HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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Okay so I met a boy that I really liked. We met in the mall. I knew his friend and brother. He was single. We hung out at the mall and he kept flirting with me all day long. We get to his house and I sleep in his bed/arms. We makeout all night long. I was moaning and heavy breathing because we were doing 4 play. He thought it was verry hot. I'd never done anything with a boy before. I was soo happy that a guy was paying so much attention to me. He calls me the next day and talks to me for a little while about some random stuff. He tells me to call him tomoroww. Me, being nervous and shy. Well, I never do it. I knew I messed up. He hears that I've been talking about him. Which I wasn't. He hates me for a long time. He sees me again. He flirts. I hang around him because I think he likes me again. He tells me to get the f***k out of his house. He was talking to another girl. This girl is very pretty. I just don't know what to do. I thought he liked me. I guess he didn't. He's going out with that girl now. He claims he's in love. Why does he not like me anymore. I feel ugly and fat. Is it because i'm not as pretty as her? I'm really sad about this. All the stuff he did to me. It keeps running through my head. Help.. please... (link)
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the only possible answer is that he used you.im sorry to tell you that man.You gave him what he wanted WAY too fast...you barely got to know the guy and he played you cuz he found that you were givin it all away like that fast.I think that what he thinks about you now is what he will remain beilliving because of the impression you gave him...what you can do is start by not doing that again next time you meet a guy....you need to make em feel that your hard to get so they can REALLY want you...not easy so they can use you:(
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ugh omg i am extremely freaking out. My mom has been stressed out enough and her boyfriend has been proud of me lately but now im pregnant and don't know if i should make my mom more stressed out or what. the only thing that i am worried about after telling my mom is that she is going to go tell her boyfriend and i don't want him to know anything about it and if i tell my mom she is going to think that everytime i go see the oppsite sex that she is going to not be able to trust me even though being in this position i am scared enough and i never want to be in this position again.
please help A.S.A.P.
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you might not really like what ima bout to say but you have no other choice but to tell her hun.If you were responsible enough to have sex as a teenager then you have to carry out your responsibiliity and tell your mom your pregnant....finish what you started.You cant hide it,your mom is the only one who is going to help you through pregnancy....dont you think shes gonna be even MORE stressed out when she realizes your stomache is getting bigger as months pass?Hiding it from her will lead you to taking advice from your freinds who wont know how to help you as much as a grown responsible adult will:(
good luck
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hi.. i like this boy hese 16 and im 13.. i am deeply inlike with him and i dont know what to do he used to like a girl the other year and now he likes somone else
should i tell him how i feel?
thank u
i just really like your advice;)
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thank u ^_^well... do you talk to him anywayz?is he your freind?i just want to say that i dont beilive in anything called "signs" that a guy likes you because unless he says it then theres no proof.I think that if you tell him how you feel(if he dont feel the same like u do) then your going to risk losing your freindship with this guy...if he DOES like you(if you find out through a freind) then CONGRATULATIONS^_^ what you should do is find out how he feels first through someone...if he likes you then you can tell him...if he dont then dont risk your dignity by telling him when he dont feel the same way you do...youll only make him take advantage of the fact that you like him and he might even ignore you after that!
if hes NOT your freind and you dont talk to him anywayz...i dont see apoint in telling him.....
i hope i helped^_^
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Alright, I have a problem. I like this boy. And I can’t get him out of my mind. But the catch is. I have a boyfriend. And we’ve been dating for a while. And I do love him…very much but I like this boy very much…what should I do??? (link)
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well there are some other things you should ask yourself here...does the other guy like you too?first of all i think you should stay with the one you LOVE not like...who seems to be a better guy?which one is willing to be more commited?these are all questions you should have answers for.You should also have karma in mind,what goes around comes around...if you leave this guy for NO reason just for another guy...it will happen to you one day that this guy will leave you for a gurl he likes more then you so take care in your decision
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15/f
my one friend, told my other friend sam that her boyfriend called her like fat. and so shes always had a low self-esteem. and i have no idea why sam would even tellh er that. and its not even true about my friend, shes tottaly average. i have no idea why her boyfriend called her fat. probably because sam said that she didnt think he was cute. but yeah. so now, sam wont eat. she hasnt eaten hardly anything. and all she does is mope around. and her grades are dropping. and i feel really bad. and i hate my friend and her boyfriend for doing this to her. i want to say something to my friend and her boyfriend. and i also wanna help my friend. but i dont know what to do. (link)
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you should tell sam that he probably just called her fat cuz he himslef has no self confidence and hes making fun of her to feel better bout how HE looks.The only true way for her to feel better is for her to have self confidence...talk to her bout how she IS pretty and bout how many guys liked her and stuff.Or you can even take her out shopping or give her a makeover (to make her feel like shes special in a way) and tell your freind that told sam what her boyfreind said about her that what she did was really not nessecary and if she wouldnt have opened her mouth none of this woulda happened.As for the boyfreind...noone should confront him about this but sam(who knows..mabey its just a rumor too)...let her tell him that it hurt her feelings when he called her fat..if you talk to her boyfreind for her,he might think that shes too scared to confront him and take advantage of that
hope i helped:)
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I'm 15/f.
