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My names Jenny and I'm a 16 year old girl, oviously. I'll help you with anything you ask, so ask away. But if your gonna ask a dumb question, you'll get a dumb answer. And try not to start shit. This site is for helping people, not a way to bitch at people beacause your board and have nothing better to do. I know most about sex ;), Buddy4u Profiles, Xanga's, Html, Mental help..Like cutting, depression, and suicide, and love life. I will try as hard as I can to help you, and give you my honest awnser, weather it may upset you or not.

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Where can you get Hello Kitty stuff? Plz don't tell me sanrio or e-bay! Ill rate!

Hot topic has a lot of hello kitty stuff..lol and ebay haha.

What should you use to apply foundation to your face?

I use a brush thing that I got from bosten store. It's pretty expensive. (Around 40 dollars lol) But it works good and if it ever breaks you get another one. It's one of those life time garentte things, so even though its a lot of money, its worth it.

okay, im going out with this boy and i have gone out with him about 2 times already and this past summer he went on vacation for about a month and half and he said when he got back that we would go out well i waited 6 months to go out with him and i asked him a few weeks back when we weren' going out if he liked me and then 2 days ago he IMs me and is like you looked so hot in yuor pants today and so i asked him if he liked me and he said yes and he goes will you go out with me..well being the person i am i said yes ..becuz i mean i like him..but im not to sure he likes me..is there a way to tell if hes just playing me (if this helps i just broke up with one of his friends and he cheated on me about 4 times)Thanks so much!

Hey. To me i'm not sure if he is..but i woudlnt take a chance. That isnt right that his friend cheated on you and it was very stupid of him to break up with you in the first place. You could do a lot better and get a guy who you wouldnt have to be unsure about if he liked you. It's also stupid that he made you wait...It sounds to me that he waited till after vacation because he wanted to do other stuff with girls. :/ . Bottem line is that if he has friend who cheat, and he has broken up with you before or made you wait. You probably shouldnt trust him. Good luck. Hope I helped a bit. xoxo

hi... do you have anyone in ur life who you love to death but they cut and you really want them to stop? i need to help my best friend stop

Hey, i have a person right now who cuts and i really want her to stop. I also use to cut and I know that it's very hard. The best way is to get help from somone. (like a counluler) It seems very gay, and it did to me, but by getting one in the long run it really helped me out and i'm glad my friend told somone about it and helped me get throught cutitng. It's nice having friends there to support you. Or now just be there for her and let her know you love her and dont want her to cut. If the cuts get deeper then you should tell an adult. Good luck! I'd write more but i have to go to school lol. if you need anything else drop one in again! buh bye.

alright... i have this friend who cuts and she means the absolute WORLD to me idk what i would do with out her and im scared her cutting could get worse.. i cut too but not as bad as her but sometimes... well a lot of times i want to cut really bad and get really deep... ive been cutting for like about a 1 and a half all together off and on... she told me that she would never try to kill herself but im still scared for her ya know? and i just want to help shes really sad about her bf cuz he makes her feel like crap all the time and i hate him but idk... that should i do???? i really could use some help? have u ever been in a situation like mine? or do u know anyone who cuts too? thanks

Awe i'm sorry to hear that. I use to cut myself and it got to the point where i'd hit a vain. Right now your friend is probably going though a hard time in her life or going though some depressoin. most kids do and they get over it. For now I would just be there for her and tell her that you would be really sad if were to die..:(.. and tell her how worried you are about her. For me the cutting stoped once my life got better and it should for her too, and also you. I think she is moslty cutting bcuz of her bf. that is what i did when he made me feel bad. If things get worse though, to where she hits a vane or goes very deep you need to tell someone!! I've been through this and Ik a lot about it. I'm very happy I got help even though at the time i hated it. If that happens, she might feel the same way too. But in her future she'll be happy that she got help. good luck!! If there's anything else you'd like to ask or talk about drop another one in. I hope i helped! Buh bye!!!

I like this site and I goto to this site to try and give helpful advice or even to receive some, why is that people are such jerks on here? They give bad advice or stupid comments to someones advice!! And there will probably be a whole bunch of people who will give a dumb remark to this question! Why do people come an give stupid advice like "go kill yourself" or "your a loser" or some stupid comment! Honestly do these people get a thrill out of making fun of someone ? Why do these people sign up for this website if they are just going to give horrible advice? Does anyone agree? Doesn't it seem stupid and pointless?

( I'd also like to add that just now I got an awsner to one of my questions that was pretty rude. I looked at their advice column and read some of the stuff. Some of the questions were about suicide and love and this person would reply rude things such as, "go die bitch."

