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"too good of friends"
okay so i have liked this guy since last year and we have been really good friends. he is in 8th grade and im a freshmen and he always waits for me before 4th period every day and hugs me everytime he sees me. and so i finally told him and he says that we are too good of friends and he doesnt want to mess anything up but i dont really get it because all the girls he has gone out with have like cheated on him and stuff and he knows i would never be like that and i dont understand why you wouldnt want to go out with your friend.. like would you rather go out with a complete stranger? someone please help idk what to do.
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See, you apparently don't get the concept. He probably wants to date you but doesn't want to mess up your friendship. Meaning: if you two go out, then break up, you guys wont be as good of friends any more. or not friends at all.
He has a good reason to say that. You should be a little happy about that because now you know that he really cares about your friendship. Its tough because you like him, I know, but you gotta live with it.
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Ive been in this situation before, many times, its hard.
Try explaining to him that you would never hurt him and if hes worried about you maybe not being friends after, say how you get on tooo well not to be friends... if that makes sense.
Its worked twice for me! lol
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You may not think this but trust me friendship is *always* stronger than boyfriend/girlfriend. If he says he doesn't want to mess it up then believe him. Maybe because he has been cheated on that he won't go out with you he may just be afraid of going out with you and then you end up cheating and then your whole friendship is over. No matter how much you say he doesn't care for me just because he won't go out with you its the totally oppisite it's because that you guys are too good of friends to start dating. But you never know usually best friends/friends end up going out in the long run. Hope I helped.
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OK i have kinda of ben in this problem, if I was you I would wait a while and ask him why he wont go out with you? If he doesnt answer you or walks away then maybe he doesnt want to talk to you right mow so keep trying,also tell him how much you like him and if that doesnt work then try to forget about that subject and be best of friends again.
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well, maybe what he means is, you're so good of friends, he can't imagine himself going out with you. that's how i usually feel when my guy friends ask me out, but i try to say something else that sounds nicer so that they won't be all upset that i don't like them. just ask him upfront: do you like me, or not? if he doesn't, then at least you still have a good friend. if he does, then tell him how painful it would be for you to know that you really like him, and he likes you, but you can't go out. tell him that if you're such good friends, your friendship can take it.
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I think you should talk to him and ask him what your concern is and tell him how yuo feel about him...Put your self in his shoes..Maybe If you boh talked and see how eacher other feels then maybe it will work out or maybe bot...
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well, maybe what he's thinking is that if you two do go out, then that would be great. but: if you two one day break up then he's afraid you won't be able to be friends again. and even if right now you think you could believe me sometimes the friends option afterwards doesnt always work. he probably really enjoys being your friend and would also enjoy being your b/f but he doesnt wanna loose the friendship later. for right now put yourself in his shoes for a while.
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