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Hey, my name's Kathleen, you can call me kata or kat. I set up this advice column because I think giving advice is a great way to help out people with their problems, and it's also a way to help myself with struggles as a grow more and more into the real world. So just know that if you have any problems, concerns, questions, or struggles, ask me and i'll be sure to help you out. I'll answer your questions as best and as quick as i possibly can!

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like mt faimly is being so horrible to me and like my sister she doesnt like me and my other sister thinks im a hore but im really not and when i walk in the room and they dont know i hear them say stuff like i hate that hoe and she is so self centerd and i want to know what i can do to like make them not hate me becasuse im happy about some things and sad about the other and its makeing me do crazy things for instants Cut.
please help me
~thank*~you*
~*cAsSiE~*

TALK. talk to your family about how they`ve been acting towards you lately. i`ve said this in many past advice`s, talking is the best way to tell how you feel, and to let your self go. If you don`t say anything, they`re just gunna keep on talking about you. Their your family, you have to do something about it, and trust me, cutting is N0T the answer.

please stay safe and good luck!
xo0x- Kata

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im really insecure..and i always think my bf will cheat on me becoz of my past relationships.. also me n him r always arguing and its gettin me down because we aint as close to each other as we used to be and he doesnt show affection to me much anymore.. i have only been with him 11 months.. what can i do to stop us arguing and to get closer to each other again?

it`s alright to feel that insecutrity, it`s tough when you have a boyfriend.. things seem to get a little more complicated. But what might help is to talk things out. I say this in most of my advice column`s.. talk. Tell him how you`re really feeling about your relationship. Tell him that you aren`t comfortable with the way things are now.. and maybe if he starts feeling what your feel, ask him to go to the movies with you, spend a little more time together, so he can realize what you`ve been through, and this will hopefully bring you guys closer again. Just talk to him.. let your feeling and emotions flow. If he really loves you, he wouldn`t cheat on you. yes, that sounds corny but, its the truth. Don`t be so quick to doubt him, give the guy a break.

muchh luck with you!
xo0x- Kata

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O.K. This is really gross. There are like a TON of roaches in my garage but I only SEE them at night and it's REALLY gross. I bought spray and it works but after I kill one, there's another one! I don't where they come from but it's really disgusting. They crawl inside the house and one was under my dresser but I killed it, one was in my bathrom and the other was in my hallway. I don't know what I can do to kill these DISGUSTING creatures! Please help!
I rate high!
Thanks!

eww!! sry but i hate bugs, call an exterminator FAST.. they`ll be sure to kill all of them. My parents called Terminix, and they`ve killed all of those pesky bugs & roaches that come.. they do a monthly check for i think as long as you want them to, [but i dont know].. so it`s good that their up-to-date with whats going on at your house! yuckk! haa-- i hate bugs!

hope this helps!
xo0x- Kata

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how long does it take for SQUASH to grow if you water and keep up with it well everyday?
ive had one for about 1 month and a half and its still kinda small.
any thoughts?

They do well in practically all parts of the United States where the soil is fertile and moisture sufficient. Although sensitive to frost, squashes are more hardy then melons and cucumbers. In the warmest parts of the South they may be grown in winter. The use of well-rotted composted material thoroughly mixed with the soil is recommended.

There are two classes of squash varieties, summer and winter. All the summer squashes and the marrows must be used while young and tender, when the rind can be easily penetrated by the thumbnail. The winter squashes have hard rinds and are well adapted for storage.

Summer varieties, should be gathered before the seeds ripen or the rinds harden, but the winter sorts will not keep unless well matured. They should be taken in before hard frosts and stored in a dry, moderately warm place, such as on shelves in a basement with a furnace. Under favorable conditions some varieties may be kept until midwinter.

xo0x- Kata

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A diet than can work for a 13 year old that can cook,(not too many ingredients though) and can help me lose 10-20 pounds in a month or two. I want to get slim before school starts! My dance class ended and my mom signed me up for basket ball, and I ride my bicycle but the numbers arent going down the scale. I know muscle weighs more than fat, but cant muscle lose weight too?

Anyway, can anyone write a good diet that has been working for them? =3

just simple exercise and a good healthy balanced diet can get you in shape.. diets aren`t really for kids your age, but if are really concerned about this check this website out:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/lose_weight_safely.html

hope i helped you out!
xo0x- Kata

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Hey... ANOTHER field hockey question... well since i hope to try out for the team next year at school which starts in like 2 months I want to get in shape. I was wondering what i can do to be in shape and at my best when playing the sport.. i was thinking maybe swimming laps in my pool.. or i dont really know.. anyone who has any tips i dont care what sport you play but a field hockey player mite help more.. idk ... thxx!

i say that a simple workout once everyday, running of something, and a healthy balanced diet, can possibly get you in the best shape.. if you wanna work better at Field Hockey, every other day, go out to a field and just practice all the skills and moves.. try doing a one on one with your friend. So basicly all you need is:
1) A Healthy Diet
2) Exercise
3) Practice
and you`ll be better in no time!

hope this helps!
xo0x- Kata

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I am a 16 year old female. There is a gentleman that I am quite fond of and he has been quite fond of me as well. We talked yesterday for the first time in a long time. He is supposed to call back but I kind of doubt he will do so any time soon since he is a busy person.

