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I miss my ex (we broke up about 2 years ago)
we are 'just friends' but really, really good friends; we share everything. EXCEPT that i still have feelings for him. and very strong ones...
should i tell him? if so help me about when/where/how
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Hey there.
That's great that you two are good friends still. I don't think I could've ever stayed friends with one of my exes. I think that if you want to tell him, you should understand that he could deny you and say that he doesn't have feelings for you anymore. And, if we were to tell you that, could you still be good friends with him without things being awkward?
I agree that you should definitely tell him though. He may still have feelings for you, but is wondering if he should tell you or not. And, you really don't have much to lose, I doubt that it would make things completely awkward but I don't know the type of situation yall have.
You should definitely tell him face-to-face. Not over text messaging or Myspace. You'll be able to get his reaction to it, and see if he's surprised or if he's not surprised. Just tell him, "I have something to tell you, and I'm not sure how to say it, but.. I still have feelings for you." Come straight out with it, good luck!
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alright, well my friend has been such a doll to me latly, she is good friends with this boy i like and he told her he likes me alot but we never talked before because both of us are huge chickens. dont answer back saying tell him how you feel because if you knew me you would know i am so shy around him. they talk on the phone on a daily basis about me and we like eachother alot so help me please. i really want to be his already! (link)
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Hey there!
I understand that you're shy, but if you want to be his you either have to make the first move or do something so that he'll make the first move. Is there anyway you could maybe write him a note, give it to your friend, and then see if he talks to you? Or maybe you could write him in the note your phone number and see if he calls you.
Seriously, when I started dating my first boyfriend I was sooo nervous to talk to him at first. I just kept thinking, "omg I'm gonna screw up what I'm saying" or something like that. or like I didn't want there to be awkward pauses during our conversation. Do you think maybe it would help things if your girlfriend was around, so that all three of yall could talk? Since she knows both of you, she'll be able to strike up a lot of the conversation between you two.
You like him & he likes you, now all you have to do is talk and see what happens. See if you're compatable.
Good luck.
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19/f
So... I have a boyfriend right now. He goes to my college. We were talking on myspace, and texting, prior to when we met at school. We met as friends, and we've been talking as friends the whole time, and then after 2 days together he admitted that he wanted to be more than friends. I've seen him a total of 6 days, we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 of them.
He is realllly sweet. His personality is so cute. the last ime we saw each other, he told me he loved me. I have never had a boyfriend before this and it feels good to have one. =] . Plus, i have, like, no friends in school, so i have him to talk to now. I like having someone to make me feel beautiful and good about myself and have someone to kiss and hug and spend time with.
There is a guy i met on myspace, an now we text eachother realatively everyday, and i like him alot. And i dont know why because i've never met him! None-the-less, he is important to me and i feel like i hhave to met him because if i dont, he will forever be on my mind and i will be like "what would it have been like to meet him? How will i know what we could have had together?...etc.."
I had told my current boyfriend about this other guy. And at first he was like "i'm not going to try to take you from your man..." But then after a while he just started flirting with me, and he kissed me.... and he keep asking me why i wouldnt be his girlfriend, and i kept saying i was confused and i didnt know what i wanted to do.... but apparently i ended up saying yes to him...
So i wanna get with this other guy, i dont know when we will meet, but we will eventually; hopefully not tooo far away from now... I feel like i would have a more special realtionship with him. but I'm with the guy that im with now, and he likes me entirely too much, and i dont like him as much as he likes me, or as much as he thinks i do. I convince him that i like him more than i do. Why do i do this??!!!! I feel like i just want to please people...please him..., I just want to make him happy and show the affection hat he wants me to show him. And I want to keep him; I want someone to like me, i need someone... i dont make friends well and it seems the best way for me is if someone is attracted to me, then they will want to be my friend and or more than my friend, but otherwise i feel like no one really wants to be my friend.
I dont want to lead him on tooo much, but i want to keep him as my boyfriend, but at the same time i'm not sure that i really feel how i should about him....
And on my myspace my status is married. Because i was tired of mad myspace dudes talking about "why are you single, as pretty as you are.....etc.." Plus, I wanted a certain guy, but we werent exactly in a relationship, but i didnt want to leave it as single, so i just put married. And i put that a while ago, before i even started going out with my current boyfriend. but he saw it, and on his myspace page he has something like "We're on a whole new level. F*** bf and gf... we're married".... and i didnt intend that status in reference to me and him.....