It is really not cool. :(

Wow I know what you mean. I hattte that! I think they should be kicked off the sight. There are some people who i've read their advice column and all their advice was rude. There's got to be something we can do to get them off this sight! It really is pointless. They probably have nothing better to do than be bitches to people so that they feel better about their self. I hate it!

Im 15/f I always feel like I cant breathe deeply enough. I feel like every 5 minutes I am sitting there trying to yawn but I can never get myself to yawn deeply enough and it takes me like 5-10 mins just go get one yawn out. And I probably look pretty stupid too like sitting there in class yawning all the time. I know i dont get enough sleep, but even on the weekends when i get like 11 hours i still have trouble breathing deeply/yawning. It might be stress related too..but i think ive had this problem since i was little. Is this normal? ANy ideas on how to help? thx

You should see a docter and tell them about this. It could be related to strees but it also could be something more serious. Good luck bye bye!

There's this friend I have and her name is Kellen. She's really sweet, quiet, a good friend, and she's 15. And she has this boyfriend who is 18 and his name is Nick. He's fun, loud, and likes to mess around with everybody while Kellen is usually the girl in the back (I mean the girl who doesn't say anything unless she definetley has to answer). And last Sunday, Kellen, Nick, and I were hanging out at the mall. Kellen went to get ice cream for all of us and I stayed with Nick at the table. And Nick said "Well, you're getting more and more beautiful day by day. One of these days you'll be mine." I didn't say anything because I was embarrassed (and because I'm only 14). And Kellen came back and I pretended nothing happened because I also felt bad for Kellen. What should I do? Should I tell Kellen? Or should I leave it alone?

Wow that's just wrong of him. It sounds like he's only going out with your friend because he likes you. You should really tell her before he hurts her more. And if shes your friend dont go out with him. He could do the same thing to you. Besides thats almost rape. Good luck. Bye!

ok umm... my boyfrend broke up with me monday because he said he didnt want to get sick of me and neva talk to me again if we broke up later in the year..... so now we're ova but i still hav a crush on him! n hes already movin on to other girls (he likes this girl but she doesnt want to go out with him) how do i get ova this n b like my old self... not miserable?!?!?! i really need help. o ya he still flirts with me n stuff u can tell he still likes me too cuz he calls me everyday n stuff so wat should i do?

Okay well i think you needa new guy. He says he doesnt want to get sick of you and never talk to you agian..but by breaking up thats going to happen anyways. He ovioulsy does like you and he might feel like he likes you too much and doesnt want to ruin your friend ship. You need to get a new guy. It's hard but just hang out with your friends to get your mind off of him and soon you'll get another guy. Good luck!

my boyfriend knows i hate that he smokes i REFUSE to smoke weed and he knows that and respects that. the prob is is that hell smoke infront of me. like we only get to see eachother wednesdays, fridays n sat n sun (we go to diff skools) and tonite he was walking me to the place ig et picked up at from his house n he was fuckin smoking...i was like watever n started walking ahead of him i was like watever dont do it around me i dont lyke it and he was like plz tell me why u dont lyke it i was like i just dont..and then he kept sayin lik oh r u mad watch i wont inhale it all and i was like i dont care n he was like if u dont care then kiss me rite now i was like no and he sed oh so u do care n then i didnt give him a kiss goodbye or nothing and he was like ur mad at me huh? and he knows im mad what suhld i do? i dont want to dump him weve been going out for 13 months and i love him alot i just HATE that he smokes....it reallie bothers me...and he knows that...

I've had the same problem with my boyfriend and I let him smoke even though it really bothered me. I told him that it would make him move on to more drug and he said that it woudlnt. But like I said, he did. He went on to acid and cocanie. I would talk to him about this. If he loves you he'll quit, or at least not do it infront of you. It's really not cool that he knows that you dont like it and contiunes to do it but I guess thats guys. Good luck!! Luv- Jenna

ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and hes really sweet! and i like him alot but all we've done is makeout, he's tried to go down my pants but everytime he does he pulls his hand out and starts laughing so i dont know whats wrong. what should i do?

Lol..alright first off make sure that you shave. Next if he still does that he is probably just shy. If you want to do that kind of thing then try feeling on his dick with his pants on n keep making out. Things should start getting hotter. lol. Or you could also grab his hand and move it a little for him while hes going down there..so he knows its ok with you. Good luck. I hope i helped. :)

I went out with this guy for 9 months, and I was in love. His family had to move so we broke up:( It was really hard but now were good friends and we talk on the phone and on IM. When we were going out, he was really over protective of me and he always kept me safe and all. Now that its over, I flirt with guys a lot and my "friend" told him that. Hes soooo mad at me and I dont know why. He shouldent even be mad because its over!! I just wanna tell him to shut up..but I wont..so what do I say to make him understand that were not going out and he doesnt have to be over protective and all? He even has a gurl-friend and he doesnt see me getting all mad..ugh!!

