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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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well my friend Amanda finch cuts. she cant stop. plz help she wants to kill herslef and i hope she doesnt! help! how do i support her?! i need ideans and QUICK!

Even if she gets mad at you you should tell an adult, like her parents.I mean you dont want her to do anything she'll regret.No matter what she'll thank you in the long run.Your a really good person for wanting to help your friend.hope i helped and your friend gets help.

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(Sorry, I wasnt sure what category to put it under) Ok, ever since 5th grade I really started to hate my life. I mean, this large group of girls were doing petty things and were lying to the principal. Alot of people hate me. I lost 25 maybe more, friends. I cant take it anymore. My friends are starting to ignore me and "snub" me! Im starting to feel very depressed and lonely. My self-esteem is 2. Not alot. I cry myself to sleep. My family life isnt any better. My mom is SUPER paranoid, so I cant tell her anything. My dad wont understand. My mom wont let me go over to my friends house and such! Please help!
12/f

dont worry everyone goes through a stage like this usually when thier teens.Its really normal. I know it seems like its not normal and no one understands but alot of people do.I know me and alot of my friends have lost other friends because they just decided we weren't good enough to be thier friends.Girls can be pretty hurtful.dont worry once your in 8th or 9th grade it gets ALOT better because the friends you have then are usually the friends you keep and stay with.Talking to your mom or yuor dad definatly gets uncomfortable or they just dont understand you.Just keep holding on, it'll get better.Hope i helped and things get better.

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all my life i had never had a boyfriend and i thought it was me but 3 days ago my brother finally confessed. he told me that he told all the boys i like not to go out with me, its a rule not to go out with my sister. hes 17 and i'm 13. y does my brother want to........... y did my brother ruin my life?

Most brothers are over protected and get really worried that some guys gonna break his little sisters heart.My brother gets just like that but he gives them reasons not to go out with and he usually just makes something up off the top of his head.even if it doesnt seem like it, it probably is my brother treats me like ahit adn then if he knows i'm really hurting he does whatever it takes to make me feel better.I'm 13 too and my brothers almost 16 so i kinda understand.hope i helped and dont worry too much.

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ok, my friend has liked this guy for two years... and i have liked him for two weeks... he asked me out and i told him that i would have to check with my friend.... and shes like i dont care... but she looks so sad... then my other friend just dumped her boyfriend of 7 months and i kind of like him..... i am so lost plz help me... what should i do?

If you have feelings for someone else too its not really fair to either of you if you go out with the one guy.I mean you might be thinking of the other guy when your going out with your b/f and he'll be thinking about you.Just take some time to sort out who you have feelings for.If you do go out with the other guy just make sure you and your friend hang out and look at hot guys or something to kidna comfort her if you tihnk she's kinda sad about you two going out.Hope i helped.

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this is kinda a dumb ?..but i have a 5 month old shihtzu..and when i sit him up..he has this red stuff that comes out if his "penis" but when i stand him back up..it goes away..what is that and why does it happen..lol..sorry if you dont understand my question..i tryed

it's your dogs penis, you might wanna take him to the vet to get him neuttered, other wise they start to get "lonely".

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ok.. basketball season's gonna start in 2 mthz.. im a grl.. bout 5'1" nd 115 lbs. im thinkin of tryin out 4 my freshman team.. shud i rilly tho? cuz i guess im just doubtin my abilities rite now.. my shootings a bit off.. but my defense is pretty good.. how i see it tho.. is that i cud just help in assists.. but idk.. do u kno how i cud get in shape in 2 mths tym nd ne basketball advice that u cud give me?

signed,
BasKEtBall fReaK

i play for my school and i just practice simple stuff to get in shape for it and it seems to help.TRy practicing jump shots, lay-ups ,reverse lay-ups,foul shots.Maybe ask a parent or friend to help you with passes,guarding and boxing out.Take a basketball and you know how people circle it around thier waist without it touching thier body well try to run whiling doing that.it's kinda hard if you havent done it before but it seems to help alot.Hope i helped and if you have any questions i'd be happy to help.Good luck w/ try-outs.

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im 5'4 n i weigh 90 and my friends and family are always telling me that i look like im loosing weight but i think im fat! i havent eaten anything in like 5 days and i feel really sick. what should i do???
xox rica

you should try and get help and you really need to gain weight, your EXTREMELY underweight right now.Tell your parents and try and see a doctor or a conseuler.Not eating is really dangerous and its something i went through and i dont want that happening to anyone else.Try and eating and if your having problems eating tell an adult or someone who'll help you.Hope i helped adn please start eating.

