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me n my mom
well a few minutes ago my mom went to go get a mri and she came back with the results and something was weird on her neck and i jokingly said it was throat cancer and she said and what if i found out it as and i said i would be on top of the world because i meant it as oh wow im smart you know like wow what a guess. but she took it thge wrong way and then i relized what i had said wrong and now she wont talk to me or do anytihng for me n she said you don't want me as a mother and don't ever say that again i said i was sorry and what i meant but she is acting like she hates me what can i do for her to stop hateing me
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Your Mum isn't really listening to how you are saying things. All she can probably hear is "death sentence" and "how the hell am I going to cope?" or "what am I going to tell the kids/partner/friends/family?".
She has a lot on her mind and it will take her a little while to work through everything that she is feeling emotionally. I don't think she will come back down to ground until the results are in. All I can suggest you do is stay in the background and be as supportive as you possibly can. She is not angry at you, she is angry at circumstances. She is hating what her MRI may or may not show up.
You have apologised and once she can focus again I am sure she will realise your 'faux pas' as it were. I am very guilty of the foot in mouth syndrome and having to apologise that what came out of my mouth was not meant as it sounded.
When the results are back, whether good or bad news, your Mum will fall apart. She will need comforting and kind actions. You are a good person and you will know what she needs instinctively. I wish you both the very best of luck at this worrying time.
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Sit her down, apologize, then tell her you really didn't mean it in that way. Maybe even write her a letter, so you can say everything you need to.
She will forgive you within time. Say you should have never joked about something as serious as cancer.
P.S, she doesn't hate you. She's just upset you'd joke about something like that.
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you could sit her down and tell her what you really meant.
then explain to her how much you really didn't mean it and how much that would hurt you
if anything like that were to happen to her.
give her some hugs. :]
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Buy her something really nice that she likes and tell her you were just joking around that you would never want that to happen to her. Im sure she'll forgive you.
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