education. every other person i tell this to scoffs and says that it's the most pointless thing to major in and is created for people with no brain. that hurt me a lot at first and i actually considered changing majors, but then i realized - what do i care what those poeple think? i like children and it's what my heart desires. it's all i want, and it's not pointless - it changes little humans' lives. and the same goes for jounalism - it's a very important profession and also has a great impact on other people and the society. you should follow your interest and don't feel pressured by what other poeple say. you can achieve great things in any career, as long as it is something you like.
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okay well, i was dating this guy for 8 years, (im 19) and just last year he asked me to marry him. well i got pregnant about 3 months before our wedding which was on october 8th, but about a month ago i had a misscarriage. well he started freaking out on me and telling me i killed our baby and im a cheating whore... and that he wants to divorce me. well i gave him the divorce papers but the problem is neither of us know what to do... what should i do? (link)
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do you mean you don't know if you want to divorce or not? i'm not sure if that's what you're asking, but i will answer in terms of that.
the things is, you've been together for 8 years and that has to mean something to both of you. when affected by tragedy, such as a miscarriege, people may think and say things that they normally wouldn't. he probably just feels trumendous pain and he doesn't know how to deal with it so he blaims it on you. once he gets over it, he will most likely regret having divorced you and will realize how wrong he was. i would recommend going to couples counseling first, to try to figure out this problem and see if you guys can manage through this hard situation and move on, together. if you see that divorse is the best solution - then go through with it, but like i said, i would really recommend seeing a therapist together first.
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I'm 15/f and really shy. I can't phone people, answer the door, buy things from shops, talk to people I don't know well.. and basically stuff like that. Everyone else can do normal things like that easily but I can't.. my hands start shaking and my stomach goes all tight, I blush and I just wanna run away when that happens. I think I'm scared of people judging me or something. I know people won't really care if I make mistakes but I worry about things so much anyway that I can't talk to people.
I can't even apply for college because you have to have an interview! I probably won't ever get married or get a job and I'll be a huge failure just because I'm shy! I don't know if I can get counselling because how would they be able to help me when I can't even speak to them? It's ruining my life. People just say 'snap out of it' or 'get some confidence'.. well it's not that easy, you can't buy confidence. My dad calls me a coward because I hate walking past people in the street.. which I suppose I am, but he thinks I'm pretending to be shy or something.
How can I get over it without seeing a counsellor? Are there medicines that work? Thanks xx (link)
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well, for medications you would also need to see a therapist and tell him what the problem is, so that he can perscribe it to you. i see that you have no problem writing things down to people that you can't see. what you could do is write your problem down on paper with your email on it and give it to a counselor or slide it under their door. then, you could get their advice through email. or, you could go to psychotherapist and communicate with them by writing stuff down on paper. also, don't worry, you won't be a failure. if you can't fix your problem, there are plenty of jobs online, for which you don't have to talk to anyone in person. also, you don't have to go to interviews for all colleges... well, maybe that depends on what state you're in, but i would check the application requirements for the colleges you're interested in first.
if you want, i can give you my psychology professor's email - he has an incredible amount of experience and i'm absolutely sure that he will be able to point you in the right direction and tell you what you could do. just email me at m-dav@hotpop.com or leave me a comment in feedback.
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My mom and dad separated and last year had a fight about me going to New York. Since that i have spoken to him but havent gone to visit him but he comes to see me at school. The problem is he is upset that i dont come to his house and i feel sad that i made him feel that way but i dont want to go because all he is going to do is pressure me with school work and i dont want that because i want to hangout with friends. I really dont want him feeling that way and i want to visit him so waht should i do. (link)
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tell him the reason why you're afraid to come over to his house. if that doesn't help him stop pressuring you, at least he'll know that it's not because you don't love him.
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What do I do when my mom tells me that I'm the cause of all of her problems? (link)
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just understand that she doesn't really feel that way, she probably just said that because she was angry. people sometimes say very painful things that aren't true when they're angry and they later regret it but are too proud to say they're sorry. just tell her, "mom, i love you," and you'll see how she really feels about you.
