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Mmk.. I was supposed to get my period around the 13-15 and now it is the 18...what's wrong??
Thanks.

Are you still young? Periods can take several years to truly become regular, and some never really do. I'm 20 and I'm still not alwayws on time. Sometimes I'll skip a period entirely, so instead of 30 days without it, I'll go 60, and then it will come back just like normal.

So odds are, nothing is wrong. If you feel fine and you are not sexuallt active, then just wait longer. However, if you start to feel bad or wrong, talk to your mom or go and see a doctor.

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Hey advicenators! =P

What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks.

I think 10pm is a reasonable curfew for a 15 year old, boy or girl. It's good that you are trustworthy, but I don't think that the curfew has anything to do with that. I also don't think that it has too much to do with you having sex with him. I don't know your parents so I'm not sure, but I always thought of it as more of a responsibility and safety thing.

I know when my daughter is your age (currently 2 years old), her curfew will most likely be 10pm. This will mostly be because I wouldn't feel safe having her out past then, except for very special occasions.

My advice; keep your curfew as best as you can, and you might be able to get them to extend it before too long. I know that doesn't help too much right now, but it might down the line.

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ok for halloween im gonna be like a punk fairy, and i have a really good shirt, awesome arm warmers, and shoes, but does anyone have any ideas of where to get a skirt, or even how to make one, also, somewhere to get really small black wings, thanks for anything

eBay has wings. I found lots of stuff looking for "angel wings" and "fairy wings." I also had a lot of luck looking on Google under "black fairy wings."

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what are some good comedy, scary or just good general movies

Check out the imdb.com top 250 movies.

http://www.imdb.com/chart/top

They also have the best movies by genre and decade.

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What do you think is better to get? An ipod or another mp3 player. I heard that a zen micro is really good. Does anyone have them? What is the advantage and do you enjoy using it. Or does anyone else have something different that they think is better?

I have a little black Rio, and my sister has an ipod. My Rio is better than nothing, but I really really prefer my sister's ipod over anything else I've had an opportunity to try.

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what are some lyrics that are like taking back sunday? like give me some bands that have lyrics like taking back sunday ..thanks!

I don't really know about lyrics like Taking Back Sunday, but the most similar bands are Brand New, Yellowcard, Something Corporate, Further Seems Forever, Dashboard Confessional, Story of the Year, and Early November.

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I am 13 and I think Im to old for trick or treating any ideas on what to do during halloween?

Do you have any little cousins or neighborhood kids that you could volunteer to go trick or treating with? You could chaperone them and carry a bag for yourself.

You could see if any of your friends are throwing a party, or you could throw one yourself. If all else fails, maybe you could have kettle corn and a scary movie marathon, either with just family or as a sleep over.

Myself, I'm taking my daughter trick or treating (I'm 20) and then she's having a sleep-over at grandma's house while I go to a party with my husband. So I'm guess I'm sort of doing all of the above.

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im bored any websites i could go to

www.bored.com
http://bored.overnow.com
www.i-am-bored.com

That should keep you busy.

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I am on the yearbook staff this year - and need some help coming up with some superlatives. Here's my problem - I don't want things that everybody doesn't have a chance at such as "Best Dressed" Here's what we have come up with so far

Funniest
Sweetest
Best Hair
Most Creative
Most Outgoing
Most Athletic
Best Smile
Best Eyes
Most Likely To Suceed and
Most School Spirit

Any suggestions would be nice, but preferably not ones like "Most trendy" "Best dressed" and such because thats just demeaning..

In addition to the normal ones, my school had Most Likely to Go Into Politics and Most Opinionated. I should've been one or the other, but I was not popular. *le sigh*

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I really want to go to boarding school and i have researched schools and found one i really like. i dont know how to ask my parents though because i know how my mom will react and i strongly beleive that she is going to say no. i need advice on how to approach the subject. thank you.

Sometimes moms take a little set-up. What works good with my mom is to sit her down over milkshakes or dinner (your treat, if you can help it) when you are ready for your "talk." You can skip this if your mom is open to listening to you. If you feel you need to, tell her that you want to talk to her about something, and you want to get through it before answering questions or anything like that.

Now, start by explaining to her why you want so badly to go to a boarding school. I don't know much about them so I can't really help you out there. Now, give her some information about the school that you like the most. If you can, have the school send you some pamphlets and information in print form so that you have something to show her. Tell her everything that is great about the school, and why you like those things so much.

Finish up by answering her questions, reiterating how much you really want to go to a boarding school, and trying to have a good answer for anything negative she might have to say. It sounds like you've done you're research, and you know your mom pretty well, so you should be able to guess ahead of time why specifically she would not want you to go. Try to think about how you will answer those.

The more organized, thorough, and mature you sound, the better your chances of presenting a well-planned argument and getting into boarding school.

Let me know if you need any more specific information. Good luck!

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I'm in the mood to read some good books. Does anybody have any recommendations (preferably from young adult or if not from there than not too boring and old lady like). Thanks!

I don't know anything from YA, but these are definately not boring or old lady-ish.

Fight Club, The Beach, Lord of the Flies

I thought I'd give you some more psycologically deep, and slightly darker books than the other columnists.

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I am in the 10th grade and I have been thinking about what I want to be when I leave college. I now have discovered that I might look into being a psychologist. Can anyone help me find like websites that will help me research more about this. Thank you

http://princetonreview.com

Click "colleges" to the left to get to careers.

The drawback is that you have to register, but it's free. It tells you what it's like in the career, what you do, other similar careers, majors, internship oppotunitues, etc.

