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I used to hang out with these people.The used to gang up and bug me.I fought with the leader.Big mistake.They ganged up agaist me and fought.I miss being in their group.When I hear them having yelling and fun from my house i feel left out.I try to make excuses and pass by them but I rarely have any.I want to be a part of their group again but I do not want to look to desperate.I get really bored at home alone.I can't remember the last time I was invited to a party or had fun.What should I do?

Well I honestly feel like from how you sent this question that you didn't feel quite that comfortable at all in this group. That these group of people were very obnoxious and didn't treat you as one of them and walked all over you. That is why you went and stood up for yourself to the main "leader" of the group. Just because you miss partying and hanging out doesn't mean you can't go with other groups of friends. Instead of wanting to be back in their group because you miss 'them', you need to realize that you want to back with them because of activities you attended while you guys were friends, not their company or friendship. So that should be a clue-in to just find a better group of people to chill with. Best of luck.

~Sherah

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i was just wanting to know what are some things that a girl can do to the guy while making out to give him satisfaction. like besides just kissing his lips while he does stuff.

we've been to second base and he's fingered me..and we already french kiss and stuff so what is somethings i can do to him in return??.

Well most guys love to be lightly bit on the neck, have their scalp massaged when you guys makeout, and other areas if you know what I mean. I usually like to give a guy one killer of a back massage and then nibble on his earlobes, neck, and nipples. After that it is pretty much self explanatory how things go. Just don't bite or nibble to hard. You want him to enjoy it, not be in pain.

~Sherah

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16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

Everyone gets depressed once in a while, but you seem to completely fixated on death, unhappiness, and uncertainty in how you fit into the world. Now everyone goes through this kind of confusion at somne early point in their life, when they try to understand who they are and what they want. But the one problem you are facing that is strictly in your control is your attitude towards life, people, happiness, and the world. You have a negative attitude toward everything, and when you assume everything is going to be shitty or suck, it probably will be. And you know why? It is because you unintentionally set yourself up for rejection. Instead of viewing everything with such a pessimistic attitude, you need to have a neutral view on life. And I seriously think you need to consider seeing a counselor or a physchiatrist because thinking about death, suicide, and having such unimaginable views on life and people is something you are not going to be able to solve all on your own and it is something that you shouldn't have to solve on your own. If you need anymore advice feel free to note my inbox.

~Sherah

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why is it that most of the time when my boyfriend fingers me and i go to the bathroom after that it burns when i pee, does that mean there is somethin wrong with me. please tell me am scared

He could be fingering you too hard and that is not good hun. Your tissue is very soft in that area so it could get torn easily. It isn't a major issue but it can get infected. Not to mention that hands ar eone of the dirtiest places on the human body. So you could actually get a urinary tract infection from him, because his hands carry tons of bacteria. This could be the reason why it burns when you pee. So drink lots of water and cranberry juice. If it doesn't let up, go to the doctor immediately.

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so this guy crashed my bat mitzvah and he thinks i wanted him there (thats why he came). We dated about 8 months ago. He told me multiple times throughout the past month that he really likes me, but he leaves my bff comments on her myspace telling her thats shes pretty, smart, blah, blah, blah. My bat mitzvah was last weekend and he showed up and it was a black tie affair and stuff so all the seating had been done and no one can get a seat unless they were invited. Security took him out and he when he got home he started posting myspace bulletins about me saying i was a whore and stuff like that. he says that if anyone owes an apology, i owe him one for the security. About 5 hours before my bat mitzvah service (before the party) he promised me that he wouldnt crash it. As you can see, he lied. Its been about a week since it happened but im still mad at him for what he did. Hes always trying to talk to me or kiss me to "try and make up for what he did wrong." What should I do? at school we all have advisors (theyre actually teachers but theyre assigned to four students and we all meet every week). i told my advisor about the incident and she is not only my advisor, she's HIS teacher. the school knows about what happened and everything and theyve talked to him. He still doesnt think he did anything wrong and he wants me to have a relationship with him... I like someone else, but hes insisted that i Cant like the someone else. hes a freshman in high school and im in 8th grade. were both 14, but im older than him. i have a myspace so if u want it just give me urs and ill add u... so if u could help me out either there or on advicenators, that would be amazing!! do you think i should forgive him?

