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my one friend, told my other friend sam that her boyfriend called her like fat. and so shes always had a low self-esteem. and i have no idea why sam would even tellh er that. and its not even true about my friend, shes tottaly average. i have no idea why her boyfriend called her fat. probably because sam said that she didnt think he was cute. but yeah. so now, sam wont eat. she hasnt eaten hardly anything. and all she does is mope around. and her grades are dropping. and i feel really bad. and i hate my friend and her boyfriend for doing this to her. i want to say something to my friend and her boyfriend. and i also wanna help my friend. but i dont know what to do.
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you should tell sam that he probably just called her fat cuz he himslef has no self confidence and hes making fun of her to feel better bout how HE looks.The only true way for her to feel better is for her to have self confidence...talk to her bout how she IS pretty and bout how many guys liked her and stuff.Or you can even take her out shopping or give her a makeover (to make her feel like shes special in a way) and tell your freind that told sam what her boyfreind said about her that what she did was really not nessecary and if she wouldnt have opened her mouth none of this woulda happened.As for the boyfreind...noone should confront him about this but sam(who knows..mabey its just a rumor too)...let her tell him that it hurt her feelings when he called her fat..if you talk to her boyfreind for her,he might think that shes too scared to confront him and take advantage of that
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Talk to your friend & her boyfriend while they're together. Ask what the fuck their problem is, why they did it & what they're going to do to fix it. Tell them to apologize. There's no reason to put someone down just because of something they say.
Talk to your friend Sam. Tell her not to listen to them & tell her that they don't know what the fuck they're talking about. Tell her that she's gorgeous [and of course, mean this or the effect is negative] & that she's not fat or ugly or whatever. Tell her a rude comment is no reason for her to stop eating or living her life.
Make sure she eats because if she keeps this up she'll develop an eating disorder which is very unhealthy. If they don't apologize, make sure she doesn't talk to either them until they do. And tell her to brush stuff like that all. She's the only person who can judge herself.
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Yeah, he needs to knock it off and leave her alone. The best thing to do in this case is to be a friend to her and send an email to him warning him that if he doesn't stop being mean to her, you'll go to his parents about it.
There is a second possibility: Sometimes when grades drop and moping occurs, it means that she was molested or raped. If she is completely withdrawing herself, then that is a HUGE sign that she was molested or is being molested. Have a heart to heart talk to her. Don't repeat anything she tells you to anyone else, keep it in complete confidence. If she is being abused, then get her to make a report to the police.
I do hope that it isn't that serious but be prepared for all possibilities.
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