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Can anyone tell me a personal experience they've had with dealing with tolerance? Why is it important to be tolerant of others? The reason I'm asking this question is because I have to write an essay and I would like your input on this so I can include it in my examples. All 5's to anyone who give serious, thoughtful answers. (link)
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well, to me tolerance is the ability to accept a person's right to existence no matter what they're like and how much you may dislike their actions. you don't have to like them, but you have to accept them the way they are. one who's tolerent of others doesn't hate anyone and doesn't hold any prejudices based on any external characteristics, but bases his or her judgement of that person based directly on their behavior. if their judgement of the person is negative, they don't act towards them in a negative way, but they don't pretend to like them either.
i always try to turn my negative feelings toward some people into tolerance, accepting that although i might not be able to see or value enough this person's virtues, it doesn't mean that they don't have them or that i don't have any faults of my own.
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Well, I am currently a junior in high school and my schedule is jammed packed. I go to work (i tutor), go home to do my homework and if by some miracle, make it to bed before 2:30 in the morning and then wake up at five for early morning classes. I am currently taking: AP US History (early morning), Honors Chemistry, Accounting, Honors Algebra 3, Spanish 3, Band and Honors English.
So my question is, how do I deal with all the stress...or I guess, what are some ways to deal with the stress besides what I do...which is tone everything out while drawing, listening to music that really doesn't help my situation (Getting Away With Murder by Papa Roach) and just sitting somewhere and balling like a baby. I need other ways to deal with this, and my mind is drawing a blank. Thanks in advance.
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do some relaxation exercises, like tensing your muscles in different parts of your body and then relaxing them, beginning with your feet, going up to your neck and your face. try meditating - do some breathing exersises... i don't really have particular examples of that, i'd recommend buying a book on meditation or looking it up online. it really helps you realease your tension. also, try combining work with relaxation. take a nice foam bath while reading you required english reading, listen to relaxing music while doing your algebra homework. also, designate sertain times during the day or the week entirely to doing whatever you like - reading your favorite book, drawing, doing any kind of hobby... to get more satisfying sleep, try to always go to sleep and wake up the same time every day. hope that was helpful =)
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I'm 13 && had discharge for almost 2 years. recently it turned to a light brown for about 4 days. now i barely have it. Is it normal to have discharge that long && what does it mean that it was brown for like 4 day?
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i think it's just your period starting. in fact, that's exactly how mine began. i was 14, and never had periods before. then i started having brown discharge for a few days once every month. then it became bloody, 6 or so months after the first brown discharge it turned into real periods. some people's periods are just weird like that... if you're kinda skinny or small, that might be why - skinny girls' periods are weak in the beginning and they begin later than average. so don't worry, it's alright =) though you could go and see a ginecologist and he'd be able to explain it to you more clearly. hope that helped =)
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Okay so my dads a major alcoholic and Im trying to get him in trouble and arrested or somehow away from my mother and i cause he is a danger and a jerk. I mean its horrible. He wont physically abuse us to the point of marks cause he dont want to go to jail. However we suspect he may be back on drugs (hes been on them in the past) cause he seems all down dissapears and come back really perky. How can I see if he is? How can I prove it? What should I do? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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visit your local women's shelter and tell them about it. they'll tell you what you can do and see if your dad is doing anything illegal enough to arrest him. don't try to spy on him or take the matter into your own hands - it's too dangerous, imagine what he'd do to you if he found out.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months and i want to get him something for christmas. I don't have a lot to spend and i want it to be something special. Any ideas? (link)
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make it something personal. make a cute little hand-made card, write a poem, put a picture of the two of you in a pretty frame... something along those lines.
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Is it bad that im 16 and I am having protected sex with my boyfriend of five months like once every other week? (link)
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bad according to whom? according to most 16-year-old girls, it's fine. most of them are having sex already, not all of them use condoms and they'd say that once every two weeks isn't that often. according to devout christians, it's a sin. according to your parents, i'm sure, it's devient behavior. whose standards do you wish to follow? set your own and follow them.
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are? boobs fat?
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partially, yea. that's why skinny girls (like me =)) usually have tiny ones, lol.
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I have a firend (if you want to call her that) that has been going aroudn saying that I'm anorexic. I'm 5'4 and 102lbs so yeah, I'm thin but I'm far from anorexic.
Well at school the guy I like came up to me and asked me if I was. I tired to tell him that I wasn't but he just told me that it was really gross.