Thank you so much for reading this. I would appreciate anything you have to say about this, comments...advice.... =] (link)
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Hey!
I'm kind of in the same situation as you right now, or I was a while back. I was dating a guy, who I had been dating for about a year. & I was talking to this other guy just through AIM and text messaging. He kept wanting to meet me, but I was too nervous to because I felt like if I met him I would break up with the boyfriend I had, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to do that.
It's ironic because, I started dating my boyfriend because I didn't have any friends at school, maybe a few, but not that I hung out with - and I was wanting to just be best friends at the time, but as we got to know each other it was nice to have him around all the time.
The only way you're going to find out if you have any special attraction to this other guy you haven't met, is meeting him. Of course you don't want to lead your boyfriend on, but at the same time you don't always want to be wondering what if. And, yall haven't been dating for a long time anyways, so it would be better for you to meet this other guy now, rather then a few months down the road.
And, don't stay with this other guy just because you want to have a friend around you at college. Yall can remain friends - if he wants to. Who knows, you may not even like this other guy, because he may be completely different through texting messaging you know? Once it's over with you'll feel way better about it! Just meet this other guy, and see what happens.
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Good luck!
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I'm a 16 year old female.
I came out as bi sexual to my friends back in december. I started dating a girl at that time named Kristina. She is a very "butch" girl, i hate the term but i can't think of another way to explain it. She cut all of her long curly hair off into a boys hair cut and dresses in men's clothing [previous to us dating] None of the concerned me. I really do love kristina for herself, not for her apperance.
Me and Kristina ended up breaking up a few weeks after that.
We stayed good friends and acctually became best friends. We truly got to know eachother and starting falling for eachother again.
About a month ago we got back together, I cannot even begin to express how happy i am to be with her.
But as we have gotten closer she has explained to me that she hates being a girl, she wishes to change her gender and become a male.
I AM OK WITH THIS. I love her no matter what, I will always love Kris even if she did choose to become a man.
There are alot of obsticals in Kristina's way though.. her mother is constitly telling her she is a disapointment and there is something mentally wrong with her. Kristina's parents are divorsed and they do not get along. She has not even told her father she was a lesbian. She really doesn't see herself as such though.. she shes herself as a straite man. Kris genually thinks she is going to hell for what she is.
I love her so much, I want to help her.
I was hoping anyone knew of websites that have information on transgendered people. With information about hormone therapy and Therapists and surgery costs and copeing. (link)
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Hi there!
First off I want to commend you for standing by her side. A lot of people would be severely creeped out if a close friend told them what he told you & that's great the way you're handling it - you seem like a great friend.
I personally am not transgender, nor do I know anyone personally who has dealt with what your friend is dealing with. But, my best friend came out to me, that he was gay & had to deal with his parents - who are crazily religious, and told him that if he ever came out to them they would disown him. I know how hard it was for him to get by, and I was the only person who actually knew. I think just having me around made him feel better, because I always made myself open to talk to him if ever need be. Make sure that you're always there for him to talk to, because if his mother is really telling him that he's a disappointment and that he's mentally not OK then he'll need someone else to turn to.
Anyways, on Real World this season, there's a transgender named Katelynn who was born a man and figured out through life that she was a woman. On the show she showed her site that helped her through a lot of obstacles in life & had a lot of chatrooms and message boards for people of the GLBT community. The website is as followed:
http://www.gaycenter.org/
And here's the website that goes over the female to male surgery & average cost but it definitely can vary from person to person:
http://www.surgeryinfo.biz/Female-to-Male-Surgery.html
Anyways, good luck to you and your friend. And, make sure you stick by his side whatever he decides to do!
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this is for girls...or guys who know what they're talking about.
Do you know what they call the hair on the side of your face? I know guys call theirs side burns but are they also side burns for girls?
And also how do you get rid of them? I'm sure you don't shave it...do you wax it or something? Or just leave it alone? (link)
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Hey there!
Yeah, girls can have side burns. And if it's just hair on the side of your face - it doesn't really have a name.
The number one thing you can do if you have hair on the side of your face/side burns is to bleach it. You can get the kit from Wal-mart or some pharmacy. That way it won't be so obvious that you have hair on your face.
If you have really dark hair that is coarse & people can notice - you can wax it. Know though, that if you start waxing it - you'll have to keep at it. And that means you'll have to do it atleast once a month. But after waxing for a while, your hair will get thinner and may eventually stop growing!
And your right! Don't shave it, because it can grow back darker and thicker.