Well it seems like he wants you back to me. he is trying to make you jealous by hitting on your best friend, which is wrong on so ma ny levels. And by crashing your bat mitzvah he shows that he didn't care about your feelings and your big day at all. My suggestion: Forget about him. He is obviously a loser and isn't worth your time. You can forgive him and tell him what he did was wrong but you will forgive him for it if he apologises, but after that, stay away from him. seems like to me, he is nothing but trouble. Best of luck and if you need any advice note my inbox.

~Sberah

PS:) I have myspace too so if you want note my inbox with the link to yours and I'll add you.

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Okay well I got these new jeans yesterday and they cost me 50$ and today at school I accidentaly rubbed an ink pen on my jeans. They`re brand new & I need some help on how to take the stain off. Any products or techniques will do. Thank you.

I would use Spray N Wash. It is so easy to use. just spray the stain, let it soak for a minute, and wash in regular detergent.

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i heard that if you shave your underarms and use deodorant, you have a better chance of getting breast cancer. i was concerned about this & studys that have been done said that this might be true. how would you even get around either of those?? if you're a girl, you need to shave there and obviously use deodorant. any ideas??

thanks!!

Now when it comes to shaving that is completely false. But when it comes to deodorant studies have found that to be correct on some aspects. Not all deodorant has been found to cause certain kinds of cancer. Research has found that Anti-Perisperant Deodorant can cause breast cancer because you have lymphnodes in your arm pits by your breasts. If you buy regular deodorant read the label to make sure it doesn't say anti-persperent and just says deodorant.

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Im 15 and my boyfriend is 17 we have been dating since the 6th grade and he will be 18 in a couple of weeks! Are we going to have to brake up because he will be legal. I really love this guy and we have been together for 4ever! Whats a girl to do?

Whe you turn 16 you will be considered legal to date anyone to the age of 21 without parental consent. Since he is 18 and you are still 15, it is still legal for you guys to date, just as long as your parents consent with you two dating. But they can't just get mad at you one day and make you guys break up. They can only legally force you guys to break up if they have probable reason, meaning evidence, that you guys are having sex, which would be hard to prove. But they could have you tested to see if you have had sex, so if you and him are having sex, I would try to hide that fact. It could be considered statititory rape, which is consensual sex with an underage person. So he could actually be arrested if your parents press charges. That probably won't happen, but just be safe. Best of luck.
~Sherah

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i went to a party friday night, and got totally wasted. i called this boyn and him and some of his friends picked me and my 2 friends up and let us sleep at his house. my parents think i went to my friends house for the night. these boys are all in my bros grade and they told me they woudlnt tell him, but if my bro find anything out he will tell my mom. what should i do?

Well I am bit of a party girl myself... not so much now, but I was a while ago, so I know exactly what you should do. I partied with some people older than me that were in my brother's grade a couple years ago. He didn't hang with that crowd but there still was a chance he could find out. So I got some dirt on him that he wouldn't want my mom to find out. He had been seeing this older woman online, but told my mom they were just friends. I helped him create a new internet profile and email so they could secretly keep talking. So when he eventually found out about my party days, I played it down of course, still agreeing that I had been drinking but just at one party and all I had was a beer. Which was such a lie, because I was trashed. He believed my lie though and kept his mouth shut just as long as I didn't tell on him. So do the same thing. Get some dirt on your brother for black mail. And don't listen to that non-party girl's advice below. If you tell your mom, she will probably ground you, and after being grounded she will become twice as strict and be watching you alot more. Which equals NO FREEDOM... and no one likes that. So have fun partying but be more careful and ALWAYS have a back up plan so this doesn't happen again. Best of luck hun.
~Sherah

