-Hey world I've been on here awhile now i just wanna say being on here has been great! im not a specailist but im here for anyone that needs someone to talk to. :) feel free to ask me anything and don't feel ashamed, im not here to judge.we all have daily battles,but it doesn't mean we have to face them alone.with that being said I look forward to meeting you ;)
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So I'm 23 and thinking lots of death lately....my brother. Killed himself in front of me when I was 15 I watched my aunt die of cancer all my grandparents died I was a foster. Child in many different homes and badly abused as a child ... I get a lot of bad thoughts about ending life what should I do ps... I'm a girl I'm from Canada (link)
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There's no eazy way to take in the things you've seen and felt life brings so many challenges that it seems unbareable but you will get through I hope that this has helped in some way and I'm here if you need me to talk to
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21/F: So me and my “boyfriend” have had a lot of ups and downs. We’ve been off and on for about 3 years. He has a drug problem and since the beginning of the year has actually been in recovery. While he was in rehab, he called me almost every night and we had hour long conversations of just happiness. He shared like every detail of his life with me and I felt so important because he trusted me enough to really tell me how he felt. But one day he told me that he couldn’t carry on a relationship with me or call me so often because he needed to work on himself but really wanted a relationship later on. Well, here we are a couple months later and I am going insane. It’s not that I don’t think he needs time or whatever. But I am beginning to doubt how he feels about me at all…He doesn’t EVER call me. Sometimes doesn’t even respond to my texts. He is supposed to come up this coming weekend and I am super nervous. I am excited because I really do love this guy with all of my heart but I’m scared he’s going to hurt me again. He said he can’t be rushed into a relationship and he would come up here and take me out when he was ready. So now I know that’s probably his plan. But I feel as if maybe he will never be able to give me what I want from a relationship. We are long distance and I want someone that I can talk to whenever I want to. I’m not talking like all hours of the day. But if I want to talk to him, I don’t want to be ignored. I feel like no matter how I tell him that I want a healthy happy relationship with him or how I wish he would talk to me more, nothing ever happens. This is new ground though because he is in recovery. I don’t know what’s going on in his life at all, he has all these new friends which seem like a great support system. But I wish I was more included :/ I really love this kid and if he does end up coming up here, do you guys have any advice on what I should say? I hate being this sad :/ I just honestly want a happy relationship soooo badly :[ (link)
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Being in a long distance relationship is hard. But this is not your average relationship he's in recovery. That is not a very eazy task either . You love him. Be supportive let him know that you love him and that you care. He probly broke up with you because he did want you to see him like that he is recovering . He's getting his life back on track if you love him just give him time to get his life back in order so he can be that man that you fell in love with and more! I hope everything works out for you!
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I want to kill myself...I've been getting bullied since middle school & my family hates me?
I really want to kill myself. I'm always depressed because I get picked on at school & my family members treat me like I'm a piece of crap. they think I'm a weirdo because I'm quiet & they tell me I don't have any friends, but if I told them I was getting picked on in school they probally wouldn't care or believe me. My family always fusses at me & talks about me like I'm worthless, they don't understand me & I don't want to talk to them because they never will understand.They say a lot of things to hurt my feelings & then I go to school & get picked on by kids because of the way I look. I have been being picked on since the 6th grade. If they found out that I cry in my room they probally wouldn't care or think I'm serious. I'probablyslapped before by a kid just because they didn't like me. I'm tired of being picked on at school & my family always putting me down. I'm not a ad kid. I make good grades, but I hate my life...When I get depressed I just go in my room and cry because if I talk to family about it they probally won't care. I don't even want to talk to anyone I just want to kill myself. I don't have a gun so I think the best way is to just use a knife. (link)
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You know I have thought about taking my life before too. But I. Have a purpose in life. And so do you people do hurt full things to people out of their own selfish reasons. And its not right. Today you have a new friend and that is me! You are beautiful and don't let anyone tell you other wise when ever you need to talk you talk to me. And if you wanna txt me ill give you my number. I am your friend from here on out please don't kill yourself or harm your body in anyway. Remember "now is not forever"
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19/f
Hey. I'm just an ordinary girl at college, and well I have a lot on my mind. My roommate is never around and we don't get along really well. I have a lot on my mind regarding life, love, and struggles that I'm going through. The one thing I really want is just someone to really talk to about these things. I do consider myself social :) but none of my friends really help me out, or I just kinda feel like a burden to them and guilty for always coming to them for help. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed? Oh and I don't have a lot of money so I can't get a counselor or anything. Plus I think that would be awkward. (link)
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im free and im here if you need me =)
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i am 13 in middle school and its a new school year and i saw a boy on my side of the hall way and i started to like him i dont know anything about him and i want to get to know him but my ex and my friend thats in his class tells me its a bad idea to even say hey to him but i also have friends that encourage me to talk to him and friends that offer to talk to him for me but when i get within three feet of him i run because i dont know what to say or do i get so scared to talk to him what should i do listen to my ex and friend or my other friends that encourage me and i also feel that im ugly and not good enough for anybody why do i feel this way?? (link)
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fii wanna say that in order to like someone or be with them you have to first like your self.what your feeling when you see him is your body simply telling you that you like him. And when you see him just be yourself. Relax. I think you should try talking to him. But only do it if you feel comfertable. Good luck!