Last but not least you could go about laser hair removal. It may be something worth saving up for if your side burns/hair on your face is really bad!
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i have braces and i play the alto saxophone. Is it harder for people with braces? Because i have a really hard time getting the pitch just right. Because my teacher tells me to put pressure on the top and drop my jaw a little. But i sometimes drop my jaw too much and it doesn't make any sound at all. Is there any way to get the pitch out just right with my mouth full of braces and mouthpiece?! (link)
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Hey there!
I played the alto saxophone throughout middle school for a few years, and when I got into high school I found out I had to get braces. I was devastated because I thought I wouldn't be able to play right anymore. When I picked up my sax and played it for the first time it felt so weird! It definitely is a little bit harder and it tickles your mouth a little bit more. But it doesn't really affect your playing. You just have to practice a little bit and then you should get it down.
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ok well me and this guy have been texting and talking for a while and now we are a couple and weve been datin since the 25th of march and we dated once before at the beginning of the month but it seems like he dont like me and my friends all say hes gay and im jus a cover up and make fun of me for datin him cause hes short but i really like him but i think im takin things to fast like last nite we were textin and i was goin to bed and i said "good nite. luv ya boy! (=" and all he said was ok bye and i guess i shouldnt of said luv ya so maybe its all my fault but... i not sure im a 13 yr old girl and ive only really dated 2 guys.. and all my frenz have dated like a million! so i dont no much bout relationships! but anyways help me please! (link)
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Hey there!
I don't think it's weird at all that you said luv ya. And, I can't tell you for sure if you mean it - because you're the only person who knows. But, you may be his first girlfriend and he didn't know what to say back to you. He may thought if he said "luv ya 2" it may have been awkward. Who knows?
Anyways, I can't tell you by what you told me, if he likes you or not. You could just straight up ask him! It may be a little weird, but wait another week or something and just be like, "what's your favorite thing about meeeee?" and see what he says. If he says I don't know or something, then that's weird. If you get the vibe from him that he might not like you, then you definitely need to ask. You don't need to be wasting your time with this boy because there's plenty of others to date!
And don't worry! You're only 13, when I was your age I hadn't even had my first boyfriend yet. So don't compare yourself to your friends.
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i'm 14/f. theres this one guy i've been best friends with for almost 3 years. especially this year we've grown apart. we barely talk and i always feel like his last priority. and also i don't feel comfortable asking him for advice anymore because he yells at me and makes me feel worse. i really want to go back to how we used to be. and i've talked to him about it but it hasn't done much good. what should i do? (link)
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Hey!
I'm sorry about you and your best friend. That's EXACTLY what happened to me and my best friend when we were fourteen and I was so mad about it! We had been friends since 2nd grade and then all of a sudden when we were fourteen we just totally fell apart. Like, we never sat at lunch together and we never hung out like we used to. I ended up moving away and I always wonder what would've happened between us, because we had such a great relationship but as we got older we just separated. Usually that's what happens though, when your that age guys like to hang out with the guys and girls like to hang out with the girls.
If you really want your relationship to go back to the way it is, you should really try & get the point across to him. Either write him an e-mail or a letter so that way he can't yell at you to make you feel worse. Or, you could try and talk to him over the phone. Just tell him that you miss how yall used to be and you just want things to go back to how they used to be. Sometimes it is natural though, and eventually he'll come around but right now he'd rather be with the guys.
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I'm depressed, I don't know what to do and I need help.
I'm 23 years old, I'm pregnant with my first child. I have my own apartment and I'm in a committed relationship but here is the problem...
I'm on social security and I'm not working at this time, My boyfriend who is 24 is also unemployed. I recieve food stamps to support myself and help me make it through. I have a learning disability and I'm hard of hearing. I'm scared and I don't know how I will support my child. I do not believe in abortions so don't even suggest that, I do not want to give my child up because well...Apart of me is scared to death but the other part of me is lucky to be pregnant and know that I was able to even exsperience getting pregnant and I don't want to give my child up I want to raise it into a good loving home and I want to see my little one grow up. I don't know what to do...I live in a one bedroom apartment.
Please do not judge me, Say anything mean, I'm here to get help
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No one is here to judge you.
And, I totally know where you're coming from. I found myself too, in an unexpected pregnancy situation, I was only 18 though - no job and I just got out of high school. I took the other road & ended up getting an abortion, which I HIGHLY regret. I am happy to hear though that you are standing firm with wanting to keep your baby. There are lots of women all over the world that are in situations like yourself - it may seem impossible to get by but it is possible.
