Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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Hi, I wanted to tell this guy ..Joey how much I felt for him. We went threw a lot together and I just wanted to let him know how much I loved him...but we have a good friendship and everything..but he's just starting to like this other girl..and I want him to know..that he should pick me. So, here's what I wrote:
Joey, this is really hard for me to say so please just listen. I've always liked you..since 6th grade...but I never told you that. So, 7th grade year I was so happy to have been your girl friend...(even though you dumped me for Taylor) when you did..it hurt me bad, it brought back feelings from the last guy I fell for. Since I trust you..his name is..Matt Beal. :/ He's a 9th grader and he's a real jurk. I'd advise you to never be his friend.. he's real backstabbing. I trusted him, and I should have never did.He was that guy you seen in the hallway the last day of school. I wanted you to beat him up?? That was him. I know you like Reagon but I wanted you to know this. I bet Reagon does like you.. who wouldn't. :) I just don't think she likes you as much as I do.Please don't be mad at me for telling you all of this but it's what I thought I needed to do. I really care for you Joey. I hope this won't hurt our friendship?? I just want you to know.. I still love you.. I never stopped.
Love,
Emily :)
Should I send this to him...please help me out? (link)
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Hi there... I think your letter is ok, however it should only be about your feelings for him. Try not to involve anyone else.
Perhaps edit it to something like...
Joey, this it really hard for me to say so please just hear me out. Your my best friend and I have always looked up to you.
7th Grade was the best time of my life, when I was your girlfriend. I have liked you for an extremely long time and I will always continue to do so.
My liking for you over the years has grown into love for you. I trust you with all my heart and I would like for nothing more but for you to be feeling the same.
If you do not wish to feel the same way I do then I will respect your desicion and hope that we can remain best of friends. I just feel time is running out as we are getting older and the longer I wait to tell you my feelings the longer i'm only hurting myself.
Please reply to me, I will wait for you.
Love always
Emily XOXOX
There.. Hope I helped. I envy you for having the guts to do this. I hope everything works out for the best.
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hi, Y2J here, my parnets pulled me out of school
becuase they tihkn its unsafe for me, anyway, im outta school i dont have many friends i do have a myspace but i dont know how to really find people that are nice, i want new friends, kind friends.:(
i hope someone can help me, if im nice...will tht be an advantage of finding a new friend?
im 15 and a guy btw (link)
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I'm sorry but your parents need to realise that you need to live a life of your own and school is a major part of growing up. It's where you learn most of what you will know when you grow up.
I'm not just talking about learning school subjects and that.. I'm talking about life in general. It's where you will more then likely find your best friend, end up on the school soccer team (to be a part of a team) meet a nice girl, go to formal/prom, be invited to a birthday party, sleep over a mates house... All sorts of things.
I think it's wrong for your parents to take you out of school. It's not fair on you and your life.
If in any case they will not put you back in school, why not try to join an after school activites program or something. Surely going by yourself with trusted people is safe enough for them.
Talk to you parents... you'll end up resenting them other wise. You need to have time to yourself and meet new people. Keeping you away from the real world is only going to make you worse off in the long run.
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alright so heres my problem. I am a 15 year old girl who has never had a boyfriend. never had a kiss or even a guy tell me he likes me. becaues of this i now have little confidence. also this year when i entered high school all of my friends got gorgous. most of them have blonde hair and blue eyes, one of them is the prettiset girl in my grade. and when im with them i feel so down because i am not pretty at all. seriously i have brown hair and eyes and just a weird face. plz help. plz. if i dont figure this out soon im gonna go through high school resenting my friends and always wishing for something i didnt have(good looks) (link)
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Hey there...
This is the problem with a few girls these days. They don't actually realise they are beautfil too. It's definitely NOT always about looks to see who's beautiful and who's not.
Everyone is unique in their own way. So do not for a second think your not. Who cares if your not a blondy with blue eyes. Those girls are fake. Brown hair is awesome!!! So many guys out there dig a girl with brown hair.
If your wanting to make yourself look 'pretty' conentrate on your highlights. Wear a bit of make-up, not much. A bit is hot. Don't copy your friends because that will make you just another girl, If you look different to your friends you will be noticed.
Who cares if you don't have a boyfriend, they only cause heart ache.. well most of the time!!!
Give yourself time to find out who you really are, your only young! You don't need a guy to rely on, you are your own person. An individual!