What are some small (and very indirect) reminders I can give him so he will remember that I exist?

Postcards.. Post it notes.. a small present.. anything at all that you know he`ll be sure to make that call. It doesn`t have to be anything wide-spread, you know, just small little trinkets to keep him going. Write to him, buy him chocolates with a note inside.. personalize your greeting by doing something different for a change, you know? Decorate the border of your note with a telephone and at the bottom put you phone number! There are a million ways to help your guy keep in touch with you, and to let him never forget!

hope this helps!
xo0x- Kata

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i am not uaually hungry, but my schedule doesn't allow eating just whenever i get hungry. the problem is, once i starteating i eat to much. how can i control this? help! i rate high!

i have a perfect website for you!
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/food_fit_qa/expert_overeating.html

hope this helps!
xo0x- Kata

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does anyone know how to get a babysitting job.
need a babysitting job.
plz help me.

i`ve been starting to try babysitting too! what i would personally do is, start out around your block. See if any of your neighbors are interested. Post flyers, make ad`s, start growing your business first, then work from there..

check this website:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/school_jobs/jobs/babysit.html

maybe it could help you out!
xo0x- Kata

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hi i no this is a weird question but ear wax is supposed to be yellow and mine is white...does that mean anything bad or sumthing

~*i rate high*~

Earwax is made by glands in the outer part of the ear canal and helps maintain a healthy ear. This sticky substance helps prevent insects and other foreign objects from entering the ear canal. It helps maintain the ear canal's acid balance. Fresh earwax is soft and yellow. Older earwax may be brown or black, even resembling blood. It may also be dry, appearing white and flaky. Earwax can be cleaned safely from the outer ear with a washcloth or fingertip.

A safe way to remove earwax is to dissolve it with warm water, baby oil, or eardrops. It is wise to consult a healthcare provider before attempting any of these procedures.

If you are concerned about excessive earwax or a change in hearing sensitivity, contact your healthcare provider.

hope i helped!
xo0x- Kata

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i need help in my spirtul life with god. im a christian an all that but i wan to grow mor with god!
how can i get closer to god?

well i have a couple of answers to your question:

a- you can pray more often
b- go to church more
c- stop sinning [as much as you can] on a daily basis
d- lay off swearing [if you do]
e- be more kinder to your parents, respect them and everyone around you really

but well.. to tell you the truth there`s really no *real* way to become a better christian. really all you have to do is live life as pure as possible, love on another, and keep you faith alive.

hope i helped!
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does anyone know any shampoos/conditioners that make your hair like really silky??? i use pantene but my hair like got used to it and it doesnt work very well anymore... 5 for good answers...

-Garnier fructis sleek and shine
-John Frieda
-Dove
-Herbal Essences

i say that these are the best shampoo`s & conditioners that could help you.. or you could do what my friend does.. mix `em up!

hope this works!!
xo0x- Kata

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This girl at my school thinks she is one of my friends,but she not.How do I tell her to get away?
Please help me asap.
Shannon

whoa, there`s a girl in my school who`s just like that towards me.. listen, i think that you should just say it straight forward, if you don`t like her, how could she possibly be you friend, you shouldn`t have to put up with that.. just break it to her, "you know i`m not your friend right.." -- lol, i dont know, just find a way to tell her easily, that u guys aren`t friends, period.

hope you have some luck with her!
xo0x- Kata

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im 5'7" and i weigh like 110. im really thin and i have trouble finding jeans. whenever i find some that are the right length theyre too baggy and stuff... i shop at wet seal, forever 21 --abercrombie sux so dont tell me to go there--any other stores where i can find relatively inexpensive jeans that have a lot of sizes? thanks

alloy catologs have lots of sizes to choose from!!.. macy*s might be a good try, how about 5-7-9, aeropostale.. old navy, walmart, target, marshals, TJ Max.. i say back away from any "designer" big hit clothing stores.. they tend to carry smaller sizes!!

good luck on your search.. hope i could be of help to you!
xo0x- Kata

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I think my parents are gonna get a divorce? What do i stop or help to prevent that?

I think that you should sit them down and have a long talk about how you truely feel about this divorce.. let all emotions go, this is maybe your only chance to tell them whats going on with you. Divorces are not good, and i`m sorry, but i don`t have much experience in this topic.. just talk to them, talking solves most problems. And if your parents are still edging towards divorce.. i guess there`s not muchh to do about it.. but i hope the best of luck with you, and i`m sorry about your parents divorce

best of luck
xo0x- Kata

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I absolutely hate my hair. I have thick light brown hair with blonde highlights. When i say thick.. i mean really thick. I have anywhere from 5-10 minutes in the morning to do my hair. Besides the everyday ponytail... what can i do to my hair? I am taking coloring, cutting, and styling ideas.