The only thing you can do is apply for Medicaid so that you know you'll have reliable health insurance for yourself & your baby. I think that your boyfriend right now should atleast try and find a job. Hopefully when he finds out you're pregnant he will feel somewhat motivated. I'm assuming your able to work, so maybe you can find a job that won't be much of a stresser on yourself but just for a few months, until you won't be able to work anymore.
If you can, find a crisis pregnant center in your area - they usually offer free classes/free counseling and they also can hook you up with strollers & baby clothes if need be. And it doesn't matter if you live in a one bedroom apartment. There's a lot of people that don't have that much!
Good luck to you.
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so i just purchased bare minerals, and it comes with the "skin rever upper" that you put on before you put on your makeup. i was just curious, do you still use mostriuzer? or does this act as your mostriuzer? do you use it before or after your mostriuzer or alone under makeup? (link)
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It usually acts as your moisturizer. I always use that 'skin rever upper' before I go to sleep and before I apply make up. It'll make your skin dramatically smoother, trust me. If your skin feels a little dry after just using that skin rever upper don't worry about it - it'll take a few days for you to get used to it!
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I AM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT MY BF. TO START OF WITH he is 11 and i am 16 and WE STARTING GOING OUT LAST AUGUST TILL EARLY THIS MONTH WHEN HE DUMPED ME AND A WEEK LATER HE TOLD ME HE DIDNT WANT TO DUMP ME HIS BRAIN TOLD HIM TO AND HE STILL LOVED ME AND WE TALKED AND GOT BACK TOGETHER AND HE TOLD ME HE HAS ADHD AND IED. Then now he keeps saying he hears voices telling him to join them in hell and how he hates his life and wants to kill himself and he worried me the other night cause we were talking and then he changed and started saying stuff like i hear the bells ringing hahaha bye im goin to kill myself and he went and i was worried and i even had to phone his sister to see if he was alright as he switched his phone off and she said he was unhappy. then last nite it happened again me, him and his mate were talking and he changed and started saying stuff and then didnt rember and then he went he was coughinh up blood and his mom was talking with him and he went off and i am so worried about him cause i love him so much and i dont know what to do i just wanna be with him and help him but i dont know how........ (link)
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First off, why are you dating an 11 year old? I mean, when I was 16 I was desperate to find a boyfriend - but not one 5 years younger then me. I think your boyfriend is a big time attention seeker and he sounds really really immature.
Tell him he needs psychological help, get a different boyfriend who isn't eleven, & move on with your life.
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I have heard that the first couple months is the most critical for your baby. that being said I am a bit worried about what I have been exposed to. I am 10 weeks pregnant. I smoke cigarettes, (i know, i know, i have cut down and plan to fully quit within a couple weeks). What I am mostly worried about is my job. I am a night janitor. I work anywhere from 7 to 11 hours a night and get from 3-6 hours of sleep as I have to be up with my other child in the morning. I lift heavy items all night, and I have heard furniture polish is really bad for the fetus, and I have used a TON of it in the last couple weeks. Not to mention all other cleaning supplies I use. the most of my worries though, is that I clean a large automotive garage which includes sweeping dirt and debris, including brake dust, and cleaning up oil spills, then moppping the cement with a heavy duty cleaner. there are signs posted everywhere in this auto dealership especially in the garage that say "birth defects and reproductive harm" my supervisor and even the nurse i spoke to did not seem too concerned, but why would they have all those signs then?
sorry this is getting long, but, also as I have a vaccuum strapped to my back most the night and haul A LOT of garbage during the night, and am on my feet for hours straight (my co-workers and I do not take breaks to make more money) how long do you think I will have to work before going on leave? thanks so much for your help (link)
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Hey there.
I think you should plan to fully quit smoking RIGHT NOW. I am soo surprised that you haven't already miscarried. Usually you're in the miscarry stage up until 12 weeks, even after then you can still miscarry but the chance of it happening gets drastically lower.
Most of the things that you're around in that job are very harmful to the fetus, and you should definitely plan to talk to a doctor. I can't tell you anything because I'm only 18 years old, but anyone with any knowledge of anything would know that what you're surrounded by is not healthy. The physical aspects of your job aren't going to harm you though. The fact you're on your feet all night without stopping isn't harmful but the fact that you're lifting things, being around heavy duty cleaners and stuff like that is.