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Ok so, my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a long while now it all feels really good but it seems as though the more times we have sex, the less he can control himself!
We've talked about it and know its a problem, he's tried everything he just can't do it!
I hardly get a chance to 'get into it'
We're both open about it and can talk to each other about it, i've tried helping him but he just can't get it together!
I love him so much and he loves me and i'm being so patient with him, he appreciates it but he also gets embarrassed.
How can I get him or what can he do to hold his load or be in control of when he cums?
Thanks :) (link)
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Hi there...
Is he very experienced?? This could also be contributing to the problem. What he needs to work on is self pleasure but making it last for as long as he can.. or self pleasure and not cum at all.
This will build up his strength. It's all about power and mind. He needs to teach himself how to hold out. Control is the most important thing here.
I'm glad your being patient, that is important in a situation like this. It's going to take time to get himself to be able to control but practice is important. Your could even help out with the self pleasure thing. You could be the one pleasuring and just before he's about to cum, stop. He'll calm down then start again!!
If this does not seem to help, he may need to start looking for professional help. Just make sure before he makes any decisions in regards to any nasal sprays or medication, he get a second opinion. That's just as important as patients.
Hope I helped, good luck :)
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Just a really random question..
What does the blowing in ear do to a dog? I accidentally did it to the other day and didn't quite understand the reaction.
Thanks :D (link)
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Well dogs hearing compared to humans is like times 100. They're hearing is really sensitive so it was probably really loud.
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i jammed my finger playing flag football about 2 weeks ago now. the swelling has gone down a lot and so has the major pain. however, it's still a bit swollen and it hurts a little (not super paintful though, and only when i bend it and stuff like that). how can i get it to go down? is it too late to put ice on it and stuff? and if i don't do anything about it, will it stay swollen like that forever? thanks so much in advance. (link)
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Hi there,
Same thing happened to one of my fingers a few years back, different circumstances of course hehe.
I never put ice on it when i first hurt it and I continued to play sport. Now a few years later i'm still suffering.
I have tissue damage which sounds a lot like what you have. Unfortunately there isn't a lot you can do for it. If it hurts, strap it up to the finger next to it when you go to play sport to keep from damaging it further.
and Yes, it is a bit too late for ice...!
Hope I helped :)
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I have been with my boyfriend for about a year 1/2 now. Lateley he has just been getting up underneath my skin so bad he never wants to go to the places tht i want to go to. I have this weekemd planned for all my friends and him at thsi island near cedar point i asked him if he was gonna have fun and party he said no cause he doesnt want to spend the money. I dont understand i dont think were so much alike anymore he never has fun hes always talking about his car that hes fixing up. he put a body kist on his car rims and all that stupid stuff its always about his car hes constantly always talking about and doing something to it. im happy hes doig that instead of drugs but come on its a getting alittle out of control how can i get him to let loose and be more relaxed hes always so up tight and worrying about his money situtaion he has a good job but hell still ask me to pay something because he wants to get something for his car i dont know what to do its getting to the point where im not sure if i even want to be with him what can i do to relax and stay with him even if it ends up not happeing how can i let him go without hurting him??? please help im going to go insane!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Ok, first of all you guys have been together for quiet a while, so you must be comfortable around each other... therefore talking to him shouldn't be a problem.
Second, I think you need to work things out for yourself first and be honest with yourself.. do you still love him??
Breaking up with someone is huge...!!!
Tell him how you feel about him and his car and not being able to feel relaxed and have fun anymore. That is of course if you still want to be with him.
If your using the whole car thing to get out of the relationship, then using it for an excuse to his face is the wrong way about it.
My advice.... Work out if you want to be with him, then talk to him about the problem. Communication is the key, if you havn't talked to him about it he may not know how your feeling.
Second, if you do not wish to be with him anymore then unfortunately your going to have to bite the dust and break it off. You have to remember that it's not going to be easy for him if you decide to break up because he's going to be the one still in love.
There is nothing you can do or say to him that will make it better or hurt less!
Well I hope I helped and I hope you work things out for the best with your boyfriend.