I have no friends.
I had a tight group of friends last year, but for some reason they started to distance themselves from me & all became really close just the three of them, & I don't have anyone else that I hang out with.
I talk to a lot of people at school, but no one would just randomly ask me to hang out--most of them assume I'm still friends with the same people I was last year.
I've never had a boyfriend, or a guy show any interest in me.
I hate my body & the way I look.
Ever since school started, I have been crying myself to sleep every night. Especially because it's hard to see my old friends acting like nothing's wrong, saying hello to me but nothing else.
My mom and dad keep telling me to try to make friends, or tell my old friends that I'd like to hang out with them again, but it's too hard. Not to mention embarassing.
I messaged two of those friends on myspace saying basically, anytime you're free if you want to call me, I'm always available.
One said oh yeah, we will.
& the other didn't respond.
So now I think they probably talk about it & laugh at me.
& I know those aren't the friends you want to have but, they really were good friends & we had a good time.
I don't know how to get through three years of high school with no friends.
I've started cutting myself.
I think about killing myself a lot, but I can't do it because it would crush my parents.
That's the only thing keeping me going, is that my mom would blame herself or something & I couldn't do that to her.
I don't know what to do.
But I can't take this anymore. (link)
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omg cutt yourself and want to kill yourself!?wow dude if not this year then next year youll definetly find newer freinds that are true...anywayz what i think you should do is either talk to your freinds about this..ask them why your no longer chillin and if you don wana do that then the people you talk to at school that you say your not that close to ask them if they wana chill one day and go out with them...sooner or later youll get closer to them...you dont need to be extreemly close to them just be good freinds with everyone...hang out with everyone you know...start up a good convo then ask to go out with them...that way youll be popular and loved by all but seriously...cutting yourself becasue of a minor reason like this will only get you thinking that your abnormal...
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is it right to have a bf or a gf, and yet flirt just for a change (link)
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no its not..its wrong because your being unfaithful in a way to your bf...imagine he goes and flirts with another person...how would that make you feel?Its going to cause problems between you two and hes going to confront you about it and it might end up really nasty like a break up or something...unless you WANT to break up with him...ofcourse that dont mean that you dont talk to any other guy but him but dont flirt because itll only cause trouble
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My names Emily, and me and my friend, Katie are worried about my friend Lila. Shes been hanging out with this girl named Grace, who isnt a good influence and has bad reputation for doing things with guys that she deffinatly shouldnt be doing at our age.
She's becoming a bad influence on Lila. Lila's been going way too far with her boyfriend lately....and sending pictures to random guys. Theres even a video going around about Lila doing some things that she shouldnt be doing. She's starting to get a bad reputation. I dont want her to have a bad reputation, and also her reputation is starting to rub off on me. And everyone at the highschool knows her for her pictures and videos. Since we are starting highschool next year, i dont want to have a bad reputation because i hang out with her. Shes still my best friend though and i dont know what to do. Please help! Please e-mail me back as soon as possible. Thanks so much.
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you seem to be really wise and respectful..and i respect you man.What i think you should do is this...do your part as a freind..advice her and tell her that she wasnt like this and that you miss the old her...tell her if she wants to be your freind again then she has to go back to being herself...but the only problem with thi is that people already have a bad impression of this girl...so even if she changes...people will still think shes bad and it will rubb off on you!!what i think is that noone in the world is worth making your reputation stinky...forget about her man cuz if you dont..youll end up having a repuation like hers...there are many people you can be freinds with...but you need to find ones that are similar to you...