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What if the ibuprofen doesn't work and I end up coming back with brain damage? I'd be worse off than I was before. (link)
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whatever your going through trust me life will get better killing your self is not the answer you are somebody and you are going to be someone great in time. But you will never know that if u do this keep your head up :)
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My best friend and i have known eachother for 3 years now. Weve fooled around alot but have not had sex. every time i mention being in a relationship he freaks out. ive had boyfriends since ive been best friends with him. but my heart is definitely with him. he truely is my best friend, we tell eachother everything and do everything together. and we are sexual. so isnt that a relationship? i dont understand why he doesnt want the title. he isnt involved with any other girls and hasnt been since ive known him. thats 3 years that im the only girl hes even kissed or gone out with. i guess i dont have a specific question. i just dont know what to do. my heart is breaking because i cant have him as more than best friends/ friends with benefits. (link)
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there is no correct answer iT IS BEST TO SToP every thing that is beyond being "just friends " kissing,haveing sex ,etc. You are best friends you should talk about this more. But you want more to me he's just enjoying this and not lookin for anything more just leave him as a friend cut the benifits! I wish u well :))))))))))
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OK.... three months ago my bestie snapped and threw me against a wall in a park bathroom.... I havnt talked to her since then and mom thinks ive punished her enough.... I still dnt want to talk to her.... But i feel really bad..... What do i do? btw im 12 nd female.
LJB (link)
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well friendships have problems but being made was natural its been a few days you should talk to her to see what was wrong maybe you can help her try to work it out thats your bestfriend! Goodluck
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Okay, so I just realized this year's Valentine's Day falls on a Monday.
Problem is, it's a school day. My boyfriend and I go to the same college. However, on Mondays, with our schedules, we have no free time in common, not until the last class of the day. Mine ends at 5pm, his..after 8.
Keeping in mind that we can't leave campus and his and my roommates are probably gonna be in their respective rooms that day, what can we even do on V-day that'll be even SOMEWHAT special? We can't do anything over the weekend because chances are, I'll be celebrating my mom's birthday.
Help? (link)
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well do something classic ... both of your schedules are tight so maybe on a day you both are free and can squeeze time into your schedules do something simple.since u can't leave you can.. ideas 1.have a dinner under the stars ,take a walk through the campus together ,or watch a romantic movie. or even classical leave love letters around hes room ...
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my boyfriend loves his ps3 blacks ops game. most of the time its what he talks about. finally i told him i don't care about black ops. and then it was like, we don't really have anything to talk about. we have been together for about a year and a half and are both 16 in highschool. i love him, i really do, but i get scared that we will split up because we never have things to talk about. other than the same old, how are you, how was your day, we don't really have much to talk about anymore. should i look for topics to think of to bring up in a conversation? but that seems desperate because we've been together, its not like a first date. but it feels like it. :( (link)
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i think everyone runs into things like this. if theres nothing to talk about find something to talk about . school classes your friends but since he is a gamer start with that first since you do not like the game he loves playing suggest someother type of game you both like.
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14/ f
So, I've been through a lot. Ive been abused by my step mom, i haven seen my real momsince my 7th birthday (court order) because she has schitzofrania, and i was raped by my bioligical mothers boyfriend from age 4-7. Now i see a sycologist, but i feel no change. I feel worthless and horrible, and i feel any guy can take advantage of me because i already feel dirty because i was raped.
