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Hey guys, Im Erika. I am looking into studying psychology in college. I am VERY GOOD at giving advice. I have been through many things in my life. I am currently in a relationship. i know A LOT about relationships, because I've been in one for many years. giving advice is something i deeply enjoy doing, because i love helping other with their problems and i can relate easily to other people.
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(sorry if this turns out to be long il do my best to explain in a nutshell)
Okay,so im getting a little annoyed right now at how my best friend treats guys..
So its like she often wishes how shes in a relationship and wants a boyfriend etc and she ALWAYS attracts theese really lovely lovely guys,but yet she always has to find something wrong with them or a reason not to go out with them she gets bored quickly and messes them about,yet then still complains about not having a boyfriend its like shes oblivous to this.
The most recent guy she told me a few weeks ago how she really liked him,So today we went to the park and he text her and said he would come up to meet her and bring a few friends and she agreed yet when she saw him coming she was like"ugh I dont want to meet up with him" and made me do a detour to avoid them! he texted her then asking whats up she didnt reply,we saw him later down town,she blanks him.
shes not a shy type at all so its not that,she just doesnt know whether shes coming or going.
I don't know what to do because I often get friendly with some of the guys she likes and they always ask me whats the deal should I say it to her?
I don't want to come off jealous,which I will admit I am a little bit that she gets all this male attention and treats the guys like sh*t. people tell me I have a much nicer personality then her and im prettier and all this,yet I cant understand why I cant attract all theese really nice guys that she does?I attract the wrong types!?(which my friend finds funny) is it me?
am I doing something wrong?
should I talk to her about this or let it go.. If so what do I say? I feel like im never going to get a decent guy like all the ones she gets that she turns away
Thanks for any advice sorry if this is long and seems stupid!
seriously. we are both in the same position! when my bestfriend finally gets a good guy, she throws him away and when he doesnt like her anymore she goes after him. and she always complains!
i mean im always straightup with her. bestfriends should be able to call eachother out on what they do. she calls me out all the time, but not in a bad way. tell her like its kinda mean what she does and say it doesnt make sense. just try to convince her that like she keeps pushing guys away and stuff. my bestfriend is extremely hard-headed, so i know where your coming from.
and nooo its not you! maybe you just dont flirt enough! texting always helps like attract and stuff. if your prettier, dont worrry :] everythingshould turnout just fine
So, one of my good friends has been going out with this girl, who is presumably insane.
The first time he had broken up with her, she jumped in front of a truck, and later keyed his car (Mustang GT).
He's going out with her again, but her jealousy is starting to affect our friendship.
She has this idea that everyone is out to steal her boyfriend, and basically restricts him from most of his friends.
Another friend of mine, a girl, had been talking to his girlfriend. She was accusing my friend of talking shit about her boyfriend, and when questioned, the she told her that the only person she's been talking about him to, was me.
So without asking me about it, his girlfriend runs off and tells him that I've been talking shit.
I just recently figured this out (A matter of hours ago). This would be an explanation of why he had stopped talking to me, well, about a week or so ago.
But the problem is, I have no way of contacting him. He's ignoring my calls and texts, and I rarely see him now.
I have no clue what to do. I've considered talking to his roommate (Also a friend of mine) and asking him to talk to my buddy about it, but I'm not sure how that would turn out.
I'm desperate to get my friend back. Please help.
HAHA wow yeah she sounds crazy!
i really think that you should talk to his roommate about it so that he can talk to your friend...im sure that should help. because like you can get the roommate to ask the guy questions about it and have him say like "hey why arent you and that kid (you) talking anymore?" and just stuff like that will lead to finding out what a solution is for the problem!
How do you pronounce the name "Didyme?"
It's a name from the book "Twilight."
im almost 100% sure its "did-ih-mee"
hahha
Its like this I really like this girl but I'm not in her class or have never talked to her so here's the pitch I get someone to tell her that I like her not to ask her out I'll do that myself but just to see if she likes me back which I think she does You know the slight glance every single day at lunch time and so on and don't worry I'm not just imagining it in my head.I'm not a fool.I was going to ask her out myself but figured why risk getting rejected and embarrassed like that for no reason when I could get someone to see if and that's a Big If she liked me in return so then i would ask her out myself.Finally here's the question what I said above an OK way to go with it and secondly I'm 17 and she's 14 just wondering if that's alright.Bear in mind I'm from Ireland which has a completely different culture from America.If she likes me and since I like her I don't care what anybody thinks.
