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okay well, i was dating this guy for 8 years, (im 19) and just last year he asked me to marry him. well i got pregnant about 3 months before our wedding which was on october 8th, but about a month ago i had a misscarriage. well he started freaking out on me and telling me i killed our baby and im a cheating whore... and that he wants to divorce me. well i gave him the divorce papers but the problem is neither of us know what to do... what should i do?
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do you mean you don't know if you want to divorce or not? i'm not sure if that's what you're asking, but i will answer in terms of that.
the things is, you've been together for 8 years and that has to mean something to both of you. when affected by tragedy, such as a miscarriege, people may think and say things that they normally wouldn't. he probably just feels trumendous pain and he doesn't know how to deal with it so he blaims it on you. once he gets over it, he will most likely regret having divorced you and will realize how wrong he was. i would recommend going to couples counseling first, to try to figure out this problem and see if you guys can manage through this hard situation and move on, together. if you see that divorse is the best solution - then go through with it, but like i said, i would really recommend seeing a therapist together first.
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Do you mean what to do as far as divorcing him? I'm not sure what you meant specifically so...
Did he treat you pretty well while you guys were together those 8 years or did you end up putting up with a lot of unesscary crap? Had it been me I'd be taking a lot into consideration before signing the papers. For starters 8 years seems like a lot to just give up, but if you think you could be happier and you could do better then spread your wings. Especially after his little outburst. That's not right, and I hope you know that nothing like that is your fault. Miscarriages sometimes happen and the way he handled it was absurd.
If you do still decide you want to be with him give it some time. Seperate yourselves from eachother for a while. See how that goes without him in your life for a bit. Time will only tell.
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