Hmm it sounds like hes jelous and likes you. If yours over your x then tell your friend that you are and that your ready to move on. Or just ask him why he gets so mad! Hes your friend and you should be able to tell him stuff. The best thing to do is to ask him y he gets mad when your talkin about him. Good luck. If u need ne thing else then drop one in my inbox. buh bye

duz anyone know if crunches really make u lose weight???? or do they just make ur stomach flatter?

It only really makes your stomach flat. Cuz your working out your stomach. I guess it could work out your thighs too. But it wont make you loose weight in other places besides your stomach. Lattaa

i know this is dumb, but im scared to im my friend online to tell him that he did a really good job in theater arts today. i wanna say something but im scared he'll b like um thanks watever leave me alone. cuz we dont talk online, just in class...wanna help? =)

When ever i'm scared to do something I always think of this. Your young and this is only a tiny moment out of your life. It's not going to matter in years. Just go ahead and IM him. I doubt he will say that cuz everyone likes comliments. Good luck. Buh bye

ok i'm grounded for a month ( no joke its been 2 weeks) and my frndship with ma best friend is fading away. i yell s0o much i lost my voice for 4 days and evrything. at this point i dnt wahna live nemore ! i'm losing it ! helpp me

Hey . Well first off are you yelling at your friend? If you are try as hard as you can to stop and just talk to her. Since I dont really know that much I cant really help. But..A month will go by fast. You only have about a week left. Yeah it sucks ive been there. Things r gona get better. Good luck. If you wana explain more you can ask me or IM me at xbr0kenheart77x

i feel like i'm going into depression! my life seems like its getting worse everydaY!! i will NEVER cut tho! just the thought makes me feel ick! but i dont no wut to do! i lost my b/f recently and i dont no.. i feel like nothing good is happening! what should i do?

Heyyy I REALLY understand how you feel. I've gone though this so many times. For now try and take your mind off your x. Hang out with a lot of friends and just have fun. Talk to people about how you feel too. I have been depressed and if you want to talk to me more about things i'll help you. Good luck buh bye!

ok well there has been a lot of things going on and i've gotten really depressed. im on medicine for it but it doesnt seem to be working anymore. its like the 5th kind of pill that i've tryed. im always crying and thinking about the bad things but i can't help it. i used to be able to write about it in my poems but now i just kinda can't. i really need help and i dont know what to do. i dont want to cry myself to sleep everynight.
~depressed

Hey I know how you feel..life can be really hard. For me I take paxil and it helps. You might need a higher dose on yours or another new one. But med's arent really gona solve a lot. I really wish i knew what to say but the only way to really get over this is go though it. Things will get better. I never thought they would for me but they did. For now just try and think of the best. Think of other people who's lifes are horrible. My friend's mom and dad killed themselfs in front of him after getting divorced and her life is very messed up. Dont worry everyone goes though this as a child but you will eventuly get over it. Good luck! I'm sorry i didnt help that much :(

OH yea when i got depressed i coudlnt tell anyone how i felt. it was impossible but then i went to a theripist after a while of talking i could say more about how i felt. just a tip but if your not seeing a theripist you should try one.

alright well whenever i get upset i feel the need to cause myself pain. sometimes i do and sometimes i just cry. and i used to cut but i dont anymore and im never going to again so that will not be a way of hurting myself...but i want to know if there's anyway to control these feelings. i really dont want to end up hurting myself badly. but i get upset do easily...i dont know im just so confused.

Hey I have had the same problem as you. Ah well you cant really control the feelings..but you can find other ways to deal with it other than hurting yourself. Try and punch your pillow. Everyone tells me to do that and it sorta helps. When you get mad let all your anger out on it instead of yourself. Good luck!! -Jenny

hey well i'm really nervous about the first time i have sex. im nervous about becoming pregnant, like if the condom breaks. so i was wondering if its wrong/weird for the guy to wear 2 condoms (one on top of the other)... is that really pathetic? i know im supposed to use lube but i'm still scared so could i make him wear 2 just in case?

Noooo if you do that the friction will cause both of them to rip!! Just use one. Well i've done it at least 5 times and it never ripped. Lol ..(with the same guy) so you should b ok. Good luck buh bye

I feel like my life is just so useless, like there is nothing good going on for me. I'm always crying. I feel like I cry everyday. I've felt this way for a while, and I know I'm depressed. Now it has come to the point where I am depressed with being depressed. I don't know what to do to feel better.

Awe I know how you feel. If your not taking medicines you should maybe try an anti depressent. It will regulater your hormones and you wont be as depressed. Talking about it helps too. Things will get better dont worry. Good luck. Buh bye

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