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two boyfriends $*@#%!
19/f
So... I have a boyfriend right now. He goes to my college. We were talking on myspace, and texting, prior to when we met at school. We met as friends, and we've been talking as friends the whole time, and then after 2 days together he admitted that he wanted to be more than friends. I've seen him a total of 6 days, we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 of them.
He is realllly sweet. His personality is so cute. the last ime we saw each other, he told me he loved me. I have never had a boyfriend before this and it feels good to have one. =] . Plus, i have, like, no friends in school, so i have him to talk to now. I like having someone to make me feel beautiful and good about myself and have someone to kiss and hug and spend time with.
There is a guy i met on myspace, an now we text eachother realatively everyday, and i like him alot. And i dont know why because i've never met him! None-the-less, he is important to me and i feel like i hhave to met him because if i dont, he will forever be on my mind and i will be like "what would it have been like to meet him? How will i know what we could have had together?...etc.."
I had told my current boyfriend about this other guy. And at first he was like "i'm not going to try to take you from your man..." But then after a while he just started flirting with me, and he kissed me.... and he keep asking me why i wouldnt be his girlfriend, and i kept saying i was confused and i didnt know what i wanted to do.... but apparently i ended up saying yes to him...
So i wanna get with this other guy, i dont know when we will meet, but we will eventually; hopefully not tooo far away from now... I feel like i would have a more special realtionship with him. but I'm with the guy that im with now, and he likes me entirely too much, and i dont like him as much as he likes me, or as much as he thinks i do. I convince him that i like him more than i do. Why do i do this??!!!! I feel like i just want to please people...please him..., I just want to make him happy and show the affection hat he wants me to show him. And I want to keep him; I want someone to like me, i need someone... i dont make friends well and it seems the best way for me is if someone is attracted to me, then they will want to be my friend and or more than my friend, but otherwise i feel like no one really wants to be my friend.
I dont want to lead him on tooo much, but i want to keep him as my boyfriend, but at the same time i'm not sure that i really feel how i should about him....
And on my myspace my status is married. Because i was tired of mad myspace dudes talking about "why are you single, as pretty as you are.....etc.." Plus, I wanted a certain guy, but we werent exactly in a relationship, but i didnt want to leave it as single, so i just put married. And i put that a while ago, before i even started going out with my current boyfriend. but he saw it, and on his myspace page he has something like "We're on a whole new level. F*** bf and gf... we're married".... and i didnt intend that status in reference to me and him.....
Thank you so much for reading this. I would appreciate anything you have to say about this, comments...advice.... =]
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okk first off, dont rush into anything with guys. 3 days is way too soon. and guys that you meet on the internet are probably not who you think they are. maybe you should not be with any of them and think for a bit! think about who you think will make you happier....but keep in mind that you dont really know these guys. try and get to know them more, and talk to them more. can you really trust this guy you met on myspace? think about this...if you invited him over, would you be ale to trust that he wont do anything to you? think about your own safety! :] do what you think is right, and if i were you i wouldnt be with either guy right now because you dont know who you want! get to know them better to decide who you like better!
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Hey!
I'm kind of in the same situation as you right now, or I was a while back. I was dating a guy, who I had been dating for about a year. & I was talking to this other guy just through AIM and text messaging. He kept wanting to meet me, but I was too nervous to because I felt like if I met him I would break up with the boyfriend I had, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to do that.
It's ironic because, I started dating my boyfriend because I didn't have any friends at school, maybe a few, but not that I hung out with - and I was wanting to just be best friends at the time, but as we got to know each other it was nice to have him around all the time.
The only way you're going to find out if you have any special attraction to this other guy you haven't met, is meeting him. Of course you don't want to lead your boyfriend on, but at the same time you don't always want to be wondering what if. And, yall haven't been dating for a long time anyways, so it would be better for you to meet this other guy now, rather then a few months down the road.
And, don't stay with this other guy just because you want to have a friend around you at college. Yall can remain friends - if he wants to. Who knows, you may not even like this other guy, because he may be completely different through texting messaging you know? Once it's over with you'll feel way better about it! Just meet this other guy, and see what happens.
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Good luck!
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