Good luck :)
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Hi i am 18 F have a Bf, am on the pill.
lately I've noticed that my urin has a very distinctive smell and usually dosnt, i know that the more yellow it is means that i drink alot or not enouf water dose that have anything to do with it because when i used to drink alot of water it was bairly yellow and no smell. If this si the cause I'll simply drink more water seeing as i dont drink soft drinks that often. also i've been on the pill for a few months now, and use protection all the time. thank you for your help >_ (link)
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Yes, that could absolutely be the cause. Happens to me too. Drink more water and see how you go, if the problem persists, see your doctor :)
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hello. i am struggling very much with a big problem. it's almost like i've lost hope and i don't even know what to do anymore. let me first give you some background information. i use to be a little chubby, not like an obese person... but just a little chubby. about a year ago, i lost a lot of weight. but, to the point where i became anorexic and bullemic. i just became so obsessed. i just wanted to keep losing and losing.... and i just became super obsessed. i ended up weighing like 85 pounds. well, i have gained weight and now i have reached about 100 pounds. but, through my recovery i did a lot of binge eating... because of all the things my body was lacking. but, it's like, lately, i can't stop. and i don't want to get any fatter, because i'm really short. i'm like 5 feet. but, the thing is like, i have no self-control. i use to have so much self control and never ate anything i wanted. and now, it's like i have no self control. i really want to stop.... and i just can't. it's like when i feel like i've wasted my diet... i just want to eat a balanced meal every day. and i'ts just so hard, because i've lost conception of what is normal. and it's like one day i overeat and then the next day i don't eat at all, or at least barely. and its like when i binge, it's really hard to stop. and then, i feel so guilty after. i feel so bad and i'm so scared to talk to anyone about it because i'm afraid they will judge me. and the thing is that i work out... a lot. i work out really hard. but, then i feel like it goes to waste when something like this happens. if any of you have ever been through something like this, please please talk to me. i will even be willing to give you my phone number if you have anything that you want to tell me personally, or if you feel that i will benefit from having a conversation with you. if not, then just answer my question here, if you prefer. whatever you would like works for me. any help is appreciated. my prom is on saturday, and i really wanna look slim and nice. please give me some advice. thank you and God bless you. (link)
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Hi there
A lot of people don't actually realise but anorexia and bullimia arent the only eating disorders. There is also a compulsive eating disorder which is the exact opposite of anorexia.
To me it sounds like somehow you've almost gone from one extreme to the other. It is ok for you to eat 3 meals a day and exercise for a half hour a day to maintain a healthy diet.
First things first, you realise you have a problem. You should be proud of that. Not a lot of people can come to terms with a problem as serious as this. My advice... I strongly suggest you talk to someone in regards to your problem. School councellor? Friend? Family member? I bet anyone would be willing to help if you give them the chance.
I'm 100% sure that you wish you could wake up one day andnot have to obsess about eating. It gets tiring after such a long time
I hope I helped :)
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i keep hitting my boyfriend when he pisses me off i dont just slap him i smack him in the head and hit him in the balls
am i in the wrong
he treats me bad and he says he will kill himself if i leave him
what should i do
im 14 he is 17 (link)
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You are still very young, you still have a lot of growing up to do and hitting your boyfriend is wrong. No matter what age you are.
If he treats you bad, you should not be with him.
I suggest you talk to him maturaly and tell him whats bothering you. Tell him that you do not like being treated the way he treats.
Tell him that you realise hitting him is immature and it wont happen again but at the same time he needs to make an effort in treating you how you should be treated.
As for him telling you that he will kill himself if you break up with him, he sounds like he's trying to make you feel like you can't break up with him which is also wrong. He needs help if that's the case.
You are your own person, no one can make you do something you don't want to. These days there is only one person you can depend on... Yourself!!!!
If your not happy, do youself a favour and break it off. If you want to be with your boyfriend then you need to talk to him. Communication is the key.
Hope I helped :)
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16/f
ok sooo... im starting to think theres something wrong with me. i have a very hard time showing emotions. no one would ever really be able to tell because i am always acting so happy and loud and hyper. but this is kind of an over animated version of me.
i kind of act like im really emotional but really im not, i just act how i have seen other people act but i do it 10X more. im truthful 2 my ex boyfriend about how i dont care about much and he said maybe i am emotionally detatched or something. i know i definately dont know myself at all either.
we'll be like watching a movie about 3 year olds in romania that weigh 2 pounds and are beaten n stuff n it wont phase me whatsoever. everyone else in my class was crying and i just sat with a shocked look on my face because thats what i see other people do. like at times i dont know what emotion im supposed to be feeling. but i didnt care at all. this happens alot and i hardly ever talk to my parents and even though they yell at me about how i ignore them n stuff, it still doesnt phase me at all. sometimes im irratable and sometimes im really happy. but at other times i dont care at all and i have a hard time showing remorse. i dont really know whats wrong with me and no one except my ex understands how i feel and how i just dont care.
anyone know whats wrong with me? (link)
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Hi there,
First of all, please don't think there is anything wrong with you because there's not!
