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whats wrong with me
16/f
ok sooo... im starting to think theres something wrong with me. i have a very hard time showing emotions. no one would ever really be able to tell because i am always acting so happy and loud and hyper. but this is kind of an over animated version of me.
i kind of act like im really emotional but really im not, i just act how i have seen other people act but i do it 10X more. im truthful 2 my ex boyfriend about how i dont care about much and he said maybe i am emotionally detatched or something. i know i definately dont know myself at all either.
we'll be like watching a movie about 3 year olds in romania that weigh 2 pounds and are beaten n stuff n it wont phase me whatsoever. everyone else in my class was crying and i just sat with a shocked look on my face because thats what i see other people do. like at times i dont know what emotion im supposed to be feeling. but i didnt care at all. this happens alot and i hardly ever talk to my parents and even though they yell at me about how i ignore them n stuff, it still doesnt phase me at all. sometimes im irratable and sometimes im really happy. but at other times i dont care at all and i have a hard time showing remorse. i dont really know whats wrong with me and no one except my ex understands how i feel and how i just dont care.
anyone know whats wrong with me?
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You answered this question yourself. Though you probably didn't even realize it.
Two things that you said stood out to me:
1. "i dont know what emotion im supposed to be feeling."
2. "i am always acting so happy"
The key here is that you said you don't know how you are "supposed to" feel. And that you "act happy".
I think- like most people your age- you may not be sure at how you are "supposed to" act, or maybe worried about how you want to be perceived so you are trying (maybe too hard) to either connect / disconnect from your OWN, true emotions in order to do what is "right".
I also see a hint of a "people pleaser" in you. Maybe that's why you "act happy". Everyone likes to be around a happy person so you put on that act. The problem there though is that you please everyone but yourself!
My advice: just be confident enough to be yourself!
That doesn't mean that if you're feeling down you act like a downer ALL THE TIME, but try to let the real you come out. People do like happy people but they like people that are GENUINE too! :)
HTH
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Hi there,
First of all, please don't think there is anything wrong with you because there's not!
Second, Perhaps maybe you don't fully understand what is going on around you. Therefore you are unable to "emotionally attach" to the situation.
You see things how they are and if it has no reason to affect you, it doesn't.
There are many types of emotional disorders, I guess finding the right one that best describes you should be left up to your GP.
Might be a good idea if you book in to see your doctor so you are able to discuss this issue and overcome your emotional issues.
Also, think back to when you were younger or even recently... did something happen to change your life around? Anything major that could have affected your emotions? It could have even been something so simple to everyone else but something very complicated to you.
If you feel this bothers you then check it out with your doctor, otherwise, if your happy then no reason to worry.
Hope I helped :)
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A lot of times when people have traumatic events happen in their lives they kind of shut down. It's like you can't feel happy or sad, you just feel numb.
Maybe something has happened that has affected you more than you realize-the death of a grandparent, divorce, or something. The way it always seems to work is the one thing you don't want to think about is the one thing that is keeping you down.
This numb feeling can be your brains self-protection device. It keeps you from being overly sad, but then it also keeps you from being overly happy. These kind of things can last up to two years. Hopefully, one day, you will slowly get back into the swing of things.
Remeber-your brain is the most powerful thing you have, and you can get through anything. You are already one step ahead of the game by realizing what is going on. To top it all off, you have all those out of control 16 year old hormones getting your system out of whack.
It is good you have someone to talk to, and even better that you are smart enough to see what is going on. A lot of people just pretend everything is perfect.
You are not alone. This is a really common thing that happens to just about everyone who has to deal with life. Just know that what you are feeling (or not feeling) is normal.
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