& i have no idea how to fix this.
I am still a virgin but i have done everything else, because i feel as if i was taken advantage of already so it doesn't matter anymore. Which sounds like an excuse but i dont know how to totally explain it. Can someone help me think of a way to stay away from guys and just hang out with my friends that are girls and be happy like a normal teenager? and where i can get my focus back onto school? (link)
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all you can do is make the best if any situation that you go through i know it's tough but stay in there. so far as the guy thing you gotta find other things to do be active with friends or simply try out for after school things,hope things get better for you ;)
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ohkaay, so my friend (lets cal her Erika) is coming to my house saturday at 5pm. then we're tellig my mom and her mom that we're going to my other friends house(lets call her marie). she's telling her mom she's coming to my house. then we're gonna meet up at a local park (walking) and then we're going to the store to get monster's to stay up all night, walking around my safe neighborhood. then we might sneak in at my house at like 3 to sleep a little.any advice for anything ? (link)
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well always be safe and always have a plan b any thing can go wrong also be careful trying energy drinks not all of them are healthy and some of them arent as effective as they may seem. well thats all i have for now good luck
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Hey. So I'm an 18 year old girl and I have never been in a relationship before. I really don't give care about that, It will happen when it wants to. But I'm worried about what may happen when I do finally get a boyfriend. I hate having people touch me. I can't wait for hugs to be over most of the time and I enjoy my personal space. Im not a bitch if your wondering, Im actually nice and friendly in a very shy way, it's just the space thing. What I'm wondering is, do you think that I will still be like that if I'm with a guy I really like? or do you think my space issues mixed with my horrible shyness can/will effect my relationships? I'm leaning towards I won't give a shit anymore... but still I tend to notice when people sit too close to me or I freak mentally when hugs last way too long. Ughhh :/ Help? (link)
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i think that you dont have a problem it's just that you like your space everyone has a point when they step out of their relaxed zone when every feel ut of your zone just tell them that it makes you feel akward. and sofar as daating oes i think you will grow to like yur boyfriends hugs
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I really want to be popular. Not popular as in "hello, im stuck up and im better than everybody." I wanna be popular as in BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE! i dont know how to start a conversation with strangers. any suggestions on how i can achieve this? (link)
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my advice is just be your self i know it doesnt seem right but trust me it is nothing like having friends you can be around.
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I used to be really close with a group of friends and then I became best friends with someone else and I made her a part of the group but now I can't go anywhere without her being there and I feel like i've drifted from my other friends because she's taking over so much of my time and is really clingy and invites herself everywhere because she assumes she's always invited and i'm too polite to un invite her.I still want to be close with her but I haven't found a way to balance my friendship with her and not loose all my other friends I used to have and not loose the closeness of our friendship by blowing her off and i'm leaving for college soon. So how do I salvage all of my other friendships. (link)
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i think that u should just talk to her about it let her know how you fell if she is your real friend she'll understand hope i've helped good luck
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My freinds always get bf but i really want one i think im to fat or ugly, i pretty popular but i dont see what's wrong i need some adcice im so jelous of my freinds.............My freind just got a new bf and my bother freind keeps getting asked out by everybody. (link)
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my advice to you is dont put yours self down your a beautiful person i never saw you but i know that you are.and there are a lot of people that are asked out alot. but there not always happy.and know that you probley see alot of guys you think are cute but most guys know a days are jerks.iknow you may not belive but there is a guy some where that will make you happy it takes patience but it will happen.oh and before i go be happy for your freinds your day will come sorry its kinda long .hope i helpedyou a little.
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17/f
For almost 2 years, I've been really attracted to girls. I've only dated guys, and that's how I like it. I don't think I'd ever want to be in an actual relationship with a girl. But it drives me crazy that I can't have sex with other girls, mostly because I'm not going to tell anybody I feel this way. So it has gotten to the point where I watch lesbian porn, and it is the most sexual gratification I can find. I love having sex with my bf, but to be with a girl seems much more pleasurable. My question is, do a lot of girls feel this way ? Because I sometimes feel like most girls are attracted to other girls, just won't admit it. And also, can anyone relate to this ? I can't really understand if I'm considered bisexual or if this is just a phase.
