My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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is it true thinkin about pregant too much tht wld make u not get pregant? and get mad all the time can't get pregant?
since i always thing about it and sometime mad not this time now. (link)
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Yes it is possible that the more you obsess about getting pregnant, the less likely you are to conceive. The best thing is to relax and take time to enjoy conceiving and only go to the doctors if you haven't fallen pregnant after trying for about a year. Hope this helps.
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okay, so ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months. this weekend .. saturday night, i gave him head. then i left 20 minutes after. now its monday night, and i havent even talked to him. i called him twice, but no anwser. he hasnt even tried to call me. we usaully talk everyday, like every min. tomorrow we have mid-terms so i probably wont even see him. of course he wont try and look for me. but i have no idea what to even say to him IF i see him. should i ingore him? should i scream at him? or let it go? no i cant let it go, this is annoying. and the worst thing is, i cant let HIM go. what should i do (link)
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Have you considered that there may be something going on in his life that has stopped him from contacting you for now? It may be nothing that you have said or done.
However, before you lose your temper with him give him a chance to explain. If he doesn't come up with a suitable explanation then is the time to get cross.
It is better to remain calm and not say something you may regret before you know all the facts. Call him and ask if everything is all okay, but be prepared for him to say he will call you back. I hope all is well with you both.
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Okay hey yall! I am 16/f. Tommarow night I am going to my friends house with a few other girls. All girls! Only like 5. We are planning on having some fun and drinking some alocohol like way later in the night. Ive never been drunk or buzzed before ive only had sips of alocohol. I want to do this! Im not asking if I should or not..so please dont get confused. But my questions are..How much should I drink if i dont want to get FULLY drunk? Will I throw up after 2 or 1 1/2 beers? Would i get a bad hang over sunday if i only get buzzed? I only want to get buzzed so how much should i drink? -If its just beer and vodka? Im not gonna drink more then sips of vodka ofcourse. I just really do not want to throw up..or feel sick the next day. Thankyou!!
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It is very difficult to give you a straight answer because it all depends on how you are built, what you drink and if you intend to have something to eat.
If you are small in build then it doesn't take much alcohol to affect you, if you are bigger then it will take more. If you have eaten a lot then the alcohol will take longer to absorb into your system.
I suggest that you start off with a small amount of spirit and some beer. Too many spirit drinks will certainly have you throwing up everywhere. Once you start to feel a little 'out of yourself' that is the time to stop drinking alcohol.
Just one word of warning - never get so drunk, especially in mixed company, that you cannot defend yourself. Your parents won't like it either if you go home inebriated. Have fun but take care.
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Ok so i have these two bumps on the top of my vagina. They look like two large zits. Does anyone have any idea what these bumps are? I never had sex and i dont mess around. 19\f (link)
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It is quite possible to get zits in this area. If they concern you a lot it may be worth getting them checked out at the doctors. If they don't bother you too much try a little antiseptic cream for a couple of days and see if that improves things. If that does not work, definitely go and get them checked out. All the best.
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How long should you wait to have sex after a period is over?
if u have a sex .say a week after.and the condomm popped.and he says he didnt cum inside you.and there was no sign of ejaculation in the condom and its still on the outside.could u be pregnant? (link)
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Question 1 - there is no limit on waiting, it is whatever you feel comfortable with.
Question 2 - Yes you can still get pregnant.
If your next period is late and you start to feel nauseous, have tender breasts etc., then it might be worth taking a pregnancy test. However, if you get very worried about possible pregnancy then you can cause your period to arrive late or not at all through stress. At the moment it is a case of waiting or going to the doctors for the morning after pill. Good luck.
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ok, so there was this girl that went to my school who had cancer for the part 3 years. She was the nicest person i have ever met in my life, and always had something nice to say. She was fun and so much fun to be around. Recently (1-14-08)after going into remission 3 times, she passed away. I'm not saying that i was like best friends with this girl, because i wasn't, but i did know her. We sat together in Chemistry and always talked, and were even going to be lab partners before her cancer came back. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this loss. I just can't handle that this great person is gone and i'm never going to see her again. I cry really easily and everytime someone really bring up her death in school, or there is an announcement made about her, or they show a powerpoint on her life, i start to cry. I went to her viewing today, and just completely broke down. it was just hard to see this person who was so full of life and fun just lying there dead.