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I'm 15/f. I would really love to buy an old Chevrolet 3100 (from the early fifties) and restore it. I'm talking about buying an average condition truck (probably around $10,000, from my research) and replacing the engine, paint, and redoing the interior (seats and such). I'd also like to chrome the grill and all that good stuff. Initially, money isn't a problem for me, and this is going to be a long-term project. My problem is that I want all the decisions to be made by me, but I don't know the first thing about restoring a car! I've been looking in the classifieds, eBay motors, and various websites to get an idea of what I want, but once I do buy a truck, what happens next? I'm willing to put a lot of money into this because I want it done right. My dream truck is a cream-colored 3100 with a chrome grill, new engine, and revamped interior (not like on Pimp My Ride or anything, just new seats, new dash, etc.) If you know anything about restoring cars from this era (late 40's-early 50's) please help me out! My father is a diesel mechanic, but I want to "surprise" him with my interest in cars. Thanks :)

Well considering the body of the truck is going to probably have a lot of rust, that is the first issue you will need to tackle. You will need to find where the starting point for the rust is and tear from there. After that you will need to definently do alot of body filling, fiberglass, and welding. For the engine bay do the same as the rest of the body. You also might want to get a new hood, wide-body fenders, etc. That will probably be a lot of money in itself since the truck is older.

The best trick in finding a truck you want for a great price is to search around for someone that doesn't know the worth of what they got. Someone could have your truck and only be selling it for say $5,000 just to get rid of it. Since you said you don't know much about restoration on an older vehicle you are going to defiently need some help on this. People train for years in auto body, so you are going to need to know the tricks of the trade, which is something you cannot learn overnight. So if you know anyone in your area that could work on the car with you or atleast let you sit in and watch then that would be a good idea.

Now when it comes to costs of things, to have stock seats covered is usually $2,000. Then comes carpet, steering wheel, guages, dash, door panels, headliner, seat belts, trim pieces, rims and tires, paint, body filler, primer, fiberglass, welding materials, engine, transmission, new suspension, brakes and rotors, exhaust, and anything else needed to make this truck totally and fully restored.

Now to save yourself some money, your best bet is to find what parts on the car you can salvage or have repaired. Unlike a newer car, an older car is going to be more expensive for newer, restored parts so the prices will be pretty high. So have someone determine the condition of the interior, exterior, engine, transmition, that kind of thing. You can save alot of money this way.

All in all, restoring a car is a very long and tedious job that is going to take a lot of hard work and determination. So stay focused and always look for deals in saving money. Just make sure to get help with this restoration. In the end I'm sure your dad will be proud. Best of luck and if you need anymore advice on this or any other question you might have, note my inbox back.

~Sherah

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Hey,

Right, so I had been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months and recently I told her that I needed some space and I was'nt sure if I loved her any more. She still really loves me and wants to get back together but I don't know what to do. If we do get back together and it doesn't work out she will just keep getting hurt which is not something I want.

I really like her as a friend but honestly don't know if I feel anuthing more than than for her any more.

Any advice is more than welcome,
Thanks in advance.

Well first off, how did this feeling come along? When did you feel like you didn't care about her anymore. Most relationships end because you lose interst in the person your with and get with someone else. My advice, wrong move... Never EVER dump the one you love for the one you like. If another person is not the reason why your feelings changed then you need to consider YOUR feelings, not hers. Obviously you didn't want to hurt her, and that is good. And since you are having second thoughts it is best to give yourself some time to think things through. It is hard sometimes to determine what you want in a relationship and giving yourself a chance to look at the relationship and what you want, without being in one is a good move on your part. I've been through this before as well.

I've been the one dumped and the dumpee so I know how it feels on both ends. My bf of 4 months at the time dumped me because he wasn't sure how he felt about us. But the real reason was for another girl. I tried to move on, but I still cared so much for him, despite what he did. One week later he called me out of the blue and we met up to talk. He told me he was so stupid for doing what he did, and he didn't want to be without me. He broke up with me because he wasn't sure we were going to work out and wanted to see if he cared. Dumping me for the other girl, almost made us never talk again. That was a bad move on his part, and he was lucky he ever got me back. Now I dumped him 4 months after getting back together because I wasn't sure I cared about him and that we were going to last in the future. I held out for almost a month and a half, but we still talked most of the time. I just needed time to think. And I didn't dump him for another guy because I know how that works. I realized I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I didn't see how things would turn out. So we got back together and things have been great ever since.