He was talking to my sister online and she sent me their conversation and he said that he was planning on asking me out but the anorexic thing made him not.
I've had 4 other people come up to me and ask since him! I don't know what to do because this is all so stupid. (link)
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oh yea, some people in my highschool used to think i was anorexic too. they're just jelous and don't want to believe that somebody's just lucky like that or works out. to prove to that guy that you're not anorexic, just sit with him during lunch and eat a big, juicy cheeseburger right in front of him, or ask him out to lunch. as for that "friend" of yours, just tell her she's a bitch for doing that and stop hanging out with her.
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Hey what if someone wanted to have sex and u didnt want to and they layed you on his bed should you have sex of call for help? (link)
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call for help, that'd be a rape attempt.
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im asian and i curl my eyelashes and put mascara on so they look longer and curled ..what are some other tips i can do so they look longer and thicker? (link)
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use 2-step mascara - with a gel end to lengthen them and the mascara end to volumize them. i think several brands have them, i use l'oreal, but i think maxfactor, revelon and others might have better ones. you might also use dark eyeshadow to strengthen the effect.
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So my bestfriend is turning 17 Dec. 17th and I was planning on throwing him a suprise party. I already have everything all planned out and I already invited everyone! So everything is basically ready.
Well, last night his mom called me and told me that she didn't want me to throw him a party because she didn't want to pay for it. His parents are buying him a new car for his birthday since he had to get his older brothers car when he had first got his license. Since they were gettign the car, they don't want to speand any more money.
I told her that it wasn't a problem because I was going to pay for everything and she didn't have to worry about it. I was never even planning on asking then to pay for it.
Food isn't a problem because my mom already agreed to buy the food for us. Neither is alcohol becuase everyone always chips in to pay for that. And we already have decorations and stuff left over from past parites. And itisn't liek we have to pay for music.
I told her all of this and she still said she didn't want me to throw one becuase she'd fell like she was supposed to pay for it. How can I convince her that she doesn't and to let me throw him a party?? (link)
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just tell her that it would really suck if he couldn't have a party at all, and it's not necessarily his parents' responsibility to throw him one, it doesn't even have to have anything to do with his parents. if everyone just brings something it'll be like no one payed too much. if she really feels bad, she could make the birthday cake and let you have it at their house.
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Hi
I am diagnosed for Obsessive compulsive dissorder and Paranoid schizophrenia, However they are wondering if I have an intruding mental health issue, i.e. authism....? What may this be and can anyone please help...?
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well, you have to understand that the labeling of these "disorders" is very vague and doesn't really mean anything. it's very common for several disorders to go together because they might have been caused by the same thing. treat this as just one problem and forget about the labels.
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okay so i have liked this guy since last year and we have been really good friends. he is in 8th grade and im a freshmen and he always waits for me before 4th period every day and hugs me everytime he sees me. and so i finally told him and he says that we are too good of friends and he doesnt want to mess anything up but i dont really get it because all the girls he has gone out with have like cheated on him and stuff and he knows i would never be like that and i dont understand why you wouldnt want to go out with your friend.. like would you rather go out with a complete stranger? someone please help idk what to do. (link)
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well, maybe what he means is, you're so good of friends, he can't imagine himself going out with you. that's how i usually feel when my guy friends ask me out, but i try to say something else that sounds nicer so that they won't be all upset that i don't like them. just ask him upfront: do you like me, or not? if he doesn't, then at least you still have a good friend. if he does, then tell him how painful it would be for you to know that you really like him, and he likes you, but you can't go out. tell him that if you're such good friends, your friendship can take it.
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What would a 14-15 year old girl think if they saw the guys cock jus the shape of it from your shorts, cause theyre basketball shorts. Would they think its gross, hot!, orweird ? (link)
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depends on how much experience the girl has had around cocks. if she has an older bro, she'll think it's normal; if she's had sex, she might think it's hot; if she's never been around cocks before, she might think it's weird or gross and try her best not to look at it, or, on the contrary, stare at it. don't worry about it, they need to get used to it =)
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is there anyway i can get checked for stds without my parents knowing? or the heatlh center letting them know? (link)
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yea, your school might have a health center that'll check you for free, and any clinic won't tell your parents w/o your consent.
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