I was really just wondering if anyone could give me some advice to help me cope with this loss or anything like that. Thanks (link)
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I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. It is natural to be so weepy and sad, and to cry at the viewing. What you need is to be able to talk to someone about her and all the times you shared together. If your parents cannot sit with you perhaps you could approach your school counsellor.
It might also be worth asking around her friends to see if you could all get together and have an evening of remambrance to share your memories together.
It will take time to get over her loss regardless of how well you knew her. It is hard to come to terms with someone so young dying before she had a chance to really live. She was obviously a great person and you have the chance to continue her goodness yourself. Be nice to everyone you meet, be open with them and pay a compliment if you can. Smile when you think of her and one day you will remember her with happiness and not sadness.
Please don't think it is wrong to feel the way you do. I wish you all the very best and hope that I have helped in some way. Take care.
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Okay, I just pierced my nose with a needle (yes, yes I'm stupid for doing that blah blah but I don't need to hear that because I have reasons)
My problem is that the ring I have to put in is curved (it's actually a small hoop for ears but I thought it would work but I thought wrong haha) so it won't fit through. Or maybe I needed to use a thicker gauge needle. I don't know.
So I guess I'm just asking for advice- should I let it close up and wait till I get a real nose ring?
Or something else? haha I'm open to all suggestions!
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The best thing to do would be to let it close up and get it done properly. However, you could go to the shops and buy a proper nose stud as soon as you can. They tend not to be very expensive.
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17/f
I've been considering going to a counselor, but I have a few questions first.
I know that legally, the only thing they have to tell my parents is if I'm hurting myself or others.
But what about things that are illegal? Stealing things from work, smoking, drugs, drinking...would they tell anyone, even though they don't have an obligation to?
Also, are there any places that offer free counseling? I really can't afford to pay for it...
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I trained as a Counsellor and I had to sign a confidentiality commitment not to divulge to anyone what was discussed unless it was harmful to the person or to others. I.E. sexual abuse of a minor, suicide or murder. I was not allowed to divulge without permission anything to do with drugs, theft or drinking. That is between the Counsellor and their client. The Counsellor can only try to persuade the client to confess - they cannot tell themselves.
Depending on which country you live in, you may be able to get free counselling through school or through the doctors surgery.
Good luck with your future.
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Whats feels better clitoral or g-spot stimulation? THANKS! (link)
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Definitely clitoral.
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Why do I always see pictures of people with their pants down on toilets (mostly girls) when theyre drunk? like on facebook or myspace or whatever. is it like...a ritual thing? or what? i dont get it haha (link)
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The people who post stupid/offensive pictures on Facebook should realise that in future it may harm their chances of getting a job.
More and more employers are searching these sites to see what kind of character their 'future' employee may be like. It could jeopardise their chances of getting the job of their choice.