So what you need to do is give yourself time to figure out whether or not you can see yourself with her in the future. Think about whether or not you will be jealous seeing her with another guy. You know she cares about you, but do not expect her to wait around for you til you figure out what you want. That would be selfish on your part. If you feel she is not what you want, then decide if staying friends is a good idea for you and her. Just be considerate of her feelings, and think things through, because you do not want to beat yourself up about not being with her in the future. Best of luck, and if you ever need anymore advice, note my inbox. I'd love to help.

~Sherah

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I really want snakebite piercings, but I am a HUGE wimp. Do they hurt, and if so, how much?

Well piercings hardly ever hurt. If a girl can get herself pierced down there and handle it, I'm sure you'll survive hun :) I've got my belly button pierced and I've had my tongue pierced before. It is briefly uncomfortable and then it is over in less than a second. So no worries. Trust me, getting your blood taken hurts worse than a piercing. One of my guy friends has a lip ring and he said it didn't hurt at all. He was nervous, but got it done anyway. Everyone gets nervous right before they get a tattoo or piercing so being apprehensive is not uncommon. Tattoos hurt alot worse because it takes so much longer. I have one tattoo on my lower back and it hurt but not extremely bad, even though it took over an hour to do. I'm getting two more tattoos, one on my shoulder blade (which I've been told is really going to hurt, because I'm so small and there is nothing but bone right there) and also on my ankle. And I'm nervous but I know that it will be well worth it. So don't worry about the pain. So many things in life are far more painful then a piercing. Best of luck and need any more help, note me back. You know where to find me.
~Sherah

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hey,
My name is Julie and iam 20. iam kinda hairry around my pubic area(u can say that i have a bush)since i had never trimmed before since puberty.i was just woundering if i should keep it or trim it or even shave it?.And iam asking girls and boys...I heard that many man men prefer bushes(they find it sexy and feminine while others not).So wat you think i shall do?
Thanks for your help.

Well it all depends on your man I guess. But I personally keep mine shaved and smooth, because I like the look of it and so do guys. If you want you can play it up and have a design or something. Guys find that kinda sexy. But as for a bush, most guys that I know really don't like them, because it kind of scares them away and makes them not really want to go down on you because of all that hair.

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15/f
one of my very good friends is going out with another one of my very good friends. before they were going out i didnt like him any more than a friend but now that they are i have this strong attraction to him. we joke around together, for example he'll cuddle with me in front of his girlfriend and we'll just say "oh dont tell her" but she's ok with it and knows we're joking.he tries to hold my hand but im not that comfortable doing that when he has a girl friend. but ever since we've been joking around i finally realized that i really do like him but i would never want him to cheat on one of my best friends. i like them as a couple alot, they're really cute together but even when he's cuddling with her i still have an attraction to him. basically i want to make myself see him as just a friend again and i dont know how.

PLEAS HELP

Never, EVER flirt with your best friends guy! EVER! You are being selfish by risking your relationship for this guy. The fact that you liked him AFTER he started dating your best friend is a major red flag to me. You only have an attraction because you can see what he is like with your best friend, and how he is as a boyfriend now and not as a friend, and you like it. But he is obviously not so great for your best friend if he flirts with you and tries to hold your hand... think about it... He is trying to cheat on her with her best friend! How does that make him a good guy at all? Exactly. He is not. I'm sure he is sweet and has his moments, but cuddling with you in front of her? That is completely crossing the line! Completely! She might say it doesn't bug her, but it probably does. If you were dating some guy you liked, and your best friend started cuddling next to him, flirting with him, and then you see him try to hold her hand, I'm pretty sure you would be pissed as hell! So tell this guy to keep his hands off you, because he is dating your best friend and you were wrong for flirting with him in the first place. Make it clear to him that your friendship matters more to you. If you are unwilling to change the relationship between you and this guy, then you should stop referring to your best friend as your BEST friend. Because best friends do not back stab eachother. So make the choice, or prepare for the consequences. I may be blunt, but the truth is more blunt and more painful then my words are, so take that to heart. Best of luck.
~Sherah

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I recently asked http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=454729 and one of the columnists told me I sounded fake. So I'll try to rephrase my question in a better way with more details.