THANK YOU :) (link)
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to be honest its most likly just a phase people go through the phases between 13-17 because our body changes as well as our horomones. hope i kinda helped
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hey 14 f XD
You see I'm a writer..i love writing but I'm worried there not good enough..;/ Like my brother makes me mad because he just started writing and his storys are pretty good..well he's 17 so of course he would be good..but any way u can help me out? Tips? I really love writing..im writing a book now..nd anything will be help full..thanks..
XD (link)
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my advice to you is to practice,,,practice,,,practice. read more books to increase your vocabulary. check out books,search online.i hope to see your books on the shelf in the future good luck on your writing
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14 f.. bf 16 m
WEll..to start off..my bf isn't a perv, or just want's me for my body. We have been dating for awhile and i know that he doesn't just want me for sex..we both like to talk about it..but it's not ALL we talk about. We talk about how he can't wait until he gets to see me next year, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He acutally proposed to me..its not offical of course...>.< he just asked "dont freak out, but i want to ask you something." So i said " ok?" and he said "what would you say..if i asked you to marry me." My heart started racing and I felt myself get all shaky. i said " i would say yes." than he said So..will you marry me..??" I said " yes." Than he freaked out and was like "omg, finally somone who wants me for me..and who won't ever leave me." Many girls before left him..and one ..;/ his first love..well she died in a car crash..and now he has nightmares of me leaving him. I don't ever want to..but to the question is..i sent a sexy picture to him..he told me i didn't have to at all..and he could wait..but i wanted to..i wasn't naked..i was hidden in his jacket..u could see the middle of my chest thts it. I can trust him with that stuff though..he never broke my trust in anyway. We have been dating for a while now..months..he knows the exact date ..hha I don't remember..i told him thats all im sending nd he said "good because i don't need these.I can wait for as long as you want me to." He's very good to me..we do..have the phone sex..>.< rofl but it was my idea..and it just..happend..We both are sexual like that..and we only share that stuff with each other. He is so much like me it's surprizing. He doesn't have a good homelife..;/ he doesn't have any parents so he lives with his grandmothers and they don't want him. Even though he makes them dinner and cleans the house and what not..he just recently got grounded for no reason..right after making dinner for them. He respects them..and does what they say..he also had a rule where he can't talk past 9..so he has to sneak to call me. ;/ I'm really stuck on this guy i just recently got dentention because teachers saw him hugging me , nd giving me a quick peck after school. He always use to meet me after school, but now he doesn't because he doesn't want to risk me getting introuble because of him. He cried and cried after it ..it really made him feel bad. ;/ You can tell he cares about me..and i wouldn't be the same without him.
Do you think we are doing ok..in our relationship.. ?I always get upset because my parents and his..try to split us up because of our age diffrences..>.< makes us both upset.
please don't be harsh..>.< thanks you.
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to me honestly you guys are doing good you have what most couples want honesty,trust,and the ability to talk,and care for each other .i think that your parents are just in a protective mood they don't see that your happy the just see an older guy with there young child .i hope that you guys stay happy and that your parents can see that yall be long together.hope every thing works out.
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I'm a thirteen year old girl.Ever since grade three, the boys keep making fun of me. Whether its my skin color or how I am. I never told on them and I don't want to. If my parents hear this, they will be really sad. Before, When I was seven, my parents and I stayed in a house with an old lady who was really grumpy. She hated me. Pushed me in the hallways, frowns at me, and put a smoking matchstick on my leg :(. Okay, that was old, but now, In school....people make fun of me. Everyone except few who have kind hearts. Whenever some guys see me, they keep saying "HOLY _____!" my name :(
I really want this to stop. It has been three years, and they can't leave me alone and live my frigging life. I feel like running away. Telling my parents to go to our home country. But they wont go there...because my dad needs to work in a country like this where people in my school teases me. I really don't want to tell on them. But I wish my life would be better. Is there anyways I could get my parents to make me move to my home country? I really want to go! :( And, don't just tell me to ignore them. Because this is what I have been doing for the last 2 and a half years. I can't talk to them either, because they start to make more fun of me and diss me. :( PLEASE HELP! I WILL BE REALLY THANKFUL TO YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS. (link)
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remember that you are beautiful no matter of your color and that you should tlk to a counsler to see if they can do something about it hope i have kind of helped
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