Second, Perhaps maybe you don't fully understand what is going on around you. Therefore you are unable to "emotionally attach" to the situation.
You see things how they are and if it has no reason to affect you, it doesn't.
There are many types of emotional disorders, I guess finding the right one that best describes you should be left up to your GP.
Might be a good idea if you book in to see your doctor so you are able to discuss this issue and overcome your emotional issues.
Also, think back to when you were younger or even recently... did something happen to change your life around? Anything major that could have affected your emotions? It could have even been something so simple to everyone else but something very complicated to you.
If you feel this bothers you then check it out with your doctor, otherwise, if your happy then no reason to worry.
Hope I helped :)
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Im a 13 yr old guy and im also a skater. i am pretty popular in my grade and get invited to lotss of parties. im friends with all the popular girls and make everyone luagh all the time. Iv never had a girlfriend though. and the only girl that ever likes me is this ugly girl who like stalks me at school. i also have not so straight teeth and have just got braces 4 mnths ago. I really havent been called "hot" by any girls. just "cool and funny" i have nice hair that is always neaat. i really need some tips. (link)
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Mate, your only young. You've got a long way to go yet.
Looking more attractive to others isn't always just about your apperance. It's mainly about your personality (believe it or not)
They way you parade yourself around like your a "top bloke" doesn't come off as very attractive... At all!!!
Guy's who are stuck up and worry about their apperance and ego is repulsive! Wearing named brand clothes has nothing to do with attractiveness.. it's just materials!!
Obviously you sound like you are quiet a confident person. I'm not saying that's a bad thing BUT being over confident and feeling like your better then others is disgusting. This girl you call ugly... She has feelings too you know!!
It's not nice to call people ugly, did you ever think that maybe no one calls you hot because they think you are ugly??? See, not nice is it??
Apperances: Just be tidy with yourself, Look after your skin and hair and dress nicely (makes a big difference) also wear a nice smelling deoderant or aftershave, not too much though as your not suppose to smell it on yourself.
Put a colour through your hair perhaps. Don't be self conscious of your teeth, they wont be like that forever so there is not point trying to hide them because it's impossible!!
AND.... Be nice to people. Especially the kind who are not so confident!! Oh.. and acting "gay" i'm glad you've stopped because it is extremely immature and not funny!!!
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How do I tell my mom that I am a furry? (link)
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Honestly....????
You just gotta suck it up and say it. Can't be an easier way then the blunt honest truth really. Deal with the reaction as it comes :)
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15/f
my family life sucks. my mom works everyday @ verizon and gets 2 days off a month. she has to, to support our family. my dad snorts coke and doesnt have a job.. my mom does coke too. i have a little brother whose 13. i DO NOT want to end up like my parents. i NEED a job that pays alot of money.. i cant do the job i want because it only makes 50,000 year salary & thats bad in new york. so whats a job that makes alot of money & doesnt deal with math? or like constructionn. haha. (link)
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Hi there,
You can't jump straight into a job that pays a lot of money. Your only 15 honey! You need to work your way up even if that means starting at the bottom of the chain.
A lot of people start off with earning only little and end up with a lot. I'd say get yourself a part time job whilst your at school. Start saving your pennies so as soon as your old enough you can move out away from your parents are their drug habbits.
You have a little brother who may also depend on you, he may see you as the only way out if he doesn't like they way your parents are.
If your wanting to study for your future job, pick something that you are going to enjoy. Not something that you think will give you lots of money. This is something that you are going to have to wake up to everday and spend most of your time at your job, therefore you do not want to be unhappy with what you are doing.
I think it's great that you don't want to be like your parents and follow their paths of drugs. That shows you are a strong person.
Just think about it a little more of what would make you happy in the future and a profession that you would enjoy. Money doesn't buy happiness.
I hope I helped... Goodluck :)
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HELP!
I used a new acne medication, and now have burns on my face from it. I was unaware that i couldn't have direct contact with the sun while using it, and laid out the next day after using it. I am so embarrassed to go out in public, and i am in pain. I need a quick healing remedy for these burns. (in case it matters, the medication i used was atralin). I've been applying neosporin. but it's not working =( (link)
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Hi there,
I would totally go with Darby and use Aloe Vera gel or cream but you could also try Savlon Cream.
