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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!

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does yoga help you lose weight?

Yoga does not help you lose weight. Yoga is designed to help you relax and ease your mind, etc. And yes, water does help you lose weight. There are no calories, carbs, or anything in it to harm your chances of losing weight. Drink away. Although if you drink a lot of water, you will pee a lot, haha.

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i have a question. if you wear skater clothes but you dont skateboard or you used to but not anymore are you considered a poser?

You have a question? Go figure that one, lol. Just joking. It doesn't mean you are a poser. I hate people who say that stupid shit. We can wear what we want. There is law saying those clothes are designated for skaters only. I wear clothes like that sometimes. They are kick ass. Get some Etnies! lol

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Hey, i dunno what to put this under...but if you look on most advice columns you see on the side "rated:" and how many times they were rated, then it says "average rating" and what it is. It doesnt so up on my column and i've been rated alot of times. I rate high!!!

Any ratings you recieve only count for 30 days. Try answering some more questions so you get more ratings so they will average out. If you haven't gotten any ratings for 30 days or more, that would be why it doesn't show up. xo

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I have to switch schools (7th grade) and I'm so nervous. I have cramps in my stomach and I feel like I'm going to puke. I have talked to friends over the phone about it and they say I'll do fine but I don;t about that. Please, someone tell me what I can do to reduce nervousness of this change?

There isn't much you can do really. My friend Brittney had to switch schools one time. She was nervous as well. You just have to focus on positive things and calm yourself down before leaving. Walk in that school with a smile on your face and try to look friendly so people talk to you. If you make a friend when you get there, you will probably feel not as nervous but secure. Don't have a negative attitude about this situation. That will not help at all. Just take a deep breath and take it as it comes at you. I know switching schools isn't easy for most people. Perhaps you could write down the positives about going to this new school and focus on those things so you aren't nervous about the situation. The main thing is try and be calm. Medetate, take deep breaths, close your eyes for a couple seconds, smile, anything to calm you down. :) Good luck with this.

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Me and my bofriend, Rob, have been going out about a month. We dated for about 2 months b4 I asked him out. It seems whenever we hang out its boring. He's already told me he loves me and wants to marry me. We're 16 and 17 btw. I recently met this guy named Ed. He seems cool and everything. Before Ed, everything with Rob was fine but since I met Ed the stuff between me and Rob seems boring and predictable. So my question is should I dump Rob and persue Ed or should I stay with Rob and see what happens?

On this situation, you need to think. Do you love Rob? Is it really worth staying with him to see what happens? Do you think you could do better by persuing a relationship with Ed? This decision is all based on how you feel for each guy. Look at their qualities and see which ones are the best for you. Think about the common interest you have between the two. Are you compatiable? Which guy do you think you could get along with better? Do you think Rob and you could work things out and feel that the relationship is interesting again or do you want something more exciting as a relationship like you have seemed to find with Ed? I can't tell you which one to pick because I don't know enough information about the two guys. But it seems from your wording above that Ed is the best for you. Think about all the questions I have just listed and then make your decision. Sit down and focus on how YOU feel and then decide. Tough yet easy. good luck.

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my sister gets white stuff in her under wear what is it I mean I get it too but I dont want to ask her

Discharge. It's normal... Comes along with the great joys of getting your period. Have fun. xo

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How do you put music in your column, like, not MIDI, like starlightmks. I can't find a site that has the music with like, the person actually singing. Thanks in advance. I rate 5's for effort.

Music isn't allowed on this site so I wouldn't worry about it because it puts you at risk of being suspended from the site tempoarily. xo hope i helped.

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I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

Every effort counts. You may not be solving the WHOLE problem but you get everyone one more step closer. Go ahead and send it. That's a sweet thing of your mom and you to do.

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me and my girl are realy close but lately about 3 other girls have been hitten on me. including like my best friend. i dont know how 2 let them down couse ive told them i have a girl

Well if you really care about your girl you need to straight up tell these other girls to back off. You can't have them hitting on your when you have a girlfriend. If she found out, she'd probably flip out or get upset even though you haven't done a thing. It isn't fair to your girl to have other girls hitting on you so tell them that you really value their friendship and stuff but they can't be doing that and make it clear that you have a girlfriend and that you care about her. You need to stand your ground.

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Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do???

Welp, like many other people are going to tell you, you are a bit young to be having sex. I myself as a person am trying to wait until I am atleast 18 to take this big leap. Just because you feel ready doesn't mean you always are. You have to think: Am I physically ready? Am I mentally ready?. Ask yourself these questions over and over again to be sure. You are only 14 and he is 15. You have your whole life ahead to start worrying about the challenges of being sexually active. Why start so young?! What happens if you accidently get pregnant? Condoms and birth control do not always work. And you've never had sex. If you have sex with him you have lost your innocence better known as virginity. Are you sure this guy is someone that you can see yourself losing this to and not regretting it? What happens if you break up and such and there he is, with your virginity? Think about it.

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does anyone know where to find some cute quotes for my profile besides [[hellz-angelz.cjb.net and wittyprofiles.com thanks!]]

http://www.firehotquotes.com

I have many quotes in my collection if you'd like some of mine. xo

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Well, I got into a fight with my friend , shes been my friend since 1st grade. and i'm in 9th grade now. I got into a fight with her because she gave my purse to someone without asking me, and she wouldn't tell the person to give it back. so i said until she gives it back im not talking to you. she started flipping out swearing, calling me fat and ugly and i couldn't get a boyfriend. THEN, i was going to forgive her until she told my other ex-friend marie that i talk about her all the time, and told her everything i said about her (which was true), but i don't think she should do that, i can't trust her or anything . i don't think i can forgive her.. what would u do?!