wow i wish all guys would not care about age like that! but i must say...dont get someone to ask her right away like that. try and find a way to get to know her...like see who she is friends with and if you know any of those people try and all hangout and have them bring her. try smiling at her...it will make her smile back and its just really cute! but trust me dont have someone ask her out of nowhere...some girls find hat creepy! and age doesnt really matter as long as shes not 5 years younger. i think its fine! good luck!!!!
so basically i met this guy at the beginning of the school year.at first we didnt talk even when he dated my "friend" for a little bit.then after they finally broke up he asked me if id like to be his friend.so i said yes ever since we have become closer and closer.as you probably figured i grew to like him.he sometimes acts like he likes me but at times he dont.he told my friend he wasnt intrested me but told my other friend he would think about going out with me.but he still flirts with me.he doesnt act like just a friend sometime.so i just kinda wanna see what he might mean by all this.thank you.
well i think he might be interested in you, but he doesnt know if he wants to get with you because he was with your friend...or maybe he doesnt want a relationship, get to know him more...like text with him, flirt with him, and try to get more out of him until he speaks his mind! if you try to get more out of him and he doesnt really seem to go with what you are trying to do, maybe he just wants to flirt! guys are so confusing lol.
Alright, so im 15/f and I really like this guy, Lets rephrase that. I love him. I have loved/liked him for a little over a year. But he lives in Massachusetts.): and he liked me alot at 1st then stopped, and now claims to like me again, and says he loves me, he was so happy on the phone last night and even texted me good morning, witch he never does... What do i do??
thanks in advance.
well it looks like you guys live in different states, and thats always going to be a problem if the two of you were to get into a relationship. there could ve trust issues and all that. if he says he loves you, make sure he really does! if you rreally feel like this could work, try it! but just keep in mind, no relationship works without loyalty and trust. dont get with him until you know for sure he wouldnt do anything to hurt you! long-distance relationships are very hard. if its meant to be it will happen!
God damn it im such an idiot... i hate how mind's work, my best girl mate (who's extremely beautifull in my eyes) and has the best personality. every time i see her w have such a good time and then she gos and she's all i can think about... its been like this for years but i dont think iv ever realised it. we'v liked eachother before and i'v even gone as far as loving her maybe twice out of the 7 or more years i'v known her. we'v never gone out but she did kiss me once when i loved her and it made me so happy beyond belief, the only thing is shes allways with somone... the time she kissed me she had this absoloute arse of a BF who mistreated her loads (they are no longer going out thanks god). and now again today i saw her she was with her mate and my guy mate came round were both 17 by the way and shes just turned 18 and her freinds the oldest at 19. so it all started out like it allways dos, muckin around on the internet then we went out side and skated and chatteed for a bit (she also wore this really.. revealing top and my god have her boobs grown since the last time i saw her) i know i know i shouldnt be looking she has a boyfriend! >_< i havent had a GF in 4 years and it gets to me every once in a while just how awesome she is... but it also frustrates me to think maybe it would be better if we never did or were meant to be that way together, we have a great friend ship i wouldnt trade for anything else in the world and if i went out with her would i be any good? would it drive us apart if we broke up? am i even in her league? every one tells me im such a nice guy but when your in a class of girls (8 of them been with that class for 2 years now) all with boyfriends and endlessly talking about how good they are to them its sorta drivven my confidence and self esteem down into the ground. so many thoughts are rushing around my brain... mostly thinking of her, could it be the hormones?? am i just in LUST with her and not liking/loving her like a normall person? it switches i guess, one minute shes all i think about her cheeky smile and sexy glasses and how good it would be just to hug her while enjoying every moment we couldnt ever spend while shes with him. i dont envy her current BF he seems to be the only one who's actually showing how love should be he's all she talks about and im happy for her, other bf's were assholes even though it took her a loong time to realise it =/
i know this is long sorry sorry sorry but its one of those things that you have to tell some one and know that the person you like wont ever find out...
should i tell her that i feel this way for her nearlly every time were together? that i think about every good and bad time we'v scraped through and loved her through? its not like other girls i'v liked either were i feel so on edge because i know they know i like them with her its like.. I LOVE HER!! but i can still be me around her wre so relaxed together and iv never had that with any girl. please explain to me what i could be expirieencing or how i could deal with this? thanks for your time it is very much appreciated
well, the first thing you need to think about is... do you think being with her as in boyfriend/girlfriend and risking your friendship is worth it? and does she know how you feel? if she knows how you feel and if she felt the same she should have let you know. its really hard to tell the difference between love and lust. but you know when you would die for that person and do anything for them and always stand by their side no matter what happens. if thats how you feel, maybe you should just be honest with her and tell her everything. im not saying do it, its something you really need to think about because if she doesnt feel the same way back, it could ruin everything. if its meant to be, it will happen. i really think you may love her. but if shes in a relationship, and shes happy, you shouldnt tell her because she will get all confused and not know what to do and her boyfriend might get mad, and it might all turn into a huge mess. i would say definitely pray about it and see if she is the girl for you and whatever you feel is right, do it. follow your heart!!!
Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date?
i really dont think there is anything wrong with that. i mean its not like your 10 years apart! if you guys have fun together and have a lot in common then why not? if she is into you, go for it!
Do you think it's really possible for a couple to last through high school and college and eventually get married? I always thought people who were married and were high school sweethearts was the cutest thing.
Also, when me and my boyfriend go to college we'll be about four hours away from each other. How hard is it to keep a relationship going in this type of situation? I don't know how I'll deal with a long term relationship. As it is we live 20 minutes away from each other and see each other every other day and if for some reason we can't get together I'll start missing him so much it hurts.
ive had a boyfriend for 3 years now and im in highschool! i want this too. and the only way to make this last is to have trust and to be loyal towards one another. if you dont trust him, you will get really paranoid and same for him. just make sure that you wouldnt do things behind his back and dont lie to him. if he notices any of this, he might doubt that you guys will be able to last. do whatever you can to get him to realize he can trust you and that you guys can make it! and make sure you can trust him. in a situation if another guy tries to hit on you, do what you wouldnt want him to do! good luck
19/f
So... I have a boyfriend right now. He goes to my college. We were talking on myspace, and texting, prior to when we met at school. We met as friends, and we've been talking as friends the whole time, and then after 2 days together he admitted that he wanted to be more than friends. I've seen him a total of 6 days, we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 of them.
He is realllly sweet. His personality is so cute. the last ime we saw each other, he told me he loved me. I have never had a boyfriend before this and it feels good to have one. =] . Plus, i have, like, no friends in school, so i have him to talk to now. I like having someone to make me feel beautiful and good about myself and have someone to kiss and hug and spend time with.
There is a guy i met on myspace, an now we text eachother realatively everyday, and i like him alot. And i dont know why because i've never met him! None-the-less, he is important to me and i feel like i hhave to met him because if i dont, he will forever be on my mind and i will be like "what would it have been like to meet him? How will i know what we could have had together?...etc.."
I had told my current boyfriend about this other guy. And at first he was like "i'm not going to try to take you from your man..." But then after a while he just started flirting with me, and he kissed me.... and he keep asking me why i wouldnt be his girlfriend, and i kept saying i was confused and i didnt know what i wanted to do.... but apparently i ended up saying yes to him...
So i wanna get with this other guy, i dont know when we will meet, but we will eventually; hopefully not tooo far away from now... I feel like i would have a more special realtionship with him. but I'm with the guy that im with now, and he likes me entirely too much, and i dont like him as much as he likes me, or as much as he thinks i do. I convince him that i like him more than i do. Why do i do this??!!!! I feel like i just want to please people...please him..., I just want to make him happy and show the affection hat he wants me to show him. And I want to keep him; I want someone to like me, i need someone... i dont make friends well and it seems the best way for me is if someone is attracted to me, then they will want to be my friend and or more than my friend, but otherwise i feel like no one really wants to be my friend.
I dont want to lead him on tooo much, but i want to keep him as my boyfriend, but at the same time i'm not sure that i really feel how i should about him....
And on my myspace my status is married. Because i was tired of mad myspace dudes talking about "why are you single, as pretty as you are.....etc.." Plus, I wanted a certain guy, but we werent exactly in a relationship, but i didnt want to leave it as single, so i just put married. And i put that a while ago, before i even started going out with my current boyfriend. but he saw it, and on his myspace page he has something like "We're on a whole new level. F*** bf and gf... we're married".... and i didnt intend that status in reference to me and him.....