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well these mean fat chicks at my skool started rumors that im anorexic (which im NOT) bcuz im 5'5 and i weigh 98 and sadly ppl believed them and now there like "o theres the anorexic girl" and other crap like that. :( what should i do

you should try to not pay attention to them but i'm sure thats really hard.Maybe during lunch have a bigger lunch and if they say that just turn and start eating.Those girls pry just do that bc they wish they could be that skinny and maybe thats the only way to make them feel better about themselves.When people say theres the anorexic girl ask them how they would know, do they stalk you.Or walk with a group of friends who you know will stick up for you when people say that.It'll end eventually adn they'l find someone else.Just laugh at them when they say it, i mena you know your not so thats all that matters.

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I have a problem I did somthing i shouldent have my mom told me never But i was curios so I looked a porno online should i tell her i looked at it or just leave it as is?

no i would definatly tell your mom.I mean because if she finds out and you didnt tell her she'll pry get madder if she does get mad and you might lose her trust.this way even if she does get mad. she'll respect the fact you told her and that might earn you more trsut even if you get in trouble for it.Hope i helped.

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alright...no matter what you think i don't hate you but it does bother me that you told me online that you wanted to take Nick and then you denied it...idk...maybe someone was on your s.n...but that's not really the issue anymore...it's just that i've changed and you haven't...i'm not the same person i was last year...and you are...and i guess people change so...we're not as close as we used to be...so i guess we're just not best friends anymore...

x0 Shan 0x

Alright,i'm not gonna argue or anything about that.If thats how you feel i'm gonna respect that and its your choice.But you have to understand the thing that bothers me is that you said i like nick i really dont and i know i never said that nor thought that.And then you also said that i told kaileen and sam that when i didnt.Even kaileen says i didnt tell her that,well because i didnt.I dont want Nick and i have no interest in him and you need to understand that.I just want you and him to be happy and have a good relationship.

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Last weekend , iwent to my moms house and from there i went to this guy named harry's house. Well he was sick and i guess i stayed around him alot so i think i caught we he has had. We didnt share dirnks or whatever,but like i have the worse throat pains and sinus problems let alone bad headaches and stomach as well.He says he had bronchitus ,but do you think i could've got it as well ? each day it gets worse.

Yea you definatly could have it.My brother used to get it all the time and those sound lsot like the syptoms.i would efinatl go to the doctors.hope i helped.

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Hey! Okay, well I am 14 female.. about 5'7 235lbs! I know... FATTY! but still... So, i wanted to go to this weightloss school but it was almost 6,000$ and across the U.S. for me so my mom was like NO WAY! but first I wanted to get homeschooled. and then again No! so I was like Private school.. Too much money she said.. I have 4 sisters n she is seperated from my dad!! So yeah, I have to go to a public school (freshman) n alot of ppl make fun of me.. I cant run fat or anything.. n i wanna start losing weight now, pick up my speed, and then just be a whole new me next yr.. i used to play softball, and i was well good at it.. but got too old to play slow pitch!! I mean im not saying i have no friends or anything.. but my thighs, but, stomach, arms, n etc... I know.. drink water n blah blah! but nothing works for me.. im probably gonna get Slim in 6 (www.beachbody.com) but I dunno if it will work or not.. im thinking i wanna lose 100lbs or so n sorta fat but like not too fast! i just wanna be left alone n not singled out everytime i go somewhere with a bunch "skinny" ppl, and this sumemr i was gonna change everything but stayed n side n was lazy!! n now 2days b4 school starts i wanna chnage everything!! i know its gonna take time but i wanna try sommin n see if it works.. i need lots of ideas, help, motivation, and support!! I seriously want a whole new me. i mean the "stretch marks" are ugly n never gonna go away so ill always remember being fat, i just want it to stop!! i wanna be the one not scared to speak up, and express what i think, i wanna be the one telling the person not to be making fun of someone, not the one being made fun of!! I want to change me!! have a high self esteem n just have fun!! so yeah u think u can help??? I'd rlly appreciate it!!! Any advice will help me .. i mean have any of u ever been n the same position or anything?? I was thinking baout even killing myself once, and i wanna "throw up" wut i eat but i dunno if thats smart, its like i cant stick to anything.. all i know is i wanna look good ... fast... not for boys... but for me.. n for all the teasing to stop!! I ask u all hoping for help!! Thanks alot, xOxOxO

I've been in a postion like that but i didnt weigh as much but guys would throw food at me and stuff during school and lunch.It was really mean and i just wanted to change myself, and for a while i had a problem with anorexcia.Try to start walking maybe even just a mile a couple times a week around your neighborhood with a friend or something so the time will pass really fast.dont lik ecut out everything you eat just protion yourself to what you eat.Instead of like 3-4 huge meals have like 4-6 small meals.It helps alot and is better for your body to protion your food.Just doing simple stuff can make a pretty big difference.you just ahve to stick to it though.Then from there start doing a couple miles each day and doing streches, sit-ups, puch-ups, just keep working out.Hope i helped and if you have anymore questions or if you just wanna talk let me know.