So, make an appointment and discuss this with your doctor. He will more then likely tell you that you need to find another job, (if you need one) or he'll give you a note to take to your employer. Is there anything else you can do in this company that can require less of you? Where you don't need to be around cleaners or lifting? Legally employers can't deny you a job because of being pregnant - so yeah. Good luck to you & your baby! I hope that everything works out for you.
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cracker barrel hired me to work for them so i plan to start training soon =] has anyone here ever worked there as a server? if you have, can you tell me about it? any goofy rules they have or anything like that, was it good money, nice management or uptight, did you enjoy it, good hours, things like that. i know i can talk to the manager about these things, but it's always better to hear first hand. i have just over two years of experience as a waitress, so i'm not really worried about that. (link)
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hey! :0)
i work at cracker barrel right now as a server & it was my first serving job so i can't really compare it to other restaurants. I know that management and money can really fluxuate depending on where you live. Most of the managers I have are really demeaning and I don't like them much, but honestly to me it doesn't really matter because I absolutely love the other servers and other people who work there. Money is good for us. Luckily there's only 2 Cracker Barrel's in the town I live in, and most of the people who come in are either families or older couples. Tips can definitely vary, but I never leave without 50 dollars a day on a 7 hour shift, which is OK for me!
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Ok, So, I've always wonedered,..where do guys put their penis when they take a dump?!?! (link)
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They just let it chill there. It's kind of like girls with their vaginas, when guys are "dumping" usually they don't have an erection, and they just let it hang.
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my first boyfriend of almost 6 months recently left for a job in another country for a year..he said he wants to stay together and be together when he comes back and we talk online and stuff a lot but i'm having a really hard time dealing with this.. hes only been gone a month.. and i can't eat without getting sick, i'm crying all the time and generally depressed a lot.. i don't know what to do.. if anyone has any advice please write me back.. thanks :) (link)
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Long distance relationships are so difficult to cope with especially in the beginning. I know from personal experience how hard it can be, and the only thing you can do, is try & keep your mind off of him as much as possible. As hard as it is, hang out with your friends more or hang out with your family. Maybe both of yall can buy webcams? That would help with it a little bit. My ex boyfriend and I, while we were apart would also along with texting/IMing, would write letters to one another. Because, we'd both have something to always look forward to in the mail, we'd send pictures and stuff like that back and forth.
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what do girls like a guy to wear (link)
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It just depends on what girl you're asking. There's plenty of girls that tend to date guys who dress "preppy" or who dress "scene" & what not. Personally, I just prefer guys to dress comfortable, but not messy. I dated a guy who wore the same gym shorts like a few days in a row, and it really grossed me out. As long as he takes care of himself, that's all that really matters to me.
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I've been tanning latley for my prom. It's this saturday..i'm getting pretty dark..but it seem's like my front side is darker than my back side. i use a tanning maximizer that they gave me the first time i tanned. i always lay on my back..am i maybe doing something wrong? (link)
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For me, my back is usually way darker then my front side. And, both of my sides aren't even tan at all. If I were you I wouldn't use the tanning maximizer. I've never been one for any sort of creames, except after tanning cream which you should use just because it can really dry out your skin. When I asked the lady in my salon, she said that throughout the session, I need to switch the sides I lay on. If you're not too worried about your sides, then you should lay on your back for half of the time you're in the bed and the other half lay on your stomach.
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How can you make money fast? i need like 300 dollars but i have no job. HELP!! (link)
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You could sell stuff that's sitting around your house that you don't use anymore. When I needed money around Christmas time I pawned my saxophone, and although I didn't get much for it, it covered what I needed. That's really the only thing you could do, accept get a job or do yardwork/babysit for someone.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while, and we've had oral a lot, but when it comes to full on sex, it just wont go in. =| i dont know why! im pretty sure im too tight, but what should i do, we have condoms and everything, but it just wont go in.. i donno, maybe we arent trying hard enough, but we are usually just in the mood, and really want to, but it wont work?! (yes i realize this is pretty embrassing, but i really dont care, i dont get awkward, or embrassed) (link)
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That's good that you don't get embarassed about it. Sexual intercourse can sometimes be really hard at first, it just takes practice to get good at it. Get a condom that is super lubed up, that's probably just the issue. Or have him do oral beforehand so that it's easier to push it in.
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what is the real reason chris beat up rihanna? (link)
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No one really knows. They haven't talked much of it, because they aren't allowed to. There is no "real" reason for Chris to beat up Rihanna. There's many stories; that she gave him herpes and that he got a text message from a girl and she flipped out. But as far as right now goes, no one knows yet.
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