I hope that helps!

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ok well i was wondering if u guys can put some of like rock/punk bands up here like AFI,FOB,mcr,the used, motion city soundtrack,starting line... stuff like that..thanks!

Bands like The Used:
The Starting Line, Matchbook Romance, Early November, Coheed & Cambria, Dashboard Confessional

Bands like AFI:
Distillers, Anti-Flag, Tiger Army, Rancid, Son of Sam

Bands like MCR:
Thrice, From Autumn to Ashes, Static Lulaby, Brand New, Senses Fail

Bands like Starting Line:
Rufio, Yellow Card, Ataris

Dashboard Confessional seems to be the most similar to all the bands you listed.

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i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks.

17 (female), and I wish I'd waited.

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you know how people say big feet you know what they say about big feet? well yeah i dont know what it means

It's suppossed to mean that the man has a big penis. It's not true though. Studies and surveys have been done, and there is no correlation between foot size and penis size.

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http://www.americanprogressaction.org/site/pp.asp?c=klLWJcP7H&b=193722

Thanks, I read the article and it is very informative and eye opening. I will do more reading on the subject on my own, since, if it is true, I feel that it is a very important issue. However, I can't put too much stock into what this website says, because it is a liberal website. I would love to find either a conservative or truly unbiased website with the same information. I say that they are liberal because, among other things, one of their goals is attacks conservatives.

Thanks so much for the article! I will definately look more into it now.

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Okay this is directed to Republicans/those who support President Bush (Don't take this as my attempt to bash anybody or any political group, I'm merely curious...also dont take this as me generalizing, I'm not saying EVERY SINGLE REPUBLICAN believes all these)

1. Do you honestly, truly believe that in the short term the Iraq War's main purpose is to liberate Iraquis, or to preserve a stable oil supply from the Middle East?

2. How can you say that it is completely and utterly unethical to allow a woman to have control over her body and have an abortion, while at the same time supporting that the state does away with prisoners with the Death Penalty?

3. Do you think homosexuals were born inferior to heterosexuals and do not deserve the same rights as them simply because of whom they choose to love?

4. Why do you believe that responding to terrorism by reducing the freedom of Americans is anything other than giving the terrorists exactly what they want?

5. Why are antiwar protesters deemed unpatriotic, but pro-war people praised?

Again, my goal is not to offend anybody. I just want honest opinions.

I'm going to answer your questions as best as I can, though I don't understand a few of them.

1) I believe that the purpose of the Iraq War war was to liberate Iraquis AND to preserve a stable oil supply AND to make an example of the terrorists in Iraq. So, yes and no, I guess.

2) I don't think that abortion laws can be equated with the death penalty. I think that if abortion is legal, then your can't give someone two murder charges for killing a pregnant woman. My view is that if you charge someone with an extra murder charge for the death of the fetus, you are then valuing the fetus as life, which means that abortion laws saying that a fetus does not have a life are invalid. I'm not yet sure how I feel either way about it, but I do know that you cannot logically have both pro-abortion laws along with murder charges for the death of a fetus. Then every mother who had an abortion would, by law, be guilty of murder. Do you see what I'm saying?

3. I don't entirely understand the wording of this one...I don't think that homosexuals were "born" infereior, because I don't think someone is born hetero- or homosexual. I don't know how to answer the rest of the question.

4. I also don't understand this one. Examples would help some.

5. And for this one I just don't have an opinion.

So, I hope that you appreciate that I took the time to try to answer, and that my answers don't offend you, because that was not my goal.

4.

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How do you burn calories?

You burn calories just by being alive. Sleeping, breathing, and your heart beat all burn calories. The best ways to burn calories are the most intese physical activities. Running, mountain climbing, mountain biking will burn calories the fastest. Some of the most popular ways to burn calories are aerobics and walking.

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i want to get an intership but i dont kno where to start. i think itll look good on my college application. im 16/f ..any one hav any ideas on where to start?

Start at your school first. Ask your homeroom teacher or some other teacher if they can help you find an internship. It is also helpful if your school has a career/job center, but a lot don't.

Second, check your local newspaper, or your newspaper's website. Search the name of your paper on Google if you don't know or can't find the website.

Third, Google something like "name-of-city interships" without the quotes, and with the name of your city.

Next, see if there is a career placement/job assistance type association in your area. They help with full and part time employment, temp jobs, and intern ships. Your parents might be able to help you find it if your city has one.

Finally, if there is a career that you are interested in, look in the yellow pages and start calling around or visiting to find out if anyone needs an intern.

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ok my boyfriend told me that alot of times when guys have sleepovers they dare each other to give each other blow jobs and so like he told me he gave two of his friends bj's and his friend gave him one. A while after he told me that i gave him one but we werent protected and now im freaking out cuz im scared i might have gotten one. but could some one blowing him give him an std, if they didnt have one? we are both virgins also.. so is it possible that i might or he might have one? AND... can a virgin having sex with another virgin give one virgin herpies or somthing?

I've never heard of a blow job dare...that's different...

Anyways, yes, your boyfriend could have gotten an STD from either giving or receiving a blowjob. Not likely, but it is possible. And if he did get one, he probably gave it to you. If you ahve had NO sexual experience, and you aren't born with an STD, then you can't give one to anyone. Babies sometimes get STD's if their mother has one because of the body fluids that pass between baby and mother during birth. If you were born with one, you would know it by now.

If a person (a virgin) has not come into contact with herpes, then they can't give it to someone else.

I hope that helped, even though I've never heard of a blow job dare. Different strokes, I guess.

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