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ok i made out with my bestfriends cousin and like i was actin like nothin because we dont want my bestfriend to kno but now hes actin like nothin happend and i really need to talk to him about it but i dont know how to approch him...any ideas would be grreat!! i need to know if he likes me and why he did it because i like him alot and we went out b4 but didnt do anything and now that were not goin out hes kissin and cuddlin and holdin hands with me...plz help me!!

Maybe you should try and call him or something and just be like Hey listen i gotta know something.Or talk to hm adn gradually get into it and ask who hangs out with, who does he like, and go from there.Hope i helped.

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okay i know i shouldnt even be thinking about this or worrying or complaining...but me and my ex bf broke up about 8 months ago, im not quite over him yet...but i broke up with him cause he cheated on me...and i just recently heard that hes been hanging out alot with that girl latly...it really hurts..do u guys have ne advice to not think about it, or how not to get so sad over it?? please dont say, its been 8 months get over it! cause its harder than u think....thanks

Go out with a bunch of friends and have fun!Just laugh and goof around and have fun.Maybe check out some hot guys at the mall or something.Or just try to think of the bad things he did and think how much better off you are and how you didnt deserve that and now you can find someone who deserves you.Hope i helped and you feel better.

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okay well my two best friends go out... why does that bother me i mean i dont have feelings for my friend [hes a boy] but why does it bother me?? please answer people keep sayin i like him but i dont i need help soon

Maybe you feel like your getting abandoned or that your loosing your friend.If you spent alot of time with him and now he's spending alot of time with someone else, so you feel like your loosing him, that could be why.Or maybe your just afraid something bad will happen and he'll get hurt.Hope i helped and you figure out why its bothering you.

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OK im the only gurl i swear in my 9th grade class that likes cars and i sumtimes get made fun of 4 it
should i find sumthin else to be interested in or dont kare wut they say?

You shouldnt care what they say.I mean they pry like something that no one else does.If your really interested in cars and you dont want to find something else to be interested in dont.Do whatever makes you happy.Dont worry, what goes around comes around.Hope i helped.

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Well.. I'm not sure how to put this... last year before school ended.. I started liking this kid named Kevin. Well we dated.. and then decided we didnt know enough about each other to be together so we broke up. Then he said when he gets to know me better we will get back together. I've talked to Kevin ever since school ended and yesterday we hung out all day long.. and he really really likes me. and If i didnt have a boyfriend wed be together. I really like Kevin. My problem is. I have a boyfriend. And I like Kevin more then my own boyfriend. And I'm not sure how to break up with him. Without him knowing that I'm going to be with Kevin. :( Ahh man... I sound like a slut.

You dont sound like a slut.The best to do though is tell your boyfriend you have feelings for someone else too and this isnt fair to you.Or you have confused feelings right now.Hope i helped and you and kevin are happy.

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i heard my friends talking about camel toes.. what exactly is 1 and how do u kno if u have 1? thanks alot

you'll definatly know if you have one.It's wedgie but in the front.

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ok I just started school and im new.its been about a week and 1 day and im starting to make friends.there is this girl that is nice to me her name is lauren.im sitting at a table with another girl named kaite and some people from my classes.a girl that is friends with the people from my classes comes up to me and says dont be friends with lauren,she is not cool etc etc.then some people move away.so now i dont know what happened or what to do.should I be friends with lauren who I sorta know and ignore the girl who told me to ignore lauren or should I not be friends with lauren and go with the people from my class (I like the people pretty equally)I have no idea what to do help please.
-mal

you should be friends with lauren and your other friends.I mean just because someone isnt popular or whatever really isnt a good excuse not to be friends with someone.You should do what you want and be friends with who you want.Just do whatever makes you happy.Hope i helped.

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okay well hi u know how i told u bout me and my b/f how he wuz goin in to High school and im still in 8th well...we broke up! I cried all day saturday and a lil sunday. I miss him sooo much and i still love him. We broke up because we neva saw eachother nemore and he wuz jus too busy for me and it wuz too hard for him because i guess all his friends have g/fs at skool! Every day it gets harder for me to not talk to him. Every day i wonder if he still loves me and misses me he told me when we decided to break up that he still loved me and he gonna miss me soo much but that wuz then and this is now! Will i eva get ova him???? is there nething i can do to get ova him??? PLZ help! Kaila

You'll get over him, just some break-ups are harder then others.Just try and go out and have fun to keep your mind off it.Maybe go shopping or something with a bunch of friends or go see a movie.Hope i helped and you feel better.

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