My husband and I have been having a lot of problems lately. It seems he only cares about getting sex, even though he claims he cares about me and not just my body. He and I haven't been able to talk to each other lately. He tends to keep quiet, unless we’re arguing. Then he gets really cocky and acts like he doesn’t need me. It hurts my feeling a lot, especially since he and I both slept around in our younger days. Also, he’s become involved in drug use. I know he’s been trying to quit and he’s been placed in rehabilitation, but I’m not sure I can handle the stress he causes. I love him, but I fear he’s going to hurt me. He’s never been abusive before, but I know he can be aggressive and he does tend to like rough sex. I don’t want to leave him because I don’t think I’ll ever find another guy as right for me as him, but what if I’m only kidding myself? He only seems to love me (or even like me, for that matter) when we’re getting intimate! When my brother-in-law introduced us we mostly bonded on common ground because of our similar pasts. Perhaps basing a relationship on that was a bad idea, but it made me feel more connected to him like he understood me. Now that feeling is gone. My sisters say I'm "not getting my emotional needs met", whatever that means.

You guys need to reconnect on a more emotional level, instead of sexual. He might be using sex like a drug. He obviously likes sex and a guy that likes rough sex is very passionate in physical aspects, but not always emotionally. It seems to me that he is not using you for sex, but using sex as a way to keep things going with you two. If you are fighting and sex is the solvant of the fight, then he is going to use sex as a crutch for everything bad in the relationship. And there is nothing good about that.

You need to be able to get some communication going between you two that has nothing to do with you guys getting physical. Having sex is a great way to relieve stress, but you are missing the bigger picture and problem. Talking about your feelings to eachother is the best way to get back what your losing. Tell him how you feel and what is upsetting you. If he doesn't care to listen or just immediately starts acting cocky, then ignore it and wait until he wants to talk. Now if he comes in the room 20 minutes later wanting to have sex, don't let him have it. If he wants it, he needs to satisfy your needs first. He needs to talk to you and listen to your feelings.

I'm not saying be mean about not having sex with him when he wants it, but you need to set guidelines, because you are allowing him to push you around. Take charge and show him you are just as capable of being fine without him, as he tries to claim he is. He obvious likes having the power and control in the relationship and might actually be using that against you as well. So show him you are stepping up. If he tries to say he doesn't need you, understand he is all talk. He is only saying that because he doesn't want to lose you, but he knows that when he says that, it makes you nervous and brings you down. So don't allow him to have the control of hurting your feelings or making you feel inferior. And if you feel that he would step out on you if you don't allow him to have his sex, then maybe you need to do some relationship re-adjusting, because trust is the biggest thing that makes a relationship work. Without it, you will never be happy, and it will never work.

If you ever need anymore advice, don't hesitate to note my inbox. I'm always here to help.

~Sherah

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So there was this one guy, we'll call him Michael, and I found out that he REALLY liked me, like aloooot. He told my friends how hot he thought I was and he "couldnt stop thinking about me" and "man you gotta get me with her." So at first I didnt like him, but then I eventually did. So he asked me out to the movies but i didnt talk to him alot because i was shy, but i was smiling and stuff. Then the next day friday at our schools football came he told me "I think your really hot and stuff, but maybe we should just be friends. Im sorry.."

Does anyone have any idea why all of the sudden he would just say that to me? He had been hurt in a previous relationship, I thinkk.. THANKS SO MUCH!