Thank you so much for reading this. I would appreciate anything you have to say about this, comments...advice.... =]
okk first off, dont rush into anything with guys. 3 days is way too soon. and guys that you meet on the internet are probably not who you think they are. maybe you should not be with any of them and think for a bit! think about who you think will make you happier....but keep in mind that you dont really know these guys. try and get to know them more, and talk to them more. can you really trust this guy you met on myspace? think about this...if you invited him over, would you be ale to trust that he wont do anything to you? think about your own safety! :] do what you think is right, and if i were you i wouldnt be with either guy right now because you dont know who you want! get to know them better to decide who you like better!
for me getting guys has never been a problem, the problem is they always screw me over. every guy i go for, no matter how different they may seem they usually turn out to be worse than the last. ive been through sheer hell in the relationship department and have felt like giving up but as sad as it is, i really do need a man to feel happy. i dont know why, or if thats pathetic, but i am not happy alone. i never feel good enough for anyone and each relationship results in my ego becomming lower and lower. i honestly have no idea what i do wrong. i try very hard not to be annoying, i stay in shape, i try and do nice things for them, and i try to take things slow sexually. im good at sexual acts so my problem is not that i dont know what im doing physically, but emotionally rather. i used to believe it was the guys but now im beginning to question, is it me? and why doesnt anyone actually like me? why do they all just want to use me? why is everyone capable of getting into amazing and functional relationships and im not. if you have any advice please let me know. i would like to know how i can become more of a relationship person, and how to detect if a guy is just looking to use me.
all you can really do is wait for a guy to come to you. when guys seem interested, take it slow, and try and find out things about them without being creepy about it. when they start talking to you, try playing hard to get. it makes them want you more, and they actually start to care more and try wayyy harder. its not you. its deffinately the guys because thats just the way they are. guys are really hard to find. especially when your a teenager because a lot of times they all act the same. guys are extremely hard to read. and really having a relationship in highschool is extremely hard. you go through a lot, but in the end it is all worth it. you just have to find the right guy, and thats the hardest part of anything that has to do with guys. you'll find him!!!
Okay, so I need your help.
I am making a "end of the season" music video for my volleyball team. This special video mainly features highlights of the seniors on our last home game. So I was wondering what kind of music would best suit this music video. I am looking for some CLEAN upbeat type music.
its all your fault, by pink
or
everything by michael buble
good luck!
ive been working on my strddles and splits. my straddle is better than my split in my opinion but any streches or anything at all that i can do to help me perform these?
when you sit in a straddle, point your toes and lean over to one side and try to grab and hold on to your foot. try both sides, and do this everyday to help your straddle, and to get your splits. alost when your in a straddle, pull your body forward, an try to touch your chin to the ground in front of you.
hope this helps.
14/f
freshman
i am a christian.
i have been serving god all my life.
and i have had plenty of christian and non-christian friends.
i try not to talk about religion a lot because i dont want to push my friends away.
i am not a rebel or emo or anything, but lately i have been wondering if i am two different people.
i love god with all my heart.
and that will never change, but i recently told my friend about my releigion and she said she had no idea that i was christian. does that mean that i dont act like a christian.
i go to church every other sunday, i read the bible and i love singing praise songs, and pray. but my friends didn't know that i did anything like that.
how can i be chirstian in front of my friends without pushing them away???
from,
confused about being 2faced
a true friend would not judge you on your religious beliefs.
when they are in trouble, tell them to pray. this might get them interested, and you could be saving a life. invite them to church with you, and they might see what good of a person you are. you should not be ashamed to talk about god, because he loves you, and no matter what horrible or bad things you do in your life, he is not ashamed of you. just be yourself, and if your friends are creeped out by that, well theyre just not good friends.
does any1 kno where i can find shoe lifts
the ones that you put in your shoes & it makes you taller their also called elavater shoes
where can i get a pair
these are made for men...
this is a great company, because these elevator shoes give you inches to be taller. they make 150 different styles, pretty much anything you can imagine. im pretty sure you can only order these online. just go to the site, and it will show you the steps to ordering them. most range from $60-$80, it depends on the shoe you choose. i think this is a great deal and a good idea!
here's the site . . . .
http://www.elevatorshoes.com/
i always wanna have sex but im a virgin so i dont know how it feels what should i do? what is wrong with me?
your just growing up. its in your hormones. they make you feel like that. whatever you do, dont just go off and do it. wait. there is nothing wrong with you, this is normal for anyone.
Im 28 yrs old female. Everytime my bf leaves (we dont live together he lives outta town) he gives me a big hug and a kiss on my forehead on my lips only once in a while. I want to know if this is a good thing, or if this is a bad thing. Hes not one to show his feelings, he loves to cuddle in bed and when we go dancing he'll hold me in front of him and dance with me. I dont know how to read him sometimes!!!!!
sincerely
confused
okay, well i think that you shoudl kiss him! maybe hes waitin gfor you to make the lips move! maybe he thinks hes moving too fast, so let him know that he isnt. kiss him, and see what happends!
goodluckkk!