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Ok, here's the story. When I was younger, I thought of God as an invisible being that always watched you and could do anything he wanted. So i'd always say "yes I believe in god". But as I grew older, people who don't believe in God have pointed things out to me. I mean it was MAN who wrote the bible, and MAN who wrote the ten commandments. who's to say man didn't make it all up? One of my frieds once pointed out that "man does not like the thought of nothing after death, so the created an afterlife to believe in instead". Another person that doesn't believe in God said "he is just like Santa Claus, used to make children be good". These seem like pretty realistic remarks to me. Plus there is no "proof" that he does exist right? People who believe in him just say "the feeling is truly wonderful". I have asked God to come into my heart many times, but I never feel any different. Does this make me Atheist? (link)
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first of all...if there was no god there would be no atheists..the proof to the existence of god is you being here rite now..who eles woulda created you?the problem here is your hearing points of veiws from people who dont know bout their own religion much...how can god enter your heart if you dont do anything to make him enter it?what i think you should do is learn more bout your own religion...whatever it is...if you have doubts...learn bout the other two religions...islam and judism...and then decide what makes sence...we were all created for a reason...
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recently i took a pic of myself and in the back ground it looked like some one standing like 5 metres away from me i was home alone i zoom in and its got like a demon scary face i showed my sister and freinds and they say it looks like the grim reaper one says its wearing a black cape ive felt for a while like a ghost or something is following me how long do you think it is til i die? (link)
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omg...look...your not gonna die...but the only possible answer is that your house is damn haunted....try takin a picture somewhere eles...and see.If theres nothing wrong then the problem lies in your house and i suggest you leave it...im serious
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okay so at my school this girl who started crap with me last year and again on myspace over the summer. and i said stuff to her to defend myself. and she doesn't like me. and she gives me dirty looks now. and she's really mean & so are her friends. & no one likes them. & she does drugs and drinks all the time. and i heard when she was in 7th grade everyone found out she had sex with this one guy. and i don't get like why is she soo mean & does drugs when she knows she shouldn't be like that? (link)
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the answer to why she does drugs is because shes extreemly narrow minded and wants to look big and bad infront of everyone...she wants to start shit with people and knows noone will do anything back to her cuz"she does drugs and does all the bad things" she picks on people and starts random fights for the popularity of it.if she gives you dirty looks...give it back to her..dont be scared man shes not gonna murder you..even if it does end up with a fist fight..beat her ass up...its not like her hittin you is gonna kill you either!you need to stand up to her cuz her knowing that someone is actually not afraid of her and ready to bitchslap her anytime she starts with them will back her off
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Look I am totaly in love with my boy friend and my ex boyfriend. They both go to my school. Today was my first day back and I have a huge crush on my best guy friend. I need help so if anyone has any answers please help me
thanks byexxxooo (link)
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you need to sit with yourself and straighten out your feelings...you cant feel love for both its impossible...or eles your going to end up losing both!does your ex boyfreind still love you?even if he does hes the past man,you need to look to the future....you obviously broke up with him for a reason...now let him go and be faithful to your boyfreind..you wouldnt like it if your boyfreind was feelin for his ex..what goes around comes around so you should totally let go of your ex and get over him.
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hey sara its israa anyway
i have a huge pimple on my cheeck :S!!!
i put toothpaste on it it went away a lil
help.. ;) (link)
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toothpaste eih ya israa lool haha its ok
it can be because your getting your pms soon or because you got it and it just finished so this is the result...do not pop it nomatter what you do man itll only leave a scar thatll last for weeeks...just wait for it to go away by itself or use masks that remove them ....make sure you drink alot of water too cuz thats important for your skin,hair,and even losing weight.
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How do you get out of an abusive relationship when you have no money, no close friends and nowhere to go? (link)
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the only solution since you got nowhere to go and no money...is to find a job..in ANY WAY,even if u have to work at a mcdonalds store man,do it.Save up money,keep it in a safe place...and when you do...get the heck away from your boyfreind!!but if you cant wait then youll have to report to the police and that way youll probably have to live in like a shelter or off the welfare...
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Is this an authentic Ralph Lauren or is it a Fake?
it looks real, but is it really?
http://i10.tinypic.com/67my6g9.jpg
thanks :) (link)
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hmmm it depends on its price and if theres a tag inside that says the name of the brand and where its made.if its like mad cheap then its probably not real...