Truly, you handle this immaturely by telling her you weren't talking to her until she got the purse back. That shows lack of maturity for handling the situation from the start. Beings you are girls, we handle things in stupid ways all the time. We insult each other, and share secrets that we shouldn't. I'm sure she didn't mean most of the things that said and the only reason she told this Marie girl was because she is pissed at you. But truth be told, you shouldn't have talked about Marie. Then you wouldn't have to worry about it. If I were you and you really wanted to still be her friend, which I would want to be. You need to somehow get her to talk to you. If you can write her a note if no other possibilities although approaching her in person would be better. Tell her how you feel about this and how much you value the friendship. I think you guys could work on the trust again. I have been there with my best friend I've had since kindergarten. Girls are known for the immature handling of things such as this but we usually work it out. So just talk to her and I'm sure you can forgive her. Look at how long you guys have been friends! Why would you want to lose something that great over ONE fight, right?! You both seem to have your faults here so what I would do is try to gain the trust back, sit down with her so you could both admit your faults. All of this fight over a purse? Just buy a new one and keep the friendship. Sounds worth it to me. Good luck with this.

xoxo`kristen

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ok im 14/f
im a cheerleader and mostly happy but im a cutter. i hate it when i read things that say stop because i cant but anyways... when i grow up i want to be a counsler or something i want to help other people with the problems that i have gone through i think that would be awesome is that bad that i want to help people when im the one with a problem?

It's not bad. I know people who want to do the same thing because they cut. But I think if you are going to be a counselor for one you should sometime in your life try to stop. You don't have very much likelyhood of being hired for a job as a counselor if you yourself have the problem. Plus, this problem is no fun. But if somehow in your life time you stop it'd be a great idea to help other people. You'll know the reasons why and such so you'd be a of great help to others with this problem. xoxo

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Ok i feel kinda weird talking about this to someone that i dont know but i have no other choice..im 13 and i was going out with a 16 year old boy named Josh..we were going out a month and 4 days and before we even started going out we had sex..it was my first time and i have known him for about 5 years he lives right next to me so i trust him..well after we did it we started going out and we did everything..but then he broke up with me to go out with some 14 year old girl..i am trying so hard to get over him but it feels like it is impossible and it is so much harder to face him knowing that i dont have him but he has my virinity..should i just keep trying to move on? I have already told him how i felt and he seems like he doesnt care..but i would do anything to get back with him..and i would change becuase i thought that he broke up with me becuase of something i did..did he break up with me just to get something? Please help me im lost =(

Yeah, this guy was a real jackass. I think you need to just get over it. I know that is going to be really hard but if he cared he would have taken you back and he wouldn't have done that to you. He probably just wanted some because I've been there and learned many lessons with this kind of thing altho I am still a virgin. This guy may have taken your innocence but he didn't take your life away. Just focus your mind on other things besides him and try to get on with your life. Alright, sweetie? If you need someone to talk to about this you can IM me on AIM or yahoo at anytime.

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i really really love this guy but hes might best friend. im not sure if he likes me so i dont want to tell him how i feel. what should i say?

Tell him exactly what you just told us. Let him know how you feel. But if you don't feel comfortable with that drop little hints. Flirt with him and all of that good stuff and when the time is right just tell him hey I really care about you. Telling him you really care about him would be the better way to approach this conversation anyways. good luck. xoxo. Need anything else, let me know.

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ok my boyfriend and i had oral sex. i fell like i have betrayed everyone and now i dont know if i was ready. is this normal?
Thanks
Lauren

It's normal. When you do things like that in relationships it's a big step and sometimes it gets to you because that's sometimes frowned apon by people. But that was his and your decision and no one elses. That is all between him and you. No one else really needs to know. Just talk to your boyfriend about it. Perhaps you weren't ready. If you weren't.. just don't do it again, right? You'll get over it with time. Trust me. xoxo

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how do you make live journal icons

I don't know how to make them but I have TONS and TONS of websites where you can look at them and quite a collection of my own if you'd like to check that out. Just IM me on AIM or leave a message in my inbox and I'll help you out. xoxo.. There is a program called paintshop pro tho. I've heard about it.

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Im 13 years old and I just started jr. high. I'm in the 7th grade. The problem is that I have no friends and I don't know how to make any. I've tried to be social, but no one seems to want to talk to me. I'm in all honors classes, and the girls in the honors classes are all rich and white and popular. I don't really like them anyway, but i have every class with them. Thankfully, i have 1 really good friend I met this year. She dosnt have friends, either. How can I make friends? I want to be the popular girl i was in elementary.

Why do you kids care so much if you are popular? As long as you have true friends who love you for who you are, don't worry about it but if you insist on being popular. Try and get involved in some clubs or sports activities where you can meet people and become more socialy active. Try sitting different places at lunch with one of your friends so you can meet new people and explore your opurtunity of friends. And if you don't like the people in your classes, perhaps you could change your schedule around. If all of the popular girls seem to be not your type then why worry? Your at school to learn anyways, not to be popular. If anything, find something you have in common with these "rich white" people so you aren't so miserable in class. Just because they are "rich and white" doesn't mean you can't be social with them. Try the club and sports idea and stick by your really good friend. xoxo

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my friend didn't get a single thing for christmas what should i do? i feel so bad! so should i get something?

If you have money then you should def get this friend something. That would be the sweetest thing you could do. If I could.. I'd buy them something too.. lol. xoxox--merry late christmas

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i am thinking about purchasing a floor effects process for my guitar ( digitech, boss, ect.) and need input on which one for punk/ screamo music. i rate good advice

Go with high end digitech. That's good stuff. I asked my dad about it because he has one and he said it's great with all of his guitars and he has like.. 4 lol. good luck with that. anymore questions on it, let me know and ill ask my dad about it. xo

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