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Awkwardd...
So there's this guy that I really hate but I'm sort of friends with at the same time... I know that doesn't really make sense :S He's really annoying and has like no life but he follows me around so I talk to him and everything. So the other night over facebook, he asked me out. Naturally I said "sorry, but I don't really like you that way." Apparently he's liked me for a long time. It was VERY awkward.
But now I feel really weird. I have this issue with getting mad at boys who ask me out... I can't shake it! So I ended up getting mad at him today and I yelled at him. I feel really bad too, because he has no idea what's going on. Tomorrow is the last day before vacation (thank God) so I won't have to worry about it much, but still, I feel guilty. He keeps trying to talk to me and saying he's sorry.
I told him I was sorry an hour ago, but I still feel weirded out. I mean this is some weird kid no one really likes we're talking about here. I am head-over-heels for someone ELSE. So why do I feel so GUILTY and horrible? I really don't want anything to do with him, but I would feel too bad. I need help on what to do!
Thank you soo much!
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You don't have to go out with him but you should feel guilty. It's obvious he sees a lot of good in you or he wouldn't be interested. You were very nasty in the way you turned him down and treated him. It was uncalled for and you owe him an apology at least.
Tell him nicely that you aren't interested but that's no excuse for the way you reacted. What's so weird about him anyway? Why do people dislike him? Perhaps he likes you because you are the one person who until now treated him with respect.
I think you owe it to yourself to get to know him for who he REALLY is. Show your classmates a thing or two about kindness and treating others like they would want to be treated.
It's not his fault that he's socially inept either. Maybe you could be a friend and point out that he's a bit too clingy ad what to work on that others don't like. Everybody deserves at least 1 friend. He picked you for a reason.
Why be angry at boys who ask you out? If you're not interested just be civil about it. If you always get angry you can bet the boys will back off of you and presume you're cold and a downright unpleasant individual.
If you like someone else that's fine but consider this person's feelings. Continue to be a friend but start creating a little distance. Let him know when he's acting too clingy and do it in a nice manner. Tell him you don't mind spending time with him but not all the time.
As long as you apologize tomorrow things should settle down. I also want to add that for most guys it's difficult to ask a girl out. For him, it's even more of a struggle because of his lack of popularity and confidence. Keep that in mind when dealing with him.
He must think the very world of you to even have bothered asking. Show him that you really are a decent person by apologizing and getting to know him and see through the labels placed upon him. If this has taught you anything it's to be a friend and think how others feel. You don't have to date him as I said earlier but give him a break and a chance others don't give him at friendship at least.
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Did you ever stop to think that this guy might just want a friend or companion? he's worked up the courage to ask you out and you've shut him down. Imagine how you would feel if this person your head over heals for just shut you down in two mind flat.
Point here is that this guy likes you, give him a chance to be your friend at least. Annoying or not he's a human being and deserves a chance. Don't think your better then him because your not. He could turn out to be your best friend or boyfriend perhaps.
Just give the by a chance to be himself around you. Obviously he'd get nervous around you because he has feelings for you but set the boundries clear and see how things go.
Hope I helped
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