He probably has been hurt before and maybe he isn't ready to start another relationship yet. He also might of thought you didn't really like him all that much, since you were being shy and hardly talked to him. Guys don't like to make an effort without feedback back from girls. He made the move by talking to his friends about you and asking you out to the movies. It was your turn to show your interest in him and you didn't make the move. He might of felt rejected and decided you were being too shy or too mysterious with your feelings and decided you weren't worth the risk. Guys are just like girls. They are just as shy at making the first move as we are. But maybe you didn't consider him asking you out as the first move. Whatever the case, I still don't know what you guys did after the movie... Did he take you back home? Did you guys talk about anything? Was their anything awkward that happened on the date? Did you guys really talk much after the date, like at school? If I knew some of those answers I probably could answer your question a little better. I hope the advice I gave was help enough, but if you have anymore questions just note back my inbox and I'd love to give you more advice. Best of luck hun!
~Sherah

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have asked this question,but a bit differently.anyways,i've already decided to get a lip ring,so I wanna ask do girls perfer lip rings on
1)the middle
2)the side,if so,which side?
3)snakebites
4)spider

and is there like a meaning if you pierce on the right side?cause my friend said that it is for gays...

and besides that ,could you girls help with suggesting other places beside the lips that you find attractive,and how many a guy should have.

thanks a lot,really appreciate you guys.

Well snakebites are really hot, but I prefer a lip ring to the side. And the whole "gay-side" thing is total myth. Some say it is on the right side, some say it is on the left side, and some think guys are gay for getting lip rings period. So my suggestion... Forget everyone else and get what you want. Personally I like lip rings on the right side, but that is up to you. I also like guys with both ears pierced, not just one. Just one looks kind of goofy to me. Other areas could be your eyebrow... But take into consideration what it will look like and if you want someone focusing on the piercing on that part of your face, since piercing there will probably bring attention to your eyes more. Tongue piercings are also really hot. And of course getting a snakebite piercing there is definently a smart move. Now my personal opinion... Ears, Tongue, and Lips might be a tad overdone. So consider two or three at the most on your face. Like if you have your ears pierced and you get a snakebite lip piercing, then forget the eyebrow piercing or tongue. If you get your ears and just one piercing on your lip, then go for the tongue or eyebrow. A minimum of three is good, because it doesn't distract too much and clutter up your face. You want people to see you, not all your piercings! Best of luck. And let me know how you felt about my advice. Note my inbox if you need anymore suggestions.
~Sherah

PS: You can get the snake bite piercing on your lips either at an angle or straight... I like angled better.

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I have had a crush on this boy in my class since like fourth grade and he thinks i am weird. I dont even know why i like him....i just do. I've tried just talking to him as friends, and sometimes he's ok with it and other times he just looks at me like i did the weirdest thing ever. I dont really understand why...i'm not overweight, i'm not ugly, but i'm not the prettiest either. How can i get him to kind of like me?

If he acts like that, he isn't worth your time. He is acting like he is better than you and doesn't want to be seen talking or associating with you. Which is so messed up by the way. I had that happen to me. I had a huge crush on this kind of popular guy at school wayyy back in the day. He never talked to me when any of his friends were around, but if they weren't around he was such a nice guy. I finally discovered he was a jerk and ignored him and moved on. At one point someone told me a couple years after that that he had thought I was hot and shit. I you know what? I was still the same person I was then. Just older and way more mature. So forget him hun... He is not worth your time. It is harsh but true. never change yourself for a guy. The right one will come along that appreciates you for you. Best of luck and if you need anymore advice just note my inbox anytime.

~Sherah

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17/M

so yeah, this os probably going to end up being really long so you can just leave now if you want...so yeah, some little background.