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my dad is cheating on my mom, but it seems like she doesn't know. i've known for a few years; i was 12 when i first stumbled upon my dad's emails to someone. i'm 15 now, and i still don't know who she is, but i think it's becoming more serious. i saw him on a cellphone company's site, and i know that we don't use that company, so i think he has another cell that he uses with her, or maybe he's paying her bill for her. also, the other day i saw that he saved the Coach site on his favorites, and i wondered why, because he and my mom are always insisting that designer items aren't always the best. then last night, i saw him writing out checks for bills and i commented that it seems so boring to do that, so i picked the bill up and i saw that he'd paid $176 for something from the Coach site. it was bought about 3 weeks ago, and i'm positive that it's not for me or my mom because she'd be mad if he "spoiled" me with it, and she wouldn't want it anyway. there's been so much proof already that i'm willing to bet my life that he's cheating. my problem now is that i don't know how to tell my mom. i don't even want to tell her, because i don't know what i'd do if they got divorced. i broke up with my boyfriend last summer and i spent so many months depressed, even to the point of cutting myself at times. i don't think i can survive if they split; i'm an only child, and i've always relied on them for support. and after i find out these stupid damn things that he's doing, i wish that i didn't know because it hurts me insanely. my mom works so hard to keep this family happy and this is how my dad repays her? i get so angry when i see him, but no matter what, he's still my dad, and eventually i feel guilty for being angry. also, i don't know if i should confront him about this. he might get mad at me for being too nosy. i'm just so confused and hurt and angry at everything. none of my aunts and uncles have problems like this; they're all so loving with each other. i just can't stand my dad doing this!!! please help me. and i'm sorry this was so long. (link)
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I am so sorry to hear that you are such an awful dilemma. Unless you are absolutely 100% sure that your Dad is being unfaithful, I don't suggest telling your Mum.
It also might seem like a good idea to ignore what appears to be going on. However, the best thing I can suggest is to say to your Dad that you feel he does not appear to be completely happy at home and is there anything that you can do to help him. He will probably deny that anything is wrong or that he is doing anything untoward. It is a very difficult situation for you to be in and I would urge caution at all times. I wish that I could give you an answer that will solve all your problems, but I cannot. Your parents have to live their own lives even if it does affect you directly. Your Mum may or may not be aware that something is going on but it is not your place to tell her unless she is in imminent danger of being hurt.
You should however confide in someone that you totally trust. For instance a teacher, school counsellor, your preacher or an aunt/uncle that you can talk to and voice your concerns in a safe way. Make sure that they realise what you tell them is in total confidence and not to be shared with anyone else.
If you feel that it is all getting too much for you to bear alone, even if you have tried talking it through with another person, ask your Dad if you could have a confidential chat with him about your concerns. If he is not being unfaithful, you can apologise for doubting him, and if he is playing around, tell him that you cannot keep his secret and if he does not tell your Mum, you will have to let her know. (Please use that threat with extreme caution if it comes to it).
I hope that by talking it through with me you are able to see that there is always someone to listen to your concerns and will try to help if they can. Please don't try to deal with this alone and if possible, talk to your school counsellor. I wish you all the very best.
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Im 17,female.Well my boyfriend and i play with each other. he put his dick out of mine. He has never sticks in but im still scared. im still a virgin and want to know if there is any possibility of getting pregnant? please help me.....And wat are the possibilities? Please answer..thanks~ (link)
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There is a small chance you may be pregnant so I suggest you wait until your period is due before worrying. If you are late it could be caused by the stress of worrying about it, but take a pregnancy test before freaking out.
It is not a sensible idea to mess around like that because of this risk, and also the risk of catching an STD etc. Good luck.
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how do you get a hickey to stay dark. im practicing on my arm and i can make them but they fade. what can i do to make them stay dark. (link)
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Your hickey is a bruise and your body will want to heal itself. It is really not a good idea to try and keep a hickey because you will eventually cause damage to your skin with the constant sucking and pressure to the blood vessels. If you want to sport a hickey permanently why not try stage make-up and practise that way.
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I'm getting my tongue pierced. My dad can't know so I'm going to wear a clear barbell. I'm doing it on Sat. during the day coming home around 11 saturday night.. do you think by my talking it will be really noticeable like because my tongue will be swollen? & how bad does it hurt? (link)
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My daughter managed to keep her tongue piercing secret from me for over three months! I am not sure her father knows yet or not - she had it done about two years back. As the previous person said, try not to say too much for a few days around your Dad.
By the way, when I found out about it I was not too bothered that she had gone ahead and had it done, it was the fact that she had kept it a secret from me. We have not kept it secret from her father but rather he does not appear to have noticed yet, or if he has, he doesn't mind.