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I really like this guy in my school and I told my BFF and she promised to keep its secret but the next day she told another girl and now to make it worse that girl went up to this certain boy and told him that I like him, and before I could hang out with him and be fine but now I get really embaresed my friends keep telling me to ask him out but I know he wouldnt go out with me because I'm not very pretty:(, and I am kinda shy but I am still madly in love with him and I havent even seen him since May 26, what should I do! (link)
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he got the message didnt he?ok now...dont run after him anymore!if he KNOWS you like him...and hes interested...hell come up to you!if he doesnt comee up to you...then hes obviously not interested so save your self the heartbreak!as for your so called "bff" you should NOT let that go!!confront her and yell at her for what she did!what kind of bff goes off telling her bffs secret???
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this is a complicated situation, and goes for a while but please any advice is greatly appriciated, im so desperate for help!
I've known this guy for a while now, and originally we were only just mates. We used to hang out a fair bit & chat pretty often. I never thought of him as someone that i could have any potential feelings for and those kind of thoughts never crossed my mind. Reflecting back on it i guess we used to flirt a fair bit, but i never really thought about it in that way.
Then out of no where one night we kissed, he made all the moves and kind of just came on really strong. I didnt bother me but it was just really unexpected and weird. I realised after i had kissed him the first time that i actualy kinda did have a thing for him. My best friend said she saw it coming a mile away. Ever sinse then we started kissing on a regular basis, except for the fact that he was uneasy about the differences in our age, him being 20 and me being 16. I know that sounds like its such a big gap, but it really doesnt feel like that and we get along really well.
The more i saw of this boy, the more and more intrested i became in him, and im never one to develop feelings for people, or put myself in a position to be hurt, but with him everything seemed different.
I go to an all girls private school, and everything at my school gets blown about 100 times out of proportion. As soon as i started seeing this guy all the girls at my school seemed suddenly really interested in him, talking about him alot in front of me, and going out of their way to catch up with him & see him.
It never really bothered me until they started saying things to him about me, just that i was "super keen" and that i seemed to really like him.
One night when all of the girls were at a party and he was there too, and i couldnt make it for some reason, he was apparently "all over" a girl in my friendship circle. Nothing happened apparently, but even now its still a bit of a grey area. The next day i had my 2 best mates ringing me up telling me about how dodgy the whole situation had looked & how this girl had been saying she wanted to kiss the boy id been with. I was a bit annoyed aboutt he whole thing, but thort it wait until i spoke to the boy before i said anything to anyone, kinda just to hear both sides of the story.
When i approached the situation with the boy he got all defensive, telling me that hes been friends with girls all his life, and hes not gonna change the way he interacts with them because of my insecurities. He bascially flipped his lid at me and told me that i needed to not listen to anything that "my stupid friends" told me because they were obviously over exagerating. i let it all slide but later that day he sent me a really indepth text msg telling me that maybe we should just be friends until "those around us" settle down and stop causing trouble.
i took the news really hard, and struggeled heaps to get over him. I didnt really no what id done wrong because everything seemed to be going so well. We decided to just be friends and he thort that i was fine with that, but i was really upset and had alot of trouble seeing him in social situations. All of my friends new how hard id took it and were really good about the whole thing. I was eventually getting over him when i saw him one night out in town (nightclub) i felt so confident around him and didnt even get the whole butterfly in the stomach feeling. I kissed another really nice boy that night and thort that it was the last id have to worry about the first guy. The next day i started getting attention off him again, him sending me txt msgs telling me how great i looked the night before and that he hopse i had an ok night etc.
from there onwards we have been talking heaps as i presumed as just good friends like we usd to be before the whole "fling" happened.
The other night he invited me over to his house to watch a movie and hang out I went around with no intentions, but he ended up kissing me. I knew the whole time that it was happeneing that it was the wrong thing and i shouldnt be putting myself in the situation i was in but i couldnt help it. The next day he sent me a msg telling me that his mum had liked seeing me again, and thort i looked as "stunning as ever" and that he was sorry if he came on too strong, he just couldnt resist.
