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Emily prefers to be called/a.k.a em,emz,lili,mimi,lee or emi
13 from England living in Spain - loves; giving advice, making friends, music, photography, the color pink&more ..
hates; racism, terrorism, poverty , animal testing, cockroaches, darkness, sluttyness, being tired


♥MUSiC
+ : r&b
+ : rap
+ : hip hop
+ : reggaeton
+ : slow jams
+ : acapella
+ : pop


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yahoo :: emilys0tempted


advice

What are some good Tan Lotions to use? I don't want to get burnt or Skin Cancer, but I want to get tan!!

Any Ideas?

Thanks!

L0ADS of people have told me Sunless is really good.
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This might sound like a weird question but this always get on my nerves: ok i blush/my face turns red very easily and it gets embarassing because i just blush SO easily-even at things that are hardly embarassing! i don't mind doing it once in a while but how can i stop myself from blushing so much-because people notice, and they're like "why is your face always red?" yeah so as you can tell, it can get to be a pain. anyone have any tips? thanks!:)

If you put concealer on without going over the top it'll cover up most of the redness.
Hope I could help
♥Em

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When I was six a firecracker went off next to my head and it permanently messed up my hearing. I have a constant ringing that never, ever goes away. It's been giving me insomnia cause it keeps me up, and I can't drown it out with music cause that keeps me up even more. Does anybody know something I can mask this with that won't keep me up at night? Thanks...

♥I'm sorry about your problem, hun.
You should see a hearing specialist about tinitis. It was on the tv here the other day and aparantly there's no cure for it yet but I think there's special headphones you can use so if you got to a hearing specialist they should have something to help you sleep.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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OK i want to throw a party at my house while my parents are gone. My house is too small so im thinking of using my grandmas house which is right next to mine. Does anyone have tips on how i can run this so i wont get caught...and ideas on what we can do at my party?

Woah doing it in your grandmas house aint a good idea but anyway, I'm not here to critisize =)
Well you need to hide anything that's breakable such as lamps, pictures, vases, etc. Close off any areas of the house you don't want people to go to such as bedrooms and stuff.
One thing that is unevitable is peace disturbance a.k.a the noise. If you get the cops called on you or something that's gonna be a bummer but there's not really anything you can do about it.
Also make sure stuff like food and drinks and stuff stay away from things like sofas, you could get sheets or sofa throws and just cover
them up so they dont get stains on them. The same with carpets take them up if you can (unless they're attached carpets) and just put them in a closet.
Good luck with your party =D
♥Em

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I wanted to tell you thank you for the help with my other question and I also wanted to ask you personally another.
My so-called best friend and I have been "best freinds" for about two years. We've laughed, cried, prayed together. We were insepertable. Well over the summer I moved again and it was really tough on our friendship, but we did keep it together. Well yesterday I called her to talk to her because I hadn't in almost 2 weeks and she told me that her mom didnt like me. I was a bit confused because her mom had always said that she was very please that Claire had a friend like me. So I am very confused. THen later in the conversation she told me that when we first met she thought of me as "a person she would never associate hereself with" because I'm really loud and outgoing and she is really quiet and shy. But in the it seemed like she had pretended to be my friend all that time. And it really hurt. So my question is do you think I should be upset at her or was it just a misconception?

I don't think you should take it personally, she probably just thought you weren't the kind of girl she could see herself being friends with or something. So I wouldn't worry about it :)
but if you're that worried about it you could ask her about it. Just ask her what she meant by saying that and seeing as you guys were bestfriends for about two years I don't think anyone could pretend to be someone's friend for 2 years nevermind BESTfriend and if someone has the guts to do that they have some serious issues of their own.
If you ever wanna talk my screen names are on my column =)
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i have a friend that ive been friends with about 4 years and we did everything together. well, i moved about 6 months ago and ever since, we havent really talked...mostly because of me. it just hurt too much to call her knowing i cant see her or anything. i know that sounds crazy but i realize it was wrong now. anyways, she found a new best friend that i dont even know that lives in the same exact apartment complex i USED to live in. my friend is so different now and shes changed SOO much ...she says that since i lost contact with her, she had no choice but to change and meet other people. but, im so depressed about this. can someone please give me advice on what to do? im just so upset. thanks

Like you said you're both so different now. If you were with her in person again you probably might not like the new her. You probably have loads of friends but when you start realising who your true friends are is when it starts to hurt.
You and her obviously aren't as close anymore and obviously aren't as alike now so I think you should just move on I know it sounds harsh but it's all you can do if she's changed so much,
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my friend wants to come over, but doesn't have a ride. She keeps telling me to ask my parents, but I'm not going to because it's her parent's responsibility to give her a ride not mine. I kept telling her no and she is buggin me!!ugh! please help!