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16/f I want to have a big birthday party this year to make up for my complete lack of a party last year. The problem is that I don't have anyone to help be plan a party, and aside from that, I have a limited number of friends who don't know one another very well and belong to different cliques. Is there a good way to bring all my friends together for a party with minimal awkwardness. Also, any sort of party suggestions are welcome.
PS- my birthday's in two weeks but I'd probably having the party the week after that. (link)
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Hi there...
I'm planning my birthday party at the moment too, except i'm turning 21 :)
Anyway, Birthday ideas...
Do you want a theme?? If so you could have a Celebrity Theme, Everyone dresses up as their favourite celebrity.
Have a colour theme, Black and your favourite colour OR Everyone to wear black and you wear a bright colour.
or like an Eygption theme, underwater, princess, clowns, animals...
Or you could, when you hand out the invitations, everyone must wear to your party what they are wearing when you hand the invitations out. For EG, If you hand the invitation out to someone in their work uniform they have to wear that to your party.
Give a prize or something for funniest or best dressed. If they don't dress up then you could organise for something to happen to them like have to walk around with something on their head or carry something around all night.
Hope I've given you some idea's. As for everyone who doesn't get along, it's your birthday and if they want you to be happy they'll settle their differences for one night.
Good Luck, Hope I helped :)
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So there's this guy that I really hate but I'm sort of friends with at the same time... I know that doesn't really make sense :S He's really annoying and has like no life but he follows me around so I talk to him and everything. So the other night over facebook, he asked me out. Naturally I said "sorry, but I don't really like you that way." Apparently he's liked me for a long time. It was VERY awkward.
But now I feel really weird. I have this issue with getting mad at boys who ask me out... I can't shake it! So I ended up getting mad at him today and I yelled at him. I feel really bad too, because he has no idea what's going on. Tomorrow is the last day before vacation (thank God) so I won't have to worry about it much, but still, I feel guilty. He keeps trying to talk to me and saying he's sorry.
I told him I was sorry an hour ago, but I still feel weirded out. I mean this is some weird kid no one really likes we're talking about here. I am head-over-heels for someone ELSE. So why do I feel so GUILTY and horrible? I really don't want anything to do with him, but I would feel too bad. I need help on what to do!
Thank you soo much! (link)
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Did you ever stop to think that this guy might just want a friend or companion? he's worked up the courage to ask you out and you've shut him down. Imagine how you would feel if this person your head over heals for just shut you down in two mind flat.
Point here is that this guy likes you, give him a chance to be your friend at least. Annoying or not he's a human being and deserves a chance. Don't think your better then him because your not. He could turn out to be your best friend or boyfriend perhaps.
Just give the by a chance to be himself around you. Obviously he'd get nervous around you because he has feelings for you but set the boundries clear and see how things go.
Hope I helped
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what does it meann if someone says alyx and andrew hooked up last night? (link)
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Hi there...
It could mean they hooked up as in kissed each other or it could mean that they had sex or just hung out together.
All depends on the person who said the comment and what they think it means. Different people could have a different meaning for it.
I guess if the two people were young, hooking up could just mean that they kissed perhaps...
If they were older they could have had sex.
Hope I helped :)
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I just found out my dad cheated on my mom when she was with us (she passed away)....what would your normal reaction be?
It is it ok to be freaking out and mad?
I'm a 16/f. (link)
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Hey there...
Well it all depends, was your mum sick for a while before she passed away??
If so then I wouldn't be so angry because you were all prepared for her passing and your dad obviously had time to emotionally change.
If this is the case then your mum would want him to be happy. He found comfort in another woman who could most definitely resemble your mum. That is completely normal. It's good that your dad mentally prepared himself for the worst and when it was time for him to move on.. he did!!
On the other hand, if your mum was well and it was unfortanetly a sudden death then I would be furious. Your mum loved and trusted him and he broke that...
Perhaps you should find out a bit more from your dad before you decide whether to be angry or not. If it turns out that he cheated on her while she was live and well then he'll need to give you time to feel hatrid and anger towards him as anyone else would.
Talk to your dad honey, then you decide on how you need to feel and what ever you feel will be perfectly normal :)
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im nervous to make out for the first time. any advice? (link)
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Be confident, don't over think it, just take it as it comes :)
You'll only learn from exepriences!!
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