The weekend after he aledgedly spent the night with the girl who had tried to kiss him ages ago (the one that was all over him the night i wasnt there) and naturally my school made the rumours about 100 times worse. I felt really hurt and used seeing as he had kissed me only a couple of days earlier and had been calling me and msging me all week. I came the conclusion that he was just playing me and to steer clear, but that night he came over to my house pleading me to understand that it wasnt true and that he would never do that to me.. making out like i had some reason to be mad, like we had been something serious or something. I accepted his apology and sinse then we have basically been kissing regulary again, but this time more secretive so less people will get involved and talk about it.
I dont no whether he has any real feelings for me or if hes just going to play me all over again, but i dont really no what to do about getting an answer to this whole situation. I know that if i want to protect myself i should just steer clear all together, but i have such strong feelings for him i am just hoping that this time he treats me a bit better and understands what i want. i really dont no what to do!
sorry this has been so long, but i just thort it would be easier to explain everything this way!!
please help me, would be much appriciated, i will rate highly for any attempt!!
regards,
steph x (link)
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wow what a player lool damn its so obvious how can you not see that hes playing you.When he knew you had feelings for him he took advantage of that and guys use girls that are all over them just to let you know.What i think you should do is totally move on from this guy becasue all hes doing is telling you everything you want to hear JUST to get what he wants from you.Then he goes off doing that with other girls because he knows they like him too.What makes that obvious is when you asked him the first time if that girl wanted to kiss him he got mad...why would he get so mad and tell you not to listen to your freindds unless it was TRUE and it was getting in his way of playin you...im sorry i no this might hurt you to read this but im telling you as a person who isnt in this situation that thinks clearly...because love is blind and lovers cannot see...since your into it you cant see it clearly as i might.Get a new guy in order to get over him.He talked to you again the time you were at the party with that other guy cuz he got mad..he was like oh shit the girl im playin is figuring out my game and im losing her...Hes definetly gonna deny everything im writing if you confront him with it...cuz he dont want to lose game.Next time he tells you he likes you tell him to PROVE it...like ask for a relationship..if he doesnt then automatically he IS a player...good luck...if you need anymore help tell me
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okay so ive liked this guy for a year now. we dated last summer, but he broke up with me for different reasons. im still not over him, he meant a lot to me and still does. were best friends and he knows that i like him. hes bisexual and he has a girlfriend, whom hes been dating for 3 months now. she lets him have sex with other guys and she doesnt count that as cheating. the only thing is he had sex with me twice while going out with her. he acts like he likes me and he gives me mixed signals. for the past year he has liked me on and off but weve never done anything about it. generally he does want to have sex a lot with anyone that will give it to him, but im still trying to figure out if he had sex with me because he likes me, or just because he thinks its fun and just wanted it from someone. its really confusing. i cant ask my friends about it cuz theyre friends with him too. so if anyone knows please help me! (link)
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no man,he had sex with you because he knows you like him...he knows you wouldnt say no,he knows youd do anything to get as much as a sign from him that he likes you so he used you.he doesnt like you,cuz if he did,he wouldnt be with his girlfreind now...and i really think you should get over him completly because even IF he leaves his girl for you he will leave you for another and youll end up broken in the end.You should totally cross this guy out from your life and be mad happy that hes not with you because if he was...hed turn your life into a mexican soap opera....
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I'm 13 years old & female.
I've been really depressed lately..
Not when I'm around my family or friends,
so they don't notice it.
I try to be happy around them.
I just need help.
When I'm alone I get really sad & it gets hard for me to breathe..
& I don't even know WHY I'm feeling like this.
I don't want any websites or hotlines.
I just need to do something to help myself.
Any advice? (link)
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have you tried asking yourself WHY you feel like this?Theres gotta be a reason why your mad...somethings bothering you and dont try to deny it.even if that something is small and stupid,anything goes worse under pressure.Figure out what it is thats bothering you then try to solve it by talking to a trusted person or you can send me in my inbox when you figure out what it is thats annoying you and we can work it out^_^
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ive never really gotten in a fight before except for with my brother and we never actually beat eachother up ya know? and lately ive been "involved" with this girl who has a psycho ex that wants to kick my ass, and im probably stronger than him but i dont really know how to fight? i mean i can punch and stuff but yeah any advice is appreciated, telling me to talk it out etc etc is not appreciated hah (link)
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you can tell your brother to back you up in the fight you know...but yeah kick that guys ass..IF HE STARTS...dont go walkin outta nowhere and punch him lol thatll make you look your YOU started it...ok punches in the face are always the start
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