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Slipping into Darkness
(Sorry, I wasnt sure what category to put it under) Ok, ever since 5th grade I really started to hate my life. I mean, this large group of girls were doing petty things and were lying to the principal. Alot of people hate me. I lost 25 maybe more, friends. I cant take it anymore. My friends are starting to ignore me and "snub" me! Im starting to feel very depressed and lonely. My self-esteem is 2. Not alot. I cry myself to sleep. My family life isnt any better. My mom is SUPER paranoid, so I cant tell her anything. My dad wont understand. My mom wont let me go over to my friends house and such! Please help!
12/f
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Ah, junior high.
Well, if you don't have any friends at school, make some elsewhere that you can talk to! Church groups, Girl Scouts, rec center sports teams...
Unfortunately, a lot of girls go through an "evil phase" around middle school that may last through high school or even longer - you know, they talk behind each others' backs, and they're sooooo concerned with getting boys? If you're not into the same things they are, they may think you're not trendy or "in" - but trust me, it's so much more fun to be yourself.
Not having parents that you feel comfortable talking to stinks. You could always try and catch a favorite teacher after school and see if they can help you, or something like that.
As for your mom not wanting you to go over to your friends' houses, try asking her why she doesn't want you to. In giving a response to her, try and be as mature and reasonable as possible - if she sees you as being mature, then she'll probably let you have more freedom :) It's very important to be able to hang out with your friends, after all.
As for crying yourself to sleep... I know how that is, I've been there, and the key is to find something to be excited about. Find a hobby, like, say, writing, web design, reading, making up stories in your head, whatever, and try and think about it until your brain goes numb. Find your happy place. Having nice, calm music helps, too.
If you're beginning to feel depressed/suicidal or you start to inflict physical pain on yourself, it's possible you're clinically depressed, and you ought to talk to your physician or a guidance counselor.
Some recommended reading/etc:
-Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman
-Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons
-Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons
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sometimes it's a phase, and life does get better trust me. I bet if you ask other people they have gone through something like this. When I feel lonely or depressed I try to look at situations that are worse than mine instead of wishing I had a better life..but it's not healthy to be stressed, find an activity to get your mind off of other things:D
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Aww. *pat pat* Now, I'm not speaking out of my ass when I tell you that I know EXACTLY what this feels like. All I can tell you is, it gets better. It sucks now, but it ALWAYS gets better. I promise you that high school will never be this bad, and that you'll have friends who actually matter. Your current friends are a bunch of bitches, and you feel free to tell them that if they don't stop acting like a bunch of backstabbing whores, then you really don't need those asshole sluts mucking up your life. If your friends treat you like shit, the only thing you owe them is a good tongue-lashing. Unfortunately, I don't know what you could do to change how people are treating you. The only thing I DO know is that, no matter how bad it gets, high school is infinitely better. And before anyone mentions that high school sucks, I would kindly point out that it's a love-fest and constant party compared to this kind of middle school experience.
If you want to talk a little about it, you can PM your email address to me (I won't put it anywhere public) and cheer you up a bit about the future.
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Well... maybe you should change how you act and maybe you should pick out some new friends... cuz maybe other ppl think it isnt that good to lie to your pricipals and I really dont know about your mom except you need to talk to her. Once she knows you will tell her what it going on then maybe she will trust you and stuff! I hope your life gets better... plz dont do n e thing stupid... bye*
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Hey there, well first I would like to say I'm sorry you are feeling crummu lately and things don't seem to be going that well for you. I think we have all been there in some way or another. With that said, a lot of what you said concerns me. I totally was you when I was your age..I went from being Ms. Popular tons of friends, to crying every single day and all that jazz. All this continued and when I was your age I met this guy who influeneced me and I totally went down the wrong path in my perspective. I don't want to know that this may soon be the case for you as well. So you asked for help and here it is.
It's okay to feel down sometimes and "hate" life. But, you are REALLY young to have to be dealing with this.