i am am involved with a guy for over four years when we first met he didnt had a girlfriend we were on off when we started really going strongly he met someone and she got pregnant he told me about it and understand because i loved him and didnt want him to walk away from his child we were being very open with one another but after the baby came he changed i stopped seeing as often as i used too he started to get secretive came to find out we broked up for two weeks and in space of two weeks he got married and didnt tell me after two months i read a text in his phone his wife sent to him he forgot to delete it and thats how i found out the surprising news i approached him he was still in denial but we talked he told me the truth i excepted him because feelings was still their but the problem is i see him every once or twice a week and i accept him being married because i love him but he isnt their for me like he use to and he hates to see we with someone else but i have needs and i cant stand to be alone but he isnt making any interest to leave his wife but yet he tells me he loves me more than her bout i cant live on just words i am 22 and he's 30.
this is a big problem.
no matter what he says, he doesnt love you. if he loved you, he would be with you, but also be a part of that baby's life. if he got married, why would you want to be with him? personally, i think you are wasting your time. you could do way better than that. thats so ridiculous. if he loves you then why did he get married to someone else? if hes not making an interest to leave his wife, then why should you try? hes married, and if he doesnt want to be, thats his problem because you are not supposed to break a marriage. the truth is, he doesnt love either of you. if he loved her, he would love ONLY her, and he would treat her with respect, and he says he loves you, but hes obviously not respecting you, so he doesnt love either of you. when you love someone, you are true to them, and you love only them. and if he was cheating on you, dont give him another chance! your wasting your time! no guy like that is worth your time. you know you are strong enough to move on, and i honestly 100% know that from what you just told me, he is not for you. or her. he is making a big mistake. and just because he told you the truth, that doesnt mean you can go back with him! your wasting your time. you should deffinetly move on and he keeps lying to you.
i really hope you take this advice because i bet you will be way happier. good luck!
this is long but please read: so to break it down to make this short as possible, i recently went on vacation w my bf and his family and i cheat on him with his cousin. really messed up, i know. please dont say anything mean. i dunno, me and him just started hanging out alot bc my bf had to do stuff while i was there so there was no one else to hang with but i mean all we did was make out but thats still cheating and i really do love my bf and he loves me and i would never want to hurt him which is why i cannot explain why i did what i did, but point is, i dont know what to do. i have a horrible feeling in my stomach when i think about what i did and i want to tell him but that would do nothing but hurt him and ruin things between us and i dont want anything to go on. i mean i want to tell him at some point but i dont know if i should. cuz in a way, thats being selfish. im trying to make my self feel better by telling him but im actually hurting him. please help, what should i do?
wow this is a tough one.
things like that happen, because you love the attention your getting. well thats how it was with me. you have to tell him. its selfish if you dont. just think about how it would be if he cheated on you with your cousin and he didnt tell you. i mean what if he finds out? then its OVER. trust me. you have to tell him and i know its going to be hard but if he really loves you he might give you another chance. but dont expect anything good, because like obviously (reallyyy no offence!), what you did was really bad, and hes going to say that you dont deserve to get another chance for what happened. just make him understand that your sorry and that you regret it. im really sorry that all that happened, but stay strong. you can write me and tell me what happens, and ill help you some more. i kinda cheated before but i was with the guy for like 4 days and i was at a club. but i never told him, because he was annoying and i didnt really know him and he was a jerk. but things like that are not AS big of a deal if you were with them for a short time. if youve been with him for a long time, then he might give you another chance a little later, so dont move on, and whatever you do, dont go and get with im cousin again, because that will make things A LOT worse. sorry this was longgg hahah. but i really hope everything works out. but really, be honest, because if you dont have honesty in a relationship, then the relationship doesnt exist.
okay.. so i dated this girl for not too long of a time, like less than 3 months but i just got tired of being with her [and he was kinda an asshole- not really to me but to everyone else] after we broke up she was really upset & overdramatic about everything. Its been over a month now and we still don't talk. I don't really want to be friends with her because after we broke up i realized how much she lied to me while we were together.. but i really can't take how weird it is around her & not talking to her. what should i do? should i make an effort to become friends with her even though she seems to like hate me for breaking up with her & she's really not someone id love to be friends with? she also seems to think that if we are gunna be friends i need to initiate everything because I broke up with HER. i did try once, online.. the only time we've really talked since the breakup but it seems like to maintain our friendsship, ill need to do most of teh work.
help? please?
personally, i dont think you should waste your time. dont talk to her, because if she did all that to you, and if shes blaming you, dont even make an effort. she should be the one making the effort. i mean yes, its going to be weird for sure, but dont let it bother you. you dont need to initiate anything because she should understand! dont even tryyy