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What do I do when my mom tells me that I'm the cause of all of her problems?
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im almost 100% sure she doesnt mean it in a bad way, shes probably just frusterated...try doing something nice for her like cleaning the house or something
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dont listen to it!!! oh my gosh! my mom is like that...tell her you love her, if she says something like "your not worth saying 'i love you' back to" or SOMETHING...just know that she doesnt mean it! dont let it bother you! she'll come around! dont give up on your family though!
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ashley
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ignore her.. If you do something wrong and you know you do then maybe straighten the way you act.. &heart; Dez
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Well, my mom does that all the time. You have to really realize that she's just saying these things out of her temporary anger and is taking it out on you. She really does love you. She just needs to vent, so she does it at you. My mother does this too, but you really have to just deal with it. Or the mature thing to do would be to sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her how much it hurts your feelings. Chances are that she doesn't even know it's hurting you.
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Hi there,
I would ignore it.
Wpeak to your Mom when she is calm and tell her that what she said upset you and you'd like to know what problems you cause her. Chances are she won't be able to say anything and will apologise.
I would say most parents get to that point sometimes and more often than not it is not your fault.
Maybe at the time she said it she was having trouble somewhere else in her life and even something as small as you asking her a question could have made her say it, you know the straw that broke the camels back and all that... and she lashed out at you.
Don't worry about it, she'll probably apologise to you before you even have to say anything, and if she doesn't then approach her or a close family member about it.
Take Care
Mel
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you that might be a little harsh on your moms side but all you do is ignore it , she prob doesnt mean it she was mad and said it those kinds or things you just ignore and go on ♥
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You ignore it. A statement like that is a hysterical denial of reality. NO One is the cause of someone's every problem. Your mother is going through a really tough time and is not dealing with it very well. I can't say she'll improve, I don't know what her problem is, but I can tell you that she's not telling you the truth. I hope she gets her ass off her shoulders and realizes how foolish she's being. Comments like that even if they aren't meant and are said in anger have been known to split families. I wish you luck.
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You say how full of shit and stupid that statement actually is. Besides, she fucked your dad and had you, so isn't she indirectly the cause of all her problems?
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I'm guessing that your mom is just going through a midlife crisis. Don't worry about it its not you she's just going through a phase...menapause and can act really crazy and out of control. She doesn't mean half the things she says so don't let it get to you. It' not her fault her hormones are just acting up.
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just understand that she doesn't really feel that way, she probably just said that because she was angry. people sometimes say very painful things that aren't true when they're angry and they later regret it but are too proud to say they're sorry. just tell her, "mom, i love you," and you'll see how she really feels about you.
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Well when shes telling you that she wrong. What i think you need to do is talk to her like kinda a conference. and ask her how are you the cause of all her problems and ask her what you do that makes her fee this way. Do this in a calm voice. if she starts yeling then just sit there and take it. i know its really hard becuase somtimes its hard for me too. but i did what i told you to do and things have been great. just kinda stay out of her way and be very help ful and compliment her aot have manners things like that well i really hope i helped. (good luck)
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Blow her off. She has no right to tell you that. Spend your time doing something happier away from her so she can't blame you fro anything because you weren't there. You could tell your dad too.
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Tell you mom how you feel, for example.. If it makes you mad Say "Mom, When you tell me that you make me mad, It hurts alot to hear you say that"
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Most parents say that to most of their offsprings. I donno what to say. Maybe don't bother her as much or ignore her and wait until she asks you whats wrong && when she does tell her what she said to you. Thats what I do//parents can't stand it and will tell you that she didn't mean it or wasn't thinking
good luck
♥ Britt
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