First, let's address the fact that your so called friend hate you...kids/teens your age are so immature and easily influenced to do and say things just to fit in. You are going to have tons of friends through out all of your school careers. There is no rule that says you have to stay friends with all 25 or so of them all the way through. Be wise in choosing your friends. I'm guessing you just started 6th or 7th grade...junior high is all about who is the most popular and how many boyfriends you have and all this he said she said crap. It's totally unneccisary dramatic CRAP!! Be more mature, dare to be yourself. So what if these kids that are your "friends" or just your school mates don't like you...try to make new friends, tlk to people you have never talked to before, introduce yourself, be sincere, be yourself..go to a church that has a nice youth group and make friends there. Heck, I'll be your pen pal!! Don't worry about the whole friend thing, I know it seems that friends make your happiness, but they really dont, YOU do. Get involved in sports, clubs, activities, volunteer. That will help you with some of the lonliness you are feeling. When you are "crying yourself to sleep" why don't you write in a journal and say all you are thinking, or pray. That's okay that your mom's paranoid..all moms are to some extent. Try talking to her maturaly and civily and tell her that you feel she is being too paranoid..gain her trust and respect..do bonding activties to get closer. Maybe she is being too paranoid because she sees you have been down latelty. Change your attitude, be grateful for what you have in your life..really think about that. Try to make your dad understand, talk to him..give him a chance...and lastly, if you really feel that depressed and dont want this to escalate seek help from a shrink or a teen hotline. Just as long as you talk to someone!! If you'd like I'd be more than happy to help ya out in sorting things out. Just take it one day at a time, dont have n e regrets, and live your life because you only get one of them. And remember, everything happens for a reason....pay attention. Feel better, and I'm always here!! :)
My sn is XxXsasha23XxX :)
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your just like me i am the same way as u!! do u wanna be my friend?!?!?!
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dont worry!!! I went throu this last year. My mom was depressed, and my dad kicked my brother out of the house, because of that stuf i was feeling low and my friends were treating me different. i think this is why your friends are ignoreing you, act happy not depressed and they will want to be around you! go to the mall and get a makeover this will brighten your sperets, and talk to your family. it will be okay!
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dont worry everyone goes through a stage like this usually when thier teens.Its really normal. I know it seems like its not normal and no one understands but alot of people do.I know me and alot of my friends have lost other friends because they just decided we weren't good enough to be thier friends.Girls can be pretty hurtful.dont worry once your in 8th or 9th grade it gets ALOT better because the friends you have then are usually the friends you keep and stay with.Talking to your mom or yuor dad definatly gets uncomfortable or they just dont understand you.Just keep holding on, it'll get better.Hope i helped and things get better.
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try talkn to a school counselor
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Ok um akira is not thinking...if someone actually answers this advice in kill urself now they need help. anyways you have depression. i had it too. anyways since u didn't explain exactly why ur friends hate u I cant help u with that. Just be urself. You'll make new friends. Try to look on the bright side of things. Stop listening to depressing music, watching depressing movies etc..it only makes everything worse. Look on the bright side. really it's like for me I just practically snapped out of depression and I realized how unpleasent I was to be around. Mayb that's why some of ur friends dont want to hang out. as for parents well they r gay...don't worry u just have to find something to keep u occupied and almost away from them. If you can't find anything pleasent in ur life and just nothing works go to ur school counciler or a friend (it really does help!) If u ever want to talk about stuff im me on calihottie46. try to build up ur self esteem too. tell ur self ur going to say hi to someone that day and ur going to be nice to people so they like u. find a trusted friend and ask for help. Lastly, whatever u do never result to commiting suicide..it only makes matters worse and it's very selfish. hope i helped, good luck and remember ppl on advicenators are always willing to talk and be "friends"
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dont worry, forget parents, just stick w/ wat ur doin. ur friends will com around eventually, things will get better b4 they get worse. if u want som1 2 talk 2 just IM me at WinterX2690
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You might as well kill yourself now, because then everyone will feel sorry for acting like an ass to you.
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sounds like you have depression. i'm very serious. i've had it myself. talk to your school guidance counselor and tell her your situation. i promise it will help. every night write down everything you're feeling just write it down if you don't like to write then draw. whatever comes to you just draw it or write it. you can curse people out say you hate so and so, so and so treats you like shit. just let it all out. it will make you feel alot better i promise. you might need to go see a therapist. they do help. i had major depression for 2 years and i was a cutter. i've been okay for about 6 months. even if your mom is paranoid still, talk to her, and even if you think that you're dad won't understand you never know, he might have gone through the same thing when he was your age. so just talk to them. hope i helped if you need anything else drop one in my box!
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