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well a few minutes ago my mom went to go get a mri and she came back with the results and something was weird on her neck and i jokingly said it was throat cancer and she said and what if i found out it as and i said i would be on top of the world because i meant it as oh wow im smart you know like wow what a guess. but she took it thge wrong way and then i relized what i had said wrong and now she wont talk to me or do anytihng for me n she said you don't want me as a mother and don't ever say that again i said i was sorry and what i meant but she is acting like she hates me what can i do for her to stop hateing me (link)
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Your Mum isn't really listening to how you are saying things. All she can probably hear is "death sentence" and "how the hell am I going to cope?" or "what am I going to tell the kids/partner/friends/family?".
She has a lot on her mind and it will take her a little while to work through everything that she is feeling emotionally. I don't think she will come back down to ground until the results are in. All I can suggest you do is stay in the background and be as supportive as you possibly can. She is not angry at you, she is angry at circumstances. She is hating what her MRI may or may not show up.
You have apologised and once she can focus again I am sure she will realise your 'faux pas' as it were. I am very guilty of the foot in mouth syndrome and having to apologise that what came out of my mouth was not meant as it sounded.
When the results are back, whether good or bad news, your Mum will fall apart. She will need comforting and kind actions. You are a good person and you will know what she needs instinctively. I wish you both the very best of luck at this worrying time.
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My dad left a few years ago and i want to find him his name is Andrew Green i think his middle name is george but i dont know for sure he used to live in LEIGH ON SEA ESSEX my mum tells me he moved to norfolk but im not sure again i also have a old vodafone mobile phone bill of his from 1999 if this will help me if and body knows him or can help me find him reply to this question or e-mail me liamharvey1994@hotmail.co.uk thanks ppl (link)
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Contact your local Salvation Army Hall. They are absolutely fantastic when it comes to finding people. They found my Uncle in Australia (we live in England.) Try to put together as many details as possible for them. Good luck.
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K so i just found out that a friend of mine is inviting some people to hang out with her on friday. even my two sisters were invited! but i wasnt invited though. we are best friends so i dont no why i wasnt invited but im upset about it. i no she isnt mad at me but i still dont no why. (link)
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As her best friend she may have assumed that you would already be going to hang out with her . If she has mentioned any arrangements to you I would simply go along with your sisters. If she has not said a word to you about it be up front and ask her. You don't have to be upset or lose your temper or feel aggrieved because it is most likely an oversight on her part. People simply do forget and assume their best friends know everything that is going on. Hope it all works out for the best.
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For christmas, I'm making my parents a DVD with pictures from the day they were married to now. This has taken me about a total of 7 hours so far and i'm only halfway done.
Do you think i should get them something additional on top of this? (link)
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My children did the same for me recently to celebrate an anniversary. I was moved to tears with the amount of effort that went into such a thoughtful present. They also put together a small montage of photos of themselves in silly poses and nice poses in a picture frame. I think that what you are doing is great and I am sure your parents will be completely bowled over by it too. As for getting another present to go with it - only do so if you have money to spare, I assure you that they will be thrilled with just the DVD. Merry Christmas to you all.
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ok i know it the wrong catogory but whatever.
so like im 14 female and i havnt had sex or anything. but for awhile now i have been having yellow discharge coming out. all the time its almost like a sec. period its so annoying. i always feel like i wet my pants. anybody know why?
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As long as it is not smelly, itchy, abnormally thick like cottage cheese or blood-streaked, it is a perfectly normal thing for a female to have.
It is the body's way of keeping you clean and lubricated in that area. Don't douche because that has the opposite effect so the best thing to do is invest in some panty liners and replace them when you feel uncomfortable, maybe sometimes two or three times a day. I know it can be quite a nuisance but it is something that most women have to deal with.
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Hello.
I have a boyfriend of 2 years, and he recently started ( doing bussiness ) with this kid named J. I haven't even introduced myself to John, &' i'm scared i never will be able to. I really think J is a good looking boy, and i want to tell him but i don't know if he's taken and i don't want him to tell my boyfriend. How can i tell him? ... thank'ssss :DDD
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Could you please clarify your question, I find it a little difficult to understand. Thanks.
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