...so up untill like the beginning of this year (senior year of highschool) i have always been reeeaalllly shy. i only had a few best friends (granted, they were mostly girls) but no one that ever LIKED me. then, as soon as i hit senior year, i changed, a LOT. its like my whole outlook on life changed completely, i figured that this is my last year in highschool so i might as well go all out. ive gotten really involved in school clubs and all that, im a LOT more confident, ican actually talk to my peers without being too shy...and i think people are starting to notice it...so far this year ive had three girlfriends, and ive flirted (which i NEVER did before) with tons of other girls...so now i have my girlfriend of three months nd i KNOW im not gonna leave her, i love her to death....but at my work (i work for a city park so i only have 7 coworkers, including my boss) but yeah, at my work theres these two girls that i talk to more than any others, and i flirt with them like crazy....their both kinda cute, but i couldnt really see myself going out with one of them...but the other one...thats where the confusion starts. so yeah, me and this girl flirt more than anyone else, including my girlfriend...it gets really bad. i know im not going to leave my girlfriend for this girl, but id still like to get to know this girl better and see what happens with that...is that normal? i mean me and this girl really kinda just "clicked" nd it seems to me that she really likes me. she knows that i have a gf, but shes always sayin that that doesnt matter. so the question i pose to anyone willing to answer...is it incredibly wrong to flirt with this girl? i KNOW that theyll never meet eachother because the ONLY way theyd meet eachother is through me, and im not about to let that happen...so is it okay that i keep flirting with the other girl? what should i do? keep in mind id like to hear arguments for both sides, to keep flirting with and to stop....so yeah, thank you sooo much in advance...

Well I feel like you are being completely dishonest to your girlfriend. Flirting is already a form of cheating especially since you are totally over doing it! And how would you feel if your girlfriend was flirtatious around tons of guys behind your back and practically being all over them? I'm pretty sure you would be pissed and want to dump her. You said you "love her to death", but consider this: If you really cared for her so much, than no other girl would matter. You obviously know that what you are doing is wrong or you wouldn't be questioning what you are doing in the first place. Bottom line is: You have no right to treat your girlfriend like that. So if you love her you have two options: Let her go or let the other girl go. If you aren't ready for a relationship because you are getting used to your new personality change and the fact that girls are starting to like you alot, then I sugget flying solo for the time being and let go of your girlfriend and experience the single life for a while. Or if you really are wanting to stay with her, make it clear to these girls that you feel that them flirting with you and visa versa is wrong and you don't feel comfortable with it because you care about your girl. If these girls can stick with being friends with no flirting than that is a good situation. Just because a girl looks good, does not make her a good person. Keep that into consideration. Plus that girl telling you that you flirting with her is alright even when she KNOWS you have a girlfriend should be a red flag to you... So she is willing to help you cheat? So if you guys got together, how iwll you know she won't cheat on you, since cheating seems to be something she is good at? She doesn't care if you have a gf so she is willing to let you cheat and possibily try and steal you away. I was the unlucky girl in this scenario. My bf of now almost a year and a half had done the same thing to me. Our first 4 months of dating were fine, until a girl he was friends with at school tried to get with him. Him and her would flirt all the time and he felt like he made some sort of a connection with her. So he dumped me for her, just as she said he should. They worked for maybe a couple days, but he started to regret his choice. And who did he call back? Me. I gave him another chance, but your girl might not give you another one if you screw it up. And beleive me, it won't be worth it, if you dump your girl for another girl or continue this flirting escapade. Choose one or the other. But be warned: Think hard before making your choice, because lying and cheating are not the right choices to make when starting all these new friendships and relationships. So best of luck and if you need any more advice note me back. ~Sherah

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ok we have 2 cats and one of them recently started peeing on my clothes!!!!its disgusting and we are pretty sure we know wich one it is but we dont want to get rid of it we know that it knows where the litter is and at our old house he used the litter it has never been an issue befor now please dont say it could be stressed cuz i know that but how do i cure it?

Well sometimes animals pee on things because they are sick. It is there way of saying it. But sometimes they do it for no apparent reason. Take your cat to the doctor just to make sure nothing is wrong. If nothing is wrong, then I suggest showing the cat that peeing on your clothes is not allowed what so ever. Next time your cat pees on something, take the cat to the area it occured, and then punish the cat. Soray it with a water bottle and say "NO". In time the cat will refer to peeing as getting punished with the water and will stop.

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