Tell her that you don't think it's fair on your parents or that your parents are a bit busy.
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i've was a cutter for like 3 months and i decided to quit before i got sent away i've only been clean for a week..i know thats not long...but then i found out my friend killed himslef by cutting and i dont know how to handle that and my other friend has a problem with cutting...and im just really confused..?!?!

is there anything i can do to help my friend...

and how to i let my emotions out without hurting myself....please help!!

-Ababii

First of all congrats on stopping. That's great.

Anyway, you should let your friend know your concern about him/her cutting and see if you can convince them to stop if he/she doesn't then you need to tell an adult you can trust or an adult you know can help your friend.
After that, you've done everything you can to help them so there isn't really anything else you can do but focus on yourself.

You've already stopped cutting for 7 days, a sign that you CAN do it. Everytime you're feeling down and feel the urge to cut tell your self no. I know it's hard but tell your self you don't need to turn to the easy way out of your problems by locking your self away and cutting. You need to show yourself and everyone else that you can do it the hard way and face the problems head on.

If you can't stop then you should definatly tell an adult, parent or guardian you can trust and chances are you can find a good counselor to help you out. Which yeah, counseling doesn't sound to fun and some people think that only freaks go to counselling but if it'll help you out then it's worth going for.
Good luck, sweetie.
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hey I know someone who cuts themselves and it is starting to scare me! I used to be her friend but now were not as close. I think her parents know but I dont know what to do because I think she still cuts herself so please help!!!- needs advice

I don't think her parents know because if they did I doubt she would still be cutting but just incase instead of thinking her parents know make sure they do know and go and tell them, she may be angry at you after but it's important you do it seeing as if she cuts the wrong way she could kill her self.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he wants to have sex and I do too but there is just one problem I have a disease and I don’t know if I should tell him or not because I don’t want him too to think of me different but we are going to use protection and everything just I don’t want to tell him! And I am sooooo scared! I don’t know about what maybe about him knowing my deepest darkest secret, I don’t know! Please help me!

Well I think you could've been more specific with us about the what disease it is but anyway, you should tell him if this disease is contagious if you give him any kind of disease I doubt he will be happy. So definatly find out if this disease is contagios through sexual realtionships.
If it is you can't just use a condom, condoms break and there could still be a chance he can get the disease so you should tell him, if he loves and cares about you I'm sure he will stay with you and understand.
Good luck, hun.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating like almost 15 months and we are getting to the more intense sexual side our relationship, but i have something i had never told him. I was raped at a young age and I dont know if he will be able to tell. I always told him i was a virgin. Do you think I that would be concidered lying even though it wasnt consensual? And do you think I should tell him I really need some help.

First off, I'm pretty much sure your boyfriend won't be able to tell you're not a virgin seeing as it's been a long time since you've had a sexual relationship with anyone.

Yes, it is considered lying if you're telling him you're a virgin when you're not whether you were willing to lose your virginity or not.
It's entirely up to you if you tell him or not if you think you can trust him enough and he will support you. If he is a good boyfriend I don't think he'll flip out on you or anything if he is a good boyfriend he'll take it calmly and think nothing of it as it wasn't your fault in the first place and you were just to scared to tell him.
Good luck, hun.
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pretty soon i know my boyfriend and i are going to have sex. OF COURSE we would use a condom, but i am still overly scared of the chance of getting pregnant if the condom breaks. i am trying to figure out what time of the cycle is the best time to Not get pregnant. i know ovulation is the worst time, but what about before, during, and after my period - which is the best time and which is a risky time? i cant find it on any websites and some people tell me different things... please help, im a spaz

There's no 100% safe time of the month to have sex so there's no answer to that question really.
Second, if you're that worried about getting pregnant you should go on birth control too
and if you're this nervous about having sex and don't think you're ready then maybe you should wait till you're in a situation where you know you're 100% sure you want to have sex.
Good luck
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One of my very close friends believes he was born gay. I just don't understand his belief in that. Why is it that some people can be 'born gay' and others not? I just don't understand that concept in life. Can anyone explain to me why some can be born gay and others not?

