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I don't know what to do..
I'm depressed, I don't know what to do and I need help.
I'm 23 years old, I'm pregnant with my first child. I have my own apartment and I'm in a committed relationship but here is the problem...
I'm on social security and I'm not working at this time, My boyfriend who is 24 is also unemployed. I recieve food stamps to support myself and help me make it through. I have a learning disability and I'm hard of hearing. I'm scared and I don't know how I will support my child. I do not believe in abortions so don't even suggest that, I do not want to give my child up because well...Apart of me is scared to death but the other part of me is lucky to be pregnant and know that I was able to even exsperience getting pregnant and I don't want to give my child up I want to raise it into a good loving home and I want to see my little one grow up. I don't know what to do...I live in a one bedroom apartment.
Please do not judge me, Say anything mean, I'm here to get help
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No one is here to judge you.
And, I totally know where you're coming from. I found myself too, in an unexpected pregnancy situation, I was only 18 though - no job and I just got out of high school. I took the other road & ended up getting an abortion, which I HIGHLY regret. I am happy to hear though that you are standing firm with wanting to keep your baby. There are lots of women all over the world that are in situations like yourself - it may seem impossible to get by but it is possible.
The only thing you can do is apply for Medicaid so that you know you'll have reliable health insurance for yourself & your baby. I think that your boyfriend right now should atleast try and find a job. Hopefully when he finds out you're pregnant he will feel somewhat motivated. I'm assuming your able to work, so maybe you can find a job that won't be much of a stresser on yourself but just for a few months, until you won't be able to work anymore.
If you can, find a crisis pregnant center in your area - they usually offer free classes/free counseling and they also can hook you up with strollers & baby clothes if need be. And it doesn't matter if you live in a one bedroom apartment. There's a lot of people that don't have that much!
Good luck to you.
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Im sorry that you are feeling so low. And you are right about pregnancy it is a wonderful gift and I understand how you feel about not wanting to give it up.I am going to suggest to you an open adoption. It is yes still adoption but being an open one you will be permitted to choose the family who will take care of your child and you will also get to see your child and visit them pretty frequently depending on the paper work and the family. But an open adoption will allow you to see your child grow up and it will give you the satisfaction of knowing that your child is in a loving home. I hope this helped. And I hope the best for you.
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I'm sorry that you have to deal with this, but the number one thing to remember right now is to try not to stress yourself out too much, for your sake & your child's sake. Have you talked to your boyfriend about finding a job? Also, there are government programs to help. Some people are too embarrassed to get this help (such as welfare and wic), but there's nothing wrong with getting help if you need it. Good luck. Sweetie, don't listen to Matt, either.
And Matt, what a terrible thing to say! A lot of disabilities have nothing to do with raising a child.
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A good loving home to you is a one bed room apartment with two unemployed and unmarried parents, one with a disability?
Even love can't overcome some things.
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Judging by your 1s to anyone that suggested adoption, you're not looking for advice. You're looking for sympathy. Take your shit somewhere else.
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