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Born Gay?
One of my very close friends believes he was born gay. I just don't understand his belief in that. Why is it that some people can be 'born gay' and others not? I just don't understand that concept in life. Can anyone explain to me why some can be born gay and others not?
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Really, I mean really, read this next sentence slowly... It is not for you to understand. Chances are your very close friend does not understand it either. The concept brings comfort to his misunderstandings. Have you ever wanted to know why you are you? Why you live where you live? Why you are the race you are and not another? Big picture questions. Your very close friend has thought about why he is gay. He knows he cannot change who he is. Rather than abuse himself over this, he chose to accept the fact. He was born GAY. Many, many young men and women chose to die rather than accept this fact. Do you know how high the suicide rate is for gays and lesbians??? The answer to why it is so high can be found in the answers from others below. You were looking for advice and instead people chose to spread their biggotry upon you. I am glad you are close friends with this young man. Get to know him even better, see the good and bad in his character and personalized those characteristics, and over time your answers to why he is who he is would be answered. Until then, stop parenting him. This is a question a mother would ask about her gay son.
SECONDLY - there should be a rule on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". As of this writing, this question has recieved advice from 23 different people, and 20 have no idea about what it is like to be gay or to be friends with someone who is gay. Do these religious fanatics even know what this person or her gay friend are like? I do not think so. Nor do I, for that matter. But my experiences have me better suited to epithize with the situation. My advice to these judgemental zealots is to get out and learn about Life, don't let your pastor tell you what Life is about. Live Life First. Experience the world then judge it if you must!
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That concept doesn't quite make sense because your sexuality isn't decided as a young child much less an infant. It isnt a genetic disorder and it makes absolutely no sense for someone to claim that it is. Perhaps the term "born gay" is to be used as an analogy for the fact that as long as you've known the person they have acted in a homosexual way (however that may be).
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Personally I don't think it's possible to be BORN gay. Your sexuality is something you decide later in life and who ever said being gay is a genetic disorder has some issues of their own they should be asking advice about because being gay isn't a disorder in the first place, nevermind it being genetic. Jesus.
♥Em
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well smart one...if the almighty person thinks you would be a cool demorcratic gay man then that is what you will be...if the almighty one thinks that you should be a lame conservitive straight gay hater then that is what you will be..listen to the almighty one!! he knows best!.....
so do the aliens
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well its an argued thing cuz some people believe that being gay is within ur brain and chemical balance wen puberty starts and others say that its something you get into but its everyones opinions i think its something you kinda progress into thats all
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I don't think it's at all possible to be BORN gay. It might possibly develop over the years, but being gay is not a trait that carries on from generation to generation in your family, or anyone's at that. I think your friend believes that he was 'born gay' for 1 of 2 reasons:
1. his parents are either gay or bisexual
or most reasonably,
2. He has been attracted to the same sex for as long as he can remember, and can not remember being 'straight'
So really, it's not that anyone is born gay, unless there's some big thing in the news that i haven't heard about. It's probably that he developed his homosexuality at a young age.
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I think that is just one of those unexplainable things in life! It doesn't make him less of a friend so I wouldn't dwell on it.He trusts you enough to tell you so keep it to yourself unless he tells you otherwise.If he believes he was born gay, take his word for it, he knows.
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okay some people really are born gay because someone in there family my be gay but not all some people just turn gay...
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You can't be born gay. Your'e born "straight". Wait a minute...you wouldn't even be born if you were "born gay". Thats impossible.
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Ok, this is a tricky and delicate situation. In my own beliefs, homosexuality is wrong. I believe that being gay is something that is more of a choice than a trait. People may do this because of bad experiences in their life or because they want attention. Since this person is a close friend, If I were you I would try to be accepting of this choice because if you try to push it too much, the friendship may be jeopardized. If your friend ever wants to have a serious discussion about it though, you really should tell how you see homosexuality. Friendly advice from Caleb.
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He wasn't born gay. Homosexuality is not a hereditary trait, therefore it can't be 'passed along' by his parents at conception. No one can be 'born gay' they just choose to be that way later in life when sexuality tends to make their decisions... aka late puberty
<3 EJ
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well if i were you i would be very happy for your friend because at least he admitts that he is gay most people stay in the closet witch is uncool and very unhealthy but if you ask me i think gay people are the coolest b/c usally they treat you better than your other freinds
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i know that you can be born gay but i realy dont know much about it i think its when you just born being atracted to the same sex! well good luck!=) xox
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