ohh man.. you do not know thick! haa, man it takes me way, way, way more than 5-10 mins, i`m talking an hour tops!! my hair is long, maybe 4 inches past my shoulder, and when i take i shower, my hair dries in seconds.. and my hair poofs up and its think and digusting.. seriously! but what i do is i straighten my hair. It makes my hair-do`s a lot more easier to work with now that my hairs more managable..well, you could get a hair cut, at least shorter hair might be easier to work with, but you can`t do too much with short hair.. i say your best suggestion would have to be to ask a hair specialist, ohh!! the best idea is to get a japaneese perm!! my friend got her`s a couple of weeks ago.. her hair is thin, straight, and not burnt at all.. a japaneese perm would be perfect, on the positive side-- your hair will always be straight, and thin.. even if you go take a shower or go in the pool, your hair dries straight.. but on the down side, perm`s cost a lot of money, you spend about 5 hours [give or take on how your hair is] in the hair salon.. they put chemicals in your hair to keep it straight, idk how great that is.. and your not allowed to pull you hair back, or put your hair against you ears for 3 days following the perm..

hope my advice helps you out!
xo0x- Kata

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I am a dancer and when im home alone... i dance lol.. what are some good fast pace songs that are good to dance to?

haa-- i`m a dancer myself.. and i had my recital a couple of weeks ago.. well i have a couple of suggestions: [but it rele depends on what you like & how u tend to dance]

Switch-Will Smith
Only U- Ashanti
Car Wash- Christina Aguilera
Lose My Breath- Destiny`s Child
Hollaback Girl- Gwen Stefani
Get Right- Jennifer Lopez
Tempted To Touch- Kevin Little
I`ve Got The Music In Me- [i like the one where the American Idols are singing..]
Gloria- Laura Branigan
Lady- Lenny Kravitz
Rumors-Lindsay Lohan
Move Ya Body- Nina Sky
You Make Me Feel Mighty Real- Sylvester
Caught Up- Usher
Last Day Of School- Wylde Bunch
I`ll Fly With You- Gigi D'agostino [techno version`s fun!]


There`s sooooo many more songs i could possibly name, some of these songs i`ve heard at my dance recitals..

hope you like em!
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I'm not sure why, but latley I haven't been so happy lately. I mean I'm so sick of being me. I don't like my hair, im not as pretty as Miss popular. I dont dress as great as them and I've been alone alot latley cause none of my friends have been invitin me over anymore. I've been on a no sode low sugar diet and I lost my baby fat (im 13 and i weigh 105 lbs) so im noT like fat or anything but I somehow got off my diet and I just feel soo crappy I havent gotten back on. I hate me right now, what should I do?

don`t push your self so much, who cares if your not as pretty as miss popular.. who cares if your hair wasn`t what it once was.. why does it matter how you dress.. everything you told me had to do with whats on the outside, how about the inside? all i have to say is, if your not satisfied with what you have.. then you should be ashamed.. why would you ever want to be like everyone else.. yess!! im pround of you for loosing that baby fat, but im not proud of the way you take yourself as.. even though i may not know you, your probably a sweet, beautiful person inside, and if you can`t see it, then no one else would, so find who you are, dont care soo muchh about what you were b4, this is now. and when you find yourself.. i`m sure everyone else will see it, and you`ll be back to your normal self, and possibly feel better.

hope my advice helps you out!
xo0x- Kata

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i have a bf of 2 weeks..for the 1st week we talked all the time on the phone and stuff but then we just stopped..we talk ocasionaly on the computer and stuff but not alot like most couples..i still like him but going out with him isnt as great as i imagained..he always seemes irrated by me and i dunno if thats just his guy tone..i dunno if i should break up with him and see what else is out there..im just scared b.c i love the idea of having a bf and dunno if ill find some else

plz help/ill rate

well.. i have two sides to this problem;
1)maybe he`s just nervous with you, you know guys, their really shy when their around girls.. maybe he just wants to lay low for a little, like i say in most of my advice`s, talk it out, figure out the problem that you 2 are facing and solve it, for better or for worse.
2)who knows.. maybe he might be cheating on you, i dont wanan jump to this conclusion but, if he starts to maybe stop spending time with you, he could possibly be seeing some1 else.. this is the other side of guys, besides being shy when it comes to expression and feelings, guys tend to be more.. how do you say it? attracted. you know??-- just talk it out with him, sort out your feelings.. do what feels right.

hope my advice helps you out!
xo0x- Kata

** and trust me, you`ll find someone else faster than you know.. like they say, there`s plenty of other fish in the sea, it might not be today, it might now be in 5 more months from now, but you WILL find someone else..

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see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please

i`m sorta like you! i have a ton of best friends, not just one in particular. But i get your feeling, you want someone who`s more than just there for you, someone that you know you can ask for help and would help you in a second, someone who`s at the top of your list.. well, out of all of you friends, try picking one in particular who`s really supportive, who you see often, and know the most. Then try hanging out with him/her more often and get to know each other better. In no time you should have a best friend, and if things don`t go your way, find someone else.

i hope my advice helps you out!
xo0x- Kata

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