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Rock Bottom.
I'm 15/f.
I have no friends.
I had a tight group of friends last year, but for some reason they started to distance themselves from me & all became really close just the three of them, & I don't have anyone else that I hang out with.
I talk to a lot of people at school, but no one would just randomly ask me to hang out--most of them assume I'm still friends with the same people I was last year.
I've never had a boyfriend, or a guy show any interest in me.
I hate my body & the way I look.
Ever since school started, I have been crying myself to sleep every night. Especially because it's hard to see my old friends acting like nothing's wrong, saying hello to me but nothing else.
My mom and dad keep telling me to try to make friends, or tell my old friends that I'd like to hang out with them again, but it's too hard. Not to mention embarassing.
I messaged two of those friends on myspace saying basically, anytime you're free if you want to call me, I'm always available.
One said oh yeah, we will.
& the other didn't respond.
So now I think they probably talk about it & laugh at me.
& I know those aren't the friends you want to have but, they really were good friends & we had a good time.
I don't know how to get through three years of high school with no friends.
I've started cutting myself.
I think about killing myself a lot, but I can't do it because it would crush my parents.
That's the only thing keeping me going, is that my mom would blame herself or something & I couldn't do that to her.
I don't know what to do.
But I can't take this anymore.
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Your friends are your world.
And they've rejected you.
There is nothing anyone can say
that will dampen the pain you feel.
They have treated you like crap.
What do parents know, right?
They aren't sophomores.
Listen.
I'm not a sophomore either.
I'm thirty-three years old.
But I know this...
You're new friends will be
you're new world.
It hurts that the friends
you cared for last year
have ignored you this year
But you must
find
the
strength
To ask some of the people
you talk to
to hang out with you.
Why should you wait for
other people to ask you
to hang out?
You are cool,
and when you know that,
other people want to hang with you.
Go for it!!!!!
Dr. Chad
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The same thing happened to me... 2 times actually. once frosh year and a whole different time junior year at a different school.
Do try and make other friends. There are lots of other people out there looking for friends. they might not seem "cool" or your type now, but if you start talking to them you might find that you have something in common with them. I'm sure you have other friends on myspace that you haven;t talked to in a while that used to be just ok friends... leave them comments and stuff and you guys can hang out in the future.
Don't cut or try to kill yourself... that will get people to talk about you in a negative way. trust me, you will make friends in 3 years.. i know it seems like you wont but if youre friendly, you will. if you need anything else, let me know. i've hit rock bottom a couple times before. <3
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I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!
ok what i did, is i joined a couple clubs, like orchestra, and 4-H. i found only a few friends, but they are good, and have stuck with my for a while!
like my friend alyssa (whos in my grade) and my friend genna (who doesnt go to my school, but we are still good friends) i met at 4-H.
and i joined orchestra and i met my now current boyfriend who has been going out with me for almost a year.
dont hurt yourself, i thought about it, but i couldnt bring myself to harm myself. i didnt commit suicide b/c i knew my parents would be so upset! so i just lived on...
if you have to go to anyone who looks friendly and start talking to them! just anyone! especially if they dont have any friends either.
i hope i kind of helped!
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omg cutt yourself and want to kill yourself!?wow dude if not this year then next year youll definetly find newer freinds that are true...anywayz what i think you should do is either talk to your freinds about this..ask them why your no longer chillin and if you don wana do that then the people you talk to at school that you say your not that close to ask them if they wana chill one day and go out with them...sooner or later youll get closer to them...you dont need to be extreemly close to them just be good freinds with everyone...hang out with everyone you know...start up a good convo then ask to go out with them...that way youll be popular and loved by all but seriously...cutting yourself becasue of a minor reason like this will only get you thinking that your abnormal...
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You have such a good heart. Why not go befriend someone else who needs one? Someone who shares common interests or can just make you laugh? This isn't as hard as it seems. In class you can just start a conversation with someone normally. Hurting yourself will never be a solution to anything. There are many people in the world who I am sure aren't half as blessed as you are. And you sound like you have a good family..And you're very lucky for that too. Remember, no one can be your friend if you can't be your own friend first. I'm sure this will all turn out fine. I hope this helped some :] Message for anything.
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first off, killing yourself is a permanent solution to a problem that wont last too long. never purposely hurt yourself either.
maybe you should invite your friends to hang out with youu. or ask them why you aren't as close. i know that sounds easy, but its really not. you could try inviting the other friends you have at school.
hope i helped ! let me know if you need anything else !
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These people aren't worth the time of day, never mind killing yourself over.
Focus on the good things in your life... Concentrate on school because that's what's going to improve your life in the future and get you away from the same old people.
You'll probably be able to make friends a lot easier when you start thinking positively, just saying 'hello' to someone in the same class as you, starting a conversation about the work could be the start of a friendship :)
Focus on having a good relationship with your parents- they're always going to be there for you, and they're keeping you strong at the moment.
Inbox me any time you like, not even with a question, just to chat, 'cause I know exactly how you feel.
You can MySpace me, my link's on my page...
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