Personally I don't think it's possible to be BORN gay. Your sexuality is something you decide later in life and who ever said being gay is a genetic disorder has some issues of their own they should be asking advice about because being gay isn't a disorder in the first place, nevermind it being genetic. Jesus.
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this is weird, but my braces have probably affected me a LOT, and i'm not just taking about my teeth getting straighter. i like the way i smile better (somehow, it made my smile bigger or something) but not the way it looks (you know...these TRAIN TRACKS IN MY MOUTH!). that is, when i DO smile. i've gotten so sick of these things. i'm always cutting my lips with them, and i can't stand the thought of knowing that i'll have them for another year... when people call me braceface, metal mouth, silver sidewalk, dientes de aluminio, etc. it's not that i'm sensitive or anything, but i get pissed off easily, and the thought of having them for another year and not being able to take them off even for a minute... it took away some of my favorite food!! my teeth weren't even crooked in the first place, but my parents got me them anyway because...never mind, that'll only make this story even longer. anyway, it's not just that stuff, that i'm really HATING the way i look, but it's starting to get REALLY weird... you're probably not gonna believe this, but when i talk on the phone, i almost always hear other people's phone convos!!! once i even heard a police officertalking to another one! it's not my phone, cause it always happens to me ONLY. don't even get me starting on TV reception... this i slong, and it probably sounds like i'm crazy, but i just need a way to deal with these things... put up with them for ANOTHER YEAR.

I can't really help you much, I know how much it must really annoy you having braces and not being able to take them out but just think, next time someone is horrible to you they can laugh all they want but one day your teeth will be much better than there's.
=)
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How do I get my hair to become straight and stay like that? It's a little wavy right now. What kind of products should I use? My hair is kind of thick too.

You can go to a salon and have them straighten it chemicly, it stays for ages and you don't have to worry about it going wavy for a while. I think it's a bit bad for your hair (but so is straightening your hair with the straightners all the time so yeah) if not you can find a shampoo and/or a cream/liquid kinda thing that'll keep it straighter for a bit longer than normal after you straighten it I'm not 100% on which one cause there's more than one but if you ask at your local drug store or whatever they should have one.
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okay, so i really love that punky makeup look, sooooo i was wondering where i could get some good products. especially eyeshadow. i've seen some girls with hot pink eyeshadow and it looks awsome but every single time i've gotten a pink it just ends up looking too pastel or fuchia-ish! any good products or ideas?

www.urbandecay.com has some really good stuff and vibrant colors to get the look you're looking for. :)
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Hey guys! Well, I just got a dog and he's about a couple weeks old. I want to start training him now, but I can't do that without a name. Got any ideas? He's brown, black, and white. Thanks a million! =D

Elvis, haha. Elvis is a cute name.
Or something weird that you wouldn't normally call a dog like pimp juice, gangsta, etc.
or lmao call it Bird, that's an identity crisis if I ever saw one. haha sorry.
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I need to get in shape for this summer-like so bad..I've tried almost everything.. and if you have aplan liek 100 crunches then do this liek that ill rate 5's

There's diferent things you can do if you go to www.toneteen.com there's different sections on the site for different parts of your body. They have everything.
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When is a good time to tell your boyfriend of a year that the relationship is getting too serious and you're not realy for it?

Whenever you're ready but before it's too late.
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Hi im a 13 yr old female. My boyfriend is the best thing that ever could happen to me, i just feel like hes the one i want to marry and have children with i went out with him for 9 months one time then we broke up. But sometimes he can be so immature. What should i do to make his little immature foolishness go away to make this relationship work.

I wouldn't see him being more mature for a couple more years keep in mind he's only 13, 13 year old boys can be immature at times hence the reason why most 13 year old girls are going out with older boys.
Talk to him about it before all the immatureness